#...... consenting feminization? lmao idk

[upwards-descent]

This is almost sticker material tbh

[femboythighs]

hiii i’m valentine but you can also call me scara or ame or maybe venti that’s ok too !! i use he/him btw. and this is where my horny lives.

i’m ok w people coming up to me and being horny @ me, that’s fine !!! i’m abro and always like guys and masc/neutral nbs but sometimes girls and fem nbs r hot too. rn i am into them

i am polyamorous! all of my partners are fully aware of this account and are ok with me being a slut lmao (they have a couple boundaries but nothing major)

i’m mostly submissive and a pillow princess, i enjoy being bratty, and i have occasional dominant tendencies!

i also post horny writing and stuff ehehe

kinks and my boundaries with them r under the cut

kink | giving/receiving | boundary (whether or not i consent to this without asking first or whether i only like to write it)

age play (receiving ; ask first) * i need to be in the right headspace for this

breeding (receiving ; consent automatically given) * not pregnancy, just breeding. idk if that makes sense

cnc (receiving ; ask first) * i need to be in the right headspace for this

daddy kink (giving ; consent automatically given)

feminization (receiving ; consent automatically given) * given that i’m a femboy this one is very obvious though. just please don’t misgender me

hypnosis (receiving ; ask first) * i have some hard boundaries with this

incest play (n/a ; consent automatically given) * i like to be little brother or son or nephew, nothing else, sorry!

mommy kink (giving ; consent automatically given)

nipple play (receiving ; consent automatically given)

oral (giving/receiving ; consent automatically given)

pet play (receiving ; consent automatically given) * puppy and bunny mostly, open to other stuff though!! just not kitten, as that is for my fiance only

piss (n/a ; writing only)

tickling (receiving ; consent automatically given) * just not feet. not into that, sorry!

there might be more lmao i’m forgetful and also into a lot of things. honestly if you’re into it there’s like a 90% chance i’m into it too

[defiantcatlady]

men have had thousands of years to do better and they never have, yet here we are still talking about 'human nature' and pretending they're merely naive, ignorant bystanders of patriarchy who can be enlightened into reliability, compassion and fairness. we NEED to stop giving them the benefit of the doubt when absolutely nothing points to their innocence.

[sad-in-sadist]

It's Been like. Two Years since I've Had this Gay Sex Blog, so I'm Updating my Pinned Post bc Fuck It. We Need a Rehaul

Call me Pink!! He/They/It, 20yrs Old, Fictionkin, Verse Top, Trans AroAllo Faggot. This is like ~60% a Gay Sex Blog, ~30% a Kin Blog, and ~10% for Whatever Else I Wanna Put Here. Oh, and I'm Objectum Too!! Mostly for Older Computers ('60s-Early 2000's), Lockpicking, Knifes and Guns

I Usually Don't Tag my Shit since I'm an Idiot, but I'll Do So if Asked!!

Uhh I Really Don't Have a DNI since I Think they're Kinda Fucking Stupid, buy As for my Boundries and Such::

- If you're Under 18yrs, then What The Fuck are you Doing Here. Go do Something Else Please

- Don't Be a Dick; That Means Racists, LGBT+Phobes, TERFS and The Like Aren't Welcome Here

- Don't Call me Pretty/Cute/Beautiful Unless I've Given Explicit Permission that You Can

- If you're like, Anti Cluster-B (Expecially Towards Narcisists) then like. Fuck Off

Also I Follow from @certainpinkglitter so if you See That in your Notifs, then That's Me LMAO. Also Mutuals are Free to Ask for my Discord :3

Got All of That? Kink List is Under the Read More!!

If you ever want me to tag something, please ask!!

