#There are way too many transmeds/truscum and exclus

[entropy-sea-system]

ppl will really think that merely being anti terf/tehm means turning around and being transmed and exclus is somehow okay

[sunken-queer]

Lil' Intro

this is a really ugly post bc i am way too lazy to make it fancy

hello internet, i am zee. i have many other names which you can find @ https://en.pronouns.page/@cyanidic. the basics of my identity are cisn't transmasc boyfaux girlflux who uses xenogenders, demi-pansexual, and ambiamorous. my main pronouns are xe/they/she/one but i have a lot of other neos on my pronouns page. i have a carrd @ https://lemqns.carrd.co/ (PLS look at my triggers list before you talk to me)

new mogai blog dropped @ https://goosemogai.tumblr.com/

i have adhd, social anxiety, depression and aphantasia. i likely have bpd and am physically impaired. i'm white, AFAB-P. i am also other-hearted and otherkin. i am also the fronstuck host of questioning collective.

BYI: i swear, i'm really lazy, i go M.I.A. a lot, i'm 15(so i'm a minor), i abbreviate a lot, i consider myself shelterqueer, and tone-tags when directly interacting with me are a must

DNI: basic dni criteria, sysmeds, transmeds/truscum, queer-exclus of any sort (such as m-spec lesbians, he/him lesbians, etc.), anti-mogai, MAPs/NoMAPs, people over 25 can interact generally or to ask questions or something but preferably no direct contact as i am a minor, TERF/SWERF, nsfw blogs, discourse blogs, if someone has called you a bigot before chances are you shouldn't interact, anti-selfdx, fakeclaimers, using the wrong pronouns purposefully, anyone here to spread hate(i will ignore and block you, whats the point), zoophiles, people who consider themselves right-wing, pro-ship (may update if i think of smth else)

Stuff I Will Post:

- random thoughts

- userbox reblogs

- stuff i'm playing or watching

- possibly some system stuff regarding my own experiences

- if i actually write anything

feel free to follow and message me, i'm very much open to new friends. AND PLS PLS PLS ASK ME ABOUT MY INDENTITIES I LOVE TO TALK ABT THEM!!

[crushing-on-nico-di-angelo]

hey i know you’re a minor so dont see this as me calling you out or correcting you or anything because you didnt do anything wrong!! i just wanted to tell you to please research mogai identities and how they are harmful to the lgbt community. it sucks seeing them on my dash, especially on the first day of pride month but i’m absolutely not blaming you!!! thank you

hello! I adore this ask, thank you for sending it to me! and I'd also like to thank you for the respectful tone you used when sending this, that was very nice!!

I talk about this alot but mainly on my other blog so I can understand not knowing this, but I Am Genderflux/fluid (still figuring that out) I Am Achillean and Sapphic, and I Am a Demiboy. I'm Queer. I identify under MOGAI terms.

But trust me, I wasn't always this way. when I was 12 and 13 years old, I identified as simply a bi trans boy. I was really into the discourse surrounding people in the MOGAI community (as well as transmeds and truscum and all that). I watched Kalvin Garrah all the time. I also harbored a lot of anxiety and a small bit of depression at this time. Mainly due to other things going on in my life but partially due to the fact that I wasn't trans "the right way"

I started closer examining myself and the discourse I was into. I realized: it doesn't harm me whatsoever.

the main argument I see over MOGAI discourse is that we (the lgbt community) won't be "taken seriously" by our oppressors. if they don't take "them" seriously, it won't be hard for them to just be homophobic in general.

But why would them being homophobic or transphobic have conditions? why can't they just not be those things?

I get it, it can be frustrating seeing people not do things the right way (different topic but similar sentiment). it makes things look worse for you, or at least it feels like it does.

however, in doing my research throughout those years of my life (and still today, when I read through exclus blogs and inclus blogs), I discovered that people are going to find excuses to be homophobic etc no matter what. Nothing I do with my own identity will fix or change that.

warning, I'm about to get a little negative in this next paragraph.

