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on today’s episode of introducing my roommates to one direction things: referred to liam as leem and absolutely broke one of them. he’s been laughing to himself and muttering “leem” all day it’s fantastic

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home alone!! dance party!! one direction dance party!! #shakesumfor1D

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CANT EVER GET IT RIGHT NO MATTER HOW HARD I TRY WELL I PUT UP A GOOD FIGHT BUT YOUR WORDS CUT LIKE KNIVES AND IM TIRED AS YOU BREAK MY HEART AGAIN THIS TIME TELL ME IM A SCREWED UP MESS THAT I NEVER LISTEN

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oh ok so midnight til morning. oh. oh they feel like 1D. oh i haven’t felt these vibes in years. i’m calling it now these dudes have unearthed the ancient texts we’re about to have a resurgence

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local british man’s first time seeing space rocket

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how would you describe each of the boys in just a few words or even a phrase?

~remy

oo idk why this is a tough one?

louis is unpredictable in the way the ocean is: beautiful to look at, in some cases dangerous, at other times gentle and warm. he’s everchanging, mesmerizing

niall is calm, steady reassurance. he’s quiet domesticity, fresh-baked scones and hot coffee on a sunday morning, vanilla candles and sleep-soft eyes

liam is the joy you find in those moments in your day-to-day. he’s the bubbles that float up when you open dish soap, the pretty rock your friend handed you, the sun hitting your face on the first chilly day of fall

harry is the restrained power found in choosing, above all else, to be kind. he burns like a supernova frozen moments before implosion, held by his own will perpetually in his brightest moment

zayn is a warm night lit only by stars. he’s the quiet hours of the early morning when those still awake whisper secrets to each other, the sounds the trees make when they think no one can hear

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liam is incredible as a judge. just from one episode you can see how confidently he carries himself, how much knowledge he has on the industry and what it takes to be successful as a band. he gives clear, pointed advice that’s intended to genuinely help the contestants and i’m just. i’m so proud of him. and i know he was so proud of his work on this show. i’m so glad they were able to air it, the world deserves to see our boy in his element one last time.

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ok i’m caught up on building the band. feeling….fragile

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so the multiple bowls i pregamed with were insufficient. liam said one word and i broke

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pregaming the new building the band eps with lots and lots and lots of marijuana

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my boys :)

#proud auntie

OMG. petition for everyone to send their pets in my asks. these guys are perfect and i love them

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directioners, it has been a rough few days. louis’ recent tweet. new building the band episodes with liam appearances. and so on and so forth. in an attempt to help and as a heartfelt gift, here’s my rabbit trying really hard to keep me from going to work this morning. he loves you. and so do i <3

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i think louis might be your type i fear

yes. yes exactly. he is missing one key qualification (being taller than me - i’m 5’10 sorry lou) but for him i’d make an exception 🙂‍↕️

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what does it say about me that i would not fight for this country but i’d go to war for any one direction member. is that bad be honest

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I feel like what people need to understand about larry is that it's no longer a lighthearted, silly fandom in-joke. Back in 2011/2012, however much certain fans may have believed it, it was never that serious. The two boys even played into it at first, because there was a sweetness to it all. But then it started getting invasive. And then there was babygate. Since then, it has never been lighthearted or innocent. The moment adult fans decided it was okay to doubt the parentage of Louis' literal child is the moment it became unacceptable. It's one thing to have a "ship," it's another thing altogether to repeatedly ignore the wishes and boundaries of these real people who you claim to love in favor of outlandish conspiracies. Grown adults spending their time and energy finding "proof" of a relationship between two people who have been officially seen together maybe twice since the band's hiatus (nearly ten years), is insane.

You ignore them when they establish their sexualities (or disinterest in doing so), you ignore them when they ask for privacy for their families, you ignore them when they ask for their partners not to be disrespected. You ignore their every wish and still pretend to be their champions. Because in the mind of a modern larrie, they are somehow liberating these men from the shackles of their contractual closeting. But they don't really care about either of them. It's obvious in the way they get angry and offended any time either of them pushes back. All they care about is validating their own obsession. These two popstars do not need your help coming out of the closet. Neither of them are with the same management or record labels they were with in the band. Their success is squarely on their own shoulders at this point in their careers. There simply cannot be anybody that interested in them remaining closeted. They are human beings with free and independent will, and all they have ever asked of you is some common fucking decency. Appreciate the friendship between them in the band, appreciate their support of the queer community, appreciate them as human beings. Stop projecting your own version of reality onto them. They are not characters. They are not dolls. They are grown ass men.

