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You can’t hate yourself into a body or business you love. Have you ever stopped to think about how your body, just as it is, has helped you survive in the world? Have you thought about what you have been taught to believe about weight and health has impacted the ways you inhabit yourself? Would you like to understand how to have a better relationship with food and your body? In a time when bodies are both targeted and used for currency in health and wellness culture, Body Trust is a radically different way to occupy and care for your body. It is a pathway to reclaim your body and is completely counter to conventional “wisdom” about food, body image, weight, and health in our culture. That’s why the Body Trust® Summit is here. I’m a speaker and you’re invited. It’s online and it’s FREE. The Body Trust Summit, hosted by Be Nourished, is an invitation into powerful conversations about body trust, diet culture, social justice, healing, pleasure, and so much more. And you read that right - it’s totally free and entirely online. It kicks off March 11, 2020, and runs for 7 days featuring 20+ talks with folks like me, Sonya Renee Taylor, Desiree Adaway, Ericka Hines, Melissa Toler, Niva Piran, Sand Chang, Isabel Abbott, Bunny McKensie Mack, Deb Burgard, and so many others. There will also be panel discussions on parenting and food, fat exclusive spaces, professionals who are working with their own eating disorders, plus a vibrant and private Facebook group where you can connect with others who want to have a more compassionate relationship with their body. I will be talking about self love, body neutrality and making the shift to both - and I would LOVE to have you join us. Grab your free ticket now at https://benourished.org/summit/friend/sshelton/ https://www.instagram.com/p/B8rXG5tpVS6/?igshid=ta0n0uyp254m

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My heart is always focused on healing + love + leadership, even if I don't frame it as that. I believe the real “work” is rooted in healing, because healing things and getting free from it gives us room for expansion and increases our capacity. Grief, pain, old messages and anxiety are LOUD. The drown out whispers of hope and possibility. ...and they impact how we show up to ALL relationships. I shared this with my email list today - about allowing people to be vulnerable. "We talk a lot about folks checking in their “strong” friends. People ask their strong friends to be vulnerable, open and share the burden. But the truth is, too many strong friends have risked that kind of vulnerability only to have it thrown in their faces or misused. Vulnerability is a gift. It takes a lot to share it and it takes a lot to hold it. Holding it takes not making things about you all the time. Holding it takes love, empathy and most of all integrity. Can you be trusted with the truth of someone's struggle or story? Their fears or failures? Or will you center yourself and make it about you? Or will you gossip about it? Or will you argue with them about it? Or will you gaslight them? Or will you tell them to just be positive? Or will you use it to dismiss them and treat them like they aren't strong enough to be taken seriously? Or will you use it as food for your ego and think that you're superior to them? Or will you silently believe that they don't deserve goodness and success? Sometimes your strong friend doesn't have the space to shoulder the extra stuff you're going to pile on to what they are dealing with already. Some people just aren't safe space. Are you?" We cannot be safe for people if we don't heal things so that we aren't just projecting, judging, reacting from triggers or doing the very things that we are trying to get free from today. Heal and get free so you can be a safe space- as a leader...as a healer...as a parent...as a lover...as a friend. #LoveAndLonging #Relationships #love #leadership #emotionalintelligence https://www.instagram.com/p/B74B02vpU-5/?igshid=148ciswea77h2