They're killing us out there. we have it better in the United States than in other countries, but everywhere in the world including where I live, they're killing us. they're "converting us." Their mindset is having us kill ourselves. I have nearly lost at least half of my friends to homophobia(luckily they're all alive and well, but there were too many close calls)-- some of them you might consider mogai, some not. Homophobia discriminates against all lgbtq+ people.

I think that making sure everyone knows they're welcome is a lot better to the lgbt community than anything else that I could say to them.

I Am An Inclusionary blog. I always will be. Anyone outside the norm who either has attraction to more than just the "other" gender (or no attraction at all!!) and/or identifies as something different than their agab-- thus is a safe space for you.

again anon, thank you for the respectful tone you used. I hope I also sounded respectful in this because I honestly do understand where you're coming from. I hope you have a great day and a happy pride month

[sunflower-stella]

Hello there! I’ve seen a lot of posts going around, defining different terms and communities that you might come across while exploring the age regression side of tumblr. However, I’ve never seen an overall guide, so I’ve set out to make an easy-peasy guide to all the complicated terms you might encounter! This guide includes 1) Minor-Safe Age Regression Communities, 2) Kink Tags, and 3) Common ‘DNI’ Terms.

Please let me know if there’s a term I’ve missed, or a community I’ve misrepresented! This is a pretty basic introduction to a lot of complex concepts, so if you have more questions please feel free to get in touch with me.

Even if you know the basics, this guide is probably worth a scan to see if there are any terms that you haven’t seen before, and you can also fact-check my writing while you’re at it, helping out anyone else who reads this in the future.

With that said, let’s get into it!

Part One: Minor-Safe Age Regression Communities

Age Regression: The term ‘age regression’ as an umbrella term that is used to describe any experience where a person returns mentally to childhood. It can be a coping strategy to deal with stress, a reaction to trauma or mental illness, or just a natural part of someone’s life. In tags, ‘age regression’ is often shortened to ‘agere’. (Be aware: kink communities also sometimes use ‘agere’ and ‘age regression’ tags! They aren’t inherently minor-safe or non-sexual, so use caution and common sense.)

CGLRE: Stands for ‘caregiver/little regression’. Cglre is one of the oldest regression communities that exists on tumblr, as well as one of the most popular.  Cglre is controversial because it uses ‘littlespace’ terminology. (A regressor is called a ‘little’ and their caregiver is usually called ‘mommy,’ ‘daddy’ or similar parental titles.) Littlespace terms are used in cglre to describe regression, but they’re also used by kink blogs to describe submission. On the surface, this means that cglre looks similar to kink blogs, but most cglre members are very dedicated to being minor-safe, separate from kink, and discussing therapeutic, coping-related, non-sexual age regression.  

(Note: CGLRE subcommunities and tags are abundant! The tags ‘liltot,’ ‘agere society,’ ‘nsre,’ ‘dxlg,’ and others are all cglre-based communities. You can find huge lists of cglre subcommunities on this blog because there are too many to cover here!)

CHIRE: Stands for ‘child regression.’ Chire evolved as a response to cglre, as a regression community that doesn’t allow littlespace terminology, or interaction with blogs who allow it. Because of the harsh lines they draw between communities, they are also a controversial group, but many people have positive experiences with it!

Non-Comm Regression: Short for ‘non-community regression.’ Non-comm regressors don’t identify as part of cglre, chire, or any of the smaller sub-communities that exist under age regression. Often, they interact with multiple communities, as well as with other non-comm regression blogs.

Pet Regressors: Some people feel less like kids when they regress, and prefer to identify as animals! ‘petreg’ or pet regression is the word for people who regress as animals. This might be connected to otherkin identities (people who self-identify as something not human, possibly an animal or possibly something more abstract) or might just be their own way of regressing!

Age Dreaming: Age dreaming, which is sometimes shortened to ‘agedre,’ is a minor-safe community focused on recapturing childhood outside of regression. Age dreamers take comfort in childish and nostalgic things while not mentally regressing (or not fully regressing, depending on the age dreamer).

