#and more 'anyone who isn't cishet makes me uncomfy :('

[thegardengrows-infrozenrain]

bitches be like "i'm a fan of [band] but anything besides their first 2/3 albums is just pop trash and really forgettable and i hate every song on the first few albums besides [tiny list] and honestly they've overstayed their welcome as artists and need to stop producing and if you like their first few albums/[specific album that is popular/unpopular] you're a tiktok fake fan who's only posing and pretending to like them"

like honey you're not a fan you're a toxic piece of shit

like yeah don't consume anything entirely uncritically but at the same time don't become an asshole who does nothing but criticize yknow

[grimmshood]

So your completely fine with ace but they decided that just because you were uncomfortable with a single headcanon that you’re all of a sudden this ace exclusion isn’t?!?

now to clarify i would be considered ace exclusionist. i will be honest with you because people are uncomfy with that! but i dont care about the situation enough to obsess over it. if i meet lgbt ppl irl them including aces has nothing to do with me and is fine. asexuals including themselves is fine. if you arent hurting anyone, i dont care if you call yourself lgbt no matter how much i dont agree with you. in the past ive been more of an ass about it but these days i really so not care unless you are using aphobia to spread harmful rhetoric, like saying that cishet aces aren't lgbt is terf rhetoric or things like that, because people do say that and im not ok with that! but otherwise if youre ace and call yourself lgbt FINE i do not want to argue with people over it bc its 2022 im about to be 21 i have so many bigger problems than worrying about ace discourse. because asexuals themselves inherently i have no problem with them!!!!!! if u are proud of being ace awesome good for you!!!!

the problem is being framed like a dangerous horrible individual for having genuine criticism towards headcanons that can be harmful! i think ace claudette is awesome even if i hc her differently, but as someone who's struggled with sexuality for a long time especially as an autistic person and with trauma, ntm being and percieved as a woc, knowing that autistic people are frequently infantilized abd desexualized, and that this is even worse towards black women, seeing a specific person make headcanons that imply white autistics are allowed to be sexual beings but a black autistic girl isn't made me EXTREMELY uncomfortable and felt racially charged at the time that i said that abt ace claudette. and thw response i got was GETTING YELLED AT BY A WHITE PERSON FOR REBLOGGING ART OF THE HEADCANON BY AN ENTIRELY DIFFERENT PERSON.

like if you dont like me because you think im aphobic for not thinking cishet aces are lgbt fine! whatever! your comfort is your own! but calling me aphobic bc i had genuine criticism about a headcanon being racially charged is not a good look especially not if youre a white person lecturing a person of color!!!!!!!!!