Kinks and Horny Shit

Good Shit

Monster Fucking and Tentacles

Sadomasocism (80% Sadist, 20% Masochist)

PetPlay

Collaring and Leashes

Bondage and Restraints

Degradation and Humiliation

Praise

Impact Play

Marking/Biting

Roleplaying

Breeding, minus Pregnancy Shit

Overstim

Denial and Edging

Knifeplay

Wax Play

CBT

Voyerism (With Prior Consent ofc)

Begging

Cockwarming

Dacryphilia

Body Worship

Boot/Shoe Worship

Worship/Heirophilia

Primal Play

Power Play

CNC

Snuff/Gore/EroGuro (OFC IN FANTASY ONLY!! ITS MY TRAUMA AND I CAN PROCESS IT HOWEVER I WANT :3 + I'm Into Doing the Snuffing :3)

ForceMasc

Bloodplay

Special Circumstances/Maybe

Somnophilia

Consentual Intoxicated Sex

Anything thats not listed in my Soft/Hard Limits since I'm okay with Trying Out Most Things

Fuck No

God idk how to Word This but. Using the term 'Rape' when Dealing with CNC Stuff

Breathplay/Choking

Detrans/Misgendering/Sissy/Forced Feminization

Double Penetration (ie, two dicks in one hole)

Bodily Fluids (Urine and Scat)

MPreg/Pregnancy

CGL/Ageplay

Feet

Kinks relating to weight loss and weight gain

Raceplay, Incest, Necrophilia, Zoophilia/Beastiality/pedo bullshit

And weirdly enough, Latex. Mad Respect to those who are into latex, but its really not for me. Expecially latex masks. Those freak the fuck out of me

[ao3feed-larry]

gimme everything you got

by alwaysxlarrie

"Harry tried to convince herself that the only reason she’d agreed to considering Louis’ help was because she was sick of never being able to orgasm, and it was partially true. But she also knew that the other part of the reason was because Louis talked a lot of big game. She talked about being able to make herself come, being able to make others come, and being good at it. Harry didn’t want to fail her mission, but she couldn’t say that she wasn’t at least a little bit interested in seeing how Louis would help her out if given the chance."

OR, Harry's success rate with being able to orgasm from masturbation was abysmally low, but she was determined to get there. She tried to actively avoid thinking about the fact that her best friend, Louis, had offered to help her if need be. Key words: tried to.

Words: 7442, Chapters: 1/1, Language: English

Fandoms: One Direction (Band)

Rating: Explicit

Warnings: No Archive Warnings Apply

Categories: F/F

Characters: Harry Styles, Louis Tomlinson

Relationships: Harry Styles/Louis Tomlinson

Additional Tags: Girl Direction, Mentioned Liam Payne, Mentioned Zayn Malik, Dom Louis Tomlinson, Dom Louis Tomlinson/Sub Harry Styles, Sub Harry Styles, Dom/sub Undertones, Light Dom/sub, Cunnilingus, Fluff, Fluff and Smut, Smut, Masturbation, Getting Together, Friends to Lovers, Phone Sex, Dirty Talk, Internalized Misogyny, Self-Esteem Issues, mentions of self esteem issues, Praise Kink, Harry Styles Has a Pain Kink, Pain Kink, idk how "harry styles has a pain kink" has a tag but "pain kink" doesn't but, alright, Louis loves Harry's thighs, How is that not a tag, Female Harry Styles, Cis Female Harry Styles, Female Louis Tomlinson, Cis Female Louis Tomlinson, the fact that that isn't an official tag either is disrespectful, Female Harry Styles/Female Louis Tomlinson, Mentioned Niall Horan, Niall Horan & Harry Styles Are Roommates, Aftercare, but more like ... aftercare lite u feel me, Porn With Plot, Porn with Feelings, Plot What Plot/Porn Without Plot, there's kinda a plot? not much of one tho i feel like tbh LMAO, Happy Ending, Oh almost forgot, Female Zayn Malik, Feminism, harry is louis' baby, Healthy Communication, in terms of requiring verbal consent and the understanding that sex isn't pro quid pro

via AO3 works tagged 'Harry Styles/Louis Tomlinson' https://ift.tt/hQ9IxwR

[quinnfebrey]

my only complaint about the wilds is that I kind of feel like present day is an unrealistic setting for the plot. I feel like it would have been more fitting if it were set in the 60s to 80s, only because that's when unethical experiments were prevalent during that time. Not so much anymore. I think also it would have also been more fitting because of the second wave feminism, in terms of how that probably would have been a discourse during that era e.g. is society better off with a 1/?

being a matriarchy than a patriarchy etc. I think also with technology today and also legally it would have been easier to get away with unethical experiments then, than it is now...If you disagree with me I'd love to hear your thoughts. I really love the show, and I'm so excited for the second season, I hope they go more into how they covered it up so Gretchen doesn't face legal issues. Like will she lie that the girls gave consent and they knew what they were getting into? I'm also 3/?

