#explain to them individually. solve problems that might be causing this issue

[blodeuweddschild]

Imo most of the time a child should decided to do/not do something not because they know their parents don’t want them it and they’re scared of the consequences, but because their parent has explained why something should/shouldn’t be done in a way the child understands and makes sense to them. And consider if you can’t find a reason to explain to your kids, maybe there’s no reason at all and your rules are arbitrary

[antisocialsharky]

You Don't Owe People a Perfect Apology

I would like to start this post by saying, that I absolutely 100% recognize, that it is beneficial within our current society, to offer an apology for any situation in which you harm other people or their belongings and/or make any other kind of mistake that could warrant an acknowledgement of said mistake and the consequences it might have caused.

Saying "I'm sorry" is a handy communication tool that basically conveys "I made a mistake, I recognize I made that mistake and I acknowledge that it caused some type of negative consequence and therefore I am saying this out loud to reassure you that I noticed".

Thats all it has to be and its beautiful isn't it? That we have come up with such an easy short way to communicate something, that solves a situation, that just tends to happen every now and then! Or it would be beautiful, if apologies hadn't turned into a literal minefield.

Both offline and online, theres millions of situations a day where people utter the words "I'm sorry". Maybe they accidentally ran into someone, maybe they said something particularly nasty during an argument, or maybe they committed a crime and are currently facing their victim in a courtroom.

The reasons why someone may feel like an apology is warranted will be individual, but theres certain situations in which it is societally expected to offer an apology (people would also say you "owe" that apology to someone in those situations).

And while, as previously mentioned, I can acknowledge that apologizing is a good communication tool that benefits the ways in which we live & interact together, I have really big issues with how apologies are dictated nowadays.

Because your apology is going to be perceived as "insincere" and "worthless" if it doesn't conform to certain standards. Those standards change wildly and are never actually globally applicable, they are deeply deeply individual.

And before you try to tear me apart, I'm not saying that you don't get to have individual standards for an apology. Like god no, PLEASE have individual standards! Please take a deep dive into your brain and explore what you need from someone in order to be able to trust them again & forgive them! Its so so so important to be in tune with your individual emotional needs and its also important, that you surround yourself with people who are capable of meeting those needs.

Now you might ask yourself where my problem with it is then and its right in that first sentence. I have a problem with the fact, that apologies are seen as "insincere" and "worthless" if they do not conform to the standards of the person reading it.

Who are you to determine whether someone is sincere about something they say? Who are you to decide what someones intent behind that apology actually is?

The thing is, that you don't know. You never, ever know. You can't look in their brain, you don't see their thoughts. What you see are learned patterns.

If you've been confronted with people who apologize by explaining their actions in that apology and they all went back on their word, you may start to think, that that is a definitive sign, that someones apology is insincere. Because it feels that way to you and you have spotted the pattern.

And like I said, its so goddamn good, that you figured it out for yourself, that someone putting an explanation in their apology, is what makes you feel like they don't mean it! Thats important info you uncovered about your feelings, but it says nothing about the worth or sincerity of their apology.

Their apology could be 100% sincere and it could have taken them the biggest effort to offer it up and it could still feel lax and insincere to you. Doesn't mean it is, because it simply doesn't work like that. Your feelings towards something do not determine its existence. A flower you feel hate towards, isn't an inherently shitty flower. A color you hate, isn't an inherently disgusting color.

Your feelings towards something are valid and you should have them and you get to have them, but you do not get to decide, that that is now a global rule that applies to everybody and that no one is allowed to like that flower, or that color and be alright with its existence.

What you do get to do, is communicate your feelings. You get to look at that person who apologized to you and you get to say "hey, I appreciate that you apologized! I personally need people to apologize without giving me an explanation, as that makes it feel insincere to me. If you want to stay around me, I'll require that from you in the future, okay?"

If that other person would like to stay around you and/or wants you to accept that apology/potentially forgive them, they'll have to accept your boundaries and wishes and gear those apologies towards your needs as much as they can.

If they do not want to stay around you, or have their apology accepted and/or they are (for whatever reason) simply not able/comfortable with your style of apologies, they get to communicate that and either they get to stand up and leave, or you get to communicate that this is non negotiable for you and then you get to stand up and leave.

But what neither of you gets to do, is call the other person "bad", "an asshole", "insincere" or anything similar to that, simply because they cannot/do not want to meet your individual needs.

Let me repeat that:

You get to have your individual apology needs and wishes. You get to ask for those to be fulfilled. You get to kick people out of your life if they do not.

Other people get to have problems meeting your individual needs and wishes. They get to communicate that. They get to leave too and refuse to offer up an improved apology.

None of that will determine in any way how sincere the apology was to begin with and as long as the apology happened, no one gets to drag the other person down for having a different way of handling it. Person 1 doesn't get to drag Person 2 for refusing to offer a perfect apology and Person 2 doesn't get to drag Person 1 for having & upholding their boundaries.

That is something I deeply believe and I also believe that going against this principle, is something that fuels a lot of online fights and debates.

Theres multiple reasons why someone may not be able to or may not feel comfortable offering up anything beyond their personal style of apology:

• they might have a hard time admitting their fault to begin with and need to do it on their terms

• they may not be able to feel sorry in an emotional way/may lack remorse

• they might still be processing the situation and do not feel comfortable giving details on their thought process until they're done going trough it all

• they may still be feeling a lot of big emotions that are in the way of anything beyond a basic acknowledgement

• they may have never learned to offer up any other way of an apology

• they may not think they are at fault and therefore do not feel alright with doing anything beyond the basic societal expectation

• they may have made had bad experiences with apolgies before and have only been believed if they explain themselves or if they use certain phrases, etc.

• and like...a million other things that are all equally valid

Theres also multiple reasons why someone may need an apology to be specific and cannot handle anyone elses style of apologizing:

• they may have made bad experiences with certain types of apologies

• they may have build a belief construct in which certain requirements need to be fulfilled in order for it to fit

• they may have a fear of abandonment and need to hear certain words/phrases

• they may need to be in control of the situation and dictate whats happening

• they may have learned that there is only one correct style of apologizing and struggle to see validity in other styles

• they may have been brought up around certain values that they need to see reflected in that apology

• and also like a million other equally valid things

Theres reasons why people ask others to correct their apologies and theres reasons why people cannot or do not want to and all that is okay and valid and wouldn't be as much of a problem, if we'd all just communciate and grasp, that we're asking for our personal needs to be met and can just kick people out of our lifes if they do not/cannot.

What we don't get to do, is drag other peoples attempts and villanize them, just because we personally have negative feelings towards them or their apology. Our feelings do not get to determine their reality. They determine our reality.

Trying to enforce rules globally (which especially happens online), that apologies can never contain explanations, that apologies need to always contain "I- statements", that the person has to feel true remorse, that they can only do it in written form, that they need to make you able to comment on it directly, etc. is harmful goddamn bullshit.

As I said, you get to have those as individual requirements and wishes. Those get to be your emotional needs and you get to feel as if an apology is not enough for you and you get to act accordingly in terms of whether you allow that person to be part of your life or not. But you have no business labeling them or their apology as inherently "insincere", "worthless", "bad" or anything like that. Thats not your call to make. Your call is "that apology does not meet my individual needs therefore I'm not accepting it and I'm not allowing that person in my life anymore", but thats it.

And I'm pretty much 90% sure, that most of you have never actually thought about what you're implying when you call apologies "insincere" or drag peoples apologies trough the mud, as if they failed to meet some big global standard. But don't worry, I'll tell you, thats what I'm here for:

• you're insulting their language capabilities & possibly their own cultural ways of offering apologies

• you're judging their ability to feel emotions

• you're blaming them for things they might not have chosen and may not have found a way to deal with

• you're punishing them for not knowing better

• you're publically calling them incapable

• you're reducing them as a person to your expectations and whether they meet them or not

• you're enforcing a standard born out of your individual needs without checking if you're currently trampling over other peoples needs

Its very likely, that you're not doing any of that intentionally! Instead you're probably just hurt and don't have your emotional needs met and thats a valid way to feel, but it does not excuse the harm you are now causing by trying to make everyone conform to what you want, without any regard for them as people.

Truth is, they apologized. They did their societal communication duty. They acknowledged their mistake that way and they made sure you heard them do it. "I'm sorry" / "I apologize" is a complete sentence.

Whether that apology is sincere or not, is only something the person offering it up will know. Their ability to feel or not feel remorse, the way they stated or did not state it, their behavior or lack thereof afterwards, doesn't tell you that for certain.

So could we please stop pretending as if theres this global rule all apologies have to conform to and just acknowledge that we're hurt, because it doesn't meet our own emotional needs and learn to communicate that, instead of pointing at it, screaming "bad!!! :((("? I think we're ready for that, or at least I genuinely hope so, because if I have to see one more post about how an apology was insincere, just because they happened to say "I am sorry it caused you hurt" instead of "I'm sorry I hurt you", I think I'll actually scream.

Long story short:

• "I'm sorry" (or a similar equivalent) is a full sentence and fulfills your societal duty of acknowledging your mistake

• Everyone gets to have individual apology standards and gets to have boundaries as to how far the people around them need to fulfill those, in order to be allowed around them!

• No one gets to try to dictate global apology standards (this whole post is me communicating my feelings about this. not a mannual to act after), because your needs aren't the global standard everyone needs to conform to everywhere. Chances are you're unintentionally insulting others, by trying to enforce that.

• Theres valid reasons for needing "perfect" apologies and valid reasons for refusing them. As long as an apology of any kind was given, no one is the villain/bad person here or needs to be dragged and insulted.

• You will never know the feelings and reasons behind other peoples behaviors and apologies for said behavior. Thinking that you do and that you can determine their sincerity without fail, is baffling to me and if you really could comprehend the complexity of humans like that, you should run for office or be a psychologist cus damn could you save us a lot of trouble.

first posted on my instagram (same @)

[scoobydoodean]

hello! i hate doing meta like when i have to think about spn as a show my head explodes. how does ur head not explode? how do u keep ur opinions clear in ur head? and how do u know all ur references to episodes? i swear, i've watched this show since i was thirteen but i look at the semi-longposts u make and i think i would never in a million years be so articulate and more importantly so clear in my own head what i think of spn. does this make sense to you? like, how long does it take for you to form your discourse opinions and to make your posts explaining them with all the episode references? i do love your posts, if that's not clear. even when i dont agree with them :D

<3 Jokes on you my head is always exploding at all times. The episode references help keep me grounded tbh (though there is also a time and place for playing in the sandbox). It is very easy to think about Supernatural too much I am with you on that. I also have that problem perpetually when writing academic papers and I have yet to figure out how to solve my issues staying on topic in that setting. I think we all have our different ways of thinking about things and that's great.

