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Hey dude! Do you have any recommendations for LGBTQ+ movies in the romance genre that have like a happy ending. I really don't care how old they are. I'm feeling the Gay™ hence I need the Gay™. You feel me?

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First sorry for taking so long, not only did I have to timeline this :) but :) my computer :) froze :) after writing like :) 2 pages :) and I had to do it again :)

So anyway let it be said, the LGBT dialogue is one of osmosis and shared growth and awareness. Some of these films will be very poorly dated, but as you (thankfully) mentioned that them being old wasn’t a *problem*, expect a lot of old stuff. Because one of the most important things to have under your belt when talking about the LGBT media representation battle is the actual journey from A to B – be that incrementalization, subtextual inclusion, text-breeching features, outright evocative and groundbreaking films at the time (which is what MOST of this list will be) and an improvement in our dialogue; let us never forget that while tr*nss*xual is considered a slur and transgender is proper, tr*nss*xual was at one point the politically correct way to speak it – things like that breach in our growing understanding of the spectrum of human sexuality.

I *WILL* disclaimer these aren’t all romance, so if you explicitly want romance, google them and take a look if it sounds to appeal, but I’m taking this as a general cinema history plug considering what a confused mess fandom conversation about LGBT history in film or modern text as applicable, accepted or not.

Wonder Bar (1936) (I wouldn’t really call this queer cinema, but if you have the time to watch it too, I think it was the first explicit mention of homosexual engagement even if it was fleetingly brief. You might even call it Last Call style. A blink and you’ll miss it plug that was still decades ahead of its time)

Sylvia Scarlet (1936) (Again, I wouldn’t call this queer cinema, but a lot of the community takes it as the first potential trans representation on TV due to the lead literally swapping gender presentation, even if the presentation is… not what we would modernly call representation IMO)

Un Chant d'Amour (1950) (Worth it for the sheer fact that it pissed off fundies so bad they took it all the way to the US supreme court to get it declared obscene.)

The Children’s Hour (1961) (also known as the 1961 lesson to “don’t be a gossipy, outting bitch”)

Victim (1961) (The first english film to use the word “homosexual” and to focus explicitly on gay sexuality. People might look on it disdainfully from modern lenses, but it really helped progress british understanding of homosexuality)

Scorpio Rising (1964) (Lmao this one deadass got taken to court when it pissed people off and California had to rule that it didn’t count as obscene bc it had social value, worth it for the history if nothing else)

Theorem (1968) (Because who doesn’t wanna watch a 60s flick about a bisexual angel, modern issues and associations be damned)

The Killing of Sister George (1968) (by the makers of What Ever Happened To Baby Jane)

Midnight Cowboy (1969) (…have I had sassy contagonists in RP make a Dean joke off of this more than once, maybe)

Fellini-Satyricon (1969) (AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA THIS)

The Boys in the Band (1970) (This… this… this made a lot of fuss. Just remember leather)

Pink Narcissus (1971) (a labor of love shot on someone’s personal camera)

Death in Venice (1971) (This is basically a T&S prequel but whatever, based on a much older book)

Cabaret (1972)

Pink Flamingos (1972) (SHIT’S WILD)

The Bitter Tears of Petra von Kant (1972) (The title doesn’t lie, be warned)

The Rocky Horror Picture Show (1975) [god I hope you’ve at least seen this]

Fox and His Friends (1975) (some really hard lessons that are still viable today, that just because someone acknowledges your sexuality doesn’t mean they give a shit about you as a person, and that some will even abuse the knowledge for gain)

The Terence Davies Trilogy (1983) (REALLY interesting history look it up, it’s sort of one of those “drawn from own experience” story short sets)

The Times of Harvey Milk (1984) (Documentary)

Desert Hearts (1985) (Pretty much the first film to put lesbianism into a good light as a true focus based on a novel from the sixties)

Parting Glances (1986) (the only film its creator got out before his death from the aids epidemic)

Law of Desire (1987) (two men and a trans woman in a love triangle, kinda ahead of its time)

Maurice (1987) (This one’s really interesting, cuz it was based on a book made about 15 years before it, but the book itself had been written half a century earlier and wasn’t published until after the guy died, he just thought it’d never get published Cuz Gay, so basically it’s based on a story written in like, the 20s finally getting screen time. It has a bittersweet but positive-leaning-ish ending without disregarding the cost that can come with it and even addresses class issues at the same time 100% DO RECOMMEND)

Tongues Untied (1989) (a documentary to give voices to LGBT black men)

Longtime Companion (1990) (This one’s title alone is history, based on a NYT phrasing for how they talked about people’s partners dying, eg longtime companion, during the AIDS epidemic)

