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[Long Post] Resources for Radfems with Cluster B disorders

You are not a bad person for being diagnosed with these disorders.

You are not inherently violent or abusive.

Anyone who classifies abuse as [insert cluster B disorder] abuse is not worth listening to. Abuse comes from the individual. Violence happens because the person is violent. Not the disorder.

There is a lot more under the #npd/aspd/bpd/hpd resources tag from people diagnosed with these disorders so I highly recommend looking through it. I'm not a professional. I don't have a personality disorder so I can't answer any questions regarding these disorders, but there are blogs that can.

If I've missed anything, feel free to add it in reblogs or comments! I'm not a doctor, a professional or someone diagnosed with a pd, but i still stand with my sisters who are diagnosed with it. <3

NPD: °❀⋆.ೃ࿔*:･

Narcissism is Not Abusive. Abuse is Abusive. Stop Blaming the Narcissist. Start Blaming the Abuse.

what is “narcissistic abuse”, and why is it an ableist term?

A plea to end the stigma against NPD

Unpacking Narcissism and Stigma

Reducing the Stigma Behind Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Unraveling the Stigma Around Narcissism

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HealNPD (A channel dedicated to education about NPD through compassionate lens.)

Understanding Narcissism (written by someone diagnosed with NPD)

NPD carrd (Created by User with NPD) created by @/a-sip-of-milo

NPD recovery

NDP 'Supply' (From clinical side of narcissistic personality disorder)

Rethinking Narcissism (Book)

Therapeutic Treatment of NPD Individuals.

NPD educational/safe blogs:

@/narcissisticpdcultureis

@/narcissism-positivity

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ASPD Ted Talk

Interview with a sociopath (Antisocial personality disorder and Bipolar Disorder

An Autistic Sociopath's Story (A Life with Few Emotions) (Youtube title, not my words)

Hidden suffering of the psychopath (Sympathetic/compassionate overview of ASPD)

What is ASPD?

ASPD Effects More Than Just Behavior.

ASPD - Reduced To Being Subhuman

Antisocial Personality Disorder is a Spectrum

Executive function, attention, and memory deficits in antisocial personality disorder and psychopathy

Disrespecting Social Norms and Laws with ASPD

Inside Life Of The Antisocial Personality (ASPD): Understanding, Living, Coping, and Overcoming ASPD

ASPD Educational/Safe Blogs

ChocolateAutizzy

@/antisocialsharky

@/aspdculture-is

@/aspd-culture

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Stronger Than BPD: The Girl’s Guide to Taking Control of Intense Emotions, Drama, and Chaos Using DBT

Living with Borderline Personality Disorder, PTSD and Anxiety

My Friend with Borderline Personality Disorder

Borderline Personality Disorder Woman-Shawna

Borderline (BPD) Woman interview-Grace

Dissociation in Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

I have borderline personality disorder. Here are 6 things I wish people understood.

Understanding Borderlines

BPD things that people don't talk about enough

Dr. K Explains: Borderline Personality Disorder

BPD educational/Safe blogs:

@/borderlinecorner

@/bpdresources

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Histrionic personality disorder (Podcast)

HPD Overview (Carrd)

Histrionic Personality Disorder DSM-5 301.50

Histrionic Personality Disorder Myths

Histrionic Personality Disorder - One of the Most Misunderstood Disorders

Histrionic Personality Disorder For Those Who Have It & Their Allies

The Truth About Histrionic Personality Disorder

(There is so little resources about HPD Im sorry :()

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i shared something with tims that said that they're narcissistic and i actually feel so guilty oh my god.

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attempting to make this blog less tim focused and more focused on women </3

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Honestly, Radblr is incredibly ableist with how commonly 'narcissistic abuse' is thrown around. Even if the term 'narcissistic abuse' is reference to abusive men, it inherently includes women who are diagnosed with NPD. Radblr, sister. Gyns, there ARE radical feminists with NPD and other cluster B personality disorders that are actively fighting for the liberation of women and they're being painted as abusive and unstable because of terms like (cluster b) abuse.

Point stands. You can't call yourself a radfem if you're also going to be putting down other women, and EVEN if it's in reference to men cluster b abuse isn't welcome on here. Specify the abuse instead of demonizing a disorder. Abuse comes from an individual, and it is always a choice. (saying this as an audhd radfem)

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Your ex is not a "narcissist" for being a self centered asshole.

Your former best friend is not a "sociopath" for being emotionally distant.

Your female ex isn't "borderline" for expressing emotions, or having the occasional emotional outburst. Maybe she's not hysteric and is actually trying to get you to listen to something you've been ignoring for the past months?

That weird kid isn't "autistic". Maybe they're just a weirdo for the sake of being a weirdo because they just don't care about what other people think and are happy being cringe?

That one person who's "So OCD/letting the intrusive thoughts win" for getting their hair dyed green would never be able to bare the burden of what horrific intrusive thoughts OCD suffers must shoulder during a rumination.

