#Aja's exercises

[ajathings]

Mixed Feelings

I fuckin’ hate you, you know that right? You and your authentic Timbs from yesteryear that still haven’t fallen out of style simply because they are on your feet. I hate how they compliment your outfits while you stop into my job just to say “hello.” I hate that you even know where my gallery even is–who even fuckin’ told you? 

I hate how you stepped out of my college hoe days and into my present day, somehow looking sexier than before. Dark skin, white teeth; I hate the contrast on your perfect face because I compare it to the chiaroscuro technique that the Renaissance made popular, and if there is anyone unworthy of the comparison, I’ll be damned if it ain’t you. I wish you’d take your magazine-billboard-black man on Vogue–million dollar smile somewhere else. Stop haunting me with it, with you, with your presence. 

I hate how you like my coffee. I hate how you know my gallery is struggling. You use those two tidbits of knowledge against me, knowing I need a pick me up at the end of the day because by closing, the only person to walk into the gallery is you, with the comfort I need You and your weaponized sympathies, your sharpened cadences and well-wishes, and your poisonous pick-me-ups at the end of another disappointing day. You tell me that things will improve and that one day, I won't need the Met Museum anymore. You fill my head with fantasies about this gallery being my full-time job.

Fuckin’ opportunist asshole preying on weak women. Fuck you for ever making me label myself as a weak woman in the first place; I never had to face the truth of the matter until you came back into my life and declared with your actions that you never lost hold of me. Fuck you for remembering that your fingertips, calloused and precise, still sing me lullabies that I adore. Fuck you for realizing that my need for a sense of release was your way back into my life. That’s the ticket! you probably said. That thing with her chin that she used to like! Pair that with my golden eyes and she’ll dance to any tune I play her.

Fuck you. I hate you even as you corner me in my gallery’s door frame, eye fucking me with sparkling irises that God should have never blessed you with. I hope you taste my hate on my lips. I hope you swallow it and it goes down like acid. I hope it settles in the pit of your stomach like rat poion. I hope there is anything on my face that portrays just how much your presence irks me, even if my body welcomes you like it used to.

What I really hate is how soft the ground is wherever I happen to be kneeling. I hate how your wife probably knows that her husband’s dick was carefully and lovingly polished by another woman’s lips, all because the word no tends to drop out of my vocabulary when you call me “babygirl.” I hate that I still know that trick you like, and I hate the myriad of wildcats I compare you to in the moment when I make you groan with it. I hate that you have no regard for my closet. I wear nice things to both my jobs and not everything I wear I pair with a pair of fuck-me-drawers. So fuck you in particular for helping yourself to my skirt on Tuesday, and my slacks on Friday. I liked those panties. I loved those pants. They weren’t yours to tear/break the zipper off of, so you best believe that as good as your fingering game is, I will be sending you the invoice for those. As soon as I figure out how to quit you.

I hate how your fingers find their homes on my hips, your manhood between my thighs. I hate that you're well-blessed and still considerate to remember that I don’t need all your inches, just a few. You find your rhythm and respect my limits and for that, I particularly despise you, because for once, someone isn’t thinking they're the shit just because of size. And that someone is a filthy cheater, home breaker, treading familiar ground just because he married a safe woman who loved him just as much as I used to, but not enough to satisfy him. 

You bring shame to all of us with every thrust and I bring shame to all of us by letting this happen.

I hate that my coffee’s half-drunken and cold by the end of it. I hate that I’ll probably see you again in a couple of weeks. I hate that I’m down a couple of items of clothing. I hate that your presence is twice as hollow as your absence, and I am somehow more full, more comforted as a woman when you’ve finally disappeared into Manhattan.

I hate that I stole your wife’s number when you weren’t looking. I hate how she isn’t even saved in your phone so that when it rings, I can memorize it, even in the middle of sex. I hate with a burning passion how you can talk to her and fuck me at the same time. 

I hate that when I call her, she immediately agrees to coffee at the small local shop not far from where I work. I hate how when I tell her that I’m the other woman, she doesn’t slap the shit out of me. She smiles, shakes her head, and fights tears but never blames me. She blames a man who believes he’s entitled to every woman he wants.

We talk and we talk. The sun sets. There’s a lot of remorse floatin across the table My coffee’s half-drunken and cold by the end of it. We actually get along nicely. I’m an art historian, and she dropped out of a political science program for financial reasons. I point her to a few resources to help get her back into college, and when she says her time has passed, I remind her that it's never too late to chase passion.

I’d try to hold onto the hate that you’ve inspired, but she sucks the hate out of any room. The last thing I remember hating was the fact that you married a woman you didn’t deserve. A beam of light caught in the sucking, black abyss that is you and your sexual ego. When I told her how you pulled me back in with your fingers, she didn’t seem surprised. That’s how she got trapped in you too. Rough, calloused, cracked, indicative of a strong, working man. We both understand the appeal.

But only when we shake hands do we understand. Soft, gentle, kind, understanding, worth exploring further. When she sobs into my lips, she says she hates you. Not me: you. And I reply “Yea, me too.” And for the first time, our skin matches what we’re thinking.

I love how you probably hate me as much as I hate you now. I love how she offered to host me, and when I told her my apartment has a lovely view of the sunrise, she didn’t hesitate to stay the night with me just to see it. I love that I woke to her and that she said “You’re right. It’s lovely.” I love that she curled up in my embrace, not all that eager to just to up and leave when the fun is over. To us, this was part the fun. I love how we’ve both been missing the same thing.

I love hearing you shout over her phone when you call her, asking where she’s been. I love how you choke on your bravado when she says she can’t do “this” anymore. I love how she lets me be nosy; how she allows me come up behind her, wrap my arms around her waist and listen to you beg and plead. When I tell you it’s music to my ears…

I love how she lingers with me, her brown skin glistening in the sun pouring in through the window. I look at her and I see beauty I appreciate. It’s not wasted on her like it is on you. I love how she thanks me for the evening, for the chat, for the coffee, for teaching her that the trick you like works better on women anyway. And I tell her that even if this never happens again, but I’d love to be friends. She’s traditional, and so she initially believed that people who had sex could never be friends. But I get dressed, and I reintroduce myself as the remorseful other woman and she laughs. We shake hands and decide to give friends a try. A couple of years later, I’m glad we did.

I love you for bringing me to her. Seeing her smile down the aisle earlier this year was among my greatest joys, along with wearing the dress she picked out for me to wear as her maid of honor. I love how we transcended our beginnings. I love how our relationship is transparent, real, and nourishing. I love that we can acknowledge the elephant in the room, forgive each other, move on, and grow. I love how we both escaped you.

I would say that I hate that I cost you your wife, but I’d be lying. She’s happier than she’s ever been. I’m happy that, in my own misguided way, I freed her from you. And I love that I’ll leave you where you stand without being tempted by you. I guess she and I both did some growing.

It’s your turn to do the growing. I hate that you’ve probably learned nothing from this. I hate that you’ll probably hate me, blame me, but never examine yourself. I hate that you’ll leave here, call some other woman from your past and fuck her just to feel better about yourself. In truth, I could find many reasons to continue hating you, but I refuse to. Maintaining that malice is kinda like maintaining any relationship with you…

I’d tell you what that means but hate is exhausting. 

Anyway, I apologize, but I don’t need your forgiveness. I’m in the process of letting go of hate and coming clean to you was all I needed to do. What you do with any of this is your business. I’m late for my friend’s babyshower. 

I’ll Cash App you for the coffee.