The truth is I don't always remember all of the numbers, but I generally know what episode I'm thinking of and a quick google of the season list will give me the relevant episode number for my tagging system. If I don't remember the episode very well, then a quick peruse of @/butch--dean's transcript search tool helps me out. If that doesn't work, or if I'm after visual elements, @/canonspngifs tag archive helps. Also you might notice I usually tag stuff I've gotten up to on this rewatch the most thoroughly. This rewatch in particular has caused a lot of episodes to stick in my mind, especially because I've been spending a lot of time talking about individual episodes and have been going through them very slowly. I started my rewatch with a goal and that goal was to build a database of my thoughts on the show and a catalog of deangirl meta, so I end up tagging certain episodes a lot and referring back to them because they're sort of seminal touch stones in my head, so those numbers stick.

Certain posts take me a long time and other ones don't take me long at all. Maybe like 20 minutes. But there are posts I've made that I also thought about for a few days or that caused me to go back and rewatch certain episodes and think through them and maybe talk with a few people about them. Whether I can type something out fast or not mainly depends on if I've thought about the subject a good bit/talked about it with other people a lot or not. If it's a common subject of disk horse then I will probably have thought about it and talked about it with various people on many occasions over many years so I kind of already know what I think and why. But also this rewatch and some posts from the mutuals have changed my mind on a lot of things I used to accept that I now realize are just really persistent fanon, and that also makes those subjects stick out.

[nursingwriter]

COUNSELING Counseling: Case Conceptualization Substance use disorder is not a healthy life activity that should be continued at any stage of life. There are only risks associated with this condition since the individual and his family suffer from this addiction. It leads to physical harm such as chronic pains, heart diseases, mental disturbances, physical disabilities, loss of mobility, etc., and creates severe and adverse negative reactions on cognitive functioning. Not only this but, the social connections and income possibilities are also adversely affected. This paper aims to develop a hypothetical case study of a diverse client and explain how the ASAM dimensions model of addiction can address a clients specific clinical needs. A 62-year old African American has been addicted to alcohol and his hypertension and diabetes prevalence for the past ten years. He drinks alcohol daily and repeatedly, sometimes in larger amounts. Along with these conditions, his doctor has prescribed that he has to strictly abandon alcohol since it can lead him to suffer from heart diseases. He has been prescribed some psychotherapy sessions and felt abstinence for five to six months. He still mentioned that whenever he was under stress due to family stressors, such as his wife suffering from Alzheimers and only one son who lives away and never talks to them, he starts binge drinking again. He mentioned that the days when he stopped alcohol use were when his wifes doctor told him that she might be showing signs of betterment. However, the alcohol drinking returned when he experienced stress coming from his wifes one of the risky episodes of Alzheimers illness after a long time. Along with his medical conditions, the African American 62-year older man started drinking alcohol. He found that he could not keep himself away until his problems were solved, which seemed impossible. ASAM Dimension 1: Acute Intoxication and Withdrawal The risk associated with the patients current intoxication is the combination of his medical conditions of hypertension and diabetes and alcohol addiction. Research has shown that 65% of the adults who binge drink, which means that drinking five or more glasses at the same time for men, have an extremely high risk of health problems similar to the African Americans case here (National Institute of Drug Abuse, 2020). High blood pressure, heart failure, diabetes, liver problems, bone issues, memory difficulties, mood disorders, etc., are some of the common ones. These risks aggravate up to 107% in alcohol use disorder of the age is above 65 years since their metabolism reacts slowly and their sensitivity to drugs or intoxications like alcohol is higher than adolescents or middle-aged people. In such a case, as in the given African Americans alcohol substance disorder, there are greater chances of falls and difficulties occurring in memory, coordination, or sometimes reaction time when the intoxication of extensive drinking is severe (National Institute of Drug Abuse, 2020). Investigations about old age alcoholism have suggested that posture mechanisms could be problematic once elderly people suffering from alcohol substance use disorder fall (Rigler, 2000). If falls are severe, they might result in hip fracture or dislocation of bones due to age factors. Their bones have become weak with age, and their recovery could be slow. Alcohol impairs and imbalances are common risks associated risks with this disorder that cause dietary hardships and orthostasis. Some old and chronic alcoholics do have the strength to fight with their condition and likely develop myopathy. The sensory functioning start to decline f treatment is not diagnosed on time and can continue to result in peripheral neuropathy in addition to neural damage. Osteoporosis is not new to these circumstances since balance, posture, and gait are already affected by alcoholism. The risk of severe withdrawal symptoms or seizures based on the patients history has been prevailing since it has been mentioned that the patient drinks when he is stressed due to the constant family stressors that are around him all day. When those stressors are diminished, such as his wifes better condition, he stops by himself as he got busy with other daily routines and did not have to worry about his problems anymore, which leads him to drink to relieve him of stress. Since alcohol addiction is self-induced and abstinence is also voluntary, he was able to control withdrawal symptoms. During this period, there were no specific severe withdrawal symptoms such as delirium or acute confusional state, and sometimes confabulation (Rigler, 2000). The current signs of withdrawal are not there as he had reverted to his previous drinking pattern and does not even adhere to his hypertension and diabetes medications sometimes because he forgets about the timings. His physician has strictly asked him to stop alcohol use, but he said he could not help it as he needs to find a way to end his problems first. Previous psychotherapy sessions were deemed to be helpful when he abstained from alcohol. Still, it was soon found out that the alleviation of his family stressors led the doctors to conclude that eliminating his stress could end his addiction to alcohol. Ambulatory detoxification might not be a suitable option for this patient since his age, and other medical conditions do not allow for this outpatient option to be conducted safely. No one at home could support him if he opts for it. His signs of withdrawal could be mild to moderate, as mentioned above; he has the willpower to abstain from alcohol only if his stress is reduced, but it is still not happening any time soon, and again has reverted to his previous drinking pattern. It is observed that if his alcohol abstinence were from medication prescribed by the doctors and forcefully induced without his willpower, then his struggle would have been different, and he might have shown signs of withdrawal. Yet, when his stress reduces, he naturally stops alcohol use. This natural transition to a normal routine does not induce withdrawal symptoms, leading to ambulatory detoxification that might not be fruitful. ASAM Dimension 2: Biomedical Conditions and Complications The patients current physical illnesses are hypertension and diabetes that need to be addressed and may complicate the treatment. The hardships in managing these diseases are already witnessed when he is under alcohol intoxication and forgets to take his prescribed medicines for these conditions on time. His physical health deteriorates at times, and he has to call his doctor for a visit repetitively. The two ailments are chronic since they have been developing for the past ten years. The patient is taking treatment for both of them and psychotherapy to reduce his stress and alcohol dependency. Moreover, it has been studied that long-term or chronic stress can cause higher chances of increased hypertension, leading to heart failures or strokes becoming easier in old age (Spruill, 2010). ASAM Dimension 3: Cognitive, Behavioral and Emotional Conditions There are currently no psychiatric illnesses. The risk for cognitive problems persists due to alcohol use disorder as his memory does not help him. He finds himself incapable of taking good care of his wife and forgets to adhere to his medical treatment for hypertension and diabetes, which could be attributed to age factors. The chronic conditions could be long-term stress and the continuing pervasiveness of both hypertension and diabetes that could affect the treatment outcomes. The emotional, behavioral, and cognitive problems are part of the aging transition of the patient and the alcohol use disorder, where it is previously stated that his memory does not support him quite often. Therefore, his cognitive functioning could cause a hindrance due to the addictive disorder. It cannot be autonomous. If connected to addiction and not treated timely, the severe impacts could be seen in this patients case as threehealth conditions should not be left untreated for a long time. It could lead the patient to seek specific mental health treatment. In association with the normal prevalence of racial discrimination of African, American treatment is taken into account. This patients current condition might worsen psychologically if proper treatment is not provided on time (Assari et al., 2019). The patient finds difficulty managing daily living activities as he lives alone, suffers from his addiction, and has stress while coping with his wifes illness. His neighbors sometimes do the daily cooking, home caretaking, and shopping upon his request. Otherwise, he tries to do it independently depending upon how much his condition allows him, which is seldom. The patient tries hard to cope with his cognitive problems since he has to take care of his wife, but when he has been extreme intoxication effects, he gives in on some days. ASAM Dimension 4: Readiness and Motivation The patients emotional and cognitive awareness of the need to change is high as he willingly wants to take care of his wife and realizes that he is the only one there for her. There is no other family member he could rely on other than his neighbors, who sometimes come to help upon his call. He knows they have their life routines and could be available for nursing his wife. Thus, he understands his responsibility towards his wife and wants to change himself. Also, he insists that it is only due to his stress, and if stress is relieved, he would automatically be less dependent on alcohol. His level of commitment and readiness for change is between medium to high. His degree of cooperation with treatment remains high for the first week; afterward, when his stress starts taking him over again, he becomes less adherent to the treatment and more dependent on alcohol to relieve his stress. He mentions in psychotherapy sessions that he wants to get rid of his chronic stress and wants to live a healthy life for his wife; he also mentioned that it has been possible in the past when his wife got better and his stress automatically left him, he was able to abstain from alcohol during those days. Still, his cooperation with treatment does not remain strong once stress occupies him again. His awareness of the relationship between alcohol and negative consequences is high due to the same reason of caretaking of his wife. ASAM Dimension 5: Relapse, Continued Use, Continued Problem The patient does not seem to be in immediate danger as his willpower is strong, and he wants to change his current condition. He only blames his tress for the miserable condition he is in and wants to end it for becoming better as soon as possible. It is deduced that he would be in a stable mental health condition as long as his strong willpower does not discard him. The patient understands his addictive behavior and knows the reasons, stress, which he wants to dispose of. He wants to prevent relapse. He did not exhibit any intention of suicidal behavior until now. His problems are severe since his age is the prominent factor that might contribute if successfully not engaged in treatment at this point. High alcohol usage and hypertension, and diabetes would easily lead him to heart failure at any moment. For reducing alcohol dependency, he is aware that he needs to be less stressed. The patient is fully conscious of his relapse triggers. He experienced betterment in his stressors reduction once his wifes condition improved for a short period and he was seen less relying on alcohol. His coping mechanism heavily relies on his stress, and his cravings increase once this condition worsens. ASAM Dimension 6: Recovery Environment The family members, significant others, or work situations do not threaten the patents safety or engagement in treatment; though, living situations, belonging to a racial minority, and access to healthcare could be a threat. This particular race has faced health disparities as differences by race, even for elderly people, have been predominant over the past several decades in the country (Mullins et al., 2005). The patient has supportive friendships around his neighborhood. Still, he does not want to trouble them regularly because of his addiction and irresponsibility due to his intoxicated condition towards his wife. He believes that he should not direct his problems towards his friends, who are not even the source of his troubles. He should be able to become dutiful for himself and his family. Hence, he does not ask for their help regularly until he is helpless. In terms of his treatment, they could be a source of support for increasing the likelihood of success of his treatment; still, they cannot be relied upon. There are no legal, vocational, social service agency, or criminal justice mandates that may enhance the patients motivation for engagement in treatment. Further, there are no transportation, child care, and housing issues that need to be clarified and addressed. There are employment issues since he needs to be financially strong for his wifes and his treatment. He retired a few weeks ago but is still looking for employment to carry on with his wifes and own treatment. He constantly remains in search of employment assistance so that his continuous source of income could lessen some of his worries and stress. Suggested Treatment Plan Considering all of the above six ASAM dimensions of the patient, the suggested treatment plan would be guided self-change for mixed substance abuse or dependence. A great emphasis on this self-change model would be deemed better for this patient since he does not have strong social support at the moment that could help him adhere to his treatment plan (Cordaro, 2006, p. 31). He needs to self-regulate and self-monitor on his own since he has the willpower to do so. He wants to get better for his wife and look after her. For this, the suggested treatment plan, the self-change intervention, would be on an individual level, though previously they have been used on group levels. However, men in a group do not exhibit their alcohol problems openly as they are uncomfortable and fear social stigma (Sobell & Sobell, 2005). Individually targeted self-change intervention for this patient is predicted to produce positive results in reducing alcohol dependency to reduce his stress. The patient complained that stress reduction is the sole reason for his alcohol use disorder, could be treated with mindfulness-based stress reduction (MBSR), which is successfully targeted towards elderly people, particularly those suffering from memory problems (Berk et al., 2017). References Assari, S., Smith, J., Mistry, R., Farokhnia, M., & Bazargan, M. (2019). Substance Use among Economically Disadvantaged African American Older Adults; Objective and Subjective Socioeconomic Status.International Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health,16(10), 1826. https://doi.org/10.3390/ijerph16101826 Berk, L., Hotterbeekx, R., Os, J. & Boxtel, M. (2017). Mindfulness-based stress reduction in middle-aged and older adults with memory complaints: A mixed-method study. Aging and Mental Health, 22(9), 1113-1120. https://doi.org/10.1080/13607863.2017.1347142 Cordaro, M. (2006). The use of treatment process variables to differentiate between completers and dropouts for a guided self-change adolescent substance abuse intervention . FIU Electronic Theses and Dissertations. https://digitalcommons.fiu.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=3829&context=etd Mullins, C. D., Blatt, L., Gbarayor, C. M., Yang, H. W., & Baquet, C. (2005). Health disparities: a barrier to high-quality care.American Journal of Health-System Pharmacy : AJHP: Official Journal of the American Society of Health-System Pharmacists,62(18), 18731882. https://doi.org/10.2146/ajhp050064 National Institute of Drug Abuse. (2020, July). Substance use in older adults drug facts. https://www.drugabuse.gov/publications/substance-use-in-oldr-adults-drugfacts Rigler, S.K. (2000). Alcoholism in elderly. American Family Physician, 61(6), 1710-1716. https://www.aafp.org/afp/2000/0315/p1710.html Sobell, M.B. & Sobell, L.C. (2005). Guided self-change model of treatment for substance use disorders. Journal of Cognitive Psychotherapy, 19(3), 199-210. https://doi.org/10.1891/jcop.2005.19.3.199 Spruill T. M. (2010). Chronic psychosocial stress and hypertension.Current Hypertension Reports,12(1), 1016. https://doi.org/10.1007/s11906-009-0084-8 Read the full article