"Men are narcissistic!!" Call them what they are, a sex that oppresses women on the basis of their sex, more likely to perpetrate every single type of abuse, feel entitled to women's only spaces, impose the patriarchy and and paint exploitation as empowerment. While men are statistically more likely to be diagnosed with NPD, not every man has NPD, and to associate this with a disorder rather than framing it upon the individual person themselves will not get anything solved.

Narcissistic/sociopathic abuse sounds so stupid. 9/10 times the person doesn't have the disorder and it would make as much sense as saying 'I suffered autistic abuse'.

NPD/ASPD/ASD/ADHD/OCD are not personality traits, they're disorders that impact a person's life.

I don't ever condone radfems for calling someone's behavior 'narcissistic/sociopathic' or anything ableist because in doing so you also put down women who have these disorders. Ick. If you're not taking the time to include these women in your feminism then you're excluding them.

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Letting down my followers/moots feels like failing my own family.

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"Well, she had it coming..." In regards to: rape, assault, murder, domestic violence, trafficking, kidnapping, forced birth, reproduction healthcare restriction

"MEN'S MENTAL HEALTH CRISIS! Why won't anyone think of the men????" In regards to: male loneliness epidemic, declining college graduates, statistically sadder while being single, feminism failing men (as if feminism WAS for men anyways...)

Men do have real problems and yet nothing burgers of issues are constantly pushed to the forefront. Maybe instead of relying on women to solve them, men should do something for THEMSELVES instead.

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let her eat

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How can people not see surrogacy as something as terrible and awful as human trafficking.

Can't really put this into words at the moment but here are some parallels between surrogacy and trafficking

"Buying" a person

In the case of surrogacy, a couple (or a single person) is renting out a woman's womb for 9 months.

For prostitution, a sex buyer buys a woman for the sake of having sex with them.

Lingering physical effects:

Surrogate Mothers are at higher risk to have pregnancy complications 1, 2, 3

Trafficking abuse victims suffer HIGHER risk of aids, pregnancy, vaginal and rectal trauma.

Sex trafficking and surrogacy (womb renting) is so unethical. No one has the right to buy a person to use specific organs and neither should the people of either category be at risk for the things mentioned above.

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I love driving videos, they're so peaceful <3

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@leftiedinolover Would you care to provide us with the correct definition of women then?

terfs/radfems: women are adult human females. how she uses her reproductive organs is up to her, and the rest of her existence depends entirely on herself-

tras: MENSTRUATORS! VAGINA HAVERS, VULVA OWNERS, PEOPLE WITH UTERUS! BIRTHERS! WOMB HAVERS! PREGNANT PEOPLE, CHEST FEEDER! FRONT HOLE OWNERS

so who again is reducing women to their sexual organs...?

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Do you have any specific thoughts in regards to folks such as Blair White? I’ve seen a great divide when it comes to opinions on her and other folks like her.

I'm going to try to approach this inbox with as much nuance as possible.

Honestly, I enjoy her channel. I relate to her no bullshit, extremely blunt personality, she can be really funny at times, and has good takes. I agree with 65% of what she says? For very obvious reasons, I don't condone her support for Trump and right winged views, and neither do I support her conversion to christianity. She's against sex change for minors and the medical professionals who preform said surgeries/give HRT. She calls out trans identified predators over and over again,I'm really glad she doesn't harp on the 'trans women are women' train.

I feel like so many problems people have with her is that... she's mean??? and catty??? and doesn't think that trans people are the sex they identify with.

In conclusion, Blaire white has both good and bad views. I don't see her as privileged considering how she speaks about her upbringing, relationship trauma, and factors that made her transition. She's another person that's trying to survive like everyone else.

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THAT'S MY GIRL!

MY ABUSIVE EX KILLED HIMSELF FOR REAL

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I remember I was attempting to be a good ally (believing that being trans stemmed from gender dysphoria) and I so casually said: "I don't think the internet should determine your sexuality/gender" and I was dogpiled so badly for it.

in my experience, trying to be the perfect "trans ally" was just walking on eggshells 24/7.

"oh no! i misgendered someone! that's a really really bad thing, i need to apologize. but i can't apologize too much, because that annoys them and it's disrespectful. okay, i'll use "they" for everyone now. but using they can be a form of misgendering now too. so what am i supposed to do? i don't wanna be a transphobe. is it alright to ask this question? am i doing something wrong? what am i doing wrong?"

i don't mean to wax melodramatic about it, because in retrospect it's merely annoying, but when i was 12 this shit was like life or death for me. it spiked my anxiety like nothing else. having transphobia accusations hurled at me as a preteen in a discord server made me literally dizzy with fear.

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my friend </3

One of my friends is a "crypto terf" (using the language of tras) bc she told me about how uncomfortable/confused with the language of gender ideology but she's afraid to say anything publically to not get dragged and I think it's very important that everyone (not just radfems) on the left to be open about why gender ideology is absolute nonsense and dangerous because most of the population probably agrees with you it's just that tras are the loudest

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Tobyfox is a cross dressing tranny faggot

I don't condone anything this anon says but i'm having a really bad time emotionally and mentally right now and this made me burst into laughter omg