[riskaputri]

Memaknai Proses

memahami bahwa ada hal yang kita tidak perlu ikut campur. tugas kita itu berikhtiar, bukan mengendalikan hasil. percaya aja, semuanya itu Allah yang atur.

menata pandangan hidup dengan tepat selama berproses. kalau pandangan hidup clear, proses decision making juga bisa lebih singkat.

misal: kalau sudah punya pandangan hidup tentang pernikahan seperti apa, maka memutuskan dengan siapa itu akan menjadi lebih singkat.

cek pandangan hidup kita. perlu cek objeknya apa, pandangan hidup terhadap objek itu seperti apa, dan asalnya dari mana? ini di evaluasi. barangkali ada pandangan hidup yang eror dan justru mempersulit proses kita.

setiap perubahan hanya mengubah keadaanmu, bukan mengubah rezekimu. salah satu hal yang membuat kita takut mengambil keputusan adalah takut rezekinya berkurang. padahal rezeki itu sudah ada yang mengatur, sudah ditentukan.

keadaan yang dijalani hanya tak sesuai dengan ekspektasimu, bukan tak sesuai dengan rencana-Nya. apa yang kita jalani sekarang, ini udah yang terbaik, sesuai dengan rencana Allah.

belajar untuk memahami bahwa proses kitalah yang akan dinilai. hasil akhirnya itu tidak perlu kita kontrol.

kadang kepekaan kita terhadap jawaban dari doa-doa itu, eror. maka dari itu kita butuh kepekaan untuk melihat tanda.

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ini adalah pelajaran setelah melewati proses. exercise value-value ini ke dalam proses masing-masing. dan untuk menginternalisasi satu value, kita harus melewati banyak hal terlebih dahulu.

[httydfanatic]

Goofy little head cannons I came up with for the gang ( the entire gang)

• Whenever Jim is cooking or working on his Vespa or something, he’ll hum some kind of out-of-tune song

• Toby and Aaaarrrgh will build blanket and pillow forts and they’ll just chill up there

• Claire and NotEnrique probably make…Guacamole? It’s probably like a bonding exercise for them or something I don’t know

• Aja and Steve probably move to Akaridian 5 after ROTT and when they move there, Steve starts a fight club for those weird bugs (comment if you know what they are called 🤣)

• Krel visits the local library and rewire’s the computers and turns them into fucking FBI or Janus Order radios

• Douxie and Nemura will spend hours talking about music and other kinds of things like that I know they weren’t the best of friends but I feel like they would converse over this

• This was the one that inspired this post. Toby and Aaarrrgghh would do magic tricks for legally blind senior citizens 🤣

comment if you think I’m a menace to society

[azmi-azizah]

[It's Okay to Not Be Okay]

Kalau lagi di titik rendah, emang manusiawi banget gampang jadi pesimis dan pengen nyerah aja sama semuanya. Rasanya nggak kuat sama beban yang menghimpit dada.

Boro-boro mau mulai lagi untuk mengejar hal-hal yang pernah jadi mimpi. Buat mengelola isi hati, isi kepala, dan bertahan menghadapi tantangan dan ujian dari kegiatan sehari-hari aja udah ngehabisin energi.

Betul bahwa hidup itu ada yang bisa kita rencanakan dan ada yang nggak bisa kita rencanakan. Ada ranah yang bisa kita upayakan dan ada yang mutlak cuma ada di tangan Tuhan. Kalau nggak tepat mengelola ekspektasi, jiwa yang terlanjur kecewa mendalam butuh waktu lama untuk recovery.

Kalau lagi kayak gitu, materi tentang Self Compassion dari bu Reda di kelasnya @careerclass_id id yang kudapet sangat-sangat penting buat kupahami dan amalkan.

Self Compassion merupakan bentuk kebaikan hati & pemahaman diri kita yang muncul saat sedang dalam kesulitan, kegagalan, atau keinget sesuatu yang nggak disuka.

Saat kondisi lagi nggak baik-baik aja, pikiran dan emosi sulit dikendalikan atau ingin meledak, fokus untuk merelease-nya, bisa dengan : exercise, meditate, take a bath, journaling, dan menurutku cerita ke teman / keluarga juga sangat membantu.

Kalau dah mulai membaik, beberapa bentuk Self Compassion tuh kayak gini :

Akui dan terima kalau kita sedang lemah, sedih, kecewa, benci, dll

Jangan terus-terusan nyalahin diri maupun orang lain

Puji diri sendiri & terima pujian dari orang lain

Hargai semua perasaan kita, nggak perlu memaksa pura-pura bahagia

Sayangi diri dan terima bahwa kita nggak sempurna

Menyadari kalau pengalaman pahit itu part of life

Belajar mindful dalam setiap apa yang sedang dijalani

Tetapkan batasan dengan menyadari kelebihan dan kekurangan diri, berani say NO

Investasi untuk pengembangan diri dan perawatan diri

Selain itu, salah satu ajaran Islam berupa ibadah hati bernama syukur juga akan membantu untuk kembali mengingat bahwa di balik banyaknya kesulitan dan kepahitan yang kita hadapi, Allah masih kasih nikmat yang sangaat banyak di hidup ini.

Semoga lekas membaik ya!

[charlieaugust]

Week 7: Digital Citizenship and Slow Fashion

Fashion is very popular today with it is an integral part of our daily lives, as this can be seen with how we dress for work, college, outings and so on. One type of fashion today is slow fashion, which are clothes that are handmade and uses a lot of time by a talent to make high quality clothes, that are also highly priced too (Aishwariya, 2019). With one factor contributing to the growth of slow fashion being digital citizens.

Digital Citizens is the ability to participate in online societies, where users can get together to socialize on social media platforms (Mossberger et al., 2008). However, social media is not just a place for digital citizens to socialize only, it is also a place for activism, for example promoting the slow fashion movement online. This is due to how fast fashion, the process of making garments of cheap quality and in mass produced (Aishwariya, 2019), can affect the world. Fast Fashion has caused many of the world’s problems, from increase waste, emissions and pollution due to the trend of dumping clothes that has gone out of fashion and moving on to buying new sets of clothes (Sneha & Babel, 2025). Therefore, many digital citizens go to many platforms to spread the awareness of slow fashion, with its more sustainable and eco-friendly ways, by using hashtags to help with the movement (Ariestya et al., 2021). Such campaigns and movements can then encourage the public to reduce the buying of unsustainable clothing and to have companies to exercise more environmentally friendly practices (Ariestya et al., 2021).

With slow fashion movements online, comes the activist that organise these protest and activism through social platforms. Some activist for the slow fashion movement includes, Aja Barber, Emma Slade Emondson, Marielle Elizabeth and so on. They post encouragements and advice on how to wear sustainably, with such advice being to shop second-handed clothes, re-wearing same clothes, to not give into pressure of getting something new and many more (Lock & Le Seigle, 2021).

Aishwariya, S. (2019). Fast Fashion vs Slow Fashion. National Institute of Fashion Technology. https://www.researchgate.net/publication/340273377_Fast_Fashion_vs_Slow_Fashion#:~:text=Fast%20fashion%20consists%20of%20garments,better%20quality%20and%20highly%2Dpriced.

Ariestya, A., Lestari, C. I., & Liliani, H. (2021). Slow Fashion Movement: Is It Still A Tug of War Between Responsibility and Profit?. COSDEV https://www.researchgate.net/publication/352029662_Slow_Fashion_Movement_Is_It_Still_A_Tug_of_War_Between_Responsibility_and_Profit

Lock, H., & Le Seigle, A. (2021, February 3). 10 Sustainable Fashion Activists You Should Definitely Follow. Global Citizen Life. https://www.globalcitizen.org/en/content/sustainable-fashion-activist-follow-social-climate/

Mossberger, K., Tolbert, C. J., & McNeal, R. S. (2008). Digital citizenship : the internet, society, and participation (1st ed.). MIT Press.