We can joke about Larry as the fandom in-joke and piece of lore that it is, but keep that shit in the past. Those two men do not want to be objectified, stalked, and harassed by y'all. And maybe, just maybe, if people would actually let them exist for a change, they could be friends again. Like christ, if you want to see them together so bad, leave them alone! Maybe if it didn't mean the entire internet erupting with larries claiming victory any time they were within each others' proximity, they might actually hang out more often.

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i rarely if ever post larry-related stuff for a few reasons.

1) i simply do not want to get involved with the controversial nature of it on my silly little one direction brainrot page

2) i try to keep a neutral public stance because i don’t want to alienate any directioners from the fandom community overall or from my content specifically, i want to be inclusive to as many people as possible within my pocket of the internet

3) it doesn’t come up much for me in my day-to-day, i’m not exactly thinking about larry/larries unless something happens and it blows up my feed

HOWEVER COMMA

larries. that recent tweet? louis is talking about you. he has been talking about you. and as much as i wish this weren’t the case, if he has to post something like this again, which he likely will in the future, he will continue to be talking. about. YOU.

my own thoughts and feelings about it aside, there will always be an element of shipping real people that’s unavoidable. i don’t think the cultural phenomenon that is larry is something that can be fully stayed. im not saying to stop writing fanfiction or stop posting your gifsets on here - that’s an element of fandom that, although personally i’m not a big fan, is frankly unavoidable and not unique to this situation.

what IS unique about larry/larries is the conspiracy level of it all. there is a clear difference between “i think these two people would be cute together” and “these two people ARE together despite vehement denials from them over many years and i am going to PROVE it.” there is a massive difference between a fantasy you enjoy and a conspiracy you perpetuate.

ship them privately. whatever. that’s your prerogative. that happens in every fandom. but the very real people behind the story you’ve decided to subscribe to should not be confronted with that narrative repeatedly, especially when it’s one those people have frequently and firmly denied. those people should not have to think about the way their families, particularly their children, will be affected by that narrative. they should not have to see their dead parents subjected to the online conspiracy mill. they should not have to forewarn every person they date that said person will be subjected to extreme scrutiny, hate, and the absolute drain that is constantly having their relationship be picked apart by strangers on the basis of something that has been repeatedly debunked.

furthermore, the two very real people that this ship is based on should not be forced into a situation where their friendship is damaged or hidden by necessity. harry and louis were so publicly close, and we watched the actions of this fandom erode that in real time. we got one. ONE!! moment of overlap between the two and one statement from louis for the first time in years and y’all took that and ran wild.

harry is a prime example of what happens to your faves when you push them too far. he’s completely retreated (as is his right!) and none of us are any better off for it. even as withdrawn as he is, his life is still scrutinized down to the minute online. he never gets any peace. he can’t just exist in the world without thousands of reactions to his every move.

and god. liam DIED. we fucking lost him to the addictions spurred on in part by years and years of online abuse. he’s never coming back. and standing tall among all the factors that led to that devastating loss is the way he was treated online.

louis has asked, and asked, and asked. he is pleading at this point. this is a basic case of no-means-no, a lesson in elementary-level consent. as a fan, if you can’t respect that, it’s worth taking a long hard look at yourself and asking: this is really how the person you claim to love deserves to be treated?

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saw this and immediately my heart dropped. all y'all freakwad larries have GOT to cut your shit out before you permanently alienate this man from his own fan base. y'all are insane. leave him alone. this is a real human being not a character in your fan fictions. i will fight you. i want to cry for him, for having to put up with this bullshit for nearly FIFTEEN YEARS! I repeat, all modern larry conspiracy theorists are INSANE. Y'all are CRAZY PEOPLE with so little actual empathy for the person you claim to love!