#*( it'd depend on approach ig

[blckfckinmsk]

Roman always chasing after men never the other way around. He thinks that's so sad but I don't even know if he'd like it lol

[cderiva]

parenthood meme: maria/kusakabe👀

which one meme: parenthood edition (accepting)

@tsuiokuno

under a read more because, as per usual, i yapped.

which one is more successful at getting the toddler to try new foods? unsure. not saying he wouldn't look to be involved, but i think maria is more creative than him, so generally, her? she'd have her days though because babies/children who are picky eaters can make you feel like you're losing your damn mind, and i think he'd be very good at stepping in on those occasions?

which one is more likely to have 'the talk' with the child? this one if so funny for me to think about. she'd want them to have these types of conversation with the kid together partly because in her head it'd show that both of them care and are a team etc etc. however, i think she'd be prone to overexplain, while he'd be more straightforward.

which one insists on having a family group chat? maria would 100% want them to have a family group chat for so many reasons, but she'd talk to him about it before creating one (she'd create it even if he said he didn't think it was necessary).

which one worries more when the child gets sick? i think it'd be him? for maria, it'd depend on the sickness. they both have siblings and looked after their siblings so they're probably used to normal things like fevers etc? at least, maria is. she'd only get worried/anxious if it was something that was bringing the child pain or something that was dragging out.

which one tends to be the cooler head when it comes to homework help? kusakabe. i think maria would be better at helping the kid study for a test/exam (actually, both of them might be good at this but with different approaches?), but not very good at helping with homework. she'd always try because she strongly believes in not making homework feel like something negative/punishment, and if it feels bothersome at least the kid knows the parent is there going thru it too …. so she’d be supportive, but then just go to wherever he is in the house or text him if he’s not home yet saying he needs to get in there bc her methylphenidate is wearing off and she’s sure they’ve changed the rules of math and she's ten minutes from crying in the bathroom. (if kusakabe isn't great a math ig i'll just be the three of them around the table suffering.)

which one is more likely to give the child a pep talk before their first date? i think maria would be better at it but be too elaborate which is why i supremely enjoy the thought that the kid goes to kusakabe. i can also see the kid going to maria, and she'd call kusakabe into the room like "but you know what lets hear dad's opinion" dksajhdkjsa

which one is better at helping the child navigate the pressures of fitting in? huhuh neither of them would like to see their kid go through this bs, but i think maria would feel more anxious about it and try to come up with ways to help, while he might be more pragmatic possibly seeing the idea of "fitting in" as less important in the bigger picture?

which one tends to reinforce the importance of not bottling things up? jashdsah hilarious, all things considered. it'd be maria, because she's all about this (also hypocritical of her to a degree but lets not go there). i do think that she'd talk to him about it though, and tell him she thinks it'd be important for the kid to hear it coming from him too.

which one is more likely to call for a family meeting when they sense issues? she'd want to, but she'd try to have the self-control to talk to him first and get his opinion.

which one is more likely to volunteer as a coach for the kids’ sports teams? i can see them both doing it but kusakabe would be better at it.

[tordenvejr]

hi vic! i know it might be a heavy topic (tw addiction feel free to not read further and delete the ask) but idk whom to ask and what "professional help" should i get. my wife has an alcohol addiction. it's not super drastic ig it's not blackouts or everyday drinking but she says that she thinks about drinking all the time and so far the longest we managed to go without drinking is a week (which IS a big thing!) how can i help? we thought it'd be a good idea if i just be very strict and be like "no you can't drink. it's bad" but it doesn't work because she just gets sad and feels worthless and like she's letting me down idk. or just cries and then i (a bad husband) say it's okay we can have a bottle of beer/vine. what approach should we use? how can i help her in her battle? any ideas? or do we demonize alcohol too much? idk what to do i'm sorry for this ask but you always have ANSWERS

it is such a loving thing that you're reaching out for help for your wife 💛 and i think it's extremely commendable that she is open to help. i'll do my best to answer:

i would start by calling a support line for addiction, especially if it's semi-local, as they can likely give pointers to where to begin on the recovery journey. and looking into sober mentors and support groups near you, etc.

i would also (and i know all of this depends on where you live and what is accessible - but hopefully) look into starting therapy in general. drinking is a defense and with all defenses it's easier to let them go when we find out what we're afraid of or struggling to deal with in the first place. having a space to safely explore; when do you reach for a drink? what feelings, moods, states, thoughts, things precede the urge and the action?