hoping that we see something towards the end of the series about the girls suing dawn of eve, but that doesn't seem to be a while considering we now have the twilight of adam project, so we need to see what's going on there first, so there's still so much to go through before that happens ahaha 4/4

hmm i actually think it had to happen at this time bc otherwise the technology wouldn’t really work lol idk. they need the technology they have for it to be an effective experiment. i’m also like. not gonna lie kind of tired of 60-80’s teen tv shows just bc they’re all little white kids and one black one that doesn’t get any lines lol (stranger things... it... 🤷🏻‍♀️). but i guess that’s not inherent to time period that’s just always how it ends up. idk i’m just really over tv shows in those time periods idk why. we have stranger things and that’s enough for me lol. i literally have no reasoning for this that actually makes sense so if you disagree with me that’s so valid but yeah. i think a lot of people avoid teen shows in present day bc they’re always done so poorly but when done well (like i think the wilds did dialogue and character wise) i think it is a lot more enjoyable for me to watch

omfg i wrote that paragraph and then took a break to move my laundry and now i’m back and i can’t believe i ranted for that long about time periods in tv shows. whatever i’m gonna leave it lol

but yeah i do agree with past-me that i like that it’s modern day 😁

i also think that the show isn’t actually providing social commentary on patriarchy vs. matriarchy, in which case it would make more sense for a different time period. i see it being commentary on white feminism and intersectionality, as well as how modern social structure and social media has contributed to the exploitation and glorification of trauma and pain in science and media. in which case i think that’s pretty topical for right now

also yes i can’t wait for them to sue her ass and get that bread 😻

i honestly have no idea what gretchens plan is long term with this like.. she can’t hold onto them forever lmao?? maybe she’s willing to risk literal prison for her experiment (ie the “i’m a martyr card”) as long as she’s able to finish it first or she’s hoping she’ll be able to convince them not to sue??? who even knows

[kinkymagnus]

hey speaking of convoluted roleplay, personally i like playing with truth serum. and look, i’ve got three modes with truth serum (maximum angst, tender fluff, and KINKY SHIT) and we’re just gonna stick with the third one for now so this isn’t ten years long.

so like you know classic fun fake power dynamics scenario like (damn now i’ve got the whole “mob boss” alec on the mind fuck) boss/secretary or maid or some shit, or the hero/villain shit i’ve had brewing for like a year, or the dragon/prince stuff i’ve had for longer, or whatever, the point is magnus is tied up and helpless and being “”made”” to take it, trying not to “break” as alec drags orgasm after orgasm from him, except at some point in all his cute “struggling” and weak “denials” of how he shouldn’t do this, alec casts a truth spell or gives him something and when he rubs the head of his cock at magnus’s wet pussy and teases him, asks him what he wants, magnus chokes out a please, please fill me with your cock, i want it so bad, and whines and begs for him all flushed cheeks and humiliation at being such a slut ;) 

like this works in so many scenarios like magnus trying to get himself under control, or even to just make what he’s saying seem less desperate (”i need this” comes out as “i want this so badly”) and his face burning as alec whispers dirty things in his ear about what he could do to him and magnus can’t help the yeses and pleases that are torn from his lips, can’t help how he sobs out thank you, thank you, oh, fuck, when alec slides into him (and sure they slip up and magnus can’t help but whine i love you or fuck i’m so glad we did this but honestly it’s just another sweet reminder you know?) 

and like even just in different specific roleplay scenes like. mob boss alec and lawyer magnus or even just you know in some way magnus getting bent over a big scary mobster’s desk and getting teased and examined and licked until he’s sobbing, told how pretty he is, pinning him down firmly so he can’t struggle or squirm away (there are many potential roleplay scenarios just specifically with mobster alec actually like. “paying off a debt” or “teaching him a lesson” lol) and then alec slaps his ass and asks him to say exactly what he wants and magnus tries to say whatever his “lines” are (you know like just let me go or i’ll pay you i swear or whatever you want to go with i don’t know) but instead all he can do is whine fuck me, please, make me cum on your cock and alec laughs at him and he’s embarrassed but so so wet??? amazing. or like alec “”threatening”” him you know but magnus is just like oh fuck i want you so bad i want you to pin me down and fuck me hard and alec’s like well i guess we could work out....an alternate arrangement ;)) (i picture these dorks not being incredibly good at those scenes bc they keep making cheesy puns or winking or slipping up with an i love you or a gentle kiss lmao but honestly it’s sweet and who cares about immersion when you’re having fun) 