[azeez-unv]

"Maintaining Proper Hairstyle in the School System" தமிழில்

🔘WHY IT'S HAPPENING

Before you can solve the problem of students having improper hairstyles, it's important to understand the root causes. There are two main reasons why students fail to follow school guidelines regarding hairstyles.

REASON 1: THEY DON’T BELIEVE IT MATTERS.

Despite school rules clearly stating the importance of proper grooming, many students do not take these guidelines seriously. They might assume that as long as they are attending school and completing their work, their appearance should not be a concern. At some point, the enforcement of grooming standards might have faded, leading students to believe that the rule is not strictly applied.

If students see that some of their peers get away with improper hairstyles without consequences, they are likely to follow the same path. Over time, they become conditioned to believe that hairstyle rules are flexible, rather than an essential part of the school’s discipline and decorum.

REASON 2: THEY DON’T UNDERSTAND WHAT “PROPER HAIRSTYLE” MEANS.

Although it may seem straightforward, students may have different interpretations of what constitutes an acceptable hairstyle. The school might define it as neat, simple, and in line with dress code policies, while students might think that as long as their hair is clean, any style should be acceptable.

Students coming from different cultural backgrounds or influenced by trends may have differing opinions on appropriate hairstyles. If previous teachers or school authorities have been inconsistent in enforcing the rule, students may not have a clear understanding of the expected standards.

In most cases, both of these factors play a role in students’ reluctance to maintain proper hairstyles. However, rather than labeling them as rebellious, it’s more effective to place the responsibility on educators and school administrators to establish clear expectations and accountability.

WHAT YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO EXPECT

Some educators may wonder if it’s realistic to expect students to follow strict grooming guidelines. The answer is yes. Regardless of the school’s location or grade level, students should be able to maintain proper hairstyles in accordance with school policies.

That said, schools should also allow some room for personal expression within reasonable limits. Hairstyles should not be overly distracting, unkempt, or against the principles of school discipline. Schools should create an environment that balances individuality with uniformity, fostering a sense of respect and discipline.

THE SOLUTION

If you are looking for a simple yet effective way to enforce proper hairstyles, the solution lies in clear expectations, consistent practice, and fair enforcement of consequences.

STEP 1: DEFINE EXPECTATIONS IN EXPLICIT DETAIL.

▪️The first step in fixing the issue is to define in precise terms what is considered a proper hairstyle. It is not enough to say, “Keep your hair neat.” Instead, describe it in detail. If possible, provide visual examples through posters or school handbooks.

▪️Schools may bring in student volunteers or use images to model both acceptable and unacceptable hairstyles. This gives students a clear picture of what is expected and leaves no room for misinterpretation.

▪️Additionally, explain why these rules exist—whether for hygiene, discipline, or uniformity. When students understand the purpose behind a rule, they are more likely to comply.

STEP 2: HAVE STUDENTS PRACTICE GOOD GROOMING HABITS.

Once students understand what is expected, they should be given opportunities to practice proper grooming. Schools can hold grooming sessions, invite professional barbers or hairstylists to demonstrate easy-to-maintain hairstyles, and encourage students to maintain their hair regularly.

To make this process engaging, schools can introduce grooming awareness campaigns or reward students who consistently follow the hairstyle guidelines. Making it a positive experience rather than a punishment will encourage students to participate willingly.

STEP 3: TEACH THE CONSEQUENCES.

It is important to clearly outline the consequences of not adhering to hairstyle rules. Walk students through the disciplinary steps that would follow if they repeatedly ignore guidelines. Consequences should be fair and consistent, ranging from verbal reminders to more formal actions if necessary.

At the same time, educators should ensure that consequences are not overly harsh. Instead of punishing students, schools should focus on corrective measures, such as providing them with options for acceptable hairstyles or directing them to resources for grooming.

STEP 4: APPLY THE RULES CONSISTENTLY.

Once expectations have been set and students have had the chance to practice proper grooming, it’s time to implement the rules in real scenarios. Teachers and school staff should consistently reinforce the rules without exceptions.

If a student shows up with an improper hairstyle, they should be reminded of the rules and given a chance to correct it. If non-compliance continues, the appropriate disciplinary measures should be enforced. By maintaining consistency, students will understand that the rule is non-negotiable.

STEP 5: CONTINUE TO REINFORCE EXPECTATIONS.

Even after establishing clear guidelines, it is essential to keep reinforcing them. Before any major school event or uniform check, teachers should remind students of the grooming standards.

Encourage teachers to mention hairstyle expectations before any shift in school activities, such as before photo day, formal ceremonies, or sports events. This serves as a proactive measure to prevent violations rather than reacting after they occur.

Taking a preventive approach, rather than a punitive one, helps create a school culture where students willingly comply with grooming standards. By making expectations clear, practicing good habits, and consistently reinforcing the rules, schools can successfully maintain proper hairstyles while fostering a positive and respectful learning environment.

மாணவர்கள் சரியான முடி அலங்காரம் கொண்டிருக்க என்ன செய்யலாம்?

🔘ஏன் இது ஒரு பிரச்சனை?

மாணவர்கள் பள்ளிக்கு செல்லும்போது அவர்களின் உடை, ஒழுங்கு மற்றும் தோற்றம் பள்ளியின் ஒழுங்குமுறைக்கு ஏற்ப இருக்க வேண்டும். ஆனால், சில மாணவர்கள் ஒழுங்கற்ற அல்லது விதிமுறைகளை மீறும் விதமாக முடியை வைத்திருப்பதை காணலாம். இது பள்ளி ஒழுங்கின்மையை ஏற்படுத்தலாம் மற்றும் மாணவர்களின் கவனத்தை மறுப்பதற்கு ஒரு காரணமாக இருக்கலாம்.

