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iwritenarrativesandstuff · 4 months

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really wish my one friend would quit flirting with me. and trying to goad me into hanging out more. and assigning us fictional characters that are oh-so-coincidently either couples or with romantic tension. and then interrupting our gameplay to ask me repeatedly if I think they’re “like us” (which they rarely are…). and matching my icon on discord without asking (again, usually by insinuating a couple connection). and giving me random things I do not want and did not ask to receive (and then forcing me to take them???).

#storyrambles #it’s not creepy. just for context. it’s just irritating because I’ve told this person repeatedly that I’m not interested in romance.#this person is also naturally a huge romantic so it is next to impossible to tell whether it’s actual flirtation or just flirting for fun #flirting for fun is cool. I wouldn’t mind that. but if I do it once this person will take that as an invitation to do it an excessive amoun #but yeah after being given 12 roses out of the blue when I said ‘no don’t buy me flowers’. there’s only so many things that can mean #‘it’s nice to see your face you always cover it!’ …I’m masking. because of covid #I’m narrating a game and suddenly ‘I like hearing your voice I should call you every day so I can hear it for 10 minutes’. …no.#‘you have to take the snack I brought you know it’s rude to refuse a gift’ I have never refused a gift. It is rude. But also I didn’t ask.#‘you know this game is one you can play without talking so we can play more often!’ we already play games once a week for usually 3 hours.#‘but it’s not talking so it’s less social energy’ no. that is not how it works.#sorry for the rant im just. tired.#you know those people who are so pleasant to hang out with and then they try way too hard #and that’s actually what makes things awkward? rather than when they’re just being themselves?#yeah. that’s this friend here.#usually I go along with the bit but when I can never tell when the bit is actually a bit #and you insist on me taking on the ‘girl role’ for most of them #I am not going to play along.#UGH don’t get me started on the ‘you’re cute when you’re flustered’#I wasn’t even flustered. I was trying to do mental math while running on four hours of sleep and he was staring directly at me #it’s uncomfortable.#also. I never want to hear that again. fuck. ‘you’re cute when you’re angry’ ‘you’re cute when you’re upset’ ALL THE FUCKING TIME AS A KID #will I be so cute after I kick you in the nuts? will I?#(for clarity I don’t want to kick him. I want to kick those other people.)#I need a lot of alone time. I really do. I can do 3 hours and then I will be drained for the rest of the day.#‘how did you grow up? did you not talk to your mom for more than 3 hours a day?’#first of all. that’s different?#secondly we actually regularly do separate things without talking to each other. or go in separate rooms to take some time to ourselves #also I don’t have to be on high alert for if I’m going to be flirted with. so.#ugh. I like him as a friend. I really do. I know this all makes it seem like the opposite. I try so hard to be as nice as possible.#but UGHHHHHH

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skitskatdacat63 · 4 months

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I forget how comfortable my life is living w just my parents, in terms of being comfortably out, then have to listen to my brother go on a homophobic rant, that I can't tell if its a joke or not, but was really hurtful :)

#twas very uncomfortable to sit thru #the words 'what if i told you i was gay' on my tongue 'am i disgusting?'#i dont understand straight white boys #you do all this gay chicken w your friends. say all this weird stuff that makes me 🤨#(<- ex. joking abt sucking dick bcs theyre eating a 12 inch hot dog. circa cota gp lol)#but then say these horribly homophobic things #i dont understand men #i can never tell if hes joking when he says things like this #bcs he likes to be argumentative and inflammatory. and knows we'll get pissed at him for this #so its like. are you saying this bcs you truly believe it or are you just being irritating. or both #he randomly said smth abt how the romans and greeks did gross gay things #and im like. should this not make you think 'wow homosexuality has existed for centuries. ig its pretty natural!!'#<- thats always my takeaway. theres been records of it since basically the beginning of recorded history #and i look at it and feel comforted :] this has always been a thing and always will be thing #and then people like him basterdize it completely misinterpret it ;;;;#i like him but when hes back living w us I remember how horrible his views and opinions are #ugh i live w my parents and theyre so accepting abt it and willing to learn more and change #and then i remember how fucking shit the rest of my family is #well ah dw i got back at him by calling him gay sjkfkglg #catie.rambling.txt

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licorishh · 29 days

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Hey as a super introverted but not shy person I'd just like to say the jokes about extroverts "adopting" introverts to "get them out of their shell" are actually completely unfunny and it just goes to show how little respect a lot of y'all have for the fact that we genuinely don't want excessive social interaction and that y'all are forcing us to do something that brings us extreme physical and mental discomfort because you perceive our introversion as a failing rather than as purely a difference in personality.

