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diedinflorida · 2 years

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there are a lot of hateful transmasc people out there, there are misogynists, a lot of guys willing to use their masculinity in shitty ways. i wish we had healthy support systems to lift guys out of that instead of the hatred they get sucked into when people turn their backs on them for the "sin" of being men. i've seen it happen, i've experienced it. a transmasculine person is one of the "good females/femmes" (even if they dont id as such) until they reach a certain point (whether they start T or simply reject the all men are evil rhetoric) and all solidarity is lost. of course that's going to feel bad. if you're continuously isolated and told these same t/erf talking points over and over again, you're going to become bitter. i'm fighting bitterness every day, seeing so many posts shitting on people like me. i have one person to talk to about this, who is my sibling (who isn't transmasc). i have no support group, no close friends, and i feel like if i were more inclined towards being a shithead, i would be taking it out on internet strangers who post transphobia. we desperately need these discussions and words and communities, unless people want to breed more awful guys who take it out on women.

really though it fucking sucks. you lose the community you had because you've "escaped oppression" (god i wish). you lose friends because their opinions on your identity are more important than your identity. you are rejected from spaces that welcomed you before because you're not feminine enough to be safe anymore. suddenly you're one of the Bad Guys, and there's nothing you can do about it. you're not allowed to talk about it. you have to bottle it up because don't you want to be just like a cis man? and if you do talk about it you're upholding the patriarchy. there's no winning.

i dont expect lots of people to see this post but please approach with sympathy and not hostility. men and masculine people should not be your enemy. the patriarchy sucks for us too

#a vent of sorts. :/#transandrophobia #transmisandry #for me i think being rejected from spaces i was welcome in before might also have to do with white femininity #how you go from being a Fragile Innocent White Woman to the Scary Evil White Man. you know basic bioessentialist garbage #idk how it is for transmascs of color. the spaces i was in were largely white and white feminism was used to frequently shut down people #esp talks about marginalized men. because in those spaces putting cis white womens feelings over talking about intersectionality was common #it wasnt just cis women that did this. that was the largest demographic but like everyone perpetuated it. the connecting thread was whitenes #speakin' candidly

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