#UnconditionalPositiveRegard

[utsaahpsychologyclinic]

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[god-is-good-48576]

Today, remind everyone around you that God loves them no matter what!!💕💖

[artsy-therapist]

Role model ✌🙌

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[ischs]

“How can I become a healer ?” Many people ask this question... Some people attend training certifications, some people watch YouTube and some people go to training gurus. The real tap of healing exists and starts within. #Healing works well only when the person tap this combination - #Kindness, #love, #care, #empathy and #acceptance. Even a true parent, professional psychologist, nurse, counsellor, teacher social worker or even medical doctor applies this combination . #ischs #unconditionalpositiveregard #counsellingskills #krishnagaatha #selfless (at ISCHS - Indian School of Counselling And Healing Studies) https://www.instagram.com/p/CBBUW69BvWV/?igshid=1urhw8batet0l

[selfwhisperermentoring]

Posted @withrepost • @pmyahweh Pro 15:1  A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger. ~~~ #Visionaries #PositiveImpact #DailyGram #ExistInOurFuture #SkillsOfTheMind #relaxationtherapist #Impact #GoodAfternoon #AchievementHunter #TeamNoSleep #UnconditionalPositiveRegard #BeBold #newrelationships #HopeDealer #ItsHowWeDoIt #WhoNeedsItMore #IAmAPreExistingCondition #BePhenomalOrBeForgotten #LiftingAsWeClimb #BeverlyHills #Paris #London #Miami #Cairo #Ghana #Japan #RioDeJaneiro #FireInside #Humanitarian #RoyalHouseOfYahweh (at George Bush Intercontinental Airport) https://www.instagram.com/p/B3iCA4PHLZ1/?igshid=strud36yr453

[mainlymaryam]

Carl Rogers (1902-1987), an American psychologist, perceived that the philosophy of time was too structured to account for human experience and that humanity was too diverse to be fitted into rigid categories. Rogers is of the view that mental wellbeing is not a specific set state, good mental health can't be achieved suddenly. He claims that existing is less of a journey towards an ending but rather a process of growth that doesn't stop. Rogers provides a checklist (picture above) on how to lead a more satisfactory lifestyle: 1. be open to experience - push yourself outside the comfort zone of your daily routine. Do something new, push the boundaries, try a new route to work, a new dish or a new workout routine. 2. live in the present moment - be in the here and now, don't fixate on your past mistakes (if only I did...) or the future (if I do this....). Enjoy the moment as it is. 3. trust yourself - trust your ability in making decisions/judgements. You are capable so believe in yourself. 4. take responsibility for your choices - your life is yours, you're responsible for how you act/behave in this world. 5. treat yourself/others with unconditional positive regard - be empathetic, open-minded and appreciative of yourself and others regardless of who they are as a human being. The phrase 'the good life' refers to the attitudes and characteristics of people who have embraced Roger's approach to life. In order to live 'the good life', we learn to trust ourselves. We are able to own our own lives and take responsibility; we are more likely to live a more authentic and satisfactory life when we are free from external influences. #socialsciencesunday #psychology #psychologystudent #learn #carlrogers #carlrogersquote #carlrogerstheory #thegoodlife #thegoodlifequotes #checklist #sundaysessions #psychologyfacts #howtolivethegoodlife #inspirationalquotes #inspiring #checklist #goodlife #unconditionalpositiveregard #responsibility #trustyourself #opentoexperience #liveinthepresentmoment #thelittlebookofpsychology (at The Good Life) https://www.instagram.com/p/CUSR2yAIqP7/?utm_medium=tumblr

[dwiagnessetiani]

I try to find a moment to connect myself, and become more aware what really matters in my life . . Singkat cerita wkt itu training private di jogja , kebetulan trainernya cewek dan kucoba menerka baliau punya pribadi hampir mirip sama aku, kita terkoneksi dng baik. Beberapa kali dlm sesi itu kita saling curhat . Satu hal kebiasaan beliau yg beberapa hari terakhir ini tetiba terlintas dipikiranku (krn habis buka2 materi ibu nya lagi) . Beliau selalu memotivasi dirinya Setiap bangun pagi, membiasakan diri buat bilang ke diri sendiri "Apapun yang terjadi hari ini, aku mau bahagia" dan itu adalah titik awal beliau buat menjadi pribadi yg baik dan lbh baik lagi. Apapun permasalahan persoalan yg dihadapi beliau, apalagi diluar kendalinya, beliau bisa hadapi itu dng lbh mudah. . Memang ya. Realita vs Ekspektasi itu jg kadang buat pikiran "ambyar" hehe Jadi aku pengen coba hal baru ini. Teknik mencintai diri sendiri tanpa syarat, (unconditional positive regard) Bangun pagi dan bilang pada diri sendiri "Apapun yang terjadi dalam hidup ini, berkat yg tercurah dlm hidupmu lbh banyak drpada masalah dlm hidupmu, dan Aku mencintaimu tanpa syarat, mari bahagia" 😊😇🙏 #thegirlwhostillstrugglewithmyissues #gratitudeattitude #godisgoodallthetime #unconditionalpositiveregard #dailyjournal #lifeisgood #photographylife #photooftheday📷 #semarangexplore (at Semarang, Indonesia) https://www.instagram.com/p/CF9n5b2hAxg/?igshid=1hd951ibpesd3