Sneha Gargi, & Babel, R. (2025). Fast Fashion and its Environmental Impact. ResearchGate, 1–10. https://www.researchgate.net/publication/390286267_Fast_Fashion_and_its_Environmental_Impact

[kankuroplease]

what was the reaction of the husbands of your Ocs grils when they learned that they were pregnant (Au founders)don't forget Sho and Manda pls they are so cute 🥰

Pregnancy mentions under the cut 🤰

Butsuma (Asako’s husband)

He’s not overly excited about it, but he’s concerned. He’ll be stern about what she can and can’t do now that she’s carrying his child like she’ll listen

Tajima (Sumi’s husband)

He’s so ready for this, don’t play with his emotions, Sumi. A shaky “are you certain?” and he’s got the goofiest smile spreading across his face before he embraces her and tells her he can’t wait to meet their child

Kawarama (Okami’s husband)

Overjoyed! He’s peppering her with kisses and can’t even hide his excitement! Everyone is going to know he’s going to a father by the end of the week because he finds ways to just bring it up

Tobirama (Aori’s husband)

It’s a logical consequence of not exercising self restraint. He wasn’t jumping up and down, but he felt accomplished on the inside giving his wife something she’s always wanted. He’s adding food from his plate to hers from then onwards to keep her and the baby well fed

Itama (Gou’s Husband)

He’s relieved. Gou’s been sick, and now this all makes sense. They’re going to have a baby! He is happy and a little nervous about it, but he knows he can ask his brothers about what to do next.

Madara (Katsura’s husband)

“I suspected as much” he’s smug about it because he knew she was pregnant before she did. He’s getting an heir, so he’s satisfied

Kagami (miu’s husband)

He’s confused. He thought pregnancy was supposed to be a joyous occasion, but Miu is crying and blaming him for impregnating her? It takes a few days for the news to truly settle in, but he’s excited for this new adventure and will talk Miu down from her dramatic edge she’s not her grandmother, he’s not letting her go on missions pregnant. Sorry, dear

Rei (Sora’s Husband)

Scared and guilty feeling. Sora’s the one good thing that’s happened to him and if he lost her he’d be a wreck. It’s his fault not really, she wanted to start a family and he’s going to make sure she stays happy and healthy

Sakumo (Kōmori’s husband)

He’s caught off guard by her stating she has been sensing a a faint chakra growing in her over dinner. It takes a second to realize what she meant, but he’s happy. Happy enough to cry and kisses her sweetly

Suzaku (Erika and Aja’s husband)

He’s happy at first! Erika was the first to announce her pregnancy, which made Aja a bit sad as they’d planned to be pregnant together. Then he’s stressing. It wouldn’t matter to him if Aja was unable to carry children, but it mattered to her. So the relief he (and Erika) felt when it actually happened a few months later for Aja was enough for him to laugh. Two pregnant wives under one roof is stress he welcomes if they’re happy.

Orochimaru (Tora’s situationship)

Didn’t find out he was father until the child was a toddler. He found it to be an interesting development coming from Tora

Manda (Sho’s husband)

He’s a little embarrassed. It means everyone knows they’ve been having unprotected sex 💀 But he’s really happy! Building a family with Sho is beyond his wildest dreams.

[niibaataa]

Nishnaabe Nagamonan

Disclaimer: Some works deal with historical wrongs, Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women and Girls, colonialism, and residential/boarding schools. Exercise caution.

Kateri Akiwenzie-Damm is a member of Saugeen Ojibway First Nation. Akiwenzie-Damm has served as Poet Laureate for Owen Sound and North Grey. In 1993, she established Kegedonce Press, a publishing house devoted to Indigenous writers. She has also authored Without Reservation: Indigenous Erotica.

Works: (Re)Generation, My Heart is a Stray Bullet.

Marie Annharte Baker is a member of Little Saskatchewan First Nation. Annharte's work concentrates on women, urban, Indigenous, disability, and related topics. She critiques life from Western Canada. After graduating with an English degree in the 1970s, she became involved in Native activism and was one of the first people in North America to teach a class entirely on Native women.

Works: Indigena Awry, Miskwagoode, Exercises in Lip Pointing.

Lesley Belleau is a member of Garden River First Nation. She is noted for her 2017 collection Indianland. She has an MA in English literature from the University of Windsor and is working on a PhD in Indigenous Studies from Trent University.

Works: Indianland.

Kimberly M. Blaeser is an enrolled member of the White Earth Reservation. Blaeser served as Wisconsin's Poet Laureate from 2015-2016. She is a professor of English at the University of Wisconsin-Miluwakee. A contemporary of Vizenor, she is the first critic to publish a book-length study on his fiction. She has been writing poetry since 1993.

Works: Apprenticed to Justice, Trailing You, Absentee Indians and Other Poems.

Diane Burns was a member of the Lac Courte Oreilles band. Burns was Anishinaabe through her mother and Chemehuevi through her father. Burns attended the Institute of American Indian Arts and Barnard College (within Columbia University). She was also an accomplished visual artist. She is considered an important figure within the Native American contemporary arts movement.

Works: Riding the One-Eyed Ford (available online).

Aja Couchois Duncan is a Bay Area educator, writer, and coach. Duncan is of Ojibwe, French, and Scottish descent. Her debut collection won the California Book Award. She holds an MFA in creative writing from San Francisco State University.

Works: Restless Continent, Vestigal.

Heid E. Erdrich is a member of the Turtle Mountain band. Erdrich is a granddaughter of Patrick Gourneau, who fought against Indian termination during his time as tribal chairman from 1953-1959. Erdrich holds a PhD in Native American Literature and Writing. Erdrich used to teach, but has since stepped back from doing it full-time. She directs Wiigwaas Press, an Ojibwe language publisher.

Works: Cell Traffic, The Mother's Tongue, Curator of Ephemera at the New Museum for Archaic Media.

Louise Erdrich is a member of the Turtle Mountain band. Erdrich is a granddaughter of Patrick Gourneau, who fought against Indian termination during his time as tribal chairman from 1953-1959. She is widely acclaimed as one of the most significant writers of the Native American Renaissance. Owner of Birchbark Books, an independent bookstore that focuses on Native Literature.

Works: Jacklight, Original Fire, Baptism of Desire.

David Groulx was raised in Elliott Lake, Ontario. Groulx is Ojibwe and French Canadian. He received his BA in Literature from Lakehead University and later studied creative writing at the En'owkin Centre in British Columbia. He has also studied creative writing at the University of Victoria.

Works: From Turtle Island to Gaza, Rising With a Distant Dawn, Imagine Mercy.

Gordon Henry Jr is an enrolled member of the White Earth Reservation. Gordon Henry Jr holds a PhD in Literature from the University of North Dakota and is currently a professor of English at Michigan State University. He has authored several novels and poetry collections and is a celebrated writer in Michigan.

Works: Spirit Matters, The Failure of Certain Charms.

Jane Johnston Schoolcraft was Born in Sault Ste. Marie on Michigan's Upper Peninsula. Schoolcraft was given the name of Bamewawagezhikaquay ('Woman of the Sound that the stars make Rushing Through the Sky') in Ojibwe. Her mother was Ozhaguscodaywayquay, the daughter of the Ojibwe war chief Waubojeeg. Her father was fur-trader John Johnston. Johnston is regarded as the first major Native American female writer. She wrote letters and poems in both English and Ojibwe.

Writeup containing works.

Denise Lajimodiere is a citizen of the Turtle Mountain band. Lajimodiere is considered an expert on Native American boarding schools following her work Stringing Rosaries, published in 2019. She is a poet, professor, scholar, and the current Poet Laureate of North Dakota.

Works: His Feathers Were Chains, Thunderbird: Poems, Dragonfly Dance.

Linda Legarde Grover is a member of the Bois Forte Band. She is a columnist for the Duluth Tribune and Professor Emeritus of American Indian Studies at University of Minnesota (Duluth). She has written poetry, short stories, and essays.

Works: The Sky Watched, Onigamiising.

