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Since y’all aren’t fucking listening to us, let me repeat myself

By making and supporting queeragamic, a term that means “nonsexual qpr,” people have sexualized queerplatonic relationships and, if this term gets popular, people are going to think qprs are exclusively sexual. Asexuals aren’t gonna wanna use that term anymore resulting in us being even more divided than before. The more separation there is in the aspec community, the more arophobic aces are gonna feel comfortable being arophobic.

Not only that, but keep in mind that exclusionists hate aros too. Even more than they hate aces. They’re gonna see this, see kids in qprs, and see people supporting kids in qprs (because there’s nothing wrong with kids in qprs) and they’re gonna call us all pedophiles and groomers.

If you’re ace then sincerely shut the actual fuck up for once and listen to alloaros. As the ones with the biggest voice in the community, you need to stick up for us and listen when we start getting angry. There are hundreds of aros who have a problem with this term, and it’s not for no reason.

Once again, people ignore alloaros and throw us under the bus. They have made a decision that will fuck us over in the future and when we say something about it, y’all treat us like a bunch of kids having a tantrum. I don’t have to give anyone the “benefit of the doubt” I don’t have to talk to you in a “civilized” manner for you to fucking listen.

For once would y’all just listen

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Literally everyone else: Elsa is my lesbian icon

Only me: Elsa is my aro/ace icon

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as an aro I'm so glad I have an ace older sister bc my parents kinda used her as a reference for if me and my other older sister were normal and how to handle us etc, so when I didn't go on dates as a teen they were just

"well that OTHER one didn't go on dates, this must be Normal Teenage Behavior, carry on"

god I love them

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[ID: The no fear meme. In the first panel, a boy wears a shirt that says “No fear”. In the second panel, there’s a close up of another shirt that says “someone will ask me out and i won’t realize so i’ll accidentally end up on a date”. In the third panel, the same boy is now wearing a shirt that says “One fear”. End ID]

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[ID: A tweet from Yasmin Benoit that says Romantic people: "I've realised that it's actually okay to be single!"

Aromantic people:

Under the text there is a picture of 10 people. A few of them are holding signs that say DUH. Others are in party hats. End ID]

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I’m an unromanceable npc but you have the option to fight me

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aro mood (x)

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Mothman says aro pride!!!

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befriend an aro who disappears from tumblr and emerges in random bursts so no one knows where they go what they do or what happened to them. What a cryptid.

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REQUESTS ARE OPEN!!!

Aroace Pastel Grunge Moodboard for @aroace-phanchild

I hope this is okay! It’s not super pastel though 😅

Let me know if anything needs changed!

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I gotta live up to my username somehow

based on:

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aro awareness week means loving and respecting aro/arospec characters 

warm aro flag edit by @aroaesflags

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its aro, its voidpunk, its amazing

Follow my regular art block @art-heck for more art

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It’s Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week!

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ASAW Prompts

Aromantic-Official will be hosting prompts and reblogging a few responses for Arospec Awareness Week! Each prompt can be answered with a original creation, like writing or art, or you talking about your personal experiences. You can answer as little or as many of the prompt questions as you’d like. The first three prompts have two days to complete each one, for those with limited time or making very involved responses. Post in the tag #ASAW 2019!

Prompt 1 | February 17-18 | Discovery

How did you learn you were aromantic or arospec? How long did it take to find the label and to accept it? Did it click immediately, or was it a journey of denial and/or mislabeling? How has learning you were aromantic or arospec changed you? Your perception of yourself? How you act around others? Your personal relationships?

Prompt 2 | February 19-20 | Visibility

How has representation (coded or explicit) in media helped you? How has a lack of it harmed you? What would your ideal aro/arospec representation be? What do you think the aro community could do to make ourselves visible to others?What would you like more people to know about aros? If aromanticism and its spectrum were widely known, would you be more open about your arospec identity?

Prompt 3 | February 21-22 | Community

Do you feel the aro community has supported you? Has it helped or hindered you along your journey? Do you interact with other aros often, or seek out spaces with them? What do you like or dislike about the community? Do you like or dislike the greater queer community, and has it helped or hindered you overall? Do you like how small and connected the aro community is, or is that stifling? Do you create your own community spaces?

Prompt 4 | February 23 | Free day!

Stuff you didn’t include in previous prompts and want to talk about, aro-related content, personal stories, experimental creations, anything goes!

Again, we’ll be reblogging a few responses, and if you want us to see yours, tag it with #ASAW 2019!

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Another word lost to the discourse

TL;DR: The word greyromantic exists, and we should use it more.

There’s been a post going around talking about some aro terms that were lost over the course of the past few years during the latest iteration of online hate directed at ace and aro folks. Some of them *cough*zucchini*cough* I think may have disappeared because aros themselves didn’t like them and they naturally fell out of use, but otherwise I do think there is some truth to the idea that they disappeared because we were more focused on combating hate than building community.

I was very active in the aro community online in the year before the discourse started. Somewhere along the way I became less active. I got involved in my local ace community, graduated college, and started working during that time I was inactive. I also had and have a healthy relationship with the block button on tumblr, so I don’t think it was really the discourse that caused my inactivity, but perhaps the lack of other content to interact with was a part of it as well.

Anyway. The word greyromantic (with its many many alternate spellings — this is just my favorite) was used a lot back then. When we wanted to abbreviate it became “greyro” or the appropriate alternate spelling. As the aro community has come back to life, however, I hardly ever see it being used. In fact, I have been seeing people use the word “arospec” instead to mean the exact same thing, which I think is really tragic. Those two words aren’t synonyms. Hear me out:

Back in the day (four years ago), greyromantic was used as an umbrella word for anyone who didn’t fit the strict definition of aromantic but still felt close to it — so most microlabels would fit under it. Greyromantic was also a specific identity, either for people who just experienced attraction rarely, or for people who wanted to embrace the ambiguity of their identity rather than find a specific label.

In this post, I am talking less about the specific identity, and more about the umbrella usage. Recently, I have noticed that people are using the word arospec to refer to the greyromantic umbrella. As in, using arospec in a way that implied aromantic people aren’t arospec. I don’t know how long it’s been happening but I noticed it for the first time this week and now I have been seeing it everywhere.

The phrase “aromantic spectrum” has always been a unifying term. It’s for everybody, aromantic and greyromantic alike. Yes, it is specifically inclusive of greyros, but it is also inclusive of aromantic folks who experience absolutely no romantic attraction. If you have any doubts, that’s why Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week was named that, because it covers all of us.

Arospec is the word that unites our community. If we keep using to fill greyro’s void, then it will start to divide us, and I don’t want that to happen.

So let’s bring greyromantic back!

Edit: I want to add that using arospec as a self-identifier is not what I am talking about here. That can totally be used in a very similar way to the way greyromantic can be used in a vague way as a self-identifier. Like, “I know I am on the aromantic spectrum, but don’t feel like specifying where. I could be aromantic, I could be demiromantic, but I don’t feel like exploring that or disclosing that to others.” They are very similar and nearly interchangeable as a self identifier, though I think arospec can take it a step further towards “I could never experience romantic attraction, I’m just not positive that I don’t.”

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BIG YEEHAW

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