#coming out of my short hiatus cave to complain abt this

[spectrumgarden]

Actually like. You can be super nice to disabled people and respect us and all that but the moment you talk about us instead of to us (when you havent been informed that it's what the person prefers) it really devalues all that prior positive interaction.

Like. I was visiting someone with my mother / caregiver today and the whole time she was really nice & would address me directly (like: this is x room, sure you can go on the balcony, oh you really did that? etc) but suddenly when I was pacing & stimming w my hands & just looking around she suddenly turned to my mother and went (paraphrased & translated) : "oh you can see theres lots of information bouncing around his brain right now haha" ??? Girl I'm right here? I can hear you? Why are you talking about me like I'm not? You literally could have said the same thing addressed to me. Then I can actually feel involved instead of like being an animal on display or something.