Sara Littlecrow-Russel is of Ojibwe and Han-Naxi Métis descent. Russell is a lawyer and professional mediator as well as a poet. She has worked at the Center for Education and Policy Advocacy at the University of Massachusetts and for Community Partnerships for Social Change at Hampshire College.

Works: The Secret Powers of Naming.

Jim Northrup was a member of the Fond du Lac Reservation in Minnesota. Northrup lived a traditional lifestyle in his early years. As a child, he attended an Indian boarding school where he suffered physical abuse. Later in life, he served in the Vietnam war and experienced PTSD. Much of his poetry comes from these hardships.

Works: Walking the Rez Road, Rez Salute: The Real Healer Dealer, Anishinaabe Syndicated.

Duke Redbird was born in Saugeen First Nation. He became a ward of Children's Aid at nine months old when his mother died in a house fire. He began writing to give words to his experiences as an Indigenous man raised by white foster families. He is recognized as a key figure in the development of First Nations literature.

His poetry is available on his site.

Denise Sweet is a member of the White Earth Reservation in Minnesota. Sweet served as Wisconsin's Poet Laureate from 2004-2008. She has taught creative writing, literature, and mythology at the University of Wisconsin-Green Bay.

Works: Songs for Discharming, Palominos Near Tuba City.

Mark Turcotte is a member of the Turtle Mountain Band. Turcotte is a visiting assistant professor of English at DePaul University. He has published two books of poetry. His chapbook, Road Noise, was translated into French.

Works: The Feathered Heart, Exploding Chippewas.

E. Donald Two-Rivers was raised in Emo Township, Ontario. He moved to Chicago at age 16 and became involved with the Urban Native community there. A playwright, spoken-word performer, and a poet, Two-Rivers had been an activist for Native rights since the 1970s. He was the founding director of the Chicago-based Red Path Theater Company.

Works: Powwows, Fat Cats, and Other Indian Tales, A Dozen Cold Ones by Two-Rivers.

Gerald Vizenor is an enrolled member of the White Earth Reservation. Vizenor has published over 30 books. He taught at the University of California for many years and is currently at the University of New Mexico. He has a long history of political activism and he is considered one of the most prolific Indigenous ironists writing today.

Works: Favor of Crows, Cranes Arise, Empty Swings.

[lamyaasfaraini]

Morning workout~

Yeay nemo masih libur, karena anak kelas B lagi pada foto buat wisuda katanya. Jadi masuk cuma jumat, dilabasin aja apaya? Wkwkwk anaknya pst gamau sih si semangat ke sekulaa~

Tadinya pgn lari 5k aja sekitaran rumah tp keknya bsk ajalah. Bangun tidur kuterus? Nyetrika! Iyak betul. Abistu decluttering lemari ternyata yg keluarnya dikit deh msh penuh tu lemari huhu. Abistu beresin mainan2 nemo yg beberapa hari ini aku diemin demi kewarasan karena mager beberes. Nemo bantu beresin sih tp kurang maksimal, belom beres2 amat aja dah diberantakin lagi cemana dah.. Yah mayan td diberesin sama banyak sampah kertas jg yg nemo selalu simpen hemm.

Bapak suami pamit kerja, semangaaatt pak! Skrg yg nyuruh pulang cpt dan wewet bukan cuma istrinya yah. Anaknya skrg lebih wewet. "ayah, awas pulangnya jgn lama2 loh!!" ah ibuk merasa dah diwakili wkwkwk.

Ternyata skrg dah siang bgttt jam 8 lebih, sarapan dikit, nemo jg udah. Kepikiran pgn ST gituu ya Allah mudah2an konsisten, di coba yuu seminggu skali dulu atau sminggu 2x kalo ngga mager. Seperti biasa STnya dari aplikasi huawei health aja nu aya weh, segitu aja belom mahir ah. Milih yg beginner aja lancarin dulu takut salah gerakan ngga ada PT pribados alias suamiku, kalo ada deseu ko bawaannya males ST pas ngga deseu, eke malah ngga mager. Udah tersingkron lsg ke bandnya tp ternyata ngga ke record cuy, ngga ada di history exercise di bandnya, kalo di hp ada.

Awalnya ini. Nambah durasi waktu hehe

Awalnya mau 15 menit ajalah pas udah slesei berasa kurang pol nambah deh yu jadi 34 menit. Langsoonggg lemes nih kaki wkwkwk..

Posting dulu dong biar si rajin bgt dan pencitraan wkwk. Lirik lagu gorillaz yg eneh pas bgt sama moodku setelah ST btw hahaha. Oiya lagu gorillaz - on melancholy hills skrg lg dmn2 bgt yah rada kaged jg, terkenal eeyy udah kek kita bikin romantissss bikin paling romantissss. Masuk igs dan dijadiin konten reels, tiktok dll. Itu lagu kesukaanku dari jaman dulu, easy listening bgt krn lagu gorillaz ngga semuanya masuk telingaku. Dengerin damon albarn yg ke amiriki2an, ilang deh britpop ke blur-annya.

[lebensmoode]

Monmaap berisik daritadi.

Yang gue bisa analogiin dari cara menjawab para capres ini, ibarat ada pertanyaan "Gimana sih we caranya biar gak begadang mulu?"

02 menjawab "Ya tinggal tidur lebih cepat. Jadwal tidurnya dijaga karna itu sangat penting untuk produktivitas sehari-hari kamu, juga baik untuk kesehatan. Bayangin kalo kamu kurang tidur, besoknya bangun kesiangan, telat di kantor, kamunya tidak fit. Banyak yang kacau. Untuk itu bagus sekali kalau kamu bisa menjaga jadwal tidur yg baik."

01 menjawab "Pertama cari tau kenapa kamu tidurnya selalu telat, apa triggernya. Hp kah, anak kah, kerjaan kah. Setelahnya baru kita siasati, kita atur waktunya dan ketiga tentukan batas kegiatan malam. Misal jam 10 itu udah harus kelar semuanya; sikat gigi, cuci muka, kerjaan, scrolling sosmed. Jadi jam 10 teng sudah tinggal go to bed. Kesimpulannya, cari tau dulu kenapa, atur waktunya, dan pasang jam batas kegiatan malam."

03 kurang lebih akan mendekati cara menjawab 01 dengan banyak tambahan pengalaman pribadi 😀

And personally, gw butuh jawaban yg seperti 01. Jelas, runut, dan on point. Karena gw perhatiin kalo ada yg curhat ke aing pun, gw cenderung akan nanya balik ke orangnya "kenapa? Kenapa sampe mikir ke situ? Prasaan lu gimana kalo itu terjadi?" dst. Balik lagi ya karena gw gak menjalani cerita dia, jadinya semacam mengulik pikiran si temen ini aja dulu sebelum gw kasih saran sok tau yg sebenernya dia udah tau.

So if the shoes are changed, gw nanya "gimana caranya gemuk?", gw butuh tau akar masalahnya dulu lalu kerjain step by step yg diperlukan. I don't wanna hear people remind me about "iya lu gemuk sikit cantik loh hw" atau "ya tinggal makan banyak aja sih" lyke?? I know it very well bestie. Gw lebih nerima kalo ada yg respon dengan gw harus nyari penghasilan lebih banyak biar bisa beli daging dan susu + ngambil kelas exercise khusus gain weight.

Intinya gw ABG. Asal Bukan Gibran 👍🏻

[axel-mania]

Yet another wrestling review outlet has popped up, Violent People. These things tend to be so short-lived and permissive in what they publish that I regarded it with skepticism. But their first posts were 1) an explanation of why wrestling companies shouldn't avoid shows in Appalachia and 2) a review of one of the most violent matches I've ever heard described, Yumiko Hotta vs Aja Kong. In this Hotta literally uses her bleeding hand as lubricant to try to escape a hold. They put up subtitles for the promos before the match along with their review. It's worth checking out.

https://violentpeople.co/aja-kong-vs-yumiko-hotta-an-exercise-in-cruelty

[dinisuciyanti]

Sakit

Dari Senin malam ke Rabu malam cuma bisa rebahan di kasur karna tiba-tiba badan panas, migrain, tulang linu, sama sakit tenggorokan kalo nelen. Pas dianalisis kemarinnya ngapain aja kok bisa sakit, mungkin gini.