We don't need your "help" to socialize. We're not children. We're simply not interested in spending every waking second of our lives talking to people and being talked at in return.

#again i scream from the rooftops that there is a monumental chasm between being shy and actually being an introvert #a shy person is someone who's afraid of social interaction. an extrovert can be naturally shy.#a shy person can WANT lots of social interaction but simply have not learned to feel comfortable in social situations.#people who are just very introverted simply have little desire or capacity for excessive human interaction.#we're not “afraid” of it. we just don't enjoy it and it wears us out.#you don't need to swoop in and save us because we can't handle ourselves. we're perfectly fine thank you #extroverts are constantly demanding that we get out of our comfort zones but few of you are willing to make the alternative more comfortabl #if you're a very extroverted person please do not take it upon yourself to jokingly “adopt” introverts you meet.#it's not funny and it's not helpful. it's irritating that you perceive our quietness and low social battery as something that needs “fixing #we won't miraculously learn to love and be comfortable with excessive human interaction. that's not how we're wired and that's OKAY #i'm honestly getting so sick of the “the lonely introvert and the extrovert who adopted them” memes #i can guarantee you that if you are an extrovert who operates this way then your introvert “friend” is actually probably very uncomfortable #and just don't want to say anything because they think it would be rude to bring up the fact that they don't want what you want from them #this does NOT mean extroverts and introverts cannot be friends nor am i saying all extroverts are annoying or that they all do this #i'm simply saying that if you are very extroverted and you have a friend who's very introverted #then it's on you to be aware of your introvert friend's limited social battery and STOP pressuring them to just “put up with it”#don't spend every second with them constantly talking. be willing to spend some time just in the quiet.#be willing to let them bow out of something if they're exhausted and are low on social energy.#don't expect them to want to come to every meeting or party or get-together because it WILL drain them completely.#be willing to let them spend time alone when they need to to recharge.#letting an introvert cool off and recharge when they need to is ALWAYS going to make social situations less stressful for them.#PLEAAAAASE take their feelings into account and understand that they do NOT perceive social interactions the way you do.#most very introverted people do not find socialization relaxing or invigorating. they don't do it to unwind #they have to unwind AFTER lots of social interaction #that's about it. thank you and good night

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mambo-by-a-mile · 1 month

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🤜 (oh Mambo’s not affectionate? That’s a shame. Anyway- lmao)

'Hey!'

Mambo squirmed in the sender's grasp as his head was whisked off his head, purple tufts of fur exposed. Next thing he knew a fist was ruffling it in harsh circles.

'Knock it off, will ya?' Mambo complained to no avail, pathetically trying to pry the much stronger and larger hand than his own away. 'I just groomed this fur...last month!'

'And warn a guy before ya start roughin' up his skull, huh?'

Mambo continued to squirm helplessly in the sender's grasp.

#chainsxwsmile #Not especially. It isn't that he gets mad when people try to pet him #but irritated when he is handled like a pet or plush toy. He very much has the mentality of 'I am a top wizard assistant #not some cute little kitty cat!' despite his small and cute cat like appearance. As well as uncomfortable when he is grabbed at and picked #have his cheeks pinched or held all of a sudden #or weirded out by sudden boops #pets #and especially glomps. He will only ever go for a hug or return the affection during emotional times whether sad or happy and when he does #I also have another personal headcanon that he will try to avoid pets and the like because they feel too nice to the point of embarrassing #He dislikes being tickled for the similar reason above #with the back of his ears being another sensitive place for that.#but this was too adorable to write #him not being the touchy feely sort makes things like this even more fun to write #oh and of course is he is sick or injured he can't object to being carried on account of he is too weak to do anything but let it happen #tip the scales and entertain me (mambo answers)

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always-andromeda · 10 months

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#˚ʚ meda rants ɞ˚#i am so—#am i irritated because i’m coming down from my meds #or because my period is coming soon #because i swear i’ve been getting those little pre-period cramps and my hips are so sore #but no blood yet #and i’ve heard that the come down on these meds can be rough but man i am so not feeling it #my head hurts and I’m nauseous and my whole body feels so uncomfortable to be in right now #and i wish that i didn’t have to cook dinner tonight #but i’m making gnocchi with pesto so hopefully that makes up for everything #pasta make the pain go away pls <3

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peaceeandcoolestvibes · 1 year

