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I was the person who didn’t understand why people who have newborns stopped going out. I was the person who didn’t know what to bring to a baby shower. I was that person who judged the parents when I saw the baby had a scratch on their face. I didn’t know. I had no idea the exhaustion of taking care of a new born. The 24/7 care you give. The needs of parents. The sharp baby nails. You can’t truly know what it’s like until you have one of your own. So, friends who I didn’t support enough when you had your baby. I get it now. I’m sorry I didn’t get it before. And, friends of mine who I feel don’t support me enough - I know you don’t get it. You will someday. I know you still care.

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Saw this on Facebook. Not sure who the author is. But it brought me to tears.

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“Fed” is best

Formula-fed babies are just as healthy, loved, and cared for as breastfed babies.

Some people act like formula is a last resort, like if you’re not breastfeeding, you’re somehow giving your baby “less.” But let’s be real—formula is a lifesaver. It’s nutrition. It’s science-backed. It keeps babies fed, growing, and thriving. And for so many moms, it’s the difference between struggling and actually enjoying motherhood.

Not every mom can breastfeed. Not every mom wants to breastfeed. And no mom should have to explain why she chose formula, because at the end of the day, fed is best. A happy, healthy baby matters more than meeting someone else’s expectations.

So if you’re formula-feeding? You’re doing an amazing job. Your baby is loved, cared for, and getting exactly what they need—and that’s what truly matters.”

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Social media is making it seem like once you have a baby you need to work really hard to get skinny. First off, you just GREW a human being for NINE MONTHS. Ain’t nobody’s body gonna “bounce back” after that. I love my mom body. I just had a baby. I don’t want to focus on trying to get my body “back to normal”. It’s NORMAL to look like you just had a baby if you just had a baby. Screw all these ads. Imma focus on being a great mom.

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Today I was exhausted. I have a baby who is going through a growth spurt. I got peed on. Pooped on. And thrown up on today. And …. I wouldn’t change it. I wouldn’t trade it for the world. I love him so much. He is so wonderful. All the time. Even when he’s covering me with his fluids. Cuz, I’m his mom, and I’m there for him all the time no matter what. Even if that means I’m there for him to throw up on. I’m there to make him feel better. To tell him it’s OK. I’m his mom forever. I love him.

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So there I was, hyped about the new Eminem album. I decided to listen to it start to finish. I was jamming. Then Temporary came on. WTF Eminem?! I burst into tears. Ugly cried. Sobbed. Gotta love those pregnant emotions! Also tho, the album was not sad, and then BAM, sad song. Out of no where. No warning. Damn lol

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Wearing my underwear only

Me “ugh I’m so fat”

Husband “no you’re not”

Me “yes I am”

Husband “you just had a baby”

Me “yeah, 6 months ago”

Husband “yes but he was in you for 9 months. You’re beautiful”

Me, now looking down at my stretch mark covered stomach “yeah I guess you are right. He was in there for 9 months. And he’s only been here for 6 months”

Me, starting to tear up thinking about how my body did something amazing; grew our son for 9 months. And then brought him into this world.

Husband *hugs me tight*

For 9 months my body nurtured our son so he could be born a healthy baby. My stomach shows the hard work and dedication to making that happen.

I am proud of my body.

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You can have the birth you want at a Hospital. But please, have your baby at the hospital. Because on the off chance something goes wrong, there are doctors ready to help you and your baby. One of my good friends wanted to give birth at a birthing center; her baby ended up being in distress and now has a disability because of the traumatic birth which could have and would have been prevented in a hospital. You never know. better to be safe. You can even have a water birth at hospitals. Just please give birth at a hospital if you can.

Also. Just to clarify. There is a baby medical staff and a momma medical staff at hospitals. So no need for the dramatic “I can either save the mom or the baby “ moments. That shit is for movies. You will BOTH be helped.

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I just wanna throw this out there. If you have to ask, play it safe and go to the hospital. I see so many posts from moms on mom group pages that are “is this normal?” “Should we take him to the doctors?”. If you have to ask, GO TO THE HOSPITAL. This is your baby we are talking about. Do NOT ask a bunch of moms on Facebook their opinion.

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Smelly and overstimulated? Yes

Overflowing with love? Absolutely

The love I have for my child and family? Priceless

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All hail Pepcid!!

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For Valentine’s Day my husband gave me 8 hours of uninterrupted sleep.

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I drop everything now. Can’t hold onto shit. This is a side effect of being postpartum. Facts.

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Being a mom is sleeping on sheets that have cat vomit on them but not caring because you are so happy to be getting rest

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Advice I would give anyone who’s pregnant or planning to be.

WORK OUT

cuz soon you gonna be carrying around a 15lb baby in one arm, all day and night, squatting to pick up the pacifier that fell on the floor.

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Just a couple of pregnancy symptoms. Some are more common than others.

Nausea and vomiting

Swelling

Weight gain

Carpal tunnel

Nose bleeds

Acne and rashes

Cravings

Smell and taste changes

Food and small aversions

Gestational diabetes

Soreness and aches

Exhaustion

Emotional

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Products I use on a daily : not an all inclusive list

Pampers swaddlers

Phillips bottle warmer and bottles and pacifier

Enfamil formula and vitamin D

Halo transition swaddle (halos swaddle before that)

Newton crib mattress (halos bassinet before that)

Boogie diaper rash cream

Graco swing

Teething mitten (the one shaped like a chicken)

Outfits from Carters (love the Little planet brand)

Frida cradle cap removal system

Aquaphor baby body wash and shampoo

Aveeno baby bubble bath

Dreft laundry detergent

Momcozy sound machine and light

Diaper genie

Mommy’s bliss gas drops

Jartoo baby monitor

Baby play gym for tummy time

Nuby pacifinder

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Thinking that I was selfish to switch my baby over to formula after 6 weeks of breast milk. The hospital made breastfeeding seem impossible to do by myself. Like I needed someone to help me set up pillows etc. they also emphasized how much a baby should be eating, and I was so concerned with not knowing how much I was feeding my baby after a breast session. He always seemed hungry for more. I started to pump and feed him that way. I quickly realized that pumping is a full time job. And that if I skipped pumping every couple hours I would be in pain. Then there’s milk storage etc. it was overwhelming and I was exhausted. I was home alone with my baby after a week because my husband had to work. So I started to give my baby formula. It was so much faster and easier on me. However I felt enormously guilty and weak for not being able to provide milk for my baby. I was reminded that if I was going crazy attempting to feed my baby breast milk, that that’s not healthy either. A healthy mom means a healthy baby. I wasn’t mentally OK , and formula worked better for my family. It took a lot of pressure off of me and also make me feel secure knowing my baby was eating a good amount. When I’m happy, my baby will be happy too. Everyone’s journey is different. I wish breastfeeding wasn’t introduced to me as a stressful or complicated process. But I don’t know if I would have made a different decision because not breastfeeding or pumping meant when my husband was home I could sleep without waking up every 2 hours. That way when my husband wasn’t home I would be able to care for our baby without falling asleep. Motherhood is exhausting no matter what. Do what works best for your family.