Dua minggu sebelumnya full kerja, yang bukan cuma duduk sih, malah banyak berdiri sampe kaki kemeng. Semangat banget kerjanya emang. Selama dua minggu juga skip standing abs workout buat lemesin punggung, karna ku pikir, dengan berdiri, itu sudah bagian dari exercise. Ya weekend minggu pertama beneran full nonton, jadi rebahan. Aman. Badan istirahat.

Weekend minggu kedua ini. Hari jumat full kerja sampe kaki kemeng, capek banget asli. Sabtu nya bersihin rumah, ngepel sampe 2x sambil ngomel karna bocil-bocil gabisa diatur, mau dateng tamu soalnya. Minggu nya gak bisa tidur abis subuh dengan nyaman karna mama ribut banget nyuruh aku siap-siap buat dateng akad sepupu, hadeh. Diem, sekrol, plus kepanasan di nikahan sepupu 3.5 jam. Abis itu bisa rebahan di rumah sih, tapi tetep aja gak biasa diem di luar selama itu selama musim panas 40 derajat ini. Belum lagi nyuci piring yang gak abis-abis, ya allah.

Senin pagi diomelin mama kenapa gak ngepel sama nyuci piring. Meminimalisir keributan, langsung w beresin semuanya. Sesungguhnya dewasa ini udah males ribut urusan domestik, santai aja, sabar, nanti juga dikerjain, gausah berisik, dalam hati w. Terus lanjut kerja bentar.

Ternyata malem nya kepala pusing migrain, tenggorokan dah mulai sakit, langsung dah minum paracetamol. Tidur gak nyaman, ya keringetan lah, pusing. Jam 9 an tidur, Jam 12 kebangun, pusing. Sampe selasa pagi, masih juga pusing. Tulang linu kek bakal letoy kalo berdiri. Badan masi panas. Independent banget mau bikin bubur sendiri, tapi ujungnya minta mama bikinin. Dah makan bubur, minum paracetamol lagi. Tiduran lagi. Siangan pusing sama panasnya kambuh lagi. Minum obat lagi. Sampe ijin gak ikut meeting onlen saking masih migrain gak bisa mikir.

Pusing nya masih sama, migrain mungkin ya, urat di pelipis ke arah telinga menegang gitu. Udah mikir, "duh gak bisa ini ngandelin paracetamol, bisa gila w, mana kerjaan terbengkalai". Asli kalo lagi sakit gini males banget karna kerjaan jadi numpuk. Selasa malem ya cuma ngandelin bubur sama paracetamol lagi. Oh sama obat batuk biar cepet tidur. Pas tidur masih keringetan efek minum obat. Pusing masih.

Rabu pagi nya tentu saja masih migrain yorobun. Urat di pelipis masih menegang. Nungguin jam 8 buat beli bodrex migra ke alfamart. Dahlah emang obat mantap untuk pusing-pusing gak jelas ini. Makan bubur yang kemaren apa ya lupa, terus minum obat yang ada kafein nya ini. Ya, sesuai prediksi, jeda 30 menit langsung ilang tuh migrain, dan otak bisa mulai berpikir dan melek gak tidur. Nyambi buka kerjaan dikit-dikit. Tapi ya banyakan rebahan sih, biarkan bedrest 2 hari. Menuju malam ada pusing dikit, tapi gak berani minum bodrex karna ada kafein nya, malah gak bisa tidur w.

Intinya kamis, badan udah mulai mendingan. Gak panas lagi. Migrain nya dah ilang. Sakit nelen nya masih ada. Kemudian kembali bekerja pelan-pelan. Tapi ya gitu, cuma banyak minum, tapi gak makan berat karna susah nelen. Sad. Malemnya, iseng buka buku grammar. EHHH, urat pelipis w menegang lagi. YA allah, apa w dilarang overtime mikir di malam hari???? Pas ditutup, dan cuma sekrol X, cenut-cenut nya ilang. Zzzzz.

Jumatnya dah bisa makan lebih enak. Tapi punggung jadi pegel banget. Leher juga. Dari kemarin sih. Akhirnya tadi sore nyempetin workout punggung 10 menit, plus rebahan di lantai 1 jam. Alhamdulillah it works. Ancene dini kakean rebahan makanya pegel punggung.

Panjang juga yak sesi kali ini haha

27 Oktober 2023

[asrisgratitudejournal]

Mean

*Ini titlenya mean as in “jahat” ya, bukan mean average…. Tadinya mau bikin judulnya “thrive” tapi kayanya lebih tepat untuk mendeskripsikan otakku yang cara kerjanya aneh dan jahat ke diriku sendiri…

Kemarin tepat jam segini (18:21) lagi pusing-pusingnya bikin slide untuk Goldschmidt terus udah stuck banget akhirnya setengah jam kemudian langsung ngirim email aja ke Tamsin dan Joost sambil mikir: “AH tau ah, masa bodo amat jelek juga bye.” Arum juga udah ngeliat komputerku sih sebelum dia pulang kemarin pas ku lagi ngerjain slide dan bilang “udah ok kok Non”. Tapi ya namanya otak jahat kena impostor syndrome selalu aja mikir “ini tu jelek Non, this is NOT GOOD enough.” Salah w juga sih, untuk reference ngambil slidenya Emily Mason anak PhD di Cambridge pas dia EGU2020. Ni w tampilin visualnya yang amat sangat bagus:

Pusing gak u…. while slide w betul-betul kosongan, gatau mau bahas apa..

Anyway, yaudah kan, pokoknya tu ngirim email jam 19 lewat dikit, ku-screenshot promptnya ku-pos di instastory (gatau buat apa, tapi kayanya mah ya emang pengen caper aja, gatau ke siapa juga). Eh terus lagi asik-asik nonton apa ya kemarin, youtube aja kayanya, buka hp ada email jam 22. Tamsin bales dan first comment: “This looks very nice.” HUHU JUJUR MAU CRY RASANYA. Slide yang sampah itu dibilang bagus sama Tamsin. Tamsin ngasih komen in each slide gimana supaya lebih bagus. Terus tadi pagi jam 9/10 juga Joost nimpalin: “As Tamsin said, this is great.”

Kayanya ini ku yang kurang words of affirmation pas jaman kecil apa gimana sih. Tapi beneran pas dikasih compliment tuh langsung yang “OHMYGOD Non, well done. Ternyata u ga bodoh-bodoh amat. You did well.” Emang otak w aja dasarnya yang jahat dan mean to myself!!! Compassionnya gaada samsek. Ini gatau datangnya dari mana tapi ya balik lagi berkali-kali ku menemukan fakta bahwa kultur Asia dan Indonesia aja yang aneh mikir kalau Tough love is the best way to make people thrive, which, in fact, is wrong.

Terus yaudah sih inti dari pos ini adalah: lagi-lagi: be kind to people. You never know what they’ve gone through, hari mereka gimana hari itu, lagi capek atau nggak, dsb. Being kind and giving good words sudah terbukti efektif (untuk diriku sendiri) bisa membuat ku berkembang dan jadi lebih baik. Kalau dikasih compliment tu otak mikirnya “OK, I can do better than this so I get more compliments” Nagih.

