#I’ll make a new blog for all of them

[ryugucci]

da kid is moving blogs -> @souyawn

[stinkrascal]

my bf graduates next weekend and then we’re moving to the city 😳

[silverduckie]

Ugh Alberto Rosende is posting crypto stuff too now. Who wants to slide me fc alt recs for Collen? 🥺

[aspidities]

Tumblr wanting to make paid posts now after years of hiding or flagging Patreon/OF posts is sort of poetic in a really, really funny way.

Anyway it now costs $9.99 to hear my dick fwap wetly onto a piece of paper, sign up now!!

[pollen]

actually because it’s late and no one’s online i’m gonna make a post

[lesbianwillbond]

x

[roseydeloom]

If anyone was following @lovelyflowerlov before and suddenly isn’t anymore, it’s because Flower did a dumb and accidentally deleted her account

Please go follow her on her new blog, it’s so sad

[naein]

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[tbou-myday-struggles]

he has the ass

[hevibed]

the fact that people didn’t even have to check to realize that this was my blog..... that should be my wake up call but here we are

[loveydoveyfemme-archive]

i’m gonna be remaking soon but just a reminder that i have a video game sideblog @loveydoveygamer follow it

[aro-aizawa]

it’s weird how im completely scrapping the main character for my original work i’ve been working on haltingly for the last 4-5 years. but here i am, doing exactly that. and not regretting it in the slightest.

[leeminho-s]

41-49/ ∞ random gifs of minho

[sintreaties]

You don't need to know this but the word OTAP is also the name of a biscuit so everytime I read the word that's what I think about and sometimes get confused like, "why are they talking about otap(biscuit)???". I love your stories and the way you put the characters in suprising scenarios, it gets me intrigued in the story. Have a nice day!

Oh, I know right?? You can pull up Google Docs files directly from the Google search bar, but sometimes I only type “OTAP” (instead of “otap ch.X”) and if I had a penny for all the times I was faced with dozens of random recipes I’d probably be able to pay someone to be my editor lol.

Thank you for reading my fics, and likewise, have a nice day!🍪

[why-animals-do-the-thing]

Hi, I was wondering if you have any advice on how to react when someone shows you a "cute" animal video that really isn't okay. I've had a lot of friends send me animal videos because they think I'd enjoy them but they can be pretty bad. I want to be able to explain that the video is not good without sounding rude. Thanks!

Honestly, right now, in the middle of the pandemic? My advice is going to be “don’t.” There’s a time and a place for that sort of education - you have to pick your battles carefully and think about when people are going to be receptive to hearing it. With the world’s current roster of everyday horrors and ongoing stress, you’re very unlikely to have it land right now, and you’ll damage your ability to bring it up successfully in the future. Sorry, I know I’m late getting to this ask, and it’s probably not the answer you want. But let me explain.

The first couple years of this blog, I was that person who critiqued every little thing that went past me. I’ve long joked that my business tag-line should be “Professional Buzzkill” and only actually been half joking. I educated a lot of people during those years - but I also damaged a lot of relationships with people. Not in a way you’d notice on the surface - it wasn’t like I lost friends - but in subtler ways. The amount of animal content and topics people brought up around me or asked me about dropped drastically. I even have had people tell me they’re afraid to share things with me they think I’ll like, or are nervous sharing animal content on their own social media at all, because I might come in and make them realize they’re supporting something horrible. They’re not unwilling to stop engaging with things that aren’t ethical, in fact, just the opposite: they’re worried nothing they share will actually be okay and they’ll get negative feedback for not knowing better. And oh, boy, is that not what the goal is here.

Sharing a video with someone is an affiliative human behavior - it’s bonding. It’s “hey, I like this thing, I recognize that you may too, I want to share it with you to make you happy.” It’s a shorthand for “I remember and actively consider your preferences” and “I care about you enough to think about you and how you’d feel about something when you’re not here.” I say this to point out how important it is to recognize that when you push back on someone’s sharing a video with you (especially when you’re telling them something isn’t ethically okay) you’re communicating something big. If you don’t really like a video a friend shares with you, it’s pretty normal to just make a polite noise or comment something vague, right? Let it pass by and don’t hurt their feelings. That’s the normalized way of gently indicating you’re not into it without discouraging the gesture of sharing it. So if you call a share out, you’re effectively communicating that this thing they like is so inherently wrong and bad that you’re willing to reject the social contract around this widely normalized bonding behavior to call them out. That hurts. It can also make them feel like they’re a bad person for liking the content and wanting to share it, and may lead to embarrassment and shame that they couldn’t tell it was “bad.” Rejection, shame, and embarrassment are not mental states that make it easy for anyone to accept new information.

In the beforetimes (pre-pandemic, but after the first few years of running this blog), I found I got pretty good at judging when I could bring something up with people. It would depend on all sorts of variables, my relationship with the person, how well they knew what I do for work, how both of our days were going, etc. I had to catch them at the right time to be receptive to it despite the general negative feelings that the discussion could stir up. But now? People have no bandwidth for any more hard conversations, any more interpersonal conflict. They’re looking for succor where they can find it, and looking to maintain social relationships in a period of extreme duress. It’s the worst time to bring up something hard, and the worst time to reject the gesture.

That isn’t to say you shouldn’t educate. Come back to it a few days later. Find something you can show them that’s positive, or an educational link that doesn’t go hard on abuse rhetoric. Approach them in a calm moment and tell them “hey, I remember you shared this thing with me, and I really appreciated that you remembered that I’m interested in [subject]. I learned something / found something relevant and thought you might be interested.” Acknowledge the gift they gave you, validate the shared interest and show that you understand they care and mean well, and then gently give them an option to learn more. Use a similar affiliative bonding strategy (sharing) and carefully picked timing to prime them to be more receptive, and then frame your share so you’re learning and being curious together. Above all, actively work to be kind.

The internet has created such a strong call-out culture that many of us (including me!) default to that strategy without even thinking about it. And don’t get me wrong, I think there are times when it’s appropriate and necessary. But when it comes to things like online videos - where no active harm is being perpetrated in that exact moment of watching it - sometimes it’s far more effective to wait until you can approach it from another, softer angle, which won’t put them on the spot and make them want to reflexively reject what you’re saying to save face.

People who love or like animals don’t want to share content that is harmful to them. They just don’t know any better. A little patience, a careful approach, and a whole heap of kindness and empathy can go a very long way towards helping achieve the results you want.

[crisis-aversion]

So

I cut my right pointer finger on a soda can today

That’ll make digital art difficult