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[made-of-complexity]

IT IS NOT JUST A SUICIDE

It is not a solution. Your problems are only temporary. You can get over it. Everything will be fine. You’re strong. Come on, it is just a phase. Why cry over simple things? You’re so sensitive. You are just being over dramatic. You’re problem is just so simple compare to the problem of other people.   Suicide is not a solution. Don’t waste your life. It is a sin.   Before, I also think like that. I only look on the surface. I’m being too idealistic about life and problems. I thought those people who committed suicide is just wasting an opportunity and being drown by life’s problem. That they are too weak to face their problems. Suicide is a mistake. Those people having suicidal ideations, I thought they just want to end things easily because their problems are too heavy. That they are not trying their best to find solution. They are just being pessimistic and letting themselves to be control by their own emotions.   But, later on I realized that it doesn’t simply work like that. Because it is really difficult to handle. It is not just a simple phase that will just pass later on. It is a continuous battle that you must survive always or else you will going to lose.   Actually, those people really did try all of their best just to win that battle. They might even ask for some reinforcement but maybe, just maybe it turn out that those people they asked for help triggered them more or worst hurt them even more and maybe, not only once but repeatedly. No one just notice. No one cares enough. Their understanding maybe just too superficial. So, those scarred beautiful people was leave with no choice. But to choose what is worst. Because it was the only option left for them .  They are not weak.   Honestly, they are strong because they can able to endure that burden. They faced their own battle alone. Cried alone when no one is watching. All just they want is stop the pain. To get rid off the monster. They want to be free. But, everything seems too much. They grow tired of all that seemingly unending fights that they needed to win continuously. They are strong enough to face it and even try harder but maybe their fear of light became much greater that is why they decided to embrace the darkness.   It doesn’t mean they are bad.   They are good more than you can imagine. Everyone is good. It just happen that what they did or what they are thinking is not socially acceptable. You know when things are different society have tendency to criticize and judge it without understanding the real reason. I guess, they are being too shallow. When it is unique doesn’t mean it is not good at all, does it? I know they are good it just happen that they are invade by negative energy. They fight but it is too strong and things are just too bad but they not bad. They are good. They are humans who needed intensive help.   Suicide is not a solution. It is is just a temporary solution to a temporary problem.   It will never ever be a solution but to some it is the only way. This is the only escape they can use from all of their life adversity. I know they did their best to continue with their life’s path but they ended up in the dead end. They left with no choice.   Can we blame them?   Maybe yes but maybe not. We can’t fully blame them because we can’t fully understand what they been going and we do not exert too much effort in order to save them. I’m not here to justify their actions. What I’m trying to say is that, I hope we became more extra sensitive to the problems of other people. To be more kinder and softer. This world needs more kindness. More love. More light. You have too much light I guess it will never be your loss if you give some light to others. Because, somehow that small flicker of light can gives them so much hope too continue in life even in a slow manner. Maybe that light can save their lives. Might stop them moving in the edge. Or maybe you even push that person to their end. We killed that person. When all they really want is not to die but to continue living despite of their desire of death. It just so sad that death became their comfort. Life is really ironic not sometimes but always.   People cried over small wounds doesn’t mean they are weak.   All of us have different way of coping mechanism especially in terms of pain. We do not have the right to belittle or discriminate the pain of other people. So, it doesn’t mean they choose suicide doesn’t mean that is what they really want. Doesn’t mean they are inferior. Do you also ever think how difficult that decision they made? Do you think they don’t have any regrets? Do you think they do it wholeheartedly? Maybe, some of them still have that small hope. Hope that somehow there will be someone who will come running in order to save them. What they did was also very difficult and painful for them. Just a mere thinking of killing themselves really hurts them a lot. Because maybe they are thinking that even his or her self already gave up on understanding and defending themselves. Their own self also stop saving themselves because no one is their to save them. People leave them. No one saves them and now their own self also starts not to save them. Their self is what they have and now, it is also giving up. That is a hard decision for them. So, I guess we must stop acting as if we know everything. Because, their reason for suicide is not just that reason. It is beyond that reason. Small reason that turns into big reason. Reason that is enough to made that decision. Maybe it is not enough for you but for them it is enough. We can’t really determine and measure what is enough. We all have different perspectives.   Suicide is a serious topic. But, it is not just the word itself because it contains many reason. Those scarred beautiful people don’t do it just for fun. It is about life. Yes, they also have their many reasons to choose life but I guess that one specific reason is too strong enough that causes that person to fear life. But, I hope you also have that particular reason that no matter how difficult your life will be, you will still repeatedly choose life. But, I do understand what they feel. They are not just what you are thinking. I guess, it is better to add more faith in our life and to deepen our understanding for those people. They are not attention-seeker. They want to be save. Please don’t be selfish to give them the saving grace they are need.   We can’t get them back to life but we can live for them and to save those people who are already at the edge. Let us extend our hand to them. Let us hold them tighter so that when they let go atleast we are still holding them. Maybe they also want to know if there will be someone who can hold when all they want is to let go. In reality, all they want is to live. They badly needed to live. So let us help them. Am I being too idealistic? I guess, it is better to be idealistic about saving life.   Understanding it is difficult. I know. But, when you also experience it, you will understand the pain. Well, I’m not hoping that you will come at that point. What I mean is that, please be more considerate, sensitive, respecting and understanding to other people. We have no idea what that person is going through. It doesn’t mean someone is smiling doesn’t mean he or she is perfectly fine. People are good in hiding. It is not always about  what you see. It is about what is beyond.   So are you ready enough to discover what lies beyond?

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[ogloriousday]

“May we Withhold Negative Words and Freely give Goodness”

“Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due, when it is in your power to do it.“     -Proverbs 3:27 ESV     Let us Treat others with Kindness, Lord. Let us seek to Do Good with each Passing Moment. If we Withhold any thing, may we Withhold Negative Words and Actions. If we Freely give any thing, may we Give our All to show Goodness. Just as you Show it to us Daily, may we readily Extend Grace to Others. When it is in our Power to do it, may we extend a Hand to Help not Hinder. Let us show Compassion in place of Contempt, Lord. When Animosity is about Use us so the World may See Your Love for Them through our Smiles, Words, and Deeds. Strengthen us each day, Lord. And, may our Faith grow Stronger as we Strive to Live out Your Word with our Words and Actions which Spring forth from the Purpose and Intentions of our Minds and Hearts. Amen.