Hari ini ku capek banget tapi. Pagi kelas pelatnas dari 9.45-11.45 dan ku ber-ide ngesplit kelas: sejam buat mereka ngerjain exercise, while aku mandi dan otw ofis, terus sejam lagi bahas diskusi di ofis. Lalu tebak apa yang terjadi? Pas ku lagi di ofis, BANYAK banget interupsi: Joost dateng jam 11.20 bawa coffee, dia mau run through the slides, Hugh juga dateng bawa print-an abstract manuscript karena dia menemukan keanehan, Arum nyamperin tepat 11.45 karena kami udah janjian buat jalan ke Exeter buat lunch, untungnya si Bram lagi mondar-mandir aja dia cuma ngerjain experiments kayanya. Minta maaf sekali untuk teman-teman yang pelatnas tadi karena sangat tidak kondusif suasana diskusinya for the latter half.

Terus lunch di Exeter. Cuaca Oxford these past 2 days SUCKS. Untungnya tapi ga hujan sih, dingin aja tapi ga basah. Menunya Shepherd’s Pie with lentil sama tadi ambil coleslaw salad. Not bad. Tapi mayan upset karena betulan ditanyain berkali-kali kalau students atau bukan dan udah booking atau belum. Ini gara-gara Oxford pas summer time emang udah running different business aja sih. Colleges terutama, betul-betul bukan lagi berperilaku seperti part of the university, melainkan udah jadi BnB dan host untuk summer school. Semua ini juga kelihatan sekali di hampir semua corner di Oxford hari-hari ini isinya groups of students (little students as in secondary school age atau high school age) jalan dengan SANGAT PELAN, dan blocking the trottoire. Students ini si peserta summer schoolnya. Tadi Arum cerita, dulu Kalina juga pernah cerita sih tapi lupa, dia ngecek harga yang dibayar oleh students ini untuk bisa ke Oxford ikut summer school ini katanya mayan mahal. Bentar googling dulu.

£5995 for two weeks… dan itu masih “starts from”… ku-convert ke IDR kira-kira 115 juta rupiah… pasti belum termasuk tiket pesawat, visa, etc. Dah stres… Tapi ya yaudah namanya juga ada marketnya ye, kalau ada yang beli mah kenapa tidak. OH ini makanya kenapa ye si college getol banget nge-service mereka, karena dapet duit banyak juga kayanya si Dining Hall…

Iya intinya tapi mayan kesel mau makan di kantin sendiri aja diinterogasi berkali-kali udah kaya abis mencuri hiks. Ini pun ku masih bisa makan di college juga setelah kemarin ngemail kitchen booking untuk 2 orang. Kalau dadakan langsung dateng ke college gaakan dikasih masuk kali.

Iya terus balik dari lunch ku duduk-duduk, ngabarin ke Joost dan Hugh kalau ku sudah di ofis, dan mereka pun datang. Joost dateng jam 14 kayanya, bahas ngobrol setengah jam terus di saat bersamaan Hugh datang juga, mayan RAMAI ya ofis w. Tapi akhirnya Hugh bilang nanti balik lagi aja kalau gitu. Terus setengah jam setelah Joost cabs Hugh balik lagi. Duduk bahas-bahas Goldschmidt dsb, dia nanya dong “lo butuh visa dong” “iya huhu makanya ku sudah buat dari February…” jujur sucks, bahas betapa mahalnya harga tiket kereta vs pesawat, terus pergi, eh terus tapi dia dateng lagi yang kedua dengan laptopnya nanya “ini teh maksudnya apa ya”, ku mau bilang “di relative depth 50m” tapi ku tulisnya “in 50m” jadi dia bingung. Tapi tetep baik banget sih orang-orang huhu.

Abis itu setengah jam kayanya mikirin gimana caranya ke London Stadium Sabtu buat nonton The Weeknd Sabtu nanti. IN which I just REALIZED: ku bakal pulang malem banget itu Sabtu, mungkin bakal baru sampe rumah jam 2 lagi kaya waktu nonton Beyonce (semoga nggak sih, jam 1 kaya pas nonton Chris Hadfield lebih preferable), dan besoknya Minggu ku harus ngejar pesawat jam 10 pagi di Luton. Yang adalah ku harus berangkat dari rumah ke Gloucester Green jam 6 pagi. AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA. Planning yang sangat bagus, Non. To be fair, ku tapi emang udah beli tiket The Weeknd dari 1 Desember 2022…. Dan baru tahu ada Goldschmidt (atau akan berangkat Goldschmidt) 19 Januari 2023…. A month later…. Jadi, siapa yang salah coba LOL. Not me trying to mis-prioritizing important stuff in my life. Cukup lega sih tapi waktu itu beli The Weekndnya yang 8 July bukan 9 July karena pusing juga kalau overlap…

Terus yaudah jadi tadi sorting out apa-apa aja yang harus di-print, beli tiket kereta dari airport di Lyon ke hotel return, bikin akun di provider busnya Lyon supaya receiptnya bisa di-print etc.

Nyempetin setengah jam-sejam buat get back to the slides tapi asli udah JIJIK banget gapengen kerja lagi. OH! Sempet ngerjain manuscript juga dikit, like 15 mins, karena kemarin jam 10 tiba-tiba Erdem ngemail ngajak ketemuan over coffee terus dia bawa coret-coretan manuscript dengan komen “Ini introductionnya panjang juga ya dan kemana-mana, coba dipendekkin” terus yaudah… plus tadi pagi juga Tamsin ngemail nanya ada latest version ga setelah diskusi sama Erdem, soalnya dia mau baca ni draft “while in train in a few days”. Jadi, yaudah barusan ngerapiin itu dulu dikit. Deleteing a few sentences, moved some paragraphs around, terus baru jam 17 tadi ngirim latest version ke Tamsin and Joost.

BROOOOOH BARU SELASA TAPI KENAPA udah ngerasa capek banget banyak banget yang dikerjain HUHU. Gapapa tapi Non, it’s okay, pelan-pelan aja. Mending pusing karena ngerjain banyak daripada pusing karena ga ngerjain apa-apa saking overwhelmednya terus feel guilty beating yourself up!

Ini sekarang mau shutdown komputer dan makan dinner di Tse Noodle sama Iris, dia running late katanya masih di Zara, dan begitu juga saya (akan running late). Dah gitu dulu aja deh curhatan rekapannya. Kemarin weekend nggak melakukan hal yang berarti selain ketemu Mas Rezky dan main ke rumah Marcell. Minggu ku ngapain ya… ga ngapa-ngapain kayanya… di rumah doang dan ke Sainsbury beli tissue toilet. Wow. OH!!! NONTON FANMEETING STRAYKIDS DENGGGG. Sangat bagus dan seru dan worth it.

Yaudah tapi itu dulu aja for now. Duh sebetulnya ada cerita lagi terkait beef-ku dengan Pak Joko aneh banget dia minta ku ngisi kelas pelatihan guru selama 2 jam di jam 8-12 WIB yang adalah jam 2-6 AM di waktu-ku, ya jelas-jelas kubilang gabisa lah!! Eh dia insist: “kan cuma sekali saja, tidak setiap hari, bisa lah ya….” BUSET. DAH STRES JUGA EMANG. So far, ku berhasil negotiate dan meyakinkan beliau bahwa ku gabisa, tapi beliau minta pengganti, jadi ku lagi mikirin dan kontak siapa yang kira-kira bisa ganti. Huft. Ada-ada aja hidup.

Dah itu dulu deh ya. Byea. Have a good week everyone!

30.18 18.57 04/07/2023

[ceritakemanapun]

#jurnaltidur - ketiduran di kelas

Pelor. Sebuah julukan yang saya terima di masa SMA, saking seringnya saya tertidur di kelas, baik saat jam pelajaran, maupun di jam istirahat.

Bukan contoh yang baik, memang.. tapi, lumayan jadi hal yang memorable! Wkwk. Karena meskipun sering ketiduran di jam pelajaran, tiap kali guru membuka kesempatan pertanyaan setelah penjelasan (di mana momen tersebut biasanya saya tidur), saya bisa nanya hal yang tetep relevan. Sampe sekarang temen-temen saya masih sering bahas tiap kami kumpul, keherenan, kenapa saya bisa melakukan itu.