boss alec pinning his secretary or his maid against a wall and teasing him, rubbing his clit through the thin fabric of his skirt or slipping a hand under his shirt and magnus melting into it and wanting to kiss him so badly, like, alec bending him over the desk or taking him against the wall and when it kicks in magnus is just babbling about how much he loves alec’s cock and alec’s hands and alec and alec asks him if he’s a little whore and magnus Very Eagerly is like yes yes i’m a whore i’m your little slut sir and i mean alec just has to reward honesty, doesn’t he? 

also idk why but i just imagined a sorta bad boy alec/nerdy magnus vibe? like. twi malec perhaps, and who knew “””shy””” nerdy lil magnus was such a kinky slut when you got to him open up a little? for some reason i’m imagining seelie magic in this one. lmao like this feels more au than roleplay (although it could just be REALLY lore heavy or some shit) but like they’re college students. alec’s a sexy Bad Boy with a cool leather jacket and magnus is like a quiet nerd but they go to some seelie party and truth shenanigans (magical truth or dare gone horribly wrong? just seelie pranks making the place of partying a no-lies zone, and then either magnus blurts something out or alec blurts something out or they hook up normally (magnus feeling Weirdly Bold, bonus if one of them did blurt something out because of the truth thing but didn’t realize) and then when they start hooking up they’re like “hm mayhaps something is up” lmao fuck idk 

ANYWAY dragon alec pinning “”””””””innocent””””””””” prince(ess for some fun feminization kink perhaps?) magnus to his bed, exploring his body and stripping off his layers of clothes one by one, magnus helpless and loving it underneath him, all oh we shouldn’t, i shouldn’t, and half-protesting even as he sighs and melts into every touch and whines and shivers with pleasure, and like, hey, CONVOULTED ROLEPLAY WITH A STORYLINE, he’s supposed to be an ~innocent virgin~ or you know ~wait for his prince charming~ or whatever and here he is getting fucked and ruined by the dragon guarding his tower instead, letting a dragon kiss his tits and spread his legs and lick his clit and fill his cunt with that Big Dragon Dick which just adds to the whole humiliation, pretty “”innocent”” little princess lifting his skirts and begging a dragon to raw him hard) and then, you know, bing bang boom truth spell and suddenly all those little half-protests and bitten back whines of pleasure (what if someone sees? and i should call the guards and alec laughs all low like wouldn’t you like that, if your guards came in and saw you like this, saw me about to stuff your pretty cunt full--go ahead, sweetling, call the guards, we’ll give them a show--) morph into very loud slutty moans of pleasure and begging breathlessly for alec to do all sorts of filthy things and even magnus looks shocked at some of the things he’s saying 

actually that was supposed to be mostly in character but there’s another fun part--obviously magnus consented to the truth whatever beforehand but this could also lead to him blurting out something even he didn’t expect (like, especially kinky/filthy and/or Soft(TM)) so it’s just like. magnus tied up, legs spread, face burning, pussy wet, having just let out a very long string of pleas for something incredibly explicit and dirty--i can’t think of a good example but like bonus if it’s twi magnus (bc u kno ;) ) and alec’s just like.....damn and magnus is like was that too much and alec is like no hold on i’m just taking notes babe 

but really tho like even if he’s at that point a little too fucked out to notice or care, sometimes alec gets just the incredible pleasure to see magnus totally fucked out and shamelessly begging for alec to fuck him and call him a whore and spank him and edge him or whatever else and he’s just like 🥰 i love my husband 🥰

ALSO this one is a little more dicey but pandemonium/public sex? i imagine it’d have to be a controlled crowd bc, you know, truth serum, but like, magnus getting fucked nice and hard and babbling all these sexy whiny desperate things????? in front of everyone??? (bonus actually if it’s more of like. an area thing, or if alec had some too--this wouldn’t work for all of the scenarios probably but also magnus losing his mind and getting the living daylights fucked out of him all while alec is whispering just like. the softest validation in his ear and he literally Knows it’s true? good.)