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#nothing more annoying than u trynna do some studying and folks sitting next to ya to tell u dumb shit like bro do u ever shut the fuck up #my goodness #some bitch is trying to stuDy LMAOOOO and they don’t shut up! ever!!!!!!!#how tf am I supposed to concentrate LMAOOOO it’s truly dumb shit they talk about #at this point I’m tired af about hearing dumb shit 24/7 #to the point I call people annoying or I tell them the shut the fuck up for once pls #or I just move seats or others tell me to sit next to em #my patience be running thin at this point like mfs are annoying af I tell them and they keep annoying me #same with this dumbass who’s my ex #y’all ever get the hint? it’s not even a hint - I straight up tell y’all you’re annoying AS FUCK #wHew god bless #yesterday I was talking and laughing w some friends in class and I had this chick following me around asking me the same 60 questions (#about one thing the professor has just explained - like bro shut up and pay attention maybe? it’s irritating as hell ngl)#and I moved to talk w friend o and she went after me to talk to me I move elsewhere and she follows me around like a puppy #my god pls be your own person and stop following me around LMFAOOO #this is why I could never be a teacher - someone talks and u interrupt them to ask me what they just said when A) they’re not even finished #and B) u ask the same thing 90 times?#she’s soOooOoOOo irritating #others keep telling me whew she makes everyone uncomfortable #she the fuck does #🫣🫠🙄

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fatgothgf · 1 year

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you dont realize how good you have it until you become seriously ill

#im so irritable and uncomfortable and paranoid and its all because of my fucking kidney #also i am at times completely unable to do anything but stare at a vomit bucket #or shiver-sweat to death inside my bed inside my ice cold room that feels like hellfire #and polish water ice #seriously if you can avoid getting an infection in your organs i recommend it #i am but a shell of the man i was before this happened

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phoenixyfriend · 2 years

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Phoenix I need your wisdom. What should I do if the star wars fandom kinda makes me wanna stop posting stuff (bc backlash, toxicity and stuff)? Asking for a friend

Unfollow people. Block people. Block tags. Tumblr is better than most sites for curating your experience, so do that.

Someone posts Jedi crit? Block their tag for it. They don't tag their ship hate? Unfollow them. They take your posts and reblog with commentary you don't care for? Block them.

Once you've reached the point where a fandom is sapping your energy for creative pursuits, it's up to you to cut out the people that are making you miserable, and to deliberately stop yourself from being a toxic mess. I was making myself miserable with Mando discourse a few months(?) back, and I've hit the brakes on doing that again.

#fandom #phoenix answers asks #my recent irritation has been total strangers tagging me on posts that are unrelated to anything I do #like... someone tagging me in a post about Ahsoka doing a cool thing similar to my fics? that's fine #someone tagging me in posts about OFMD or Spy x Family is... IDK #the ofmd stuff definitely felt like 'i'm going to see if I can get this author to write things for my fandom'#and the spy x family was getting tagged before I really reblogged any myself?#IDK I am really uncomfortable with total strangers doing it #anyway yeah please don't... tag me in random posts that have nothing to do with me unless we know each other #IDK why it makes me so uncomfortable but it does

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void-tiger · 11 months

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Sometimes I feel like I keep having to prove my age. “No really, I really am 29. I really did start college 10 years ago (just…couldn’t finish). No I’m Not actually 15-21. YES really. It’s okay to talk to me. (But please don’t ask me what I’m doing instead of what I like to do…it’s a sore subject I can’t find a Small Talk TM response to. Especially with my age. Legit health shit has taken SOME of the embarrassment out of this…but that’s it’s own set of landmines. Can we please talk about you instead??)”

#tiger’s musings #socializing crap #baby face #aaaaand then prolly ‘cause of the connective tissue disorder…I have MASSIVE dimples that make me feel like a gargoyle #not age wrinkles forming. but huuuuge folds of skin on a thin face making ridges #because…stretchy skin. yeah. I feel like that snake in that one webcomic trying to Yawn Cute #and…it’s most obvious if I’m delighted or teasing.#…why can’t I just have smile lines.#but…yeah. I almost can’t complain I never have any decent adults act friendly or flirt in a way that’s Not Creepy #when even YOUNG children forget that I’m ‘not a kid’#(ooooor it’s some fertility culture or ‘wants an Exotic TM girlfriend’ asshole. for fuck’s sake…#(yes I’d rather be harassed than an actual teenager or ethnic/racial minority. but it’s still deeply uncomfortable)#…there may be SOME progress with ‘YES I’m a late 20s ADULT prioritizing FRIENDSHIP I am SAFE’#but also…it is irritating to have questions about something 10 yrs ago instead of what I like to do NOW #or that it took a year to be spoken to. and going pspspspsps! for a quarter of that because Enough.#…the ONLY time I /almost/ don’t mind someone assuming I’m nearly half my actual age #is when I’m out in public with my parents around strangers #despite it’s becoming more common for MY gen to still live with fam because late capitalism vs merican social values #buuuuuuuuut yeahhhhh… still living with family past 25 is still treated as Shameful as a cultural norm