இதன் முக்கியமான இரண்டு காரணங்கள் உள்ளன:

1.அவர்கள் இது ஒரு கட்டாயம் என்று நம்பவில்லை

பள்ளி நிர்வாகம் அல்லது ஆசிரியர்கள் சரியான முடி அலங்காரத்தை பற்றி அறிவுறுத்தினாலும், சில மாணவர்கள் அதை மிக முக்கியமானதாகக் கருதமாட்டார்கள். இது ஏற்கனவே தங்கள் பழக்க வழக்கமாக இருக்கலாம் அல்லது விதிகளை மீறினால் எந்த எதிர்விளைவுகளும் ஏற்படாது என நினைக்கலாம்.

2.சரியான முடி அலங்காரம் என்றால் என்ன என்பதை அவர்கள் முழுமையாக புரிந்துகொள்ளவில்லை

சில மாணவர்கள் எந்த விதமான முடி அலங்காரம் பள்ளியில் ஏற்றுக்கொள்ளப்படும் என்பதை தெளிவாகப் புரிந்துகொள்ளாமல் இருக்கலாம். உதாரணமாக, "சுத்தமாக முடியை வைத்திருங்கள்" என்று சொல்லும் போது, அவர்கள் முழுமையாக விறைவாக சீவினால் போதும் என நினைக்கலாம். ஆனால், பள்ளியின் விதிமுறைகளின்படி முடி சிறிது குறைந்திருக்க வேண்டும், நேர்த்தியாக இருக்க வேண்டும், மற்றும் வெள்ளை பணியாளர் முடி அலங்கார மாதிரியைப் பின்பற்ற வேண்டும் என்ற நிலை இருந்தால், அவர்கள் அதனை முறையாக விளங்கிக் கொள்ள வேண்டும்.

🔘எதிர்பார்க்க வேண்டிய ஒழுங்குமுறை

பள்ளியில் ஒழுங்கான மற்றும் மரியாதைக்குரிய தோற்றத்தைக் கொண்டிருப்பது கட்டாயமாக இருக்க வேண்டும். மாணவர்கள் பள்ளி நேரத்தில் சரியான முடி அலங்காரத்துடன் இருக்க வேண்டும் என்பதில் எந்த சந்தேகமும் இல்லை.

மாணவர்களுக்கு முடி அலங்காரம் தொடர்பான சில முக்கிய நடைமுறைகள்:

▪️பள்ளி விதிமுறைகளுக்கு ஏற்ப முடியை வெட்டிக்கொள்ள வேண்டும்.

▪️முடியை ஒழுங்காக சீவி, தேவையான அளவுக்கு மட்டும் நீளமாக வைத்திருக்க வேண்டும்.

▪️பள்ளியில் அனுமதிக்கப்படாத ஹேர் ஸ்டைல்களை தவிர்க்க வேண்டும் (எ.கா., நிறமாற்றம், ஸ்பைக், ஒதுக்குமுறை மீறல்).

▪️சிறப்பு சமயங்களில் பள்ளி அனுமதிக்கும் விதத்தில் மட்டும் முடியை அலங்கரிக்க அனுமதி இருக்கலாம்.

🔘பிரச்சனையின் தீர்வு

மாணவர்கள் சரியான முடி அலங்காரம் கொண்டிருக்க வேண்டும் என்பதை உறுதிசெய்ய சிறந்த வழிகள் என்ன?

1.விதிகளை மிகத் தெளிவாக விளக்குங்கள்

மாணவர்கள் எந்த விதமான முடி அலங்காரம் பள்ளியில் எதிர்பார்க்கப்படுகிறது என்பதை தெளிவாக விளங்க வேண்டும்.

அதற்காக:

▪️போதுமான விளக்கங்களுடன் விதிமுறைகளை எழுதி மாணவர்களுக்கும் பெற்றோருக்கும் வழங்க வேண்டும்.

▪️முடி அலங்காரம் எப்படி இருக்க வேண்டும் என்பதற்கான மாதிரி படங்களை காட்டலாம்.

▪️ஒழுங்கற்ற முடி அலங்காரம் எவ்வாறு பள்ளியின் ஒழுங்கினை பாதிக்கக்கூடும் என்பதைக் கூறலாம்.

2.மாணவர்களிடம் பயிற்சி அளிக்க வேண்டும்

ஒரு தடவை விதிமுறைகளை விளக்கிவிட்டால், அதை அவர்கள் நடைமுறைப்படுத்தி இருக்கிறார்களா என்பதை கண்காணிக்க வேண்டும்.

▪️எப்படி பயிற்சி அளிக்கலாம்?

ஒரு செய்முறை விளக்கம் செய்யலாம். உதாரணமாக, சில மாணவர்களை அழைத்து அவர்களது முடி அமைப்பை ஒப்பிட்டு சரியான முறையை விளக்கலாம்.

பள்ளி தலைமை ஆசிரியர்கள் அல்லது நிர்வாகிகள், மாணவர்களுடன் நேரடியாகச் சந்தித்து, முடி அலங்காரம் பற்றிய விழிப்புணர்வை ஏற்படுத்தலாம்.

3.பரிந்துரை மற்றும் எச்சரிக்கை கொடுக்க வேண்டும்

முதல் முறையாக விதிமுறையை மீறிய மாணவர்களுக்கு எச்சரிக்கை அளிக்கலாம். தொடர்ந்து மீறினால், பெற்றோர்களை அழைத்து, அவர்கள் மாணவர்களின் முடி அலங்காரத்தை சரிசெய்வதற்கான அறிவுரை வழங்கலாம்.

4.விளைவுகளை உறுதியாக அமல்படுத்துங்கள்

மாணவர்கள் பள்ளி விதிகளை மீறினால், அதற்குரிய நடவடிக்கைகளை உடனடியாக மேற்கொள்ள வேண்டும்.

ஒழுங்கற்ற முடி அமைப்புள்ள மாணவர்களை கிளாஸ்க்குள் அனுமதிக்காமல், வீட்டிற்கு அனுப்பி, சரி செய்த பிறகு மட்டும் வர அனுமதிக்கலாம்.

பலமுறை மீறுபவர்கள் பள்ளி நிர்வாகத்தினால் தனிப்பட்ட முறையில் கலந்துரையாடப்பட வேண்டும்.

🔘தொடர்ச்சியாக விதிகளை மீண்டும் நினைவுபடுத்துங்கள்

மாணவர்களுக்கு ஒவ்வொரு முறை புதிய செயல்பாட்டிற்குள் செல்லும் முன், அவ்வாறு நடக்க வேண்டும் என்பதை கூறி அவர்களை முன்கூட்டியே தயார் செய்யுங்கள். உதாரணமாக:

முதல் நாள் கூட்டத்தில் முடி அலங்காரம் பற்றிய ஒரு சிறிய நினைவூட்டலை வழங்கலாம்.

பொதுவான தடைகளை நினைவுபடுத்தி, அதனை தவிர்ப்பது எப்படி என்பதையும் விளக்கலாம்.

ஒழுங்கு முறையை கடைப்பிடிக்க மறுக்கும் மாணவர்களுக்கு சிறப்பு கவனம் செலுத்தலாம்.

🔘தீர்மானம்: மாணவர்களின் தோற்றம் மற்றும் ஒழுங்கு என்பது பள்ளியின் கட்டுப்பாட்டில் இருக்க வேண்டிய ஒரு முக்கியமான அம்சம். சரியான முடி அலங்காரம் என்பது ஒழுங்குமுறையின் ஒரு முக்கிய பகுதி என்பதால், இதனை ஆசிரியர்கள், பெற்றோர்கள், மற்றும் மாணவர்கள் இணைந்து செயல்படுவதன் மூலம் உறுதி செய்யலாம். முறையான விளக்கம், விளைவுகள், மற்றும் தெளிவான விதிமுறைகள் மூலம், மாணவர்கள் ஒழுங்காக முடியை வைத்திருக்க செய்யலாம்.

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Dr. Karen Hawk Psychologist Explains the Impact of Therapy on Daily Life

Therapy is often viewed as a space for discussing deep emotional struggles, challenging past experiences, and working through mental health issues. However, its impact extends far beyond the therapy session itself, influencing every area of an individual’s daily life. Dr. Karen Hawk, a psychologist in Gilbert, Arizona, is dedicated to helping clients understand how therapy can create meaningful, lasting changes that improve overall well-being and daily functioning.

While therapy may seem like an occasional check-in with a mental health professional, its effects are felt long after the session ends. Through personalized techniques, tools, and insights, therapy can empower individuals to approach everyday situations with greater emotional balance, improved decision-making, and a more positive outlook.

How Therapy Transforms Daily Life

Therapy offers an opportunity for individuals to learn more about themselves, their patterns of thinking, and their emotional responses. By gaining a deeper understanding of the mind-body connection, clients can make intentional changes that positively influence their behavior, relationships, and overall approach to life. Here’s how therapy can make a profound impact on daily life:

1. Better Emotional Regulation

One of the most significant benefits of therapy is learning to manage and regulate emotions. Many people struggle with emotional outbursts, frustration, or feeling overwhelmed in certain situations. Through therapy, individuals develop coping strategies and tools to better understand and regulate their emotional responses.

Dr Karen Hawk Psychologist Gilbert Arizona emphasizes that emotional regulation doesn’t mean suppressing feelings; it means recognizing and understanding emotions in real time and responding in ways that are healthy and productive. This ability translates into smoother daily interactions, less conflict, and greater emotional stability, making everyday experiences more manageable.

For instance, a person who struggles with anger might learn specific techniques in therapy to identify triggers, pause before reacting, and communicate their feelings more constructively. Over time, this skill becomes ingrained, positively impacting work, family dynamics, and personal well-being.

2. Enhanced Problem-Solving Skills

Therapy encourages critical thinking and problem-solving by challenging unhelpful thought patterns and encouraging new perspectives. Dr Karen Hawk Psychologist Gilbert AZ helps clients identify the root causes of their challenges, which leads to a more accurate understanding of their problems and how to address them.