speaking of the whole knowing it’s true part that in particular makes it very hot for alec like magnus is babbling and whining so much about wanting alec so bad, wanting alec to do all these filthy things to him, and like, a) validation, magnus wants him This Bad, b) consent sexy and knowing just how much magnus likes it when he bends him over and spanks him and pins him down and makes him cry with pleasure? good. c) again just Hot like all these things he’s saying he a hundred percent means and it’s not that he doesn’t other times but there’s something really good about knowing magnus literally can’t lie and is one hundred percent not holding back and he’s just begging for alec’s cock :) 

i have so many thoughts on truth serum, even just this like, one third of the categories i have for truth serum ideas lmao 

[peakblr]

rad asks: 3, 10, 16

ah hey!!!!!! thanks for asking 💕💐 sorry this took so long

3. Are there any parts of radical feminism, or beliefs commonly hold by radical feminists that you strongly disagree with?

im actually having a hard time answering this ahshskshdlska i wrote a really long rambly response but i ended up justifying what i was describing as disagreeing with LOL so like. idk no widely held radfem beliefs are coming to mind, sorry im just as disappointed as you are shdkshdlsjds i hope this doesnt sound sheepish or anything. So i’ll say what i do agree with, which won’t come as a surprise to anyone probably.

i’m anti porn, i think porn should be illegal, should not exist and all of it should be destroyed, pornstars should be given justice and compensated somehow for the govt allowing this shit, and all pornographers should be considered lower than dirt and killed publicly LOL. and i don’t feel bad about that, they don’t feel bad about filming rape and selling it, having the pornstars they abuse lie about how they love it when asked. i feel the same way abt prostitutes and their pimps, that paid consent is not consent and pimps can all drop dead.

i’m all for separatism, no it would not stop men from being men, but it would save women and girls a lot of grief, hurt and scarring.

i think gender isn’t real, is used to oppress women and helps no one, and that id rather it be abolished than exist to validate some people who like gender roles, ackshully.

ive been agnostic for a long time; my mom and my brother are atheists, my dad is a deist. but i will sooner believe that the creator of everything is female, having given birth to the universe than a male. A man’s involvement in creation is his ejaculation. No more, no less. life does not begin in the testicles, or you wouldnt see all this anti abortion stuff, you would see more anti male masturbation stuff–if it weren’t mostly about using women as incubators, lol. that being said i’m pro choice clearly.

i am anti surrogacy, for similar reasons. same sex couples should absolutely be allowed to adopt, but no one has the right to have a baby except the woman who can use her own uterus for her own baby. even with infertile women, there is no justification for paying another women to rent out her uterus.

i currently am not vegan but i admire the ideas behind it, and i see the similarities between how animals and women are treated. i do know however that those who are farming this produce are not necessarily treated well either. disclaimer i know literally jack shit about it so i can’t really speak much for it either way at this moment.

i know there are trans identified, detransitioned or reidentified females who don’t like words like “mutilation” to describe the surgeries they have had to remove their breasts or to alter their privates to mimic penises, and while i don’t insist on mutilation being the word used, i don’t see how it is inaccurate and i find it hard to talk about it in a positive light, less i be endorsing that women get these surgeries to ease their discomfort with their bodies. that being said i don’t want tifs or detransitioned/reidentified women to beat themselves up and constantly regret it. it is not their fault that they were made to be so disconnected from their bodies. they did not want that, and with the trans movement there were not a lot of people telling them that there are other ways besides transitioning to deal with these feelings. i don’t see how this can be hard to believe seeing as we call it the trans cult all the time, which is an accurate name by the way.

i like the alternative spellings of woman and women. womyn, wombyn, wimmin, womxn, a mon, wom or whatever it is. i don’t currently use them myself but i love them and i don’t care how “stupid” you think it is. you know whats stupid??? the words “trans woman,” “trans man,” and “nonbinary.” “Cis woman.” yeah ill take wombyn any day rather than agree that i “identify” as a woman for not subscribing to the transgender religion.

political lesbianism is shitty, i understand some straight women don’t wanna be celibate, but dating lesbians to stick it to the men and not because you love that lesbian is selfish i think. if youre bisexual then you are also not a lesbian but by all means be a febfem or just a bisexual who does not fuck with men.

