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myownprivatcidaho · 3 years

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hello!! it’s the anon from a bit ago!!!! i truly hope i’m not being annoying and/or incredibly invasive in your life but i know personally it’s always helped to hear other peoples experiences with romance centered things in general. for me i really hit a point where my mental health was deteriorating because this guy wouldn’t answer me back, genuinely it was becoming unhealthy and obsessive and i truly believe you have to have a moment of introspection if it comes to that point. i had to be honest with myself and be like okay sis he either likes you or doesn’t and either out come you HAVE to find a way to be okay with it. it’s not up to ourselves to force other people to do things. i had to have a genuine moment of being like put the phone down, go read a book go sit outside go talk to someone go do literally ANYTHING else then sit around and think about how this guy must hate you because of xyz reasons just because he’s not replying to a text. i will say him not responding was annoying as FUCK but i can also realize that i was putting all my self worth and just belief in LOVE in this entire cellular communication and nothing else which is not good. if you have have a chance to be open and honest about your intentions, and you feel like that’s something you can do…be honest and go for it. tell him directly or semi-directly your intentions. you seem like a lovely bright person and he sounds like he is showing signs of feeling the same way so don’t let something like miss communication ruin your life!!!! again i hope this isn’t like annoying as hell

pls dont apologize! honestly it really does help hearing from other people so ty :D and yeah i think im kinda starting to approach this point where. like yknow its his move and whatever he does i am gonna have to accept it. you ARE right about getting overinvested, i do have a tendency to do that and need to figure how to moderate this one specifically so ty for pointing that out!

#definitely worried about like. voicing interest or being upfront with intentions though yknow #especially like. again idk if hes just extremely shy and/or Doesnt Want To Get His Heart Broken or just like. is attracted but doesnt want #to take tgat anywhere. hes kinda hard to get a general read on at times. i think hes SLOWLY starting to like. unfurl now that im more #deliberately expressing interest #but yeah it was this afternoon that it kinda. ig there was this mental role reversal like.#oh he is a person and inherently a very very imperfect one. and thats gonna entail stuff thatll have to be worked out between us #like yknow when you like someone and youre just sizing yourselfup thinking 'well THEYRE perfect and im ME' and thats the root of your #nervousness.#idk like. with the general options either he just generally isnt fast to respond for other reasons #or hes shy or insecure or something #either way this is a PERSON here im dealing with not just a Static Crush i have to be good enough for #if any of that makes sense #BUT. butttttt. im still wanting to press forward anyways knowing that like. hes not perfect and theres stuff thatd have to be talked about #and worked out. like im still interested in him. kinda worries me even more like if hes nervous over anything and worried i might react #badly. like NO beloved i want to work things out if theres anything you need help with i want to help #and i want to make you soup <3 #but yeah man its. Yeah.#but yeah. taking a step back that frustration is valid but i need to not let it get the best of me though #ty again :)#archived.crush

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