System Littles: The term ‘little’ has a different meaning when applied to someone in a system. A ‘system’ is formed from a variety of experiences, including childhood trauma and dissociative disorders, when a mind copes by developing rifts in their memory and personality, forming different people within one body as they grow older. This collection is called a system. System members may interact with age regressors for multiple reasons. Firstly, some systems have littles, which doesn’t refer to an age regressor when it’s used about a system member. A system little a system member who is a child, contained within an adult body. Some system littles find community in age regression spaces, but most prefer to keep separate from agere groups. Secondly, some system members are age regressors, or ‘age-sliders,’ which is an experience kind of like regression, but is specific to system members. So systems have all kinds of reasons to be part of the age regression community!

SFW Agere: This means ‘safe for work age regression.’ This usually means ‘non-sexual age regression’ or ‘minor-safe age regression,’ but not always! Please see the sections on ‘sfw kink’ down below.

Dual-Comm: Short for ‘dual community’. People call themselves ‘dual-comm’ regressors if they are sfw age regressors that also participate in kink communities in their adult headspace. People with sfw regression blogs might indicate that they are dual-comm regressors so that people can block them if that makes them uncomfortable, or because it is an important part of their relationship to regression, even if they don’t post about it on their regression blog.

Part Two: Kink Tags and Communities

(Note: I won’t go as deeply into kink communities because I’ve created this guide for age regressors, and want to mention kink groups mostly to raise awareness of what can’t be reblogged onto a minor-safe regression account.)

Cross-Tagging: The act of ‘cross-tagging’ is when someone tags a post with both minor-safe community tags like ‘cglre’ and kink community terms like ‘ddlg.’ This is bad because it exposes minors to kink communities, which is dangerous for everyone involved. It also might expose regressed people to sexual content, which can be triggering depending on their experience of age regression. That’s why it’s important to know which tags belong to kink communities, so you can block and avoid them if you want to have a minor-safe regression blog!

Age Play: ‘age play’ is an umbrella term for any kink dynamic in which one person consents to being treated as a child for the purpose of submission.

DDLG/CGL: Stands for ‘daddy dom/little girl’ and ‘caregiver/little,’ respectively. These are kink communities that use littlespace terminology to talk about sexual relationships. There is also ‘mdlb’ which stands for ‘mommy dom/little boy,’ and same-gender variants like ‘mdlg’ and ‘ddlb’. (If you run a minor-safe tumblr blog, it is very important to have all of these tags blocked so that you don’t accidentally reblog from an unsafe source!)

ABDL: Stands for ‘adult baby diaper lover.’ This is a kink community centered around diapers. They might also identify with the term ‘omorashi’ or use it as a tag on their posts.  

SFW Kink: Stands for ‘safe for work kink.’ This can be used to refer to non-explicit kink posts or to platonic, non-sexual kink. Either way, kink being ‘sfw’ does not mean that it is minor-friendly!

NSAP: Stands for ‘non-sexual age play,’ which is an approach to age play often (but not always) linked to coping with stress, rather than explicit sexual gratification.

(Note on non-sexual age play: There is a misconception in the age regression community that all kink is inherently sexual. Some people use age play as a coping strategy without involving sexual elements. That said, even non-sexual age play isn’t minor-safe because it is still a power-play dynamic that minors cannot (and should not) consent to. I say this because it is important to a) not cross-tag nsap with minor-safe communities and b) not bring power-play into sfw agere spaces. If you are an adult and you are more drawn to the rules and discipline of littlespace, please explore on the non-sexual kink side so that we can foster a safe space without power dynamics for minor regressors!)

Part Three: Common DNI Acronyms

Content Warning: mentions of transphobia, eating disorders, and pedophilia.

(Note: We’ve already covered a lot of the acronyms that you might see on people’s DNI in Parts One and Two. Here are some more you might see. As a general rule, if you’ve never seen the term before, it probably doesn’t apply to you, but it’s always best to Urban Dictionary an unfamiliar word!)  