prostitution will never be empowering. make up, nails, impractical clothes, revealing clothes is not empowering, having men think you are sexy or fuckable is not empowering. you are not “doing it for yourself.” “Poly” relationships are not empowering or woke, making yourself more accessable sexually to men is not empowering in the same way that it empowers men to have sex with multiple women.

idk ive been writing this for a million years but thats some things off the top of my head that i know i Do agree with, i know that wasnt the question but i still wanted to say something lol. i realize now this answered multiple questions from that ask post so im sorry if anyone else thought of asking those things that i answered LOL

10. What’s your relationship with the term “terf”?

ah! i do jokingly call myself that occasionally, you can see it right there on my about page. but in all seriousness it’s horseshit and goes to show how narcissistic the trans movement is. I see people, newly self described radfems who haven’t figured out what the point of it all is, who try to say “there’s a difference between terfs and radfems! You can be radfem and trans inclusive!” or whatever. To which I say, 

these are not two separate groups. Actual radfems are called trans exclusionary because they don’t think men who identify as women can be oppressed by women, and that having been born as a woman is not a privilege, regardless of how that woman identifies. 

radfems aren’t even trans exclusive, really. While there are many detransitioned, reidentified women, there are also many who have transitioned and intend to stay that way, or who are even transitioning currently for their own reasons and comfort, while still confronting their womanhood and how they have been affected or are effected by being a woman in our society as well as how transitioning is dangerous. it’s male exclusive more than anything, and rightfully so. any problems men have are created by other men, and as one user on here put it, feminism should not be “all lives matter.” 

i forgot to say this initially but being “trans inclusive” is interpreted by some to mean “trans endorsing,” that being trans is an innate thing just like homosexuality, that brain sex is real, and that there is nothing wrong with trans identified females getting surgeries they don’t need on perfectly healthy genitals, or getting hormones they otherwise wouldn’t naturally have that have life altering side effects. otherwise i would be called trans exclusive. LOL. so it really does not mean anything, ultimately.

16. How do you feel about the terms TIF/TIM?

i think they’re great. it says exactly what it means. it is much more appropriate than trans man or trans woman, and it makes it easier to talk about them with a little less word salad. the term trans man others tifs from females, and the term trans woman others tims from males. this is problematic. there is nothing differing tifs from females and tims from males outside of the fact that they are trans identified. the only differences they may have are if they have surgically and or hormonally transitioned, but it is not enough difference to make them the opposite sex, nor does it erase male or female socialization, and the benefits or consequences of being a man or a women, respectively. i worded this a lot better when i saved this draft last but tumblr seemingly ate it LOL so thats a drag. but yeah. tif/tim is great. i don’t think it should be offensive, there is nothing insulting or cruel about it. at best it is “invalidating.”

thank you for sending me these!!!! i’m sorry if my answers were unsatisfactory or hard to understand lmao i edited a lot of fluffy blabbering out of my responses believe it or not. i hope you’ve had a great day and that you’re having a lovely night 💌🌻😊

[mayahavvke]

So like. I have a billion conflicting views of Taylor on my dash right now and as a conservative homeschooler (not by choice) I have barely listened to or know much of Taylor herself minus "I hate this song cause it's overplayed" and "this song is actually pretty good!" So I'm pretty lost wandering around my dashboard and trying to make sense of it all. Would you mind giving me the lowdown of your specific opinion?

okay so keep in mind i have a very very biased opinion that has only begun to change and mature in the last couple of years because for most of my life i was like “taylor can do no wrong!!!!!”

overall i am a fan of taylor and if i were to ever make it in the music industry i would want to model myself after her and specifically after her relationship with her fans. she donates to their gofundmes and sends notes and packages (there was the whole swiftmas thing a few years ago) and shows up in the most unexpected ways when she finds out what’s going on in their lives. i love the free meet and greets she does after concerts (people from her team go through the crowds and move people closer to the stage and pick out people who have never met her that are dressed up and invite them backstage after the show for food and a hangout with taylor) and a girl i know was actually chosen by her mom at the 1989 world tour to join taylor’s family in like the very front pit area and i think that’s so cool to have that kind of relationship with her fans. did i cry when taylor followed me on tumblr three years ago???? absolutely. and i didn’t shut up about it for months. 

