#but i think he will be okay he did a really gokd job asking for help

[thotsfortherapy]

TW SUICIDAL IDEATION but here is a nice story about my housemate

okay so basically my house is comprised of a bunch of queer BIPOC afab ppl (~20/21yrs) and this year the landlord picked a stranger to move in with us

originally we were very worried because he was this 24 year old white-passing cishet man but he turned out to be very kind and easy to get along with

his gf lived with us for the summer and she was in the same program as us but is now studying clinical psych at a different grad school so she left once the summer was over

we noticed their relationship didn't seem to be the best and this week I noticed he was acting weird which I briefly mentioned to the others but there wasn't any concrete evidence that something was up yet

anyways yesterday his gf left our group chats and he came out of his room and asked my housemate for a hug 😭 when everyone was home we could just hear him crying in his room talking on the phone so it was pretty obvious they'd broken up

today me and one of my housemates were out of the house so our other housemate was home alone with him and she could hear him in his room banging stuff, so she texted saying she was worried for him. we decided to head home to go support and when we got home he came out of his room to go shower and he had this hoodie on and the towel wrapped around himself and he was literally the world's most pathetic little meow meow I felt so bad for him 😭😭😭😭

he's had suicidal ideation before and he said he was experiencing it again and we all just gave him a group hug and sat him down with cups of tea and we talked for like three hours about everything.. validating his thoughts and affirming that he plays an important role in our lives and that he isn't a terrible person etc etc

i just think the way these cards fell is so funny because I honestly don't think any of us would have ever been friends with him otherwise just due to how our social circles fall but I'm really grateful we were all able to be there for him... He was expressing how it was hard for him to open up to his guy friends cause they don't know how to actually talk about emotions but he feels guilty talking to girls cause his gf would get mad at him for it 😭

and later in the evening he came back out and said that he doesn't know where he would be if we hadn't been there to talk to him and I'm just so grateful for my group of friends and that we all have enough education and experience to deal with situations like these!

and on the other side of it I'm really grateful that he was able to sit there and be vulnerable with us and to reach out to talk to us :')

anyways that's all! I just think it's a success story of human connection that may have once been unlikely and I wanted to share!