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Abusive boyfriend, please help me leave

I've finally come to the point of being able to say it, but it's still a very painful and confusing thing to say so please don't say hurtful things. Last summer my boyfriend assaulted me (in you know which way), after I came out as trans to him. Since then, it's almost like a switch flipped in him and he's been treating me horribly. I constantly feel like I'm going insane, and the pain is unbearable. I know I should've left much earlier but I was (and am) heavily traumatized and couldn't think or act rationally at all. Things changed very suddenly and it's still very hard to believe what's happening. But I've finally come to the point of realizing that I need to leave and seek safety from this person.

Unfortunately I've become financially dependent on him after the assault and he's forbidden me from finding a new job, which is why I haven't. I'm just afraid. Even doing this behind his back is making me feel super paranoid. I don't know what he's capable of and I don't want to go through some things again... My goal is to secretly move to another city and find a job there, but I don't have anyone to help me with this, and I know it's a big thing to ask of strangers, but if anyone would be willing to help me it would mean everything to me. You can donate here if you'd like, and thank you so much:

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Hi! I’m not sure if your reqs are open but I wanted to ask if you could maybe write dammon x trans male reader, maybe the reader coming out to him or something? :) (also I love ur work keep it up!)

Dammon With a Trans Boyfriend

A/n: yaay I love transgender reqs. Sorry it's taken me so long to get back into writing, I've had a lot going on and completely forgot I had a fanfic acc tbh

Trans male reader

One thing to establish first is that Dammon is one of the sweetest men

When the two of you started dating, everything was perfect

He's respectful and pays the perfect amount of attention to you, even with his work, and respects your boundaries

When you realized you were trans but were in the in between stage of not telling him yet, he could tell something was wrong

He asked you plenty of times if everything was alright, and even if you said yes he was still suspicious

He knew something was up, but after a bit of pushing he decided it was best to wait until you were ready to tell him

When you did he was taken aback, but not exactly surprised

He knew something was wrong, and he started to have his own suspicions about what it was based on your behavior

When you started wearing baggier clothes and avoiding fem terms, he started to be able to tell

He assured you that everything was alright and that he still loves you

He asks you about what changes you want to make

no matter what it is, if it's your hair, your name, your pronouns, your clothes, hormones, Dammon has no problem with it

During your transition, he messes up a bit

He may get your name and pronouns wrong on occasion, but quickly apologizes and corrects himself

He's not perfect, but he's working on it

He absolutely never wants to make you upset and does eventually get used to the change, rarely making mistakes at that point

If you're feeling dysphoric he is right by your side

Top tier boyfriend, giving you his bigger clothes, cuddling you, making you a warm drink, and whatever else you may need

He my not be prefect, but he's always there for you and supports what you want to do to make yourself happy

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It’s alr /nm means not malicious, I was pretty sure you just misread it as trans women or transfems and you weren’t doing it intentionally :)

If you jump to call a trans man a ‘bitch’ whenever they disagree with you then I’m just going to assume you’re a transphobe and a raging misogynist.

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Fun fact twst fans, in Japan in the train station near Disney, next to the moving sidewalk, there is just a WALL of advertisements for twst. Like the big posters that you usually see in the train station, there are MULTIPLE of them as you go down, like each housewarden has their own personal poster. And you know what advertisement worked because that’s how I started playing it. I literally went back to my hotel and downloaded the game immediately. Curse you Japan advertisement now I’m hyperfixated.

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Heyy moot I’m not sure if you’re confused but this post is about trans men. Ftms. Aka not women, although op might be talking about people who see us as women anyway, which is def not trans exclusive. This is /nm I just think you’re a little confused btw ily keep up the good fight

If you jump to call a trans man a ‘bitch’ whenever they disagree with you then I’m just going to assume you’re a transphobe and a raging misogynist.

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I hate how there's this idea that trans men aren't allowed to express themselves in any way that isn's uber masculine. I feel like we're expected to compensate for the time we weren't out or didn't know we were trans. Any slight androgyny or feminity and all of a sudden we're faking,trenders,misogynists or uwu soft bois and infantilized. People can't be normal about trans guys and it makes me angry.

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please don’t tell me y’all are falling for bait of a faceless account claiming to be a trans man again saying transphobic shit again.….. that account has two posts . TWO !!

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just finished tma for the 3rd time, and i can’t express how much i love this episode

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Thinking about how Jon said he was a deeply annoying child and then listed textbook symptoms of autism

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So normal about Jon being like I don’t remember what you looked like but the man who let you die is going to suffer for what he did to you. If only Sasha coulda seen that.

So normal about Jon being like you died hating me and wanting me dead but I’m still gonna make sure this man knows I’m ending him in your name. Sure wish Tim coulda seen that.

So normal about the fact that everyone believed Jon was losing his humanity but no one got to see the ways his love and compassion for the people he lost or who hurt him drove him to that final moment.

So normal about the fact that even after everything Jonah’s done to Jon, the only person he never thinks to get justice for is himself.

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This is canon now.

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I love you, transmascs, with all my heart. I want to see you love yourselves. Your masculinity, your trans and queer masculinity, is beautiful and should be celebrated. You don’t have to be invisible and you don’t have to punish yourself for being a man or masc. Talk about yourself, talk about your experiences, be loud, take up space. Turn your body into a home in whatever form that looks like for you. You deserve safety and comfort, you deserve community and belonging. Surround yourself with people who will give that to you and don’t you dare settle for less. Remember that you’re a human too—your first responsibility is to yourself before you can help others. Take care of yourselves and each other out there. I love you.

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It’s easy to get caught up in discourse so I want to remind my fellow transmascs that there are allies that love and support us! Everyone I’ve described transandrophobia theory to in person, including a couple queer cis women, have agreed that it’s a serious issue that needs to be integrated into feminism. I know several transfems in my life who support our theorizing and talk about our struggles as well. We’re seeing progress and we’ll continue to keep seeing it. I’m out there building spaces for us to be safe and connect with each other and I’m certain I’m not the only one. There are communities out there for you, please find them and surround yourself with people who will accept and uplift you.

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This is so random but if you’re a trans man and you’re alive I love you. Thank you for living.

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Asexuals were always part of pride and it really fucking shows when people think it's a recent term.

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you act like being called what you biologically are is such a crime people are literally dying and all you clowns do is boo who about being misgendered when it's you clowns misgendering yourselves holy fuck

I literally talk about being biologically female all the time it’s not something I’ve once denied. I’ve said multiple times I’m afab which literally means assigned female at birth. Trans people don’t deny what they’re born as biologically, that’s literally what being trans is. Trans people are also dying both because of hate crimes where they’re misgendered and suicide because they’re getting misgendered. Do you think trans people just don’t die? It’s okay to say you’re uneducated. Also if you want to talk shit, turn off anonymous if you’re so fucking brave.

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POV: You are selecting a husband