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What is clear to me is who my work is for and who I want to work with. I don't do well with feeling or aligning with powerlessness. Never have. Never will. Things are shitty - AND we have the power to change them. To change the game, you have to be willing to admit that the game ain't working, and be willing to do some things. You have to grieve some things, get in position and create something new. My work is for the game changers. We've been on a wild ride and it's time for us to stop pretending that we are powerless. If you're connected to my work, you know it's all about reclaiming your power and your yes. It's about making YOUR life better, your money better, your relationships better and helping you reclaim your YES and get to work creating and doing what you're called to create and do. I work with Game Changers. It's time for us to get to work, shake shit up and change some things for the better. Here's what I know: Being a Game Changer is a calling. Being a Game Changer is about uprooting systems and beliefs that don't work. Being a Game Changer take vision, courage and alignment. Game Changers are necessary heroes that shape culture, model possibility and set people free...they are also human. Game Changers have the power, ability and creativity to change everything. If that's true, why aren't things changing? You Can't Change the game if you keep trying to fit into the game. Before you can liberate others, you have to be liberated yourself. Your liberation requires that you be healed. Your liberation requires that you be free from employing the tools of oppression even in the act of oppressing yourself. Your liberation requires that you tell the truth to yourself and to everyone else. Your liberation requires that you admit to yourself that you cannot win this game, because it was never designed for you to win in the first place. Game Changers have tangled, unhealed, and tender spaces - just like everyone else. Healers and coaches have been socialized into toxic norms and structures just like everyone else. It’s time to get free and change the game. Are you ready? https://www.instagram.com/p/B3uomIzJS9c/?igshid=1cc2i5144d606

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Today was a day of highs and lows. The joy of seeing people who follow my work come into it with ease because of the pay-what-you-can offer. The gift and blessing to be able to love-it-forward and be generous. The tension and frustration of wrestling with Mercury with email snafus that you wouldn't ever believe and that I've NEVER experienced in all my years of sending and receiving emails...it was WILD. The gratitude and validation that generosity matters and that to have revolution we have to BE the revolution. Amped up AND tired. It was a good day. Winding down with a cocktail and adding the New & Full Moon Dates for the next 18 months to my planner. Goodnight, Lovies. #Gratitude #ItsANewDay #manifest #intentions https://www.instagram.com/p/B0SDjm9pGbe/?igshid=2bqm6m10vfvx

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Today I was tired. So I decided to rest. I stayed home. I knitted. I prioritized what my body and heart needed. I didn't do it so I can "show up" better for others - I did it to show up FOR ME. This should not be revolutionary but in our current culture... it is. We LOVE to label things as "revolutionary" that AIN'T or shouldn't be, but I'll play along. We have to let go of this trend of self care and showing up for ourselves solely so that we can show up better for others. Showing up for yourself is justification enough - and truth be told - you don't need any justification for showing up for yourself AT ALL. The only thing I'm "hustling" for is some freaking REST and PEACE. My name is Staci and I AM a Cultural Revolutionary. Welcome to the future. #CulturalRevolutionary #SelfCare #SoulCare #Rest #Hustle #Unraveled #ItsANewDay https://www.instagram.com/p/ByN9ZBfhGiZ/?igshid=1gat7gd1e8ys8

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Confession. I have something shiny and new coming down the pike and I've been stalling around getting it out - which of course led to some unraveling. I wrote a lot of words about it. If you need some help allowing yourself to move foward and inhabit a dream - maybe it's for you too. If you want to read it, it's going out to my list later tonight or tomorrow ❤️ https://mailchi.mp/stacijordanshelton/unraveled-email https://www.instagram.com/p/ByJifXQJPQc/?igshid=1bi4i7us8l4i1

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Remembering that worry isn't action, even though it takes up a lot of energy. New blog post unraveling worry, relevance, this culture of voracity and shifting from grounding yourself in fear to being connected to the present, purpose and doing the work. Link in profile - read my musings. Direct link: https://www.stacijordanshelton.com/musings/unraveling-relevance-rest-and-doing-the-work #Unraveled #SelfCare #LiberatedLiving #SustainableSuccess https://www.instagram.com/p/ByJhWVPpZXO/?igshid=1cqg5vke2r03v