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catboyfurina · 1 year

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#beeep #i know it is the sleepiness and I'm going to bed but #BIGGEST SIGH I WANT TO BE SPECIAL.#ive Accepted my role as generally pleasant but kind of boring but. sighs. idk :( im #just like. Here. yknow. thats what leo has to offer. Is There.#okay sleeping not enough hours and then baizhu is going to fix me. i can be #not just accepted of but also okay with being background character coded once i have Baizhu about it #also very related but im hoping my doctor is gonna let me have the antidepressants again soon #and also I'm pretty sure i make everyone uncomfortable and irritated if im around but that one isnt logic thats just feelings so im trying #to ignore it. but. hrggrh.#sar//azanma//i voice i want to connect but i am so scared of everything forever and also like. bad at it #u may notice that the feelings are incongruent with the first bit well that is because! the first bit is me being sad about reality #and not me inventing things that scare me to be sad about #unless the inventions are real but . i cant tell. ahahah #goodnight im going to be normal at ummmm some point :D

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laurelwinchester · 2 years

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no but seriously i don't know who needs to hear this but having casual sex does not make you somehow less of a person. it does not make you bad. it does not make you less deserving of a good life. it does not mean you need to chase redemption or forgiveness. there is nothing to be ashamed of. as long as all parties are consenting, i promise it's okay to have sex. it's okay to have a little, it's okay to have a lot. it's okay to have none at all. none of this has any impact on how worthy you are of love and happiness and peace. i am genuinely concerned that so many young people seem to think otherwise these days.

#idk man the shit i see young people saying on social media these days.....#i am both irritated by and genuinely really fucking concerned for them #there has been a very uncomfortable shift recently and i do not like where this is going

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bambi-lesbian-posts · 2 years

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This is what happens when you have one person entering all the data for the goddamn company, man. Sometimes the date on an invoice is flubbed. Off by two days, by the way, on the earlier side. So we weren't in danger of missing a payment. Also, the paperwork had two different dates on it so ofc I picked the earlier one. Because if I didn't then we could've had a late payment. Maybe if you did your paperwork correctly you wouldn't have almost paid a day early.

#aaahhh i knew shouldve called in sick todat #im tired and irritated and got my ass chewed for something stupid as fuck #why am i the only person entering information is the real question i wanna ask.#im less of a receptionist and more of a secretary #also they called me out on my LUNCH BREAK to chew me out #so im taking an extra 5 minutes to make up for the lost time #now my noodles are uncomfortably soft #fucking fuck

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necarion · 4 months

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Nobody fucking believes me that putting on a mask helps the wearer stop coughing and sneezing.

Coughing and sneezing are generally caused by the body trying to clear irritants. And very frequently, this irritation is exacerbated by dusts and pollens in the air. So by wearing a mask, you can cut down on the thing that is further triggering your cough and sneeze. Further, masks also condition the air and make the air you're breathing in moister, which reduces further irritation of the lungs.

If you were dusting, and the dust was making you sneeze, you could put on a mask and make the sneezing stop. (Note: a startling number of people also refuse to believe this, even though it's really obvious that "keep the dust out of your face" reduces "sneezing because there is dust in your face".) If you're already irritated, you can end up getting triggered by a lower threshold of dust.

When I have a cough, one of the first things I do is mask up, even when I'm entirely alone. Because if I'm not actually sick, the mask will often cut the coughing to zero (especially if my cough is asthma-based). And if I am sick, it'll cut it dramatically (and reduce post-nasal drip, which causes more coughing).

I have convinced exactly one person of this. Yes, masking is uncomfortable. (It helps a lot if you have a comfortable mask, though.) But also, so is coughing a lot, which also happens to spray gross stuff into the air.

For your own sake, put on a mask and stop complaining about how uncomfortable you are because you keep coughing.

I promise, it really works.

#masking #health

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