follow the guidance from sober mentors and other specialists first and foremost when you get there, but until you do get that help and their expertise it might be worth trying to not control your wife's alcohol consumption but to eliminate your own so she doesn't have that popping up at least without her having the direct pressure of you being the one "in control" of her consumption. because alcohol dependency is a coping tool and until a new, healthier way of coping is within reach for her it can be difficult to let go of because it does serve a need - for peace, or comfort or whatever it is she gets from it. but of course, the most important aspect is hers and your safety; i'm saying all of this under the impression that the situation is urgent but not immediately life threatening, and that you will be seeking speciality help asap

wish you both all the best 🌟

[cup0fcocoa]

I can't sleep so I'm about to make it everyone else's problem. Get ready for JD ranting

Okay I have a LOT to ramble about but I'll get miscellaneous things out of the way ig

1) in the Danceverse the gloves serve a purpose outside of coaching: they provide a humanoid disguise for the dancers to dance in. Sara, being human, is the only one capable of taking off her glove and not changing at all, but for any other relevant dancer this will not be the case. There's different levels of how odd the Danceverse citizens can get- standard level which is just an every day person (who is usually not a coach), a middle spectrum where a dancer has access to powers but no altered form, and those with altered 'true' forms. The glove and its magic were first introduced by the Traveler and Si'ha Nova as a way to maintain consistently between prominent dancers or anyone who just felt like being humanoid. However, the glove's power got to the wrong hands, and soon one certain sorceress would manipulate this gift for her own selfish desires.

The glove by itself still has side effects though, such as the transformation from true form to humanoid form being unavoidable and (usually) painful- especially if a dancer were to be something like a ghost, doll, or being with a drastically irregular body shape. Ghosts would have to relive their death every time the glove is removed, dolls would lose their sense of humanity, etc etc; to make matters worse, not everyone has free will over their glove use- it's all dependent on what supernatural being a dancer is and the circumstances of their situation.

2) general relations in my mind are scattered and usually organized by group. It'd be a lot easier and faster to understand if I just made a chart tbh but for the most part with one exception the groups I have get along well

3) there's no set timeline for me yet but I've already worked out several plot points with a gist of how things will go. Due to Wanderlust's ability to both open/use portals and open windows into the past and future, it's very easy to integrate arcs dancers from old games go through as something that occurred before the plot of JD23. I can make the entire elemental war canon as well as a way to isekai my favorite dancer to meet my second favorite dancer and have them interact I am a Genius

4) Night Swan deserves to be way more powerful. Not enough people remember she was able to best Wanderlust- the son of what we all know is the king/god of the Danceverse- even if briefly. She has the power to open gates to other realms (something we only see Wanderlust and Traveler capable of previously) and brainwash/mind control dancers with one fell swoop. The minionization process should definitely be a lot longer and WAY more painful, especially since victims literally turn into mindless bird soldiers- which leads me to my next point. In order for Wanderlust to fall prey to her power, Night Swan must've used a lot of magic on him, so much so that I believe it only makes sense if his capture had more severe aftereffects. The way I personally represent this is through his flares- his soul was tarnished by her black magic, causing him to occasionally spasm and basically relive the pain of losing body autonomy. These flares hurt him and anyone who approaches him, putting them in danger as well. He can't be cured, so Jack Rose has to stand back and watch his savior suffer at his hand knowing he can never reverse the damage.

5) speaking of, Jack Rose has siblings, two of them to be exact. While I could say who they are that's just no fun. I do have a drawing of a younger picture of the trio planned out though hopefully. Growing up isolated in the Swan tower was horrid, and both siblings left prematurely: one was kicked out and practically disowned while the other ran away never to be seen again. Jack's boa cape and brooch are hand me downs from them, given as gifts not long before each sibling left his life. Now that he himself has fled the tower and has a deity boyfriend capable of teleporting whenever he pleases, Jack plans on finding and reuniting with them again

6) on the continued topic of siblings, Pulse and Haze are also related (Pulse being older). This is honestly self indulgence but also Haze has the most moves similar to the extreme routine for Boy With Luv so honestly the game does my job for me

7) you know how Sara can travel from the human world to the Danceverse? Yeah the same can happen vice versa. The human world is a destination of great interest to a lot of the dancers, especially those who wish to live out lives as normal people instead of being worried over whether their glove is on right. If a dancer were to successfully cross the border however, Traveler would immediately sense it and send someone to retrieve the dancer (sometimes even escort them back himself). See, Traveler doesn't fancy the idea of invading another dimension for selfish reasons, which is the only reason he allows the rest of the fruity five to occasionally join Sara and find scattered dancers who have gone under the radar in the human world. Anyway, traveling to the human world gives a dancer a glow down and skin tone, basically the inverse of entering the Danceverse

If you're still here congratulations but also if you wanna hear more (which. I'm so sorry if you do) or just want me to draw someone feel free to send an ask. I definitely won't get to it immediately but I will try lol