With the tools gained in therapy, individuals are more equipped to approach life’s challenges from a place of clarity and confidence. Instead of feeling stuck or overwhelmed, they can break down complex issues into manageable steps and take action. This problem-solving ability extends beyond therapy and affects everything from managing work deadlines to resolving conflicts in relationships.

3. Improved Relationships

Therapy fosters better communication, empathy, and understanding, which are crucial components of healthy relationships. Dr. Hawk works with clients to explore relationship dynamics, identify unhealthy patterns, and learn new ways of interacting with others.

Whether it’s romantic relationships, family interactions, or friendships, therapy provides the tools to express needs clearly, listen actively, and navigate conflict constructively. Clients who engage in therapy often find that their relationships become more fulfilling, as they develop deeper connections and create healthier, more positive exchanges.

In daily life, this means less time spent in conflict, more time spent understanding one another, and an overall improvement in interpersonal dynamics. Clients may notice that they experience less stress in social situations and feel more equipped to handle difficult conversations.

4. Increased Self-Confidence

A common outcome of therapy is a boost in self-esteem and self-worth. Dr Karen Hawk Psychologist Gilbert works with clients to uncover negative beliefs or self-doubt that may have been limiting their potential. Through therapeutic tools, clients can reframe negative self-talk, embrace their strengths, and develop a healthier, more compassionate view of themselves.

This increased self-confidence impacts daily life by encouraging individuals to take risks, set healthy boundaries, and pursue personal goals. Whether it’s applying for a new job, asserting needs in a relationship, or trying something new, the sense of self-worth fostered in therapy gives individuals the courage to make choices that align with their values and desires.

5. Reduced Stress and Anxiety

Therapy is a powerful tool for managing stress and anxiety, which are common struggles in daily life. Dr. Hawk teaches clients relaxation techniques, mindfulness practices, and cognitive reframing exercises that help reduce the physical and emotional effects of stress.

Clients who engage in therapy learn how to shift their mindset, reduce the intensity of anxious thoughts, and approach stressors with a more balanced perspective. Instead of feeling overwhelmed by daily demands, individuals can respond to stress in a more controlled, proactive manner.

These tools make a noticeable difference in how clients handle daily stressors—whether it’s managing a busy work schedule, balancing personal responsibilities, or dealing with unexpected challenges. The result is an overall reduction in anxiety, a sense of calm, and a greater ability to manage day-to-day stress.

6. Greater Self-Awareness

Therapy encourages deep self-reflection, helping individuals understand their emotional triggers, thought patterns, and behaviors. This increased self-awareness empowers individuals to make intentional changes that improve their overall quality of life.

For example, someone struggling with perfectionism might work with Dr. Hawk to understand the root causes of their self-critical tendencies. Through therapy, they can learn to embrace imperfection and approach tasks with more self-compassion. This shift in mindset leads to greater satisfaction and less self-criticism in daily activities, whether it’s at work, school, or home.

Self-awareness developed in therapy helps individuals make choices that align with their values and long-term goals, making their daily experiences more meaningful and fulfilling.

7. A More Positive Outlook

Therapy helps individuals reframe negative thought patterns and develop a more positive outlook on life. Dr Karen Hawk Psychologist Gilbert Arizona guides clients in identifying automatic negative thoughts and replacing them with more realistic, constructive beliefs.

Over time, this shift in perspective leads to a greater sense of optimism and resilience, even in the face of challenges. Clients often find that they approach daily situations with a renewed sense of hope and confidence, believing in their ability to overcome obstacles and create positive change.

Long-Term Impact on Daily Life

The benefits of therapy extend well beyond the session itself. As clients continue to integrate the insights, tools, and techniques learned in therapy, they often experience long-term changes in their daily life. These changes include improved emotional well-being, stronger relationships, better coping skills, and a deeper sense of self-awareness.

By addressing mental health concerns in a safe and supportive space, therapy empowers individuals to live more fulfilled, balanced, and meaningful lives. Whether it’s handling stress more effectively, improving communication, or embracing personal growth, therapy offers lasting benefits that resonate throughout daily life.

Conclusion

Therapy with Dr. Karen Hawk can profoundly impact how individuals experience and navigate their daily lives. Through increased emotional regulation, improved problem-solving, and a greater sense of self-awareness, therapy provides individuals with the tools they need to thrive in both personal and professional settings. If you’re looking to make positive changes in your daily life and improve your mental well-being, Dr. Hawk’s therapeutic approach offers the support and guidance needed to create lasting transformation.

Reach out to Dr. Karen Hawk in Gilbert, Arizona, and take the first step toward a more balanced and fulfilling life.

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How Astrology Can Help You Navigate Married Life

Marriage is a beautiful union, but it does come with its share of problems. Differences in personalities, life goals, and expectations can sometimes create friction between partners. Though open communication and mutual respect are crucial, astrology brings a unique perspective to married life. Dr. Vinay Bajrangi, a well-known astrologer, talks about how marriage astrology can help couples better understand each other and address common marital issues.

Marriage Compatibility: The Basis of Harmony

Astrology emphasizes the importance of compatibility between partners. Marriage compatibility analysis involves studying the horoscopes of both individuals to evaluate their emotional, physical, and intellectual alignment. By examining factors such as the placement of planets, zodiac signs, and houses related to relationships, astrologers like Dr. Vinay Bajrangi can assess potential areas of harmony and conflict.

For example, the seventh house of a birth chart is an indicator of marital relationships. The ruling planet and its aspects can give much information about a person's attitude towards marriage. Compatibility analysis can help the couple know where they are strong and weak, hence working towards a more harmonious relationship.

Timing Is Everything: Know Your Timing of Marriage

The most common query people ask from astrologers is when will i get married. The right time for marriage determines the stability and happiness in the relationship. Dr. Vinay Bajrangi explains how planetary transits and dasha periods can determine when a person is likely to have a successful marriage.

For instance, favorable alignments of Venus, which is the planet of love, and Jupiter, which is the planet of wisdom, normally denote auspicious times for a good marriage. An astrologer can guide them to choose the right time when planetary energies will not be a problem, thereby reducing potential friction and maximizing the possibility of a friendly relationship.

Solving Married Life Issues Using Astrology

Even the best of couples face problems. Astrology helps understand the underlying causes of marital problems and gives remedies to overcome them. According to Dr. Vinay Bajrangi, the analysis of malefic planets like Saturn, Rahu, or Mars can be helpful in finding the source of friction in a marriage. For instance, Mangal Dosha (Mars affliction) leads to conflicts, but specific remedies like rituals, gemstones, or lifestyle adjustments can help overcome it.

Additional knowledge can be gained through understanding each partner's moon sign and emotional tendencies, hence improving communication and empathy. Astrology also shows how factors such as career or family might influence the marriage, helping couples navigate challenges more informedly.

Strengthening Your Bond Through Astrology

Astrology is not only about predicting challenges but also creating solutions. By understanding the astrological profile, couples can work upon bond building. For instance, performing specific rituals or following Vastu can create a right environment at home. In addition, when special occasions are celebrated on astrologically significant dates, it enhances the emotional bond between the partners.

Conclusion

Marital astrology provides a road map for better understanding and improvement in marital relationships. Starting from compatibility to solving problems and know your timing for marriage, astrology is beneficial for couples. According to Dr. Vinay Bajrangi, although astrology may guide, success in a marriage is a result of effort and commitment on both sides. With love and understanding accompanied by the wisdom of astrology, a couple can have a lifelong, fulfilling relationship.

Source URL: https://medium.com/@latemarriage/how-astrology-can-help-you-navigate-married-life-04697140bf21

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Advantages of choosing the Best dental care in Paschim Vihar

Are you searching for the leading dental care centre in Paschim Vihar? Therefore, Essence Dental is your one stop destination for getting all your dental problems and needs solved and met. We are a dental clinic offering all the specialties of dentistry and our team comprises highly skilled dentists in Paschim Vihar and the surrounding regions.

Finding the Best Dentist in Paschim Vihar should not be taken lightly because the dentist is the one who is going to manage your teeth and oral health. At Essence Dental, this is well understood and we give you tailored dental services based on your individual requirements. All of them are carefully selected, welltrained, and updated concerning the modern trends in the dental field. We employ complex diagnostic tools and equipment in the identification of oral diseases and disorders.

Best Dental Care In Paschim Vihar

A list of services that our clinic provides includes; routine check up and cleaning, fillings, root canal treatment, crowns and bridges, braces and aligners, implants, dentures, gum treatments, pediatric dentistry, smile designing and teeth whitening etc. At Essence Dental, you can get all your general and complex dental care from our highly skilled dentists.

What really defines Intermountain, however, is our focus on the patient: patient-centered care. We also respect patient dignity and ensure that all the procedures and costs are fully explained to you so that you can make the proper decisions. It is essential to differentiate dental phobia from a basic understanding that dental procedures might be painful, and our team guarantees to make you feel comfortable throughout the treatment. We also have specialized dentistry for children and those who are elderly.

Our well-equipped clinic is situated in Paschim Vihar West Delhi providing easy access to each patient. We work at providing the best quality patient care and the clinic is cleaned and sterilized to the highest standard. Having the finest set of dentists and a sophisticated setup, we ensure that every procedure is carried out without causing any discomfort to the patient.

Therefore, be it a simple cavity or gum problem, missing teeth, misaligned or crooked teeth, chipped or cracked teeth, stained teeth or any other severe dental issues, visit Essence Dental in Paschim Vihar. Best dental care in Paschim Vihar is provided with a guaranteed level of quality for the patient’s satisfaction. You can schedule an appointment online or simply contact us at our dentist office to book an initial examination with our dentists. Welcome to the Smile Health Centre, where our priority is your smile.

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Thinking more, doing less

“Enlightened Sloth”, odd name for blogging, isn’t it? Coming up with a name can take quite a lot of iterations but I came up with this one in a matter of a few seconds, that’s how relatable it is. Having so many ideas and plans and not being able to execute even one of them, been through it? Sloths are known to be lazy, slow-moving and not-doing-much kind, which if attributed to humans, can seriously hinder self-growth. Procrastination and lethargy affects a lot of people’s personal development, but these are not necessarily a product of low brain activity, they might have an ocean of thoughts racing through their minds. This breed thinks a lot and does very little and seems like the laziest bunch, hence the name.