Bukan bermaksud membenarkan perilaku ketiduran di saat jam pelajaran, ini kayanya pola tidur saya dari remaja udah ga bener. Online sampe dini hari, browsing ga jelas. Sampe sekarang juga masih kebawa kebiasaannya. Tidur malam ga cukup, jadi siangnya gampang ngantuk. PR besar untuk saya versi dewasa (alias sekarang), untuk membenahi kebiasaan ini.

Tapi.. balik ke "gimana bisa tetep lempar pertanyaan yang relevan ke guru, padahal tidur lumayan pules", sebenernya ada beberapa faktor:

Fase tidur saya di N2, di mana udah mulai dalam, tapi otak masih ngerespon suara ataupun stimulus dari luar, jadi saya tidur semi-nyenyak, tapi masih bisa denger sayup-sayup omongan guru. Jadi ya nangkep sebagian omongannya! Aneh ga sih? Beneran deh tapi kaya gitu.

Saya udah baca-baca materi yang disampaikan sebelumnya, dan udah agak kebayang apa yang mau disampaikan guru, adalah elaborasi dari materi tersebut. Jadi abis baca materi, di otak saya udah kaya ada penanda mana poin yang pengen saya tanya/bahas lebih lanjut sama guru.

Paham konteks bahasannya. Sesederhana, ngeliat celah dari konteks secara umum topik pelajarannya, terus tanyain deh topik yang masih "nyambung", tapi ga asbun juga. I just ask what I really wanna know, bukan buat sekedar keliatan 'so aktif'.

Ga malu buat nanya, salah, atau kelihatan bodoh (menurut orang lain). Kadang yang bikin orang ragu buat nanya atau mengemukakan pendapat adalah, karena ngerasa takut di-judge sama orang sekitarnya. Saya ngerasa ruang kelas adalah 'safe space', di mana saya bisa mengekspresikan diri, dan lingkungannya pun (teman-teman dan guru), mendukung untuk saya bisa menjadi orang yang seperti itu. Jadi ya, kalo ada kesempatannya dan emang itu sesuatu hal yang pengen digali lebih lanjut, ya nanya aja~

Nyambung poin 4, saya liat sikon juga gurunya tipe yang enak diajak diskusi atau ngga. Kalo gurunya ga enakeun, saya juga cenderung ga akan nanya sih. Nanya-nanya di kelas ini setelah dewasa akhirnya saya pahami sebagai sebuah exercise untuk menghadapi dunia luar dengan ragam situasi yang sebenarnya ga senyaman di kelas, tapi kadang mengharuskan kita buat nanya atau speak up. Terima kasih banyak buat guru-guru saya di masa sekolah, yang mendorong suasana kelas jadi nyaman dan aman buat murid-murid bertanya dan mengeksplorasi materi :)

Mata pelajarannya bukan eksak. Ketiduran dan bisa tetep nanya ini cuma terjadi di kelas selain matermatika, fisika, kimia. No explanation needed lah ya. Wkwk.

Kalo sekarang, tiap kali ngantuk di kantor, yaaa saya melipir dulu aja ke tempat lain. Kursi pijat, ke kantin, ke minimarket, ke coffee bar kantor. Saya jarang yang bener-bener ketiduran di kantor, karena mungkin keganjel kafein juga ya paginya.

Walaupun begitu, saya sadar kenapa saya menulis tentang "#jurnaltidur ini, adalah karena keresahan saya tentang pola tidur saya yang kurang baik -sepanjang hidup-. Semoga dengan lebih memahami dan mengelaborasi pengalaman 'tidur' di kehidupan saya, saya bisa mulai belajar buat tidur dengan lebih baik, lebih berkualitas, dan lebih mindful.. bukan sekedar tidur karena udah malem dan mesti istirahat aja :")

Sampai ketemu di tulisan #jurnaltidur berikutnya!

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Pasar Minggu, 22/04/25 | 07:42 WIB Ga setel lagu apa-apa

[babynerdwizard]

20 Rahasia Biar Benar-Benar Produktif?

Wake Up Early and Eat Breakfast Dari kecil udah terbiasa sarapan. Mau berat, mau ringan, yang penting ada asupan. Makanan (kurang makan) mdmdngaruhi kinerja kognitif dan pengambilan keputusan (Harvard Business Review). Selama 2 - 3 pekan belakangan, jadwal sarapan berubah ke jam 5.30an - please note that I started my morning every day at 4 ish. You can achieve a lot by simply waking up early. Pemenang adalah yang sampai lebih dulu di medan perang.

More, Exercise, Go Outside Pagi-pagi jalan kaki atau lari (7-30 menit). Buat yang Muslim, subuhnya usahakan ke mesjid. Percaya atau ga, keluar pagi itu sensasi ENDORFIN-nya kaya 'MENANGIN HARI' dan itu vibe-nya kebawa sampai sore atau malam nanti.

Write, Read, Watch (Mindful Scrolling) Buat yang ga perlu commute jauh-jauh, pagi-pagi gitu bisa nulis, nulis apa aja: caption, diary, journaling, ngonten, to-do list, etc. Nulis di pagi hari itu membantu menstimulasi kreativitas, menuangkan pikiran/isi hati melepas tekanan.

Baca? Ngaji itu termasuk baca. Baca artinya juga. Baca itu inspirasi, food for thought. Ingat rumus INPUT = OUTPUT. Mau bicara lancar, harus mau mendengar. Mau nulis lancar, ya harus mau baca.

Kalau nonton? Scrolling Intagram atau Tiktok boleh kok. Cara ampuh mengatasi distraksi adalah dengan melakukannya secara sadar: jadwalin waktu buat scrolling (wasting time).

Choose Your Method and Technique Ada 25-5 (25 menit kerja, 5 menit break), 10-2, 52-17 atau 90-20. Intinya, ada jeda. Di kantor, dalam sehari sesekali nyamperin temen ke kubikel atau ruangan lain, 'ngecek' buat refresh. Jadi, ga terus-terusan duduk. Ada juga 2 minute rule: if a task can be done in 2 minutes, do it immediately.

No Multitasking, Forget About Perfectionism Menurut berbagai literatur, di dunia ini hanya ada 2-2.5% orang yang benar-benar bisa multitask. Sisanya, melakukan beberapa hal sekaligus tanpa foksu. Akibat dari multitasking, 40% produktivitas menurun. Jadi, kerjain satu-satu, nikmati, selesai, lupakan, lanjut ke yang lain. Plus, ga perlu sempurna, just get things done!

Procrastination is Okay Ada positive procrastination: menunda untuk nanti dan waktu penundaan itu kita pakai untuk hal-hal yang santai-bermanfaat, misal tidur, jangan malah ngabisin energi secara negatif.

Eat The Frog Ini kiasan terkenal, yang artinya selesaikan yang paling besar, susah, penting dan menantang dulu, supaya ga ada tanggungan setelahnya. Tapi, beberapa orang memilih untuk menyelesaikan yang paling mudah dan cepat dulu sebagai booster, ga papa juga.

Just Give Up Dalam situasi yang udah bener-bener buntu, BERHENTI. Balik lagi nanti. Jangan dipaksa.

Turn Off Notification Orang-orang ngecek hape 47x (Deloitte), ngecek email 15x atau setiap 37 menit (Forbes, HBR) dalam sehari. Tips dari aku: turn all notifications off on your phone. Udah bertahun-tahun belakangan, cuma ada 1 notofikasi yang aktif: WA. Sisanya baru ketahuan kalau apps-nya dibuka. Sekali klik foto dapat dengan cepat meningkat menjadi 20 foto (learn.filetered.com).

