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happy thursday madi 😘

Happy Thursday!! 😙❤️

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This is a reminder for those who handmake Christmas presents that now is not too early to start. It may in fact be a good time to start if you have a lot to make/your craft takes a long time. You should maybe start it now, whether that's brainstorming or actually doing the crafts!

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Why “strong independent women" tend to attract emotionally abusive men

It sounds contradictory how a woman who is strong, accomplished, and self sufficient keep ending up with emotionally abusive, unavailable men

But it goes down to the root, a lot of strong women didn’t choose strength. This doesn’t get spoken about enough but there are studies that explain how over performing, over achieving, entrepreneurship etc are a trauma response. These women had to become strong because no one was consistently there to protect, nurture, pour into them

Their independence was born from survival. Not safety

As a result, a lot of women wear their independence like armor. They know how to get the job done, rely on no one and build their own lives. They are very confident in this area but beneath that armor is a deep, unmet need for love. Emotional neglect in early life wires the brain to associate love with earning

When affection was given inconsistently you learned that love isn’t given freely and it’s something you had to work for

So even when a woman excels in every area of her life, she can still feel unworthy of love that is consistent, gentle, and unconditional

Your nervous system gets conditioned by the emotional climate of your childhood… then your brain gets wired to find that familiar and what feels familiar often feels safe, even when it’s harmful to us

The inconsistency triggers dopamine, cortisol, and adrenaline creating a chemical cocktail that mimics addiction. It feels intense, it feels passionate… but really, it’s just trauma reactivated

When someone love bombs you then pulls away, your brain lights up the same circuits that once made you feel unseen and desperate for validation. And so, you get hooked

Many strong women never learned how to sit back and receive love as a result of this. So they unconsciously believe they have to work for a man's love. Emotionally abusive or unavailable men with their own issues know how to exploit this, intentionally or not because they are overwhelmed with feelings of love, that these women crave so badly. The more affections the easier these women fall and get blindsided

When you’re not giving yourself the love, validation, or emotional security you crave, you become vulnerable to anyone who offers it in extremes. The parts of you that feel unloved or unworthy get intoxicated by the intensity of love bombing because it feels like someone finally sees you, finally chooses you, finally fills the emotional gap you’ve been neglecting in yourself. But that’s the trap. Your wound makes you susceptible to the performance of love, not the presence of it. And when your self worth is fragile, you’ll cling to any version of love that feels urgent and overwhelming, even if it’s unstable or abusive because deep down, part of you is still starving for the affection you refuse to give yourself

In the beginning, they may be grateful for your love, effort and patience. But eventually… they stop noticing because when you give endlessly, without boundaries, people adjust. It becomes an expectation, not a gift. Neurologically, this is called hedonic adaptation. Your brain adapts to what it repeatedly receives, and what once felt special becomes normal. And what’s normal… becomes easy to ignore

And this keeps happening because the love you’re begging them to give you is still the love you refuse to give yourself

You don’t stop being taken for granted by loving harder. You stop it by validating yourself first, matching energy and withdrawing with dignity and choosing peace over intensity

You attract emotionally unavailable men when you’re still emotionally unavailable to yourself. Yes, you can want love so badly and still be emotionally unavailable

Being a strong woman doesn’t mean tolerating pain. It means knowing your worth before anyone else gets the chance to define it. You don’t have to empty your cup to fill someone else’s. Because when you do, they won’t thank you forever, they’ll start expecting it

Love meets you where you are full, soft, open and no longer begging to be chosen

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Raspberry White Chocolate Ice Cream Pops

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"You could get up early and do it before work" I could also wait for a magic beanstalk to start growing in my living room LMAO. Let's focus on things that happen in the real world

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Crunchy Peanut Butter Pie Pops

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When I say “last year,” I’m talking about 2019

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I see people making the same mistake over and over again, because they refuse to heal. They don’t see it because the mistakes have different faces but at its core it’s the same wound playing out. Different people, same lesson. Until you heal, life will keep giving you the same test dressed in new disguises. Not everything is just “not meant to be.” Sometimes it’s a clear sign you’re repeating the same pattern. Life isn’t blocking you, you’re cycling through the same lessons because you’re showing up as the same version of yourself

Life is a learning experience, yes. But making the same decisions and calling it fate is just avoidance. Growth requires awareness, otherwise, you’re not learning, you’re looping

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for a while now i’ve been learning that some people kind of choose to hate themselves like you can give them tools and resources and advice and they’ll even follow some of it and go “i still hate myself” and i feel strongly at that point they’re kind of choosing to stay in that mindset because it’s comfortable and familiar or something but some people are truly [gotye voice] addicted to a certain kind of sadness and hooked on feeling low

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Not my dad texting to ask if my mom would want to go out with him 🤣🤣🤣

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Selina and Bruce in Absolute Batman (2025) #10

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In case you missed it

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WHY DO THE 2026 OLYMPIC MEDALS LOOK SO BASIC?????

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make your bed. clean as you go. buy yourself flowers. have a morning skincare routine. have a cup of tea. find an exercise that you'll enjoy. make time for loved ones. change your clothes and remove your makeup when you get home. keep a journal. don't give up on yourself.

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