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I have such a burning passionate love for all trans girl lesbians.

Trans girl lesbians that are butch or masculine. Trans girl lesbians that have trans girl partners. Trans girl lesbians that have cis partners. Trans girl lesbians who dress feminine. Trans girl lesbians who are feminists. Trans girl lesbians that don’t shave and wear dresses and skirts because they aren’t afraid of their leg hair. Trans girl lesbians who wear makeup. Trans girl lesbians who don’t wear makeup.

Honestly bless you all. You are all flawless and beautiful and I hope you are all having wonderful days. Terfs are small minded and don’t you ever let anyone tell you that you aren’t a drop dead gorgeous lesbian because I can assure you that you are exactly that.

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psa: delayed sleep phase disorder is a thing

so i’ve only ever talked about this with a handful of people before so for some reason it’s making me nervous to put it out there EVEN THOUGH IT’S NOTHING REMOTELY BAD. but i’m hoping to connect with people who know what this is about and since whenever i talk about this, i always find people who say “SERIOUSLY, THIS IS A THING? ME TOO!” then maybe this might help someone.

for most of my life i’ve told people i “have chronic insomnia” or that i’m “not a morning person” (which is a euphemism, at best). i’ve described myself as a "night owl” since i was a very young child, but i’ve learned in the last year or so that i’m actually NOT an insomniac at all - i have chronic severe delayed sleep phase disorder.

insomnia is difficulty falling and/or staying asleep; i have no trouble whatsoever falling and staying asleep. but no matter what I do, i physically cannot fall asleep before 2-3AM. i’m actually happiest going to bed somewhere between 4 and 5AM. i actually have no trouble at all staying up until sunrise if left to my own devices. usually somewhere between 3 and 5AM, i start to get tired. if i try to sleep before then, i toss and turn for hours regardless of how tired i am, and going past 5AM is always pushing past my limits, but i have no trouble at all falling asleep within that time frame.

if this sounds like you, i want you to know something: you’re not like this due to laziness or a failure of willpower. i say this as someone who’s tried for the better part of two decades to change my circadian cycles and nothing has made even a minor difference. this is normal for people with dspd. we’re just wired this way. 

according to what I’ve been reading, there’s a strong genetic correlation to specific genes and your sleep-phase type, and people with DSPS especially in the severe form like i have tend to have an abnormality in the way that their brains process daylight and evening light. for most people, daylight wakes them up and evening light suppresses alertness. that isn’t a thing for me and that’s why i’m writing this at midnight and trying to decide which tv show i’m gonna watch on netflix for the next few hours :)

also not helpful: self-induced sleep deprivation (tried that over and over - i just spend weeks at a time miserable and exhausted); sleep aids - i hadn’t realized that was a thing for most people with DSPS - they just make us groggy and dizzy but don’t actually make us sleep. We are perpetually misdiagnosed as having primary insomnia or some kind of psychiatric disorder. Excellent bedtime routines don’t help. Meditation, nightcaps, having no devices, caffeine boycotts - not a shred of difference.

the bad news is that it’s permanent and incurable. both personal experience and the collective body of current medical evidence points to the fact that it’s VERY hard to even make a dent in your natural sleep phase cycles and the best you can ever hope for is a small dent (e.g., if i work very hard at it for the rest of my life - cause y’all know frequent relapse is a thing here - i may be able to move my bed time to 2:30AM instead of 4AM).

the good news is that people with DSPS can live totally normal healthy lives - if they can find a job and a lifestyle AND FRIENDS that accommodates our preferred sleep patterns which - hey, look at that, I HAVE ALL THAT! hence why i’ve been working from home for most of my adult life. the best jobs i’ve ever had have been graveyard shifts. we tend to gravitate toward those. for example, people who work overnight in emergency rooms tend to categorically be dspd folks. lots of us are self-employed and happy and successful that way. (my favorite clients are aussies. 1AM skype meetings= GREAT!)

evolutionary biologists have a theory that us night owls are descended from a long and noble line of early ancestors - basically, that one guy amidst our cave ancestors who got night duty. basically, while the rest of the tribe snored away, that one guy had to stay up and make sure the fire kept going and keep watch so that the rest of the tribe wouldn’t freeze to death and no giant sloths or prehistoric dingos ate the cavebabies. be proud; our species literally couldn’t have survived without night owls like us. 

so if you’re a chronic night owl, embrace who you are because you are okay. it’s not inherently healthier, wiser, or in any way better to be a morning person. so don’t beat yourself up because you don’t/can’t get up at dawn to exercise (exercise still counts if you do it at night - god bless 24-hour gyms). plan around it if you can. pick careers that let you sleep in until noon. don’t sign up for morning hikes or crack of dawn college classes or deprive yourself of sleep in order to exhaust yourself into magically morphing into a morning person. take it from personal experience. it won’t work. 

you’re just wired that way, and there’s nothing wrong with that. 

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goodbivibes:

here’s to single bisexuals, monogamous bisexuals, poly bisexuals, bisexual POC, disabled bisexuals, questioning bisexuals, closeted bisexuals, flirtatious bisexuals, shy bisexuals…. holy guacamole you are all wonderful

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goodbivibes:

here’s to single bisexuals, monogamous bisexuals, poly bisexuals, bisexual POC, disabled bisexuals, questioning bisexuals, closeted bisexuals, flirtatious bisexuals, shy bisexuals…. holy guacamole you are all wonderful

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Hey, so Gone Home is free for the weekend because it’s creator felt like it’s something people could use right now. It’s a wonderfully done lgbt+ game that is probably less than 3 hours total, so if you wanna give it a try go for it!!!