This blog focuses on a specific set of young adults just starting their careers who constantly question self-worth, resulting in self-doubt, which causes Imposter Syndrome. They are highly motivated individuals with a lot of potential but can’t get through the cluttered structure of breadth and depth (explained later in the blog) of things. A goal planning issue with overthinkers, which starts at an early age, “What is my calling?”, “Which field to pursue?”, “Will I be able to achieve my goals?”, and goes on till they have reached a point in life where further self-discovery is limited due to responsibilities. Once you decide on something, and start pursuing it, there is a sigh of relief, you have that motivation of becoming the best in the room. Good intentions, but how do you achieve it? Getting a degree or certification is easy because it is structured, you learn, you score and that’s it, you have it, but now the times are such that merely getting a degree is not enough, you have to become, as they call it “4x”, at your work. You have to go beyond the boundaries of your curriculum to be at the top of the game. So, you start evaluating alternatives and finally, out of a plethora of options (Breadth), you make up your mind to pursue something, a project or learning another skill, then the questions start flooding in, is it relevant what you are doing, if it is, how deep do you need to go in your pursuit (Depth). The result of so many variables, the questions and doubts, is that you get stuck and are not able to move forward with anything.

When nothing works out, you start questioning your worth, why are you not able to do it, do you not have it in you, what if you chose the wrong path in the first place? More and more questions form a loop which is quite difficult to break. Sometimes, introspection and self-reflection helps, merely being aware of the loop, a result of higher emotional intelligence, lets you identify the reason, and identifying the cause is a problem half solved.

To all the enlightened sloths, think less, do more.

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7 Reasons Why The Tools You Work With Will Not Define Your Career

In today’s rapidly evolving work environment, professionals often find themselves surrounded by an array of tools and technologies designed to make tasks easier, faster, and more efficient. From advanced software to cutting-edge devices, the modern workplace is flooded with tools that promise to enhance productivity and deliver better results for the white collar contract & labour hire. It’s easy to assume that mastery of these tools will pave the way to career success. However, while tools are undoubtedly important, they are far from the defining factor in one’s career trajectory.

Consider this: tools are constantly changing. New versions, updates, and completely new technologies emerge regularly, often rendering previous tools obsolete. If your career were solely defined by the tools you use, then staying relevant would be a near-impossible task, with professionals needing to constantly learn and relearn different technologies just to maintain their standing. Fortunately, your career is shaped by much more than the tools at your disposal. It is moulded by your skills, experiences, and the value you bring to your role—none of which are inherently tied to the tools you use.

Focusing too much on tools can distract you from developing the deeper, more transferable skills that truly drive long-term success. These include problem-solving, communication, adaptability, and leadership. While tools can aid in the development of these skills, they are not the source of them. It's the individual behind the tool, their mindset, and their approach to work that truly makes a difference.

This list explains why the equipment you work with will not define your career.

Tools Are Temporary, Skills Are Permanent

The tools you use today might be outdated tomorrow. Technology evolves at a breakneck pace, and what is cutting-edge today can become obsolete in just a few years. However, the core skills you develop—such as critical thinking, creativity, and leadership—are timeless. These skills are applicable across industries and roles, making them far more valuable in the long run than any single tool.

Your Problem-Solving Ability Matters More

The ability to solve problems is one of the most critical aspects of any career. Tools can help facilitate the problem-solving process, but they are not the source of solutions. You can think critically, identify the root cause of issues, and develop effective strategies that will set you apart in your career.

Tools Can Be Learned, But Experience Can't Be Replicated

Anyone can learn how to use a tool with enough time and practice, but experience is unique. The lessons you learn through hands-on experience, dealing with real-world challenges, and interacting with others in your field cannot be replicated by simply mastering a tool.

Adaptability is Key to Success

In a world where change is the only constant, your ability to adapt is crucial. Tools will come and go, but your ability to learn new things, embrace change, and pivot when necessary is what will truly define your career. Being adaptable means being open to new ideas, willing to learn new skills, and able to thrive in a variety of environments.

Leadership and Vision Are Tool-Agnostic

Leadership is not about the tools you use but about your ability to inspire, guide, and influence others. Great leaders possess vision, empathy, and the ability to communicate effectively—qualities that are independent of any particular tool or technology.

Innovation Comes from People, Not Tools

Innovation is often mistaken for the adoption of new tools or technologies, but true innovation comes from people. It’s the ability to see things differently, challenge the status quo, and develop new solutions that drive progress.

The Value You Bring Is in Your Approach, Not Your Tools

Ultimately, the value you bring to your career is determined by your approach to work, not the tools you use. This includes your work ethic, attitude, and how you interact with others. Tools can enhance your productivity, but they cannot replace the qualities that make you a valuable professional.

While tools are an important aspect of any profession, they do not define your career. The skills, experiences, and qualities you develop over time are far more significant in shaping your professional journey. By focusing on developing transferable skills, honing your problem-solving abilities, and staying adaptable, you can build a career that is resilient, fulfilling, and not dependent on the tools you use. Remember, it's not the tools that make the professional; it's the professional who makes the tools work for them.

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Protect Your Home with Payne Pest Management: GUARANTEED PEST CONTROL – Serving the San Diego Area

Regarding security, warmth, and freedom from pests in San Diego, Payne Pest Management can be called one of the most reliable. No matter whether you have issues with rats, termites, or any other pest we offer fast, professional, and reliable services for you.

Global and Specialized Pest Control in San Diego - San Diego residents enjoy a good climate beside the sea, but the climate provides good living conditions for all kinds of vermin. Our San Diego pest control services are systematic and individual-oriented, and at Payne Pest Management we will be happy to design a program that meets your specific needs. Whether it is a simple quarterly check or a sudden ‘panic’ call in the middle of the year when you see cockroaches or rodents scurrying around in your home, you will find our team efficient with the latest techniques and tools.

Successful Control of Rats in San Diego - They are more than just a mere disturbance, rats may cause severe health complications, and pollute food. Let Payne Pest Management give you the best rat control in San Diego, for infestation solutions and avoidance. Hence, the approach involves eradicating the current infestation and finding other areas that might be infested, allowing you to be as safe as possible and for a long time.

Termite Control San Diego Professional Extermination of Termites - Termites are insects that work secretly and in the process, they can cause much havoc to your property. If you are worried about termites, Payne Pest Management offers quality San Diego termite elimination services. Our company specializes in early identification of termites and accurate eradication of them and other treatment processes to ensure your home is protected against termites. We will make sure to develop a bespoke approach that will suit the requirements of your property alone.

There are what we call specialized San Diego termite control services which are designed to cater to specific kinds of termites as explained above.

Termites should not only be eradicated but prevention should also be sought at all costs. Termite control services in San Diego differ from our usual pest control methods as we undertake some inspection and maintenance programs. We can eradicate the existing colonies of termites but we also make efforts towards preventing the establishment of new colonies. But this is not just about the service; it is about the quality and safety of your home when in the hands of Payne Pest Management.

Pest be it small or large infests our homes, Trump termite control in Point Loma will capture it for you. San Diego, CA residents of Point Loma can also get their pest control needs met by Payne Pest Management. Pests are different along coastal regions such as Point Loma, we offer treatment that can solve the pest problems for residential or commercial property. Whatever kind of pests you have on your property, it can be ants, rodents, termites, or others, our team serves you excellent solutions immediately.

Why Payne Pest Management?:

Experienced Professionals: We have a team of highly skilled personnel who undertake all forms of pest control services. 

Eco-Friendly Solutions: We have environmentally friendly methods, which are safe for you and your family including pets.

Guaranteed Satisfaction: Our work is guaranteed to meet your requirements and expectations as we understand the importance of your satisfaction.

Local Expertise: We are well acquainted with San Diego pest concerns and thus capable to offering excellent and specific solutions.

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DIY Fixes vs. Professional Solutions for MacBook Repairs in Adelaide

Keeping your MacBook in good shape is very important. It can be a minute problem. It can be about adding memory, or regular maintenance. When you encounter problems with your Macbook, you might be pondering whether you should try some of the DIY fixes with the help of YouTube videos. So, in this blog,’ DIY Fixes vs. Professional Solutions for MacBook Repairs in Adelaide’, we’ll discuss why it is a plausible choice for professional solutions for Macbook repairs rather than opting for DIY Fixes. So, let’s hear it from the professionals for MacBook Repairs Adelaide!

DIY Fixes

We admit DIY fixes are very tempting due to their affordability and advantages. Let’s take a look at them in detail.

Advantages

1. Cost-effectiveness

Well, DIY remedies can help you with affordability. Rather than paying professional service fees, you will just buy the replacement parts and tools, provided that they are less expensive. Online introductions of teachers and forums that guide for nothing help reduce the cost. DIY helps to give you the power to decide where and how you allocate resources, and you can incur only the expenses that you directly incur.

2. Convenience

Convenience is one of the most important pros of the DIY approach for repairing MacBooks. Through DIY repairs, users can mend problems, practically and quickly, saving themselves waiting time with trips to appointments or shipping devices to the repair centers. This helps to reduce time and enables users to get hold of their devices back if things go wrong and they have the power to deal with recurring MacBook problems from the comfort of their houses.

3. Learning experience

DIY fixes to a MacBook not only give a skillset but also help in the learning process. Through handling repairs by themselves, the users brush up on their problem-solving abilities, get to know the computer hardware better, and improve their technical literacy. 

Through such practice, modesty, and self-efficacy spur from individuals making them develop the ability to diagnose and fix problems fast. Above that, it saves time and money and as well it triggers a sense of purpose and ownership which is necessary for accomplishing our goals.

Common DIY Repair Techniques

Following are some of the common DIY repair techniques used.

1. Cleaning dust and debris

Cleaning up dust and other debris requires the removal of dirt and dust from devices like fans or computers. It avoids overheating and normal functioning is ensured by keeping a constant body temperature. Brush the small parts with a light paintbrush or apply compressed air so as not to break them up. One of the benefits of frequent cleaning is that it enables devices to have a longer lifecycle.