Paris Is Burning (1990) (Drag culture and related sexual and gender identity exploration as it intersected with class issues and other privileges explored in a documentary)

The Crying Game (1992)( I should correct this that I guess it’s more, 1992 considered, “SURPRISE, DIL HAS A DILL!” – I guess I really didn’t do that summary justice by modern language and dialogue as much as how people in the 90s were talking about that and that’s a my bad. LIKE. SEE, EVEN I CAN FUCK UP MY LANGUAGE I’M SORRY CAN I BLAME THE STRAIGHTS T_T) #90skidproblems – I guess I should call it a trans film. And this alone tells me I should go watch it again to recode it in my brain modernly rather than like circa de la 2000 understanding.

The Bird Cage (1996) (So you mix drag culture, otherwise heterosexually connected lovebirds, and then realize the girl comes from an alt-rightish house and the guy comes from a Two Dads Home and does cabaret, how to deal with the issues OF this conflict when it’s between you and your happiness, even if the fight isn’t even your own as much as it is that of the person you love. The answer is PROBABLY NOT to dress in drag and pretend to be straight, but what are you going to do? – while played for laughs we’d consider modernly crude, the fact that they even dared to approach this narrative was pretty loud)

The Celluloid Closet (1996) (Ever heard of the Vito Russo test for LGBT representation? This is based on a book by Vito Russo.)

Happy Together (1997) (Ain’t this shit an ironic name; a mutual narrative, via chinese flick, of hong kong ceding to china and an irrevocably tangled MLM pairing as a giant mirrored metaphor)

Boys Don’t Cry (1999) (one of the most groundbreaking films about trans identity at the time)

Stranger Inside (2001) (As easy as it is to recoil to the idea of “black gays in jail”, the film makers actually went and consulted prisoners and put a great deal of focus into intersectional african american issues that really weren’t around even in straight films at the time)

Transamerica (2005) (While it made a bit of a fuss for not casting an actual trans actor, it was one of the first times a big budget studio really tried to tackle it which really pushed us forward)

Call Me by Your Name (2017) (since I’ve apparently leaned really heavy old cinema throw in a modern one lmaooooo)

Also honorable The Kids Are All Right (2010) mention for the sake of the fucking title alone.

And to any incarnation of “On the Road” by Kerouac, which

Was originally a book

Released a sanitized de-gayed edition because of the times

Later released the full homo manuscript

had a few film adaptations

Was one of Kripke’s founding inspirations for Supernatural once he left behind “Some reporter guy chases stories” and took the formula of Sal and Dean (and tbh later, Carlo) in a beat generation vibe gone modern as we know it today.

Reading both versions of this can actually help some folks currently understand that when you get confused over some shit (WHY IS CARLO SO UPSET? WHY IS HE ACTING LIKE AN UPSET GIRLFRIEND??? WHY IS HE SO JEALOUS AND SAD WHEN DEAN IS AROUND GIRLS???? WE JUST DONT KNOWWWWWWWWWWWWW) it’s because some big money asshat bleached the content, and sometimes, it takes a while for the full script to come out and again, surprise, it’s been GAY, they just didn’t want to OFFEND anybody. *jazz hands*

Now if you wanna go WAY WAY BACK, during 191X years, a bunch of gender role flicks came out like Charley’s Aunt, Mabel’s Blunder and the Florida Enchantment.

Also where is @thecoffeebrain-blog to yell about the necessity of watching Oz, for the next few hours? But no, seriously, just look into the entire LGBT *HISTORY* of Oz.

Beyond that though I’m gonna stop here cuz hi that’s a lot. I really don’t know how much counts as “happy ending” but if I had to give an LGBT cinema rec list, that’s it as a sum. I don’t really have like, a big portfolio of UWU HAPPY ENDING GAYS because 1. there aren’t a lot of those but 2. to me, it’s not about the ending, it’s about the journey. Be that in flick or through culture and history itself.

If you want more happy ending stuff, you definitely have to look at 2010+, but it’s not like we’re in a rich and fertile landscape yet so honestly just googling that would probably serve you better since I don’t explicitly explore romance genre or happy endings to really have a collection. LGBT life is hard and film often reflects that if we’re making genuine statements about it and really representing it, and we’re just now getting to a point of reliably having the chance at a happy ending. That or maybe someone can add like “Explicit happy endings” lists after this that has more experience in that subgenre.

