#and i don't expect anyone else to be doing things the way tht I do things bc where is the fun in that

[poetryincostume]

Hey, what kind of costuming do you do? I'm obsessed with the corsets you've posted, they honestly look immaculate and I love the period inspiration. are you a historical costumer?

Hello!

Thank you so much, I'm so glad you like them! I've been wanting to make a ribbon corset for years, so finally making two has been very pleasing.

I broadly call myself a cosplayer as much as I call myself anything. I have a lot of feelings about the various labels people use and the forms of gatekeeping and snobbery that come from each. Really costume, in whatever form you may approach it, is an art form.

I have been working as a professional costumier in the UK film industry (tho not right now, thank you US studios for your greed) for the last 13 years. I’ve only been making for myself since 2017. I approach all of my projects the same way I approach my work - and have been so lucky to observe incredible designers working: I always end up falling into research holes and drag in historicsim, art, pop culture, and all sorts into my projects. But at the heart of it all, for me, is exploring character and narrative. Painting and sculpting characters out of fabric.

This is largely why I refer to my personal work as cosplay for ease: because I'm making characters or using character, theme or story as a leaping off point. See my little star warsy inspired jacket, and The Madwoman. The Saddest Girl In The World works as a standalone piece in this vein, but is also part of a bigger, whole costume that I started uuhhhhh a year ago. I want everything I make to stand on its own and express something.

Left to right: - Numa, Star Wars Rebels - I closely referenced the French Resistance in my research and making, but this is a true and true 'accurate' cosplay. - Olivier Mira Armstrong, Fullmetal Alchmist - also an 'accurate' cosplay, but I did deep research in historical tailoring, Japanese tailoring, and World War II military tailoring and created the entire costume using historical techniques. I won two competitions with this costume! - Princess Zelda, Breath of the Wild - an example of me building from the skin out. This is an accurately historical turn-of-the-century combination set made using historical handkerchief and insertion techniques and entirely handsewn. However I infused it with character and story by constructing the main body of the combinations of triangles, and piecing it together with three point needlework (more triangles), for a total Triforce infusion. There is a full set of similarly triforcey companion undergarments.

It's all fake and in space; it's all poetry. I'm playing. With costume. So I guess I'm a cosplayer, but when you're playing the limit is your imagination.

[wooahaes]

I actually don't have bubble, would you recommend it? I have to say I do enjoy reading that sort of fic, I find it relatable. I'm early 20's and never experienced a relationship, I don't see that as a bad thing though. But I'm torn between wanting to have that sort of connection with someone & not wanting to leave the house lol. (I'm also v scared to meet people & convinced they won't like me lol). Sorry to make that about me, but do what's best for you, I'll support you either way -🍧

oops i didnt see this before i answered the other ask but anyway

if there's a group member who has bubble that you wanna pay for and you can afford it, then i say go for it!! channie's is like. 4-5 dollars a month so i'm happy to pay for it :0 idk who all has bubble tho since not every group does! i just got it bc i like keeping up w channie & being able to respond (even if i doubt he sees it) w kind things <3 i like putting that energy out at least since i think he always deserves it

aw hon <3 i get you entirely! i don't think it's a bad thing to not have a relationship before your 20s, but it does like... mess with some ppl i think (and i'm one of those ppl). i've seen where other people have talked about how there's this whole uncertainty about being 20+ and navigating things that ppl expect you to already have experienced by then, and how difficult that can be and i think that's the kind of thing i'd focus on? like i've had two bad relationships (entirely online) and they, as everyone who follows me probs knows by now, did fuck me up after not having Anything until i was 17. i don't think it's bad, but i think it had a bad effect on me if that makes sense?

like. completely normal to not date until your 20s, but on top of my own mental illnesses... it does make me feel like something's wrong with me even more, y'know?

also felt tht entirely tbh i live in a place where like... i do not want to date literally anyone bc a good number of them are close-minded (i don't want to get into the list of -ist and -ic things ppl are here, but its the bible belt, soo.... you can imagine how a ton of people are) + i don't want to date anywhere here. i want to move out of the country eventually and i don't think there's anything that will stop me, but i don't want to invite anyone in who like... could.

thank you though <3 if anyone else shows interest i'm happy to post the fic!! even if its just ppl who are like "i wanna read the way you'd write it" i'm happy to share lol i love writing <3

[emeraldvagabond]

Honestly Tam's magic comes out whenever he feels a strong emotion. When he and Feyre do the do, the claws come out. But he’s not angry. He's aroused. When he talks about slavery and it makes him sad, the claws come out. Isn’t slavery worth getting sad over? When he thinks something is funny (I believe it was Feyre stealing a knife from the table?) the claws come out. In book 1 it’s just an expression of his emotions, not exclusively anger like it was retconned fo be in later books.