DNI: Stands for ‘Do Not Interact.’ A list of communities that a person doesn’t want to interact with their content, usually for personal comfort. It is always important to read a person’s DNI and respect it. A person’s DNI can be on their post in the form of a banner/image, or in their blog description, their ‘BYF’ (Before You Follow) page, or linked in their blog description as a ‘carrd.’

TERF: Stands for ‘Trans-Exclusionary Radical Feminist’. TERFs are threatened by trans women in feminist spaces, and believe that womanhood is intrinsically linked to biological femininity (ie. having a womb).  

SWERF: Stands for ‘Sex-Work Exclusionary Radical Feminist.’ SWERFs believe that sex work is inherently linked to sexism and gendered violence, and that women cannot freely make the choice to engage in sex work. Some SWERFs believe that women who make this choice are encouraging sexist objectification.

Transmed/Truscum: These terms refer to someone who believes that being transgender must be linked to dysphoria and a desire to medically transition.

Anti-Mogai: The term ‘MOGAI’ stands for ‘marginalized other genders and intersex’ and refers to a community of trans/gender-nonconforming people who use very specific and personal titles to describe their gender. People who are anti-mogai are often part of the transmed community.

Ace Exclus: Short for ‘ace exclusionists,’ it means someone who believes that asexual or aromantic people shouldn’t be welcome in LGBT spaces.

REGs: stands for ‘reactionary exclusionist gatekeepers’ and is an umbrella term for all of the groups above: pretty much, anyone who ‘gatekeeps’ (limits) who gets to be part of the LGBT community.

Anti: I’m not sure what this is actually short for, but I always think of it as ‘anti-ship’. An ‘anti’ is someone who believes people shouldn’t be engaging with problematic media and ships (such as racist media, pedophilic ships, and fanfiction that romanticizes abuse).

Anti-Anti: An anti-anti is someone who doesn’t agree with the above people.

Endogenic Systems/Anti-Endogenic Systems: There’s big debate about whether it’s possible to have a system (see ‘system littles’ in section one) that isn’t formed in response to trauma. The term ‘traumagenic system’ refers to a system created by childhood trauma. ‘Endogenic system’ means a system that is not related to trauma.

Pro-Ana/Thinspo: Stands for ‘pro-anorexia’ and ‘thin inspiration,’ respectively. This is a community based on the encouragement and romanticization of eating disorders. Understandably triggering to a lot of people!

MAP: Stands for ‘Minor Attracted Person,’ which is another word for pedophile (adult attracted to children). Tumblr has an unfortunate community of pedophiles who choose not to seek treatment, and take pride in their identity. They use a miscellany of titles, which is important for people to research and block for safety, especially in age regression circles where there are a lot of vulnerable minors. (Note: If you experience persistent attraction to minors, please talk to a professional about it.This is not your fault but it is your responsibility.)

Littlespace: Some people list ‘littlespace’ or ‘non-system littles’ in their DNI to block kink blogs that use littlespace terminology, as well as CGLRE and related communities that use the same terms. These people aren’t always insinuating that the two groups are the same, but rather that those words make them uncomfortable. So it’s important to respect that if you use littlespace terminology on your regression blog!

18+: This confuses people all the time. Ninety-nine percent of the time, if a person has ‘DNI if 18+’ on their post, they mean don’t interact if you run a minor-unsafe, 18+ only blog, not ‘if you are over the age of eighteen’. (That said, there is a one-percent chance that they actually mean that it’s a minors-only post, so do check if you’re unsure!)

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Congratulations if you’ve made it all the way to the end of this guide! I don’t expect you to remember everything you’ve read, but this guide will be here if you ever want to come back to it to check on a new and confusing term. I’ve spent years being confused by all of these different labels, and there are new ones coming out all the time, so don’t worry about screwing up every once in a while! We can only do our best, and correct ourselves politely when we make a mistake. I hope you have an awesome day, and I’ll see you around in our chaotic little virtual neighbourhood!