[lovejitth]

[nottinghamcounselling]

Sometimes we don’t need some one to make it right . We need someone to come alongside us and just be there. #empathy #empathymatters #activelistening #unconditionalpositiveregard #telephonecounselling #videocounselling #onlinecounselling #gedlingcounsellor #carltoncounselling #nottinghamcounselling #ng4counselling (at Elaine Bond Counselling Services) https://www.instagram.com/p/B_o5AL9lCyZ/?igshid=1hurua46meld8

[made-of-complexity]

IT IS NOT JUST A SUICIDE

It is not a solution. Your problems are only temporary. You can get over it. Everything will be fine. You’re strong. Come on, it is just a phase. Why cry over simple things? You’re so sensitive. You are just being over dramatic. You’re problem is just so simple compare to the problem of other people.   Suicide is not a solution. Don’t waste your life. It is a sin.   Before, I also think like that. I only look on the surface. I’m being too idealistic about life and problems. I thought those people who committed suicide is just wasting an opportunity and being drown by life’s problem. That they are too weak to face their problems. Suicide is a mistake. Those people having suicidal ideations, I thought they just want to end things easily because their problems are too heavy. That they are not trying their best to find solution. They are just being pessimistic and letting themselves to be control by their own emotions.   But, later on I realized that it doesn’t simply work like that. Because it is really difficult to handle. It is not just a simple phase that will just pass later on. It is a continuous battle that you must survive always or else you will going to lose.   Actually, those people really did try all of their best just to win that battle. They might even ask for some reinforcement but maybe, just maybe it turn out that those people they asked for help triggered them more or worst hurt them even more and maybe, not only once but repeatedly. No one just notice. No one cares enough. Their understanding maybe just too superficial. So, those scarred beautiful people was leave with no choice. But to choose what is worst. Because it was the only option left for them .  They are not weak.   Honestly, they are strong because they can able to endure that burden. They faced their own battle alone. Cried alone when no one is watching. All just they want is stop the pain. To get rid off the monster. They want to be free. But, everything seems too much. They grow tired of all that seemingly unending fights that they needed to win continuously. They are strong enough to face it and even try harder but maybe their fear of light became much greater that is why they decided to embrace the darkness.   It doesn’t mean they are bad.   They are good more than you can imagine. Everyone is good. It just happen that what they did or what they are thinking is not socially acceptable. You know when things are different society have tendency to criticize and judge it without understanding the real reason. I guess, they are being too shallow. When it is unique doesn’t mean it is not good at all, does it? I know they are good it just happen that they are invade by negative energy. They fight but it is too strong and things are just too bad but they not bad. They are good. They are humans who needed intensive help.   Suicide is not a solution. It is is just a temporary solution to a temporary problem.   It will never ever be a solution but to some it is the only way. This is the only escape they can use from all of their life adversity. I know they did their best to continue with their life’s path but they ended up in the dead end. They left with no choice.   Can we blame them?   Maybe yes but maybe not. We can’t fully blame them because we can’t fully understand what they been going and we do not exert too much effort in order to save them. I’m not here to justify their actions. What I’m trying to say is that, I hope we became more extra sensitive to the problems of other people. To be more kinder and softer. This world needs more kindness. More love. More light. You have too much light I guess it will never be your loss if you give some light to others. Because, somehow that small flicker of light can gives them so much hope too continue in life even in a slow manner. Maybe that light can save their lives. Might stop them moving in the edge. Or maybe you even push that person to their end. We killed that person. When all they really want is not to die but to continue living despite of their desire of death. It just so sad that death became their comfort. Life is really ironic not sometimes but always.   People cried over small wounds doesn’t mean they are weak.   All of us have different way of coping mechanism especially in terms of pain. We do not have the right to belittle or discriminate the pain of other people. So, it doesn’t mean they choose suicide doesn’t mean that is what they really want. Doesn’t mean they are inferior. Do you also ever think how difficult that decision they made? Do you think they don’t have any regrets? Do you think they do it wholeheartedly? Maybe, some of them still have that small hope. Hope that somehow there will be someone who will come running in order to save them. What they did was also very difficult and painful for them. Just a mere thinking of killing themselves really hurts them a lot. Because maybe they are thinking that even his or her self already gave up on understanding and defending themselves. Their own self also stop saving themselves because no one is their to save them. People leave them. No one saves them and now their own self also starts not to save them. Their self is what they have and now, it is also giving up. That is a hard decision for them. So, I guess we must stop acting as if we know everything. Because, their reason for suicide is not just that reason. It is beyond that reason. Small reason that turns into big reason. Reason that is enough to made that decision. Maybe it is not enough for you but for them it is enough. We can’t really determine and measure what is enough. We all have different perspectives.   Suicide is a serious topic. But, it is not just the word itself because it contains many reason. Those scarred beautiful people don’t do it just for fun. It is about life. Yes, they also have their many reasons to choose life but I guess that one specific reason is too strong enough that causes that person to fear life. But, I hope you also have that particular reason that no matter how difficult your life will be, you will still repeatedly choose life. But, I do understand what they feel. They are not just what you are thinking. I guess, it is better to add more faith in our life and to deepen our understanding for those people. They are not attention-seeker. They want to be save. Please don’t be selfish to give them the saving grace they are need.   We can’t get them back to life but we can live for them and to save those people who are already at the edge. Let us extend our hand to them. Let us hold them tighter so that when they let go atleast we are still holding them. Maybe they also want to know if there will be someone who can hold when all they want is to let go. In reality, all they want is to live. They badly needed to live. So let us help them. Am I being too idealistic? I guess, it is better to be idealistic about saving life.   Understanding it is difficult. I know. But, when you also experience it, you will understand the pain. Well, I’m not hoping that you will come at that point. What I mean is that, please be more considerate, sensitive, respecting and understanding to other people. We have no idea what that person is going through. It doesn’t mean someone is smiling doesn’t mean he or she is perfectly fine. People are good in hiding. It is not always about  what you see. It is about what is beyond.   So are you ready enough to discover what lies beyond?