Zero Inbox Terutama email. Kapan hari ada temen ngajak kerja bareng, pas lihat Outlook kaget kok bisa cuma ada 3 unread email? Punya dia ribuan. Unread emails and clutter can trigger stressed and anxiety. Aturannya: DELTE, DELEGATE, DEFER, DO, or simply just RESPOND.

Voicemailing Jangan lupa, ada yang namanya voicemail. Kalau males ngetik, ga ada waktu buat telepon atau khawatir ngalor-ngidul, please deh voicenote aja.

Stop Following the News (Knowledge Obesity) Ga semua hal harus kita ikuti atau kita ketahui. Pilih-pilih yang RELEVAN dengan kehidupan kita. Terlalu banyak mengonsumsi hal-hal yang ga ada kaitannya hanya akan membuang waktu. Ground yourself. Limit your input.

Pick Your Battle Ga semua harus ditanggapi. Ini bukan cum asoal media sosial. Ini tentang kehidupan sehari-hari. Simpan energi untuk hal-hal yang lebih esensial.

Superpower Hour Ada masa di mana otak kita mampu bekerja paling maksimal dengan perasaan senang sehingga bisa menikmati apa yang sedang kita lakukan. Jam-jam ini berbeda untuk masing-masing orang. Superpower hours aku ada di jam 2 - 3 dini hari dan 5 - 9 pagi. Maksimalkan periode itu untuk mengerjakan hal-hal penting. Dari konten ini saja sudah bisa dilihat dari jam 5 - 9 pagi ada apa saja yang dikerjakan.

Slo-mo Your Life Ojo kmrungsung. Paling ga seneng kalau diburu-buru. Sesuatu yang terburu-buru itu melelahkan, rawan telat. Kalem aja, kasih tempo, tapi ga perlu nunggu motivasi juga, tetep kerjain, pasang DEADLINE.

Speak Your Truth Satunya kata dengan tindakan. Tentang mengubah niat menjadi tindakan. Sesederhana "Aku akan XYZ" ketimbang "Aku harus XYZ". Minor change indeed, but it helps our brain switch from intention to action. If you want to do something, plan, then do it, before it becomes 'should have'.

Weekend Off Pisahkan antara kerja dan keluarga, kantor dan rumah. Kalau weekend, pakai untuk hal-hal yang sama sekali berebda. Pilihannya banyak, berbagai klub olahraga, hobi-hobi kekinian, acara-acara festival/pameran/kajian, beberes, main ke rumah temen atau saudara, dll you name it.

Tomorrow Starts Tonight Todur teratur dengan penuh rasa syukur atas apa yang sudah kita lalui dan kerjakan seharian ini. Ga perlu nyesel, kecewa, marah, dsb. Lupakan yang udah kejadian. Jangan berlarut-larut. Jangan kurang tidur, tapi juga jangan tidur kebanyakan. Setiap kali mau tidur, kita udah tahu besok mau ngapain.

Don't Be Too Much Kalau mau bikin to-do list, ga usah banyak-banyak. Yang RATIONAL-REALISTIS-REASONABLE aja.

Focus on the End Goal Semisal ada kegagalan-kegagalan kecil, santai, itu bagian dari tujuan akhir yang lebih besar.

[deviokta]

I was appointed to lead a brief exercise routine called Senam Taiso in my working area, which consists of 3 big teams with more than 90 members. Everyday, I mean EVERYDAY, from Monday to Saturday we will spare 4 minutes to do this exercise, with I'm standing in front of them, leading the session and giving examples how to do it.

And then one day (or I don't know when) some team members prefer not doing it at all. When the session starts, they keep sitting at their desk doing the job. Oh how important their job must be because they can't even spare 4 minutes for doing this Senam Taiso. How hectic their day must be, and they are the busiest person alive in this building.

Empat menit senam aja gitu loh. Empat menit. 240 detik.

Sesibuk apakah ELO?

Ya elah.

Oh well..

Anyway, tomorrow when the session is started again, I would looooooooove to open Senam Taiso with these words :

"Teman-teman PPMC yang terhormat,

Marilah kita luangkan waktu empat menit untuk berdiri sebentar untuk sesi Senam Taiso. Empat menit.

Bagi yang tidak merasa Senam ini penting, bahwa Senam ini hanya kesia-siaan belaka, hanya buang-buang waktu, dan sangat sangat sangat sangat (I will repeat this word 4 times) mengganggu pekerjaan, silakan keluar, atau pura-pura ke toilet, atau pura-pura ke musola. Nanti tunggu aja empat menit baru balik ke sini, ya.

Atau silakan tulis email ke management, supaya sesi senam ini dihentikan mulai besok dan seterusnya..."

And then I will play the music. Leaving them for hating me.

Guess what, I'm fucking hate you too, bitches!

Terberkatilah saya yang berjiwa pengampun.

[berylnatheo]

Spill or Drink with THEFOUGEN.

Disclaimer.

All responses or content in this post are associated with the writer Sunghoom and have no connection whatsoever with Enhypen's Sunghoon himself. Please exercise discretion in interpreting this post, as it is intended for entertainment purposes only. If there are any statements or phrases that are offensive, whether intentionally or unintentionally, I apologize in advance.

Regards,

sunghoom.

1. spill durasi jadian tercepat.

1 minggu. 😅

2. NSFW things apa yg pernah kamu lakukan? Kalo gak pernah, kenapa? Kalo gak mau jawab drink.

Ciuman aja kak. 😅

3. Spill chara gebetan/ cp / htsan klen yang egk seberapa ntu

4. Spill search bar twitter

5. Spill pengalaman di RP yang paling berkesan

Naksir orang, eh ketikungnya sama twin sendiri, mana selalu curhat apa apa ke twin gue itu. 😂

6. Spill kelakuan anak rp yang aneh banget dan pernah kalian alami

Putus karna omongan fambest mantan gua. Karna sampe sekarang gua gak nemu alesan kenapa harus putus waktu itu anjir cuma karna menurut si kakaknya dia gua ga sayang sama menurut kacamata kakaknya. Gak jelas emang aneh banget.

7. Pendapat kalian soal DADS

No comment.

8. spill lagu chara favorite

9. spill cara buat gak trauma sama chara tertentu versi kamu

Yaaa hindari charanya dulu, susah sih.

10. Kalian punya 'comfort muse' nggak? Kalau punya apa alasannya?

Sunghoon, karna udah lama aja sama sunghoon.

11. Apa yang bikin kalian masih main roleplay?

Anjir iya mana ini tuh balik lagi gue, kenapa ya? Gatau juga.

12. Yang jomblo drink.

Hft.

13. Spill isi chat paling sweet dari pacar/gebetan/crush/hts kalian ntu.

GAK ADA KAK. Drink.

14. A words to ex.

Apa kabar?

15. Words to appreciate yourself.

You did well, Beryl. Keep going.

16. Spill orang yang paling berharga di rp.

Seventhdazed, hyble, izdorable, enity, enaepen, rising two's, CC.

17. Spill isi markah.

18. Pendapat kalian tentang punya pacar tapi masih dekat dengan mantan?

Egois aja sih.

19. Kenapa memilih charain chara kalian yang sekarang?

Karnaaa... sama sama loudest introvert, dan saat itu dia bias wrecker terzjajzhsjsjj gitu lah intinya. Ditambah lagi trauma sama rp sunghoon, jadi untuk menghapus chance naksir rp sunghoon, mending jadi rp sunghoon sekalian wkwkwk.

20. Drop photo of your 2 latest ex. If you have no one then just drink.

Langsung 4 deh mumpung ada.

21. Tag your lover/hts/crush and say something to them.

Kalo gak ada gimana kak?

22. Apa hal memalukan selama main RP?

Salah manggil orang anjir ya Allah maaf ya bang.

23. Biru tua sama biru muda bedanya berapa tahun?

Katanya 2 tahun 10 bulan.