!!!THIS PART THOUGH!!!

Tamlins magic is tied VERY very closely with how he feels. It's not only the bad things, just like everyone elses magic isn't entwined with only their negative emotions. He FEELS things, he feels them so deeply that his magic cannot help but react. People can say tht his claws were a warning sign but....really his magic just isn't pretty like Rhysand's and Feyre and Nesta's. His magic is shapeshifting(Which, apparently all the Highlords's have a beast form they can shift into??? Remember Helion during the war? And doesn't the book mention Rhysand having another form at some point? So what is his REAL power then???That's it? That's all he gets??)

The fact is, Tamlin NEVER uses his magic to harm Feyre or in any abusive way in the first book. He never shows any lack of control over his anger- when he's wrong, he apologizes and tries to make-up for it. He can't let her go but he can try to give her a good life. (Even though Calan Mai was vaguely Feyre's fault. I can't remember who made a v good post on that at the moment- but the gist was Tamlin specifically NOT consent to doing anything with Feyre before he was under the influence of magic, but she still left her room seeking him out knowing he would come to her, and was willing to let him go further than HE was willing to go while he was drugged up on sex magic.) and even in these situations where he supposedly has NO control over himself....he still has enough self control to step away.

He gets angry and scared in the first book, but his magic never EXPLODES like it starts doing in the second book. His claws come out- his voice trembles, we get the idea that his is deathly close to crying when he talks about sending her away because he is afraid of what Amarantha will do to her. By all means, by the second book's logic, he should be throwing tables and bookshelves without even thinking about it because his magic should be running wild....but it just doesn't, because Tamlin HAS control over himself. For all the talk that it's a beauty and the beast retelling.....he isn't very much of a beast, he's just NOT HUMAN.

He does things that don't make sense and he gets frustrated and he makes fun of her, but never once does is it abusive. He tries to explain things to her the best he can, while being under a curse tht doesn't allow him to do tht.(Which is why...like....where did this super secretive You Cant Know Anything....thing come from in the later books??) He shares how he feels with her, when be oversteps and offends her he apologizes and steps back. In the beginning he is reluctant to even speak to her because he doesn't want to make her uncomfortable or push her boundaries. (and bc he's SHY but-) Never once does his magic bleed into abuse. And people can say it's so she would fall for him all they want....but, again, in a private conversation with Lucien he refuses to use her. He sends her away when he knows she's on the verge of freeing them because he's worried it will cost her life. He cares for her family in private, without wanting anything in return, and without telling her for any type of influence. He makes the world around her more digestible for a human girl because he knows she will be afraid, and removes the glamour once she asks him to. And he expects NOTHING in return. Compare that to Feyre who refuses to help anyone without holding it over them or considering them in her debt afterwards.

These things are not.....signs of abusive or even abusive tendencies. He doesn't love-bomb her like Rhysand or slowly pick away at her options...he understands that he has brought her there against her will, that she's her own person and she will do what she wants, and he can't do anything besides try to lessen the consequences, like when she chases down the Suriel and everyone knows that's what she doing but they still let her do it anyway because that's what she wants to do...

Like?? It's just a bad argument on anyone's part to say that his magic is a red flag...it's just magic, she's living in a magic world now. And it's not even just related to his anger.

[sukunastoy]

hey, srry to be the one to rant in ur inbox but i saw u were open to anons and ur one of the few ppl ik in this fandom space thts around my age group and i was just wondering. how??

ive been on tumblr and in fandom/fanfic communities since i waz around 15, its basically my main hobby and pretty much the only social outlet i have, and ive just been so down and so lonely because ive been feeling shunned and excluded pretty much everywhere once i disclose my age and i absolutly completely understand WHY bc there r so many younger ppl in these places, but i dont know what else to do. it feels like nothing is fun anymore. the general consensus seems to b that i should just fck off and have some kids and pay bills until i die. how do u deal with it?? are u ever bothered by it? i feel likr a creep for even being here still, but it’s one of the only things i still have tht brings me joy. srry if that was a lot, i feel bad even compareing myself to u in any way because im nowhere near as talented as u are, absolutly delete this if it makes u uncomfortable whatsoever

hope u are doing well yourself 💙 ty for being u

First of all, NEVER be sorry to rant to my inbox!! And I truly feel appreciative for you to tell me all of this. This is a safe space and you're always welcome to it! My reply is a bit long, I didn't want to flood anyone with a super long post, so the rest is beneath the cut.

I completely understand how you feel, about the age thing and the ever present societal norms of "Must be an adult, must have kids, must do this, yada yada". Its depressing as fuck.