[sarahdewhirst]

Fear contains its own remedy and nature gave us feelings to encourage us to evolve past our mental blocks. ⠀ Fear starts and ends in the mind...⠀ ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ *⠀ *⠀ *⠀ *⠀ *⠀ #mentalhealth #healing #healyourself #feedyoursoul #selfawareness #lookwithin #selfresponsibility #authenticity #therapy #congruence #unconditionalpositiveregard #selfdifferentiation #betruetoyou #personalgrowthjourney #soulevolution #innerworld #defensemechanisms #hangups #subconsciousmind #consciousness #mindfulnesspractice #positivemindsetalways #negativemindset #innerwork #selfimprovementproject #empathy #youarenumberone #individuation #selfactualisation #selfrealisation https://www.instagram.com/p/BzxPNwHgj15/?igshid=1n1j3osvn7whg

[ischs]

A word of sincere appreciation can make lots of changes in every individual. It is a human centric art to influence people positively. Any unconditional positive regards in any type of counselling supports really need utility of this art and the artist is called a professional counsellor. It is not just a learning but a practice that every mental health professional has to master well. #positivepsychology #mentalhealth #unconditionalpositiveregard #appreciation #kindness #counsellingskills #adcs #ischs #indianschoolofcounsellingandhealingstudies (at ISCHS - Indian School of Counselling And Healing Studies) https://www.instagram.com/p/B_6LDewhVci/?igshid=1kmat4r9nydd1

[sarahdewhirst]

Have you noticed how when you feel bad so much goes wrong and when you feel great so much goes right?⠀ ⠀ This is because your conscious thoughts and feelings impress the subconscious mind and dictate the way you experience life.⠀ ⠀ Your thoughts are the program on which you run. Make sure your program doesn't have a virus... ☣⠀ ⠀ *⠀ *⠀ *⠀ *⠀ *⠀ #mentalhealth #healing #healyourself #feedyoursoul #selfawareness #lookwithin #selfresponsibility #authenticity #therapy #congruence #unconditionalpositiveregard #selfdifferentiation #betruetoyou #personalgrowthjourney #soulevolution #innerworld #defensemechanisms #hangups #subconsciousmind #consciousness #mindfulnesspractice #positivemindsetalways #negativemindset #innerwork #selfimprovementproject #empathy #youarenumberone #individuation #selfactualisation #selfrealisation https://www.instagram.com/p/Bye3puIgmqN/?igshid=15f5zyjvtvix5

[emotionalintelligence4men]