Also, I can’t emphasize ENOUGH to remember what was progressive then is not what is progressive now, and frankly, what some people think is progressive now they’ll probably look back on what they said and feel really fuckin’ embarrassed. See: “It’s not text because by alt right homophobic dialogue, M/M sex isn’t gay if you do the secret handshake” MGTOW kinda crazy ass dialogue or parallel narratives they inspire that encourage self-closeting and denial based on the pure idea that being gay makes you somehow lesser, so It’s Not That. Like. I am. 99% sure. At least half of the people talking in this fandom. Are going to regret that the internet is forever. And maybe hope hosting servers end in the inevitable nuclear war that will annihilate this planet.

Also, edit: Speaking of mistaken dialogues and words aging poorly, I’d like to apologize from the poor description I rendered “The Crying Game” with, but that really goes to show how deep-seated the issue is we can so casually fuck up identifying a trans narrative as SURPRISE DICK IS GAY when we were all absorbing the content like 20+ years ago and HOW HARD it can be to de-code yourself from that kind of programming because here I am, writing a giant assed rep post and fucking it up because my brain hadn’t soaked that movie since Y2K. Guess what, time for me to go watch the Crying Game again.

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From dream to nightmare: when your sperm donor has secrets

Having a newborn by sperm donation is an intensely personal and emotional process. So what happens when you discover that interested donors has a genetic health agitation?

Sperm donor 9623 searched good on paper. An IQ of 160. A bachelors-at-arms degree in neuroscience, a masters in artificial intelligence, en route to a PhD in neuroscience engineering. A joy for crystallography, algorithm and fitness. Ontario couple Elizabeth Hanson and Angela Collins thought they had obtained the perfect parent for their baby.

Seven times after their son was carry, Collins and Hanson discovered that donor 9623 was a college dropout with schizophrenia, a egocentric personality disorder and a criminal record. He had spent eight months in prison for burglary, and 10 years on probation.

The sperm bank had inadvertently included the donors refer, Christian Aggeles, in an email to the couple. A Google search did the residual. His stepfather had vouched in court that Aggeless psychotic chapters embarked aged 19, well before he started donating in Georgia. Aggeless sperm led to the birth of at least 36 children worldwide.

It was like a dream shifted nightmare in an instant, said Collins. The couple, alongside at least three other lineages, have filed suits against the Georgia-based seman bank, Xytex Corporation, which too afforded sperm to British pairs. Xytex disavows wrongdoing.

Such examples are not unique. Like Collins, Hanson and their son, numerous lineages and individuals are now coming to terms with vital information that their donors withheld.

The forks of such discoveries can be gargantuan. The most important entity to me is[ my son] potentially facing a extremely debilitating life-style, Collins says. I felt like I was hoaxed by Xytex and I flunked my son for having opted Xytex. In hindsight, a hitchhiker on the side of the road would have been a far more responsible alternative for designing a child.

Lineages have filed litigations against the Georgia-based seman bank, Xytex Corporation. Picture: David Goldman/ AP

What level of probability do Aggeless genes consult? The structure of mental health diseases is complex. The genetic ingredient of schizophrenia, shows Professor Cathryn Lewis, prof of genetic epidemiology and statistics at Kings College London, is not a single gene, but is compounded across many genes. There are likely to be thousands of inherited variants that verify peril of schizophrenia. Each change somewhat increases or declines our jeopardy, but none of them alone will enable us to predict whether someone is likely to develop schizophrenia.

Even arousing brand-new findings in the C4 gene expect careful interpretation. Its a single piece in a large genetic jigsaw riddle, Lewis says. Testing one gene tells us anything about private individuals risk of developing schizophrenia.

Mental health conditions too manifest a mix of interacting environment and social causes. Not to mention that many people with schizophrenia respond to treatment and live full, productive lives.

Donor anonymity was abolished in the UK in 2005. Donor-conceived offspring are now legally entitled, at the age of 18, to information on their donors identity. Nonetheless, this was not retrospectively exerted: those imagined before April 2005( thats 21,000 people born between 1991 and 2004 alone) cannot identify their donor unless interested donors steps forward willingly. Some are never even told they were donor-conceived in the first place.

Tyler Blackwell discovered as a boy in Maryland that he has 35 half-siblings. His second astonish: using the same condition that his donor leader, John( not his real mention) has not been able to uncovered. Johns sister received the Blackwells through a family genealogy website. It transpired that John, who had not replied to their mail, had an aortic aneurysm, which had ruptured at the age of 43. He had existed. At least three other family members were similarly altered. Tyler appreciated a cardiologist as a precaution, was diagnosed with an aneurysm and underwent surgery. Without an operation on an aneurysm of this kind, the mortality from severance is up to 97%. When sever arises, patients often die within six hours. There is no one who knew about it, said his mother of the sperm bank committed. If I could foretell the future, I would have picked a different donor.