I've been into anime and manga since around 13-14 years old (apart from Pokemon which I've loved -And still do!- since the age of 5.)

I always wrote fanfics, always did fanart, even if I thought it was absolute garbage, I was still so happy just doing it. It has been something that got me through the toughest times in my life. I struggle with suicidal depression, always have for as long as I can remember, even back in my single digit days before even becoming a teenager. When I started to reach the age of "adulthood" I started to shy away from what I loved doing because I felt as an adult, I wasn't allowed to enjoy what I truly loved anymore, cause I needed to "grow up." And I did that. For a while. I rarely acknowledged anime. I sold all of my manga, my wall scrolls, my merch. I stopped drawing/writing it as much cause I needed to focus on being an adult, paying my bills, going to college, all that crap.

But, I got worse in my depression. I self harmed, had to go to therapy, had to start medication, and at one point I actually wrote that final goodbye note because I couldn't handle the norm of "being a mature adult" so I figured I must be useless otherwise. If I wasn't happy playing my adult role in society, what was the point of me even living?

During this time I went to college for 3 years, stressing, crying, working on a degree that I didn't even want because I thought it was expected of me. (I've always wanted to go to an art school and get a degree there. But my parents and everyone else in family told me, thats not a real degree. So I left it behind...) For 3 years I wasted my time and money and sanity to try to appease the people who don't pay my bills, don't put food in my mouth and certainly don't do shit for me otherwise, and I finally stopped and thought...

WHY?

WHY am I trying to impress and fit in with people who don't even really know me or provide for me?

I dropped out of the college that was stressing me out. I lost that money, but oh well, I was miserable, and my mental health is more important to me.

I don't want kids. I don't want that boring life of "just work til your dead". I don't want to have boring hobbies that I don't even like just to fit in with the people of my age range who I could care less about.

I'm turning 30 in a few months, and I regret wasting a few years of my life trying to fit into this norm of, bullshit. (And please note to whoever is reading this, if doing a lot of the 'norm' and having a family with kids and everything IS happiness for you, that is beautiful!! I am only referring to the people who don't want that life, and it should NOT be forced upon them.)

I love anime. I love drawing it, writing fics for it, interacting with other people over it, and I don't know why I ever tried to deny that.

I was afraid to return online in the fandoms because surely everyone must only be young teenagers right? Actually, not at all!

I've interacted with SO MANY people near my age range, and, it is truly amazing.

There are lots of people close in age, sometimes they're just a little difficult to find, but they are there, I promise, and they are amazing. I've enjoyed anime more in my adult life now than when I was younger tbh because I stopped caring about what others think and that my age is literally just a number. I'll be 30. So what, that doesn't change what I love. My body is getting older, that's all. I am still ME.

My fiance and I still go out and play Pokemon Go, collect Pokemon cards, like, I have BINDERS full of cards. The store we go to is ALWAYS packed with other people our age and way older who love Pokemon, Digimon, YuGiOh, and all sorts of other anime things they offer there.

These people are out there!

I started being more open with my likes and interests with strangers and coworkers, and I found out a lot of people really are into this, but felt they had to keep it hidden cause they didn't want anyone to think they were weird because of their age.

I surround myself with those who I know are supportive of me, or don't have a problem with my likes and interests and I stay away from those who try to shame me, and I kick them out of my life because I don't need that negativity in my circle. Some people my age who aren't into anime don't have a problem with me being into it at all. They've never shunned me for it. If anyone does, goodbye.

Life is short, its hard, its shitty. It doesn't need to be made worse by trying to appease those who aren't providing for you or feeling like you're not allowed to love what you love. So enjoy the things you love to enjoy. If there's something that you can latch onto that brings honest happiness into your life, cherish it.

I hope this helped in some way...even if just a tiny bit...

I know it was long, but I wanted to explain as much as I could so you don't feel like you're alone or left behind in the fandoms because of age. I tried to deny what brought me joy, and it only brought me more misery. I hated it.

I'm so much happier now, and I truly hope this type of peace comes for you soon as well.

Always feel free to drop in my inbox as anon, I would NEVER delete something like this.

Again, I hope this helped. If I didn't acknowledge something, or seemed to entirely misunderstand, I dearly apologize and please correct me if needed!!

💕 (´▽`ʃ♡ƪ)

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[anime-matchmaker-blog]

Yo first i want to thank u For this amazing blog I love keep going i ll support u hehe👍🏾❤️it and if u don t mind can i ask u also a male Match up to? Please (Owari no seraph;Kuroko no basket) I m a girl straight I m chubby I m childish i love teasing but I m a Tsundere to I rly get fast jealous when i m attached to someone I rly love my friends i don't rly like responsibility I love listen music i m capricon and i m about 1.66 m tht s all hope this isn t to much❤️🙈

Thank you so much anon!