she’s the artist who inspired me to sing and to write songs and now that’s what i’m going to school for and making my career. she’s the artist whose music has pulled me out of some really bad places and taken me to better ones. there’s this song called clean???? when she gave her clean speech and sang it at the 1989 world tour i sobbed so hard that the two girls in front of me turned around and asked if i was okay. i will always be grateful for the impact her music has had on me and how it has influenced me. she’s my music role model.

now that being said, i don’t agree with everything that she has done. i wish she was more vocal in politics and human rights issues and spoke out more with her beliefs i think she said once that she doesn’t want to influence anyone bc it’s her saying it and they think they have to agree???? but idk i think in this political climate and the turmoil that is in the world rn you have to use your platform to fight for change being neutral isn’t an option and if you’re not outraged then you’re not paying attention. i do see her side to it bc people (”swifties” - there’s a difference between a taylor fan and a swiftie in my opinion) tend to follow what she says blindly and put her on a pedestal to the point of ignoring that she has ever done wrong. i wish she didn’t use feminism only when it was important to her. i wish she went to the women’s march. i wish her feminism wasn’t so white. i don’t even know what to make of the whole kanye thing (i don’t really agree with her but i don’t really agree with kim either idk man) and i wish she didn’t try to play the obvious victim card you know what i mean??? she made that statement about how she never consented to being called “that bitch” or whatever or that music video and i totally get it but why didn’t you say that from the beginning???? when people bring up these points against her i can’t really say anything bc they’re right she’s not an angel and she’s not perfect and she can do better in my opinion.

that narrative of “oh she has a lot of boyfriends” and “if you date her she’ll dump you and write a song” is so boring and so tired i just roll my eyes when people bring that up bc like???? she’s lived almost half her life in the spotlight and she dated like a normal twenty-something would and she was basically crucified for it. there are actual criticisms you can have of her and point out but if you choose to bring up boyfriends it’s like. what are you even doing. same with the “she’ll sue you” joke bc i admire her for going through that sexual assault trial and counter suing for $1 just to show women everywhere that they can stand up for themselves and don’t have to be the assaulter’s victim forever.

i used to call myself a swiftie and i don’t anymore bc on the whole a lot of them just blindly idolize her and think she can do no wrong. taylor swift is a human being and some people like her and some people don’t and that’s fine but i think you have to be aware of issues on all sides. i stepped back last year a bit like i didn’t post about her on my main blog that much anymore bc i felt kinda guilty like???? i didn’t support her 100% in everything she said and did and according to the swifties that made me a fake fan and i didn’t deserve to call myself a fan and whatever. but what i’ve come to realize over the past year or so is that you can still be a fan of someone or something that’s problematic as long as you stay critical and recognize when and where they’ve done wrong. i still believe taylor is one of the best songwriters of this generation and we’ve seen her lyrics prove themselves over and over again in songs like all too well, mine, clean, this love, long live, enchanted, dear john (just the entirety of the speak now album tbh homegirl wrote it entirely by herself at 19/20) and so many others. and i think she’s an amazing performer like her shows go hard!!!!! i will probably always love her music and admire her artistry. but going forward i still have to stay aware of her faults (bc she does have the guys!!!) and form my own opinions outside of the ones that fans have invented of her and outside of the ones that media has invented out of her.

this is so long and i’m so so sorry i really didn’t mean for it to be???? i just have a lot of opinions lmao

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modern feminism treats women as objects and men as agents who do things to them  -- in a way continuing to further an attitude they claim to despise and revolt against  like thats not the definition of equality lmao when the fcuk are people gonna expect/require the same degree of self-awareness/personal responsibility from women as they do from men ???

alsoo im not victim blaming im genuinely curious plus men can be victims too gosHHHH ngl im kinda happy that babe writer published her piece about aziz because yeah it starts a much needed convo about consent/blurred lines but like hopefully it gets women to do some much needed introspection too about their actions/signals/forethought lolol

because its not like its a one-shot deal ya know theres endless chances during/within an encounter so like if a girl is trying to show she’s uneasy/not into it and the guy continues doing whatever he’s doing, either because he’s oblivious or stupid then the girl has to be like ahh okay i dont want this but hes not getting the message lemme do something diff likeeee idk push him off, say something, ,,,, leave........ idk man just throwing out ideas

unless ya know it was just after-the-moment regret lmao i know SO NON-PC & risque sue me