Discipline our minds to conform with our single subconscious mind in our name YAHWEH. . . . . . . . . ::: . . . . . . . . . ::: . . . . . . . . . . . . . #OilObsessed #LivingOnPassionFueledByCompassion #TellAStoryInEachPhoto #BeachMoney #Impact #TeamNoExcuses #UnconditionalPositiveRegard #EmotionalInteligence #Yahweh #NoDaysOff #NeverAfraidToLive #IGMotivation #NewPost #GoldModel #ThoughtsBecomeThings #YahwehPrimeMinister #The5SecondRule #WriteThatDown #YahwehInParis #GoodMorning #FollowForFollowBack #KingYahweh #CatchFlightsNotFeeling✈️ #TheKingdomOfYahweh #NeverAfraidToLove #StrongerThanYouThink #Bald #TheMastersClassForMen (at Discipline) https://www.instagram.com/p/CBnmJnzp4-m/?igshid=16usamgrxmvo2

[elementalgrowth]

During dark times it becomes more important then ever to be the light - my trusted way of doing this is through practicing unconditional positive regard. . . Today I invite you to take this practice and make it your own... Take a look at the reality today and ask yourself "what am I grateful for?" . . #coronavirusmemesarenotfunny #covıd19 #coronaviruschallenge #covid19news #healingvibrations #gratitude365 #covid #dailygratitude #gratitudedaily #covid2020 #coronaviruspandemic #healingenergy #spiritualhealer #healingquotes #positivevibe #healingpower #spiritualcoach #gratitudeattitude #healingjourney #spiritualguidance #gratitudepractice #covid19memes #covid_19 #unconditionalpositiveregard #covid19usa #coronavirusmemes😂😂😂 #coronavírus #positivenergy #gratitudechallenge #practicegratitude (at Toronto C•A•N•A•D•A) https://www.instagram.com/p/B9zAJsRn-63/?igshid=mfxj08gjyd0c

[athousandroadstonowhere]

What is Love?

Baby don’t hurt me... don’t hurt me.... Ok, enough early 90s disco lyrics. (We can argue about that later, but that song is DEFINITELY disco.) But seriously, as I’ve been searching on my own and watching the world around me with new eyes and openness, I’ve been brought to ponder that question. While the song brings to mind and was primarily discussing romantic relationships, love is so much more than that.  I have written before about love in action.  And I’ve spent many an hour pondering what those actions look like.  Lately, I’ve started to see love is also some times inaction.  Love is both action and inaction, and neither all at the same time.  So, with neither action nor inaction being suitable to define such a complex, yet beautifully simple aspect of the human experience, what is a good way to define it?

Throughout history, love has been defined multiple ways.  Love in itself is an ontological idea sought to be defined by man for as long as man could communicate. Ancient philosophers described love as a god, and even attempted to make that god-like characteristic relate to living breathing humans in a way to which the common man could relate. Alas, love still existed, and was still not understood.

Next came the Bible.  Whether or not you choose to believe in Christianity, the Bible is a great historical text that can tell us a lot about the ideas of men in that era. Believed to have been written by Paul, an Apostle of Jesus Christ, 1 Corinthians defines love by saying, “4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails.”

Although Paul, or whoever actually wrote that, had some good ideas about love, it still for some reason does not fully define what love is. 

So recently, I’ve also thought about some of the other ideas I’ve encountered over the years and how they could pertain to this particular discussion.  One of my favorites is a concept fathered by the great humanistic psychologist, Carl Rogers. The  core idea behind unconditional positive regard is total acceptance and grace. What does that mean?  This means fully allowing someone the space to be 100% authentic with no fear of judgment or not being accepted.  Unconditional positive regard gives the recipient the freedom to be who they are in totality with complete acceptance. It means taking all of the wonderful things, and the not so wonderful things, and saying, “You know what, that’s all part of who you are, and all of that, every little bit of it, is absolutely ok with me.” 

And what happens in this environment of unconditional positive regard?  It has been proven again and again that in this environment, humans are able to find within themselves exactly what they need to become the best versions of themselves. Inside each and every human is everything, let me say that again, inside each and every human is EVERYTHING they need to be fully alive, and deeply wonderful. Within each person lies everything they need for peace, stability, happiness, and joyful contribution to the glorious experience that is living life as a person in this realm. This capacity lies within everyone, even those people who seem completely lost and beyond aid. It is there.  

There is a great Zen teaching that says that if you love a flower, you will water it and help it to grow rather than picking it and putting it in a vase.  Great love, in my opinion, is that which allows those around us, romantically, platonically, familially, and any other way in which humans can be connected with each other, to reach their full potential of humanity.  

And what is necessary to allow others to reach their full potential by accessing that which is inherently a part of being human?  Unconditional positive regard.  

To sum it all up, Love is both action and inaction, but above all, love is a state of being, ultimately wrapped up in unconditional positive regard, that provides the necessary inherent environment for creation, which is the ultimate experience of that which is God.  So, in reality, everyone throughout history has been kind of right, but we’ll probably never understand the whole picture.

#philosophy #counseling #love #humannature #unconditionalpositiveregard #growth #humanity