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I see too many recovery/positivity blogs pushing that “you can do everything you put your mind to” and that “you’re limitless” so this is your daily reminder that you don’t have to push yourself past your limits to be strong, that pushing yourself past your limits can have negative consequences for your mental and physical health and that there’s strength and recovery in acknowledging and accepting your limits.

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Trans lesbians with depression are so so important. I see you and I love you. The future may seem gray and dim but there are so many possibilities, so much hope and light, that can reside in an unknown future.

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i couldn’t find one so i decided to make a masterpost for ppl with narcisisstic personality disorder like me!

unbiased information

* DSM-5 checklist of symptoms

* mayoclinic info

* list of narcissistic traits

* overt vs covert narcissism

* empathy test

* npd community terminology

* how to self-dx effectively

need attention?

* automatic compliments

* anonymously vent and receive support

* a place for others to confess their crushes on you

* how to make people instantly like you

* how/where to make friends

* online crisis chat (and another one too)

when the narc crash hits

* interactive self care guide

* a place to put those gross intrusive thoughts

* how to cope with loneliness

* dealing with self-hatred

* create confidence

* how to take criticism

* help with intrusive thoughts

* international suicide hotlines

         * how to call a helpline 

* dealing with anger and impulsivity

* how to calm down / stop splitting

underlying problems

* resources for abuse victims/survivors

* strategies for counteracting negative emotions

* how to open up to your therapist

* managing stress

* how to apologise

some good & relevant blogs

* @thatnpdfeel

* @narcissisticabuse

* @that-npd-feel

* @pddating

* @pdpittyparty

* @pridefulsuggestion

* @narcissistic-suggestion

miscellaneous

* make art by writing what you’re afraid to say out loud

* most popular npd playlists on 8tracks / my personal fave

* hobbies in case u wanna be good at something new

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I have so much love for lesbians whose mental illness increases their loneliness ten fold. However it does it, whether it isolates you or latches onto that feeling and makes it worse. Lonely lesbians are so wonderful and are not alone. You are not alone.

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S/o to sapphic girls with sleep disorders. You’re all valid, wonderful, and amazing even if you sleep through your alarm, stay up all night, fall asleep randomly, sleepwalk, have nightmares, or need medications or machines to sleep. You all deserve endless validation, support and love.

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By Lara Parker with art by Charlotte Gomez.

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Hello! I’m doing on study on sleep patterns in autistic people for my sociology class and I was hoping people here would be willing to help me? I decided to study this because I’m autistic and found I have issues with sleeping so I wanted to see if others had the same problems with sleeping. It’s a pretty quick survey with only a few questions. Plus a fun extra, optional question at the end! (Hint: feel free to infodump! I love that kind of stuff!) If you want to and are able to, I’d appreciate spreading this survey! —————————————————————————- [Mod note: You might also find the following posts useful: http://askanautistic.co.uk/post/126835499309/i-need-help-with-sleeping-i-dont-have-any http://askanautistic.co.uk/post/129583238519/i-read-recently-that-40-80-of-ppl-on-the-spectrum - Check the notes to see a comment about melatonin in autistics. http://askanautistic.co.uk/post/129584960724/anonymous-submission-regarding-this-post ]

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[The image is decorated with various flowers, and reads:

The Hero Club’s Five Tenets

Give everyone a good greeting

Try not to give up

Sleep well, eat well

If you’re troubled, talk to someone!

You’re likely to succeed if you try]

Hey look! I made a motivational, transparent eyesore for your blog! Haha, sorry, I’m not even that big of a fan of Yuuki Yuuna wa Yuusha de Aru (Yuki Yuna is a Hero), but the opening and the art is really enjoyable, and the characters aren’t too bad. The feel of the anime is a bit weird, and that is very much an after-effect of Puella Magi Madoka Magica. It feels like something is going to go horribly wrong, but it doesn’t! Not yet at least (episode 7 here I go!)

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@ chronically ill girls, i love u, i am proud of u, we are amazing and special and strong and beautiful and brave and wonderful and u are doing your best and u know what your best is, and i am proud of u for being here and we rock

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I’ve never been happier to be black, Latina, and queer.

I am so blessed to have such a kind, beautiful girlfriend who, whenever possible, puts my happiness above all else. Thank you so much for taking me to Houston Pride @enaomi 👭🌈💕

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hey, shoutout to autistic lesbians and autistic bi girls. i know it’s so hard in a society that feels so against you, but i love us so much, ok? i’m here for my autistic lesbian and bi sisters, you all matter more than you know.💞👭

*fine, and encouraged to reblog if you’re allistic.

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to wlw with personality disorders who need attention to get through the day. to wlw who don’t feel okay until they get attention from their fp/dp. to wlw who feel manipulative and bad for needing and asking for attention. to wlw who don’t have anyone that gives them attention.

you aren’t manipulative - needing attention isn’t manipulative. you are so special and good and Wonderful. you deserve to be paid attention to.