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I want to unravel this concept of loyalty... This week in The Ascend Mastermind, the subject of loyalty came up in the group. What so many of us were taught is loyalty is actually self sabotage and self abandonment. It's a form of sacrifice that isn't necessary and quite frankly, holds us back. Loyalty doesn't require you to place your dreams on hold. It doesn't require you to let your life and goals languish so that you can throw all of your energy, attention and resources into building someone else's empire. Loyalty is consistency, integrity, allegiance and support, not sacrifice. How many times have you stayed in a job or a situation solely because you didn't want to let the other person down? When you do that, you are placing their dreams, needs and wants above your own. That's not loyalty - it feels more like guilt and saviorism. Staying in situations at the expense of your dreams, health, goals isn't demonstrating loyalty...to them or to you, and it's not loving yourself either. Binaries always hang us up. We think it's all or nothing - and it never is. ***** My question to you is how can you be loyal to yourself? What does healthy loyalty that doesn't require sacrifice of your goals or for you to prioritize someone else's dreams above your own? What does consistent support and allegiance look like? ***** Loyalty will never require that you abandon your dreams or...YOU. Being loyal is absolutely a good thing...just don't forget to be loyal to yourself. And...speaking of loyalty and support - In July I'm launching a new way to be in community with me - so that you get consistent support, community and time and space to process and practice unraveling the things that keep you tangled and from experiencing the joy and success you want and deserve. It's a way of working that is aligned with what I believe, ow I want to serve and what over 20 years experience in my field taught me about how humans grow, level up and succeed. STAY. TUNED. https://www.instagram.com/p/ByEK3czpq8z/?igshid=wyu1ac7lybui

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I've been thinking a lot about love, friendship and relationship. We talk a lot about love. But honestly I don't think we mean it. Love is above all unconditional safety, sacredness and support...not agreement, enabling or the absense of conflict. I've NEVER loved superficial, polite, "professional" transactional relationships - they result in apathy and the commodification of humans. It treats people as disposable. I prefer compassion and honesty and accountability over nice, neat, and professional - forever. Love is messy. I don't believe true love can exist where there is no room for vulnerability...or conflict. It requires love and emotional maturity on both ends. If we want people to be vulnerable then we need also to not judge. We need to be vulnerable and not just consume the vulnerability of others. We need to allow and be safe spaces for people to feel all of their emotions, pain and walk with them through clumsily navigated growth (or not) and evolution. We must not leverage that vulnerability or weaponize it when we are trusted with it. We need to have done our own recovery and healing work and be able to hold ourselves others accountable. It ain't a feeling. It's an intentional way of being. Who do you love? That's what I'm thinking about today. #LoveAndLonging #Unraveled #love https://www.instagram.com/stacijshelton/p/BxSJXxAJDTs/?igshid=1go4qk77ct817

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Poverty is a condition...not a character trait. The same is true for wealth. They have the power to shape our experience and they amplify our flaws and fears. They are nouns, neutral.on their own, and yet we assign value to ourselves and others based upon them. They are ends of the abundance spectrum and abundance comes in so many forms. How do you feel about YOURSELF based on the amount of money you make or have? Self acceptance and celebration and disconnecting your sense of self/worth from the number of zeroes in your bank account or how many possessions you have is a key that actually unlocks more abundance. UNRAVELED Containers + Capacity Begins Sunday. https://www.stacijordanshelton.com/events/unraveled-containers-capacity https://www.instagram.com/stacijshelton/p/Bv3kSk_lv0F/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1az4j9hm5qh90