2. Replacing peripherals (e.g., battery, RAM)

Replacing removable parts or components like batteries or RAM is easy to do yourself. One can learn how to do this by watching videos that explain certain repair processes. 

It basically obliges the old components to be removed and the new components to be installed for the sake of improved device efficiency. Make sure that you follow the manufacturer's instructions properly and that you have the correct model compatibility for your device. Installing fragile peripherals such as HDDs (Hard Disk Drives) can shorten the lifespan of your device as well as may cause consequent failures.

3. Software troubleshooting

Software troubleshooting, in particular, includes discovering glitches with computer programs or their system and bringing them back to life. For example, some of these issues are such as software crashes, freezes, or parity check errors. The remedial approach may entail restarting the device, updating the software, and/or exercising the appropriate diagnostic tools. The fact is that there are manuals for step-by-step instructions to follow on purpose or search online to find efficient solutions quickly.

Professional Solutions

     1. Expertise and experience

Professional MacBook services have experts with streamlined expertise and experience who delve into different aspects of MacBook technical concerns. Their professional skill is a guarantee of timely accurate diagnosis and effective decisions, so the chance of mischarge or more damage to your device is reduced.

     2. Guaranteed results

Professional repair services not only give peace of mind but also guarantee success in all repairs. Among other things, they can guarantee a nice quality repair, where the machine will meet all standards from their field, thus you can be confident about your MacBook running smoothly after the service.

     3.  Warranty coverage

Many of the reputable MacBook repair businesses like Fix N Talk do include warranty duration on their services as well as with the replaced parts. This puts the purchaser`s mind rested since any problems noticed during service or even post-repair are handled at no additional costs as long as they fall within the warranty period, limiting your losses or exposure.

Services Offered By Professional Repair Shops

Experts deal with repairs differently. They take care of matters including hardware repairs, data recovery, and component upgrades.

1. Hardware repairs

Most of the professional skilled repair service outlets provide a wide range of hardware-related services such as detailed procedures like board replacement and screen repair. Their skills guarantee timely and accurate repairs bringing your MacBook efficiency.

2. Data recovery

As, you know,  professional repair shops like Fix N Talk are equipped with the newest sustainable tools and methods to retrieve data from various physical outputs as well as inaccessible ones on MacBook storage devices. However, this power can originate from many sources such as software malfunction or a data breach, but regardless of the source, they can still recover the valuable data while ensuring its confidentiality and integrity.

3. Component upgrades

Service centers offer the option of upgrades to the system part of your MacBook to improve the machine’s functionality and capability. They provide not only up-to-date RAM but also modern storage or other components that are always compatible and reliable. These upgrades are also tailored to your specific needs with regard to your unique goals, thus the functionality and durability of the said MacBook are improved in the long term.

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What is the Importance of Online Maths Tutor? 

When it comes to learning mathematics, every child has their unique pace and understanding. This is where online maths tutors can make a significant difference. By opting for an online maths tutor, your child can benefit from individualized attention, flexible learning schedules, and access to a wide range of resources and tools that cater to their specific learning needs. Additionally, online maths tutors can offer real-time feedback, personalized lesson plans, and a supportive learning environment that boosts your child’s confidence and motivation to excel in maths. 

Top 5 Signs Your Child Needs Maths Online Tuition

Here are a few signs that represent your child needs online tuition for maths. 

Declining Grades

One of the most apparent signs that your child may need a Maths tutor is a noticeable decline in their grades. If your child’s performance in Maths is consistently dropping, it’s a clear indicator that they are struggling with the subject. This decline might be gradual or sudden, but either way, it suggests that your child is not grasping the material as well as they should be. 

A decline in grades can stem from various issues, such as gaps in foundational knowledge, difficulty understanding new concepts, or even a lack of interest in the subject. When you notice this sign, it’s crucial to intervene early. An online Maths tutor can help identify the root cause of the problem and develop a targeted approach to address it. Through one-on-one sessions, the tutor can provide personalized attention that might be missing in a classroom setting, helping your child improve their grades. 

Lack of Confidence in Math

Confidence plays a significant role in a student’s ability to succeed in Maths. If your child frequently expresses doubt in their Maths abilities or avoids attempting Maths problems altogether, it’s a sign of low confidence. This lack of confidence can lead to anxiety and a negative attitude towards the subject, making it even harder for them to learn and perform well. 

An online Maths tutor can help build your child’s confidence by providing consistent support and encouragement. Through tailored lessons that focus on your child’s specific weaknesses, the tutor can help them achieve small successes, gradually building their confidence. With time and patience, your child will begin to develop a more positive attitude towards Maths, which is crucial for their long-term success. 

Difficulty Understanding Concepts

Maths is a subject that builds on itself; each new concept relies on the understanding of previous ones. If your child is having difficulty understanding basic concepts, they will likely struggle with more advanced topics as they progress. This difficulty can manifest in various ways, such as taking an unusually long time to complete assignments, frequently asking for help, or performing poorly on tests. 

An online Maths tutor can provide the individualized attention needed to ensure your child understands each concept before moving on to the next. Tutors can use a variety of teaching methods and resources to explain concepts in different ways until your child grasps them. This approach helps solidify foundational knowledge, making it easier for your child to understand and master more advanced Maths topics. 

Homework Struggles

If your child consistently struggles with their Maths homework, it’s a sign that they might need additional help. Homework is designed to reinforce what is taught in class, so if your child is having trouble completing it, they might not be fully understanding the material. This struggle can lead to frustration and a negative attitude towards Maths. 

Online Maths tutors can assist with homework by providing clear explanations and step-by-step guidance. They can help your child develop problem-solving strategies and improve their critical thinking skills. By working through homework problems together, the tutor can identify and address any misunderstandings, ensuring that your child is better prepared for class and tests. 

Teacher’s Recommendation

Teachers spend a significant amount of time with your child and can offer valuable insights into their academic performance. If a teacher recommends that your child receive additional support in Maths, it’s important to take their advice seriously. Teachers can identify struggles that might not be apparent to parents, and their recommendation is a clear sign that your child could benefit from a Maths tutor. 

Online Maths tutors can work in conjunction with teachers to provide a comprehensive support system for your child. By communicating with the teacher, the tutor can gain a better understanding of your child’s specific needs and tailor their lessons accordingly. This collaboration ensures that your child receives consistent and effective support in Maths. 

Process of Assessing the Need for Online Maths Tuition

Assessing whether your child requires maths online tuition involves various factors that help identify their specific learning needs and challenges. 

Consultation with Teachers

Discussing your child’s academic performance with their teachers can provide valuable insights into areas where they may need extra support. Teachers can offer recommendations and suggestions on how online maths tuition can benefit your child’s learning journey. 

Academic Support Programs

Exploring academic support programs or resources available at your child’s school can help assess their current performance in mathematics. Participation in support programs can highlight areas of improvement and indicate the need for additional tutoring. 

Personal Observation

Observing your child’s behavior, attitude towards mathematics, and performance in math-related tasks can provide valuable clues about their need for online maths tuition. Look out for signs of frustration, lack of confidence, or difficulty in completing math assignments. 

Tutoroot Maths Online Tuition for Your Child

After considering the signs indicating the need for maths online tuition and assessing your child’s learning requirements, it’s essential to choose a reliable and effective online tutoring service. Tutoroot Maths Online Tuition offers personalized learning plans, expert tutors, interactive learning tools, and a supportive environment to help your child excel in mathematics. With a focus on individualized attention and targeted support, Tutoroot Maths Online Tuition aims to enhance your child’s mathematical skills, boost their confidence, and improve their overall academic performance. Sign up for a free demo exclusive to experience the benefits of online maths tuition with Tutoroot today. 

In conclusion, recognizing the signs that indicate your child needs maths online tuition and assessing their specific learning needs are crucial steps towards enhancing their mathematical skills and academic performance. By opting for online maths tuition, you can provide your child with the personalized support and guidance they need to succeed in this challenging subject. Invest in your child’s education and future growth by choosing a reliable and effective online maths tutoring service like Tutoroot Maths Online Tuition. 

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What is crowdsourcing and the what is there to gain from it?

What is crowdsourcing in this day and age?

Crowdsourcing is something that can be seen done in our daily lives, which can be seen around us, on the way to work or even online when scrolling through social media. Crowdsourcing is an activity or work done by a group or individuals to obtain work, information, or opinions from a large group of people who submit their data or thoughts through Internet, social media, and smartphone apps (Hargrave 2022). People may think that crowdsourcing is a new concept that exist due to the digital era, but in reality, it has been around for a long time. Based on Chrum in 2013, as early as 1714, crowdsourcing has brought distributing of problem solving to task (Chrum 2013). People that are involve in crowdsourcing sometimes work as paid freelances, while there are others who do crowdsourcing as a small task voluntarily (Hargrave 2022). Crowdsourcing can be used to create or improve services or products or solve complex problems that a company is facing, which is where they are able to create ideas or solutions to their issues which can be “novel, implementable, and useful” (Majchrzak & Malhotra, 2020). An example of crowdsourcing that can be taken is finding a new logo, where a company can hire dozens of graphic designers to work on samples of a logo for a small fee, the company then will choose their favourite and pay the graphic designer to complete the logo with more details. There is different type of crowdsourcing, which are wisdom, where they collect smart individuals to do problem solving, creation to create ideas or design and voting where they gain votes from crowds, mostly done for democratic principle (Hargrave 2022).

Advantages and disadvantages of crowdsourcing

With crowdsourcing, it is able to provide a lot of advantages to the companies. Crowdsourcing can be cost sufficient, very fast, and give an opportunity to work with people that has skills that a company employee might not have. Other than that, crowdsourcing can help unite communities around similar project or cause, can be an efficient way of solving time-intensive problems, and deeper engagement by communities (Hargrave 2022). This advantages that come from crowdsourcing can be beneficial for the company and also the freelancing volunteers or hired individuals to work together and building a relationship between each other. With this many advantages, there are also some disadvantages that comes from them, such as producing insufficient result based on the crowd that is being sourced and not able to produce proper evidence and having the potential to miss the best ideas, talents and fall short on the goal or purpose crowdsourcing (Hargrave 2022). Some other advantages include having a vast range of users who are able to provide different diversity in their experience, allows testing with all kinds of parameters that the company may be looking for, and also lack of bias from the testers towards the company as they do not work or associate with the company itself (Dowson n.d.).