Your matches are…:

Saotome Yoichi (Owari no Seraph): Yoichi’s kind and sweet personalitymakes him a fairly easy person to get along with, and even your tsundere naturewon’t pose a problem with him. It might be hard for him to get to know you atfirst if you continuously reply in a snippy or snarky tone but Yoichi will merelyshrug it off with a laugh. Sometimes he’ll comment on the things you say tohim, telling you to be more honest but if you ignore his advice, he’ll watchfrown at you and not say anymore. Upon seeing you around your friends andwitnessing just how close you are with them will let Yoichi see another,softer, side to you, one that he wants to experience for himself.

He’s managed tobefriend Kimizuki and Yuu, so befriending you shouldn’t be too hard either.Getting past your tsundere nature might take some work but it’s not somethingYoichi minds, and the day you do open up to him and show him your softer sidewill have him grinning at you and wanting to hug you. Getting to know you willbe quite an experience for him and he’ll enjoy every part of it. Yoichi willtake your teasing in stride and might even tease you back occasionally, havinga playful side to himself as well. He’s already used to all the arguments andshenanigans Yuu and Kimizuki start, which he often either gets caught up in orhas to help calm them down, so learning of your childish side won’t be much ofa problem for him. He’d rather enjoy your childishness at times, thinking itmakes you seem cuter in his eyes, though if you whine or give him a hard time,Yoichi will likely get a bit exasperated, trying to talk you out of it.

Your dislike of responsibilitymight cause a few problems in that Yoichi will feel like it’ll be his responsibility to lookafter you and to make sure the duties you’re supposed to do get completed.After all, in this sort of world,living freely isn’t an option and merely surviving is hard. Considering howmuch Yoichi cares about you, he definitely doesn’t want to see you getting hurtor punished for neglecting your responsibilities. Yoichi does think it’s rathercute of you when you get jealous of other people close to him, and he’llcertainly make it up to you by spending what time he can with you doingwhatever you like. It can be you sharing the music you love with him, lazingaround, training, or whatever the two of you feel like doing at that moment.Any moment he gets to spend with you is a lot of fun. However, your jealousymight also cause problems if it gets in the way of him working properly withthe rest of Shinoa Squad and lives are at stake. He might unintentionally yellat you to stop acting like this and back off but he’ll be sure to apologize toyou later, explaining why it’s bad. Hopefully you’ll take his words to heart.After all, he’d be devastated if anything happened to you.

Takao Kazunari (Kuroko no Basuke): Befriending people with a tsunderenature isn’t something Takao is a stranger to, he’s good friends with Midorimaafter all, so he sort of knows what to expect when it comes to interacting withyou. With Takao’s friendliness and how easygoing he can be, approaching youwith the intention of befriending you and getting to know you will be quiteeasy for him. Even if knows nothing about you and has no idea on what he canspeak to you about, Takao will think of somethingthat the two of you can converse about. Even if he can’t, there are things hecan talk about and make fun of, which will result in him getting a glimpse ofyour teasing side. Takao will certainly join you in the teasing, whether it bedirected at you, at him, or at someone else. It’s just for fun after all, andnot meant to cause anyone harm. If you or anyone that happens to hear does take offense, he’ll definitelyapologize and clear up the misunderstanding.

Upon getting closerto you, Takao will surely introduce you to Midorima, and while the two of youmight not get along, Takao won’t hesitate in encouraging you to join him inteasing his friend. It’s cute how dear you hold your friends and Takao hopes he’salso included in that category. He’ll also be someone that finds your childishside to be endearing too until it gets out of hand, to which he’ll let you knowthat you need to stop and rethink your actions. He can be a patient person,especially if it comes to you, but there’s a limit to his patience and when itruns out, he can become quite frustrated. Your jealousy might also be an issuetoo if it gets in the way of Takao interacting with his teammates, and thoughhe might find you getting jealous cute at first, after a while, he’ll simplyget exasperated. Takao will let you know how he’s feeling though, so hopefullyyou’ll be able to change your actions and not be too clingy.

Aside from thatthough, Takao enjoys spending time with you, always finding reasons to smileand laugh. It’s great when you show him the music you’re into since it giveshim a different way to get to know more about you and he’ll return the favourby showing you some of the things he’s into, like his trading cards and hisability to do back flips. He might tease you about your dislike ofresponsibility but he’ll make sure to remind you if there are duties you haveto take care of and can’t simply shrug off. Depending on what thoseresponsibilities are, Takao might even give you a hand with them. It’s cutewatching you work, at least in his eyes.