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Abundance is a relationship…just like EVERYTHING else and there are legitimate things that get in the way of us having healthy, productive, joyful relationships. When your relationship with abundance is off, you can neither draw nor keep it in your life. To repair that relationship, you need to understand how you interact with it, what you believe about it and how you treat it (and yourself) when it shows up. Too many of us were taught that being "rich" was evil. It's time to Unravel that lie. Abundance isn't the thing that lacks virtue, it's selfishness and greed. Wealth and abundance are neutral. You can't build wealth if we demonize having wealth. You can't secure the bag if you hate the bag, resent holding the bag or hate on or think that people with bags are the enemy. You are allowed to have more than the bare minimum. You need to let go of the broken and useless sh*t including these paradigms that keep us struggling and suffering in the name of virtue. Bless yourself and be a conduit for blessing others. Get you some joy that comes along with being able to take care of what you need and enjoy the things you want, too. It's time to unravel what’s in the way and come up with actual plans and learn practices to help keep you in a place of growing and enjoying instead of constant hustling. That’s what Containers + Capacity is all about. You'll spend 4 weeks going through my UNRAVELED process to uncover and examine what has you in knots and stuck as it pertains to money and abundance. You will develop a plan and practices that are specific to YOUR relationship with abundance to help you get untangled, STAY free to draw and create what you want in your life and understand what’s driving your narrative and behavior when things aren’t working. Session begins 4/8. $299. Early Bird pricing TODAY, $199. My Patreon folks get in for $149 (details on Patreon). Links in Profile. It’s time for you to have more…and keep it. I’m here for that life. Are you? https://www.instagram.com/stacijshelton/p/BvlnC32Fjdb/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=wy68jdv0klh8

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Getting it in with #TheAdmirables (at BLU Jazz+) https://www.instagram.com/stacijshelton/p/Bu0ASg1ldFn/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=14ql5lo8ohhzc

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Y'all. We are not about to fall apart during Mercury Retrograde, okay? Mercury Retrograde is here from now until March 28th and some of y'all are already in a panic. Lots of us love to joke about the communication horrors and just want to hide and shut down. It's not the practical, feasible or powerful way to navigate. Most of us can't run away, close down our businesses or take a vow of silence when planetary shifts (or real life mess happens). Fragility be damned. Energy is real and how you need to handle it is, too. I'm not an astrologer, but I pay attention to Astological forecasts just like I do the weather. It's all relevant. How we prepare and manage during energetic shifts matters. Tomorrow at 3PM, EST in The UNRAVELED Sanctuary - I'm going to share what I'm sharing with the ASCEND masternind about how I handle Mercury Rx (and other curve balls) and share some practices to help you be proactive, intentional and powerful instead of reactive and a mess. In the meantime I'd love to know how you ground yourself and manage energy. Take this poll and let me know how you ground yourself. https://stacijordanshelton.typeform.com/to/dN4tNf Join The UNRAVELED Sanctuary here (be sure to answer the group question): http://bit.ly/the-unraveled-sanctuary Join the ASCEND Masternind Community here: stacijordanshelton.com/ascend See you Thursday, March 7 @ 3PM, EST. https://www.instagram.com/stacijshelton/p/Buq4OMIFArU/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1iw133v6l5yri

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Lying about what we want, need, fear or at experiencing doesn't help us. When we lie we forfeit the help and support we need and any solutions we get are based on incomplete information. To get free and stay free we have to tell the truth. Lies hold us hostage and keep us stagnant in realities we want escape. https://www.instagram.com/p/BuMsAntF-9h/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1kwjqo1glsg4i

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When things have been hectic and you get a card from a friend that reminds you that you matter and all is well. #thankful #heartofbusiness https://www.instagram.com/p/BtyxqlDl-_q/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=3h4m3wchchrf

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Happy Lunar New Year https://www.instagram.com/p/BthMYE8lMF-/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=bsqd1yxfpqwq

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In Ascend we are doing some unraveling, but we are also talking about JOY this week. Not this fake, bypassing, gaslighting ignore everything apathy and avoidance path to "joy". That ain't joy. That's denial. For me the true test of joy is when you can connect to it and maintain it in spite of all that is going on, not by ignoring what is going on. So in all this rush to focus only on the positive, I'm remembering to acknowledge the negative as real, valid, sometimes painful and often times debilitating. I will never ignore my pain or the pain of others. I acknowledge it. Listen to it. Honor it. Because it's valid. Then, I'm going to go do something that feels good. Because it's necessary. My Joy does not require delusion to be sustained. https://www.instagram.com/p/BtgfHa9FeLM/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=y209vpdweg1