Furthermore, some other disadvantages that can be found in crowdsourcing includes confidentiality of companies’ info, plagiarism information gained in crowdsourcing, potential to be problematic if not managed good enough, hiring amateurs, and the potential for failure when putting lots of time and effort but having nothing to show (Bakire 2021).

Difference between crowdsourcing and crowdfunding

While focusing on crowdsourcing, we can also talk about crowdfunding. As previously explained, crowdsourcing is about an activity to obtain information through a large crowd to make data, while crowdfunding is about raising funds for a project from a large crowd of people, usually done through online platforms (Sparrow n.d.). Crowdfunding is primarily focused on funding, allowing entrepreneurs, artist, and creatives to fund projects by contributing from a broad range of audiences. While crowdsourcing focused on gaining knowledge and creativity from a group of people to solve problems or generate ideas (Sparrow n.d.). In layman terms, crowdsourcing is gaining information from groups of people to solve problems while crowdfunding is gaining money from people for their projects.

Conclusion

In conclusion, crowdsourcing is a good activity to be done by companies to help themselves to solve problems or generate ideas by hiring people or gaining volunteers to help the companies in a short period of time while able to unite and communicate with each other. There are a lot of advantages and disadvantages of crowdsourcing and there is a main difference between the purpose of crowdsourcing and crowdfunding.

Reference:

 Bakire, H 2021, The Top 5 Crowdsourcing Advantages and Disadvantages | HeroX, www.herox.com, viewed 25 November 2023, <https://www.herox.com/blog/972-the-top-5-crowdsourcing-advantages-and-disadvantag>.

Chrum, A. (2013, April 8). How crowdsourcing saves your internal resources.Retrieved fromhttps://www.crowdsource.com/blog/2013/04/how-crowdsourcing-saves-your-internal-resources/

Dowson, A n.d., Advantages and Disadvantages of Crowdsourcing, viewed 25 November 2023, <https://www.qualitestgroup.com/assets/Crowdsourcing.pdf>.

Sparrow, G n.d., Crowdfunding vs Crowdsourcing: Understanding the Key Differences, www.herox.com, viewed 25 November 2023, <https://www.herox.com/blog/1073-crowdfunding-vs-crowdsourcing-understanding-the-ke#:~:text=Crowdfunding%20refers%20to%20raising%20funds>.

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VIABILITY OF THE LIBERATED FEDERALISM, IV

To date this blog has, in its viability statement concerning the construct, liberated federalism, reviewed four of Eugene Meehan’s criteria by which to determine the usefulness of social science models or theories.  The four are comprehensiveness, power, precision, and reliability.  For readers who want to read those accounts, they are directed to the online site, http://gravitascivics.blogspot.com/[1] and review the last three postings.

          This posting addresses the next Meehan criterion, isomorphism.  It asks:  does a construct contain a one-to-one correspondence with that portion of reality it is trying to describe and explain?  One can view the liberated federalism model as a problem-solving, decision-making model applicable to a political event or situation.  In Robert L. Solso’s 1995 edition of his book, Cognitive Psychology, one finds the following:

Studies of decision making show that problem solutions are influenced by memory factors (availability hypothesis), reference frames that affect problem formulation, failure to consider how similar an event is to its population, and underestimating the mathematical significance of a possible event …

Cross-cultural differences have been observed in syllogistic reasoning, with people from highly industrialized countries proving arguments in terms of representational propositions, and people from less industrialized countries basing proofs more on sensory impressions.[2]

As for the liberated federalism model, memory and other reference frames are accounted for in the model at the individual (entity) level by reference to knowledge resources.  At the arrangement/association level, the deliberative process refers to a review of held collective ideals and political and other theoretical knowledge or beliefs.  What scientific inquiry might investigate are the processes of congealing opposing commitments to diverse ideals and theoretical knowledge or biases by different entity members, especially among leaders.

It is surely an area that should be of prime concern when formulating compact-al agreements.  Parties cannot always foresee these types of basic disagreements, but looking for them in advance can ease their appearance and their resolution in a productive fashion.  A good review of personality and other distinctive characterizations of themselves and others so involved can prove to be beneficial in the long run.  One can think of this as akin to choosing a marital partner and is surely highlighted by the liberated federalism model.

In terms of cross-cultural differences – an issue of vibrant concern in diverse population societies – conscious awareness of differences in reasoning patterns among minority or immigrant groups can again ease the accommodations of their differences.  One should not underestimate the challenges such differences cause.[3]  Michael Walzer writes about different pluralistic models which characterize the various nations and empires that have had to deal with diversity.

The United States began with what Walzer calls a consociation arrangement among the several states.  A consociation is an arrangement of several communities through negotiations, a constitutional arrangement or union between or among themselves.

Diversity was based on geographic and economic factors and the nation’s compact originally was designed to federally unite this level of diversity.  A civil war and the nationalization that has occurred via common struggles, such as the development of a national economy, two world wars, a cold war, and a pervasive national media, have changed the nature of the nation’s diversity.[4]

The current, rising diversity is more a result of having an array of ethnic representation within the population.  This type of pluralist model Walzer calls immigrant societies.  Since this type of diversity is not segregated to the degree that various areas of the nation sustained (up to the civil rights movement in the twentieth century), the nation’s view of how to establish a federalist union needed changing – a process still in progress.

This does not mean that geographic and even accompanying cultural distinctions no longer exist in the United States; they do exist and enjoy a level of multiculturalism which has been culturally established in recent decades.  But to add to the complexity within the diverse geographic regions of the nation, there is diversity within and among the nation’s separate ethnic groups, according to Walzer.  For example, there is much diversity among the Latin groups as immigrants from various Latin countries have increased.

How this diversity matches up with liberated federalism’s elements – its isomorphism – will be addressed in the next posting.  Obviously, this question of how the model matches on a one-to-one basis with the realities of American society is a bit complex and deserves a more extended treatment.

[1] Use the archives feature.  If readers want to read the blog’s presentation of the liberated federalism model, they should start with the posting, “From Natural Rights to Liberated Federalism” (June 2, 2023).

[2] Robert L. Solso, Cognitive Psychology (Boston, MA:  Allyn and Bacon, 1995), 437.

[3] Dwitio Prayoto, “Public Administration and the Challenges of Managing Diversity,” Linked In (May 1, 2023), accessed August 16, 2023, https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/public-administration-challenges-managing-diversity-dwitio-prayoto#:~:text=One%20of%20the%20most%20significant%20challenges%20of%20managing%20diversity%20is,with%20individuals%20from%20different%20cultures AND Michael Walzer, On Toleration (New Haven, CT:  Yale University Press, 1997).

[4] Juliana Menasce Horrowitz, “Americans See Advantages and Challenges in Country’s Growing Racial and Ethnic Diversity,” Pew Research Center (May 8, 2019), accessed August 16, 2023, https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2019/05/08/americans-see-advantages-and-challenges-in-countrys-growing-racial-and-ethnic-diversity/.

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Huh, interesting. I think that might be our individual experiences then.. when I think of spokespeople for the trans community, my first thought is actually a trans man- an author/youtuber/activist named Jamie Raines. Generally I'd say that within the community, representation is pretty balanced. But for people outside the trans community, I can absolutely see how some voices would get more attention than others, depending on the issue at hand.

As for the bathroom conversation, I believe that trying to bar trans women from women's bathrooms creates more problems than it solves. The issue of cis men pretending to be trans women for access to women's spaces is almost nonexistent, while enforcing the birth-sex bathroom rule can lead to forced inspections (creepy and intrusive), people calling the police even on cis women who look more "masculine" (pushes beauty standards), and forcing trans men- including fully transitioned ones who could easily pass as cis men- into the women's bathroom (uncomfortable for everyone and completely defeats the purpose).

I find the 4b movement really interesting because from what I've seen it's very separatism-focused, which I don't think will lead to equality in the long run, but I also recognize that I have the privilege of living in a relatively safe area and I'm glad women who don't have as much safety are creating movements to protect themselves. However, the issue is that trans women- who are also victims of violence, check out this study for some stats- are generally excluded, putting them at higher risk.

Just to be clear: I do not expect you to be attracted to trans women :) Having a sexual preference is totally valid, and it is definitely unfair when people treat that as transphobia. The problem is when people push the idea that lesbians who are attracted to trans women aren't valid- that pushes both the idea that trans women aren't women and the "gold star lesbian" ideology.

I 100% agree with your last point, that's really well said! We should absolutely be able to discuss things from a biological standpoint without using it to contradict/invalidate identity, I think you and I just have different approaches to that :)

Tysm for your reply, it gave me a lot to think about! I put some resources under the cut

This article includes the diagnostic criteria for gender dysphoria (being trans is, thankfully, no longer considered a mental illness. This diagnosis just helps people access the resources and care they need)

This study (full text here) focuses on structural differences in the brain. In short, trans people do have distinct "sex-atypical" phenotypes, but there are a few more points in the Discussion section that you might find interesting

For info about mental health, I'd recommend checking out the sources I linked in the last reply of this post, which basically just sums up how trans-related mental health issues are primarily caused by external factors, and gender-affirming care + societal acceptance are proven to help.

I'll let you know if I think of anything else :D I can also try to explain my own experience with being genderfluid, if you'd like to hear some firsthand perspectives /nf

my thing w trans people is i really don’t care what they do with their bodies, gender, pronouns wtv. that’s ur business.

i only really care when males attempt to insert themselves into females’ business. you are not a biological female and will never experience what it is like to like your entire life as one. and the problem is so many trans women (at least from what i’ve seen) are afraid to just… admit that?? you are, biologically, a male, accept it and move along.

and i also dont like how trans women are like the spokespeople for the community?? no offense but it’s literally males dominating over females’ voices

i don’t care what one does with their identity. personally, i’ve been trying to look into the psychology of being transgender to understand it a bit better. but like at the end of the day, your biology still plays a huge part, no??

hopefully others give some insight cuz i’m interested in hearing other takes. this is definitely a conversation i do not mind having.