Financial motivations could underlie some instances of deception. Nonetheless, the UKs Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority ( HFEA ) defines the limit for sperm donors at 35 per clinic visit and egg donors at 750 per hertz of subscription, plus expenses. These limits, it territory, is also intended to reward altruism and depres compulsion. Rules vary internationally. One California cryobank repays your time and expenditures with compensation of up to $1,500/ month with periodic motivations such as movie tickets or talent credentials for additional meter and exertion expended by participants.

Danish sperms donor 7042 unwittingly passed on neurofibromatosis to at least 11 of his children, after his sperm was used in clinics across the US, Canada, Belgium, Greece, Spain, Thailand and the UK. Neurofibromatosis is associated with mentality and nerve cancers, bone deformities, visual impairment, high blood pressure and discover difficulties. Offspring have a 50% threat of acquiring it. Denmark has since mandated that donor sperm can be used in a maximum of 12 inseminations. In the UK , no more than 10 houses can be created using egg or sperm from a single donor. Donated eggs are not risk-free, but sperm donors typically have more offspring who can pass on inherited preconditions to the next generation.

There is no such thing as reproduction without gamble. Here i am, however, an ethical responsibility towards the child to be imagined and their hopeful parents. If a donor develops a genetic circumstance times after donation, “were not receiving” structure at present that executes disclosure.

Donors now must measure negative for HIV, hepatitis B and C, and syphilis, with farther screening be a primary consideration in ethnicity such as cystic fibrosis in those of Caucasian ancestry and sickle-cell sicknes in African and Afro-Caribbean populations. Guidelines state that potential donors should be assessed for ailments with a genetic component cleave palate, spina bifida, congenital nature malformations, psychosis and others but that decisions on eligibility should be individualised.

These screening regulations do not always apply to the unknown number of UK citizens who travel abroad to find donors, utilization unlicensed clinics or buy home-insemination paraphernaliums online. Although psychological evaluation is required by most international authorities, this will not bar donors who have not yet developed evidences of a serious mental health issues disorder. For them, the diagnostic implement is time.

Genetic screening is more cheap and comprehensive than ever before. So, should we turn away from the donors account and towards the laboratory? Allan Pacey, professor of andrology at the University of Sheffield, is distrustful. I fantasize the perfect genome probably doesnt prevail, so its truly a question of where the line should be drawn. Only about 4% of all those who come forward to be sperm donors are admitted. If we were to impose a whole new change of exclusion criteria based on theoretical threats, it is possible there wont be any sperm donors at all.

Frozen sperm stored in a sperm bank. Image: monkeybusinessimages/ Getty Images/ iStockphoto

With improved screening, donors might be diagnosed with genetic ailments that would have remained undiscovered for ever, or are untreatable. Perhaps there is an controversy for not knowing.

Kevin, who were working in photography in London, is not just a donor-conceived person but a donor himself. He believes that prospective mothers should know as much as possible about the donors medical history. But there is a level where you have to draw the line, and say were no longer causing designer babies here, he adds.

He understands the distress of Elizabeth Hanson and Angela Collins, yet concern about speaking too much into particular case. Its a shame if parties tell it overshadow the industry and take it to be some sort of wide-reaching fraud. It is one floor. Every daytime there are lots of children being born to couples who have fertility problems and thats much more important to remember.

Eleven offspring have been born from his gifts. Why did he donate? I wouldnt be here if someone hadnt donated. Soul did that and thats why I am here.

Jess Cresswell discovered aged 28 that she was donor-conceived. Seven years later, she still does not know who her biological father is, but appears her parents established her best available life we are able to. Since some of her own family medical record is missing, how does she feel about donor screening?

I think they should be screened but I also considered that, just because they have some kind of hereditary condition, they shouldnt necessarily be excluded. Its the parents discretion; some people would rather have a child knowing theres a risk of picking something up than not, if that was their alone option.

It is now easier than ever for donor-conceived parties to find their genetic house. The US Donor Sibling Registry has helped connect more than 10,900 parties with their half-siblings and/ or their donors. Nearly 70% of those who sign up match with a biological relative, and virtually 80% of these working groups pair instant. The UK has a Donor Sibling Link site.

Direct-to-consumer genetic tests have revolutionised this room. In 2005, a 15 -year-old moved a saliva sample to an online service, had his genetic code uploaded, use a tracking website and met his biological father 10 weeks later. Kevin met a half-sister through a donor-sibling registry and two half-siblings through parentage places. He later unwittingly discovered some of his donors items. Two hours on, Google divulged his donors epithet. The two have since stayed in contact.

One last occasion: Aggeles received mental health therapy and picked up a degree in cognitive discipline two decades after he firstly registered at university. He is now working on a masters in artificial intelligence.

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