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heysatori · 4 years

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Can you write about the Bakusquad, you know each of them, where y/n has been through a lot of heartbreaks and is unsure about relationships, but they reassure y/n that they won't do that and everything will be fine? And maybe a little fluff in the end for good measure.

Bakusquad reacting to y/n being scared of getting into a relationship genre: fluff, angst pairings: Bakugou x reader, Kirishima x reader, Sero x reader, Kaminari x reader, Ashido x reader a/n: sorry i responded to this a little late! all ive been doing is watching minecraft streams, watching anime and sleeping while balancing school work ehe (⌒_⌒;) but thank u sm for the request ! i hope this satisfies ur request ! disclaimer that the pictures im using arent mine ! they are from heroacacaps ! so credits to them ! if u guys want to scream at me u can dm me here or on my twitter ! @kodzusan (´｡• ᵕ •｡`) ♡ im still accepting requests

Bakugou Katsuki

both you and bakugou were scared of relationships for different reasons

bakugou was scared because he knew how rough he was around the edges, if he was even fit to be in nice relationship

you on the other hand were scared of relationships because of the amount of heartbreaks youve been through

you were cheated on, broken up with, ghosted, and just left hanging

after all those mistakes you learned ur lesson !

so after having bakugou come up to you, courting you in the nicest way possible (giving you a bowl of your favorite food), you didnt know how to react

on surface level, katsuki had quite a few red flags here and there

but since you had gotten to know the boy a little better over the course of time, you learned to understand why he is the way he is

you trusted bakugou

so having him court you was surprising

although u had the fattest crush on him, you still didnt know what to do

so instead of refusing him with no reason, you explained your past to him (parts of which he already knew)

he understood completely, all he wanted was to treat you right and make you happy !!

“listen y/n, i know im a little rough around the edges, but i promise you that i wont do any of that stupid shit to you! all of your exes are absolute fuckin’ dumbasses for doing that to you and im here to treat you right and make you the happiest youve ever been! if you’ll let me”

ヽ( `д´*)ノ <- he blushes a little at the end

although wary, u trust him 1000% !!

so you accept his offer !!

hes pretty shocked that you accepted and instantly pulls you in a hug !

“thank you, i promise you fucking wont regret this”

Kirishima Eijirou

you had honestly fallen for eijirou the moment you met him

but with your considerable bad love life you decided against pursuing after him

but u couldnt help but feel urself get drawn towards him !

and surprise surprise ! you two become great friends !

but as time passes by, ur feelings for him become stronger, which is the total opposite of what u wanted (╯︵╰,)

so its an even bigger surprise when kirishima comes up to you with your favorite flower, asking you to be his significant other

he was so sweet but u were too scared to get into another relationship !

even though u and ur exes were in middle school at that time, those things still hurt you

you explain all of this carefully to the redhead, not wanting to hurt his feelings

he feels tears spring to his eyes as you tell him about your past

he just wants to make you happy !

so without thinking, he pulls you into a hug

“im so sorry that happened to you! you dont have to get with me if your scared! but just know that i wont ever, ever do those things to you! all i want is to make you happy, but its alright if you say no, ill still be here for you no matter what”

overwhelmed with emotions, you end up tearing up as well, melting in his bear hug

not wanting to make such a rash decision in the height of your emotions you tell the red head you’ll think about it (strongly hinting that you want to say yes)

Sero Hanta

sero is a very chill man so your attraction to him was a little unexpected

but you admire him a lot for a lot of things that he does !

u keep ur attraction to him on the down low though

it felt a little one sided for a while

you two barely interacted and he didnt even look at you most of the time

but your relationship with him took a sudden turn and u two became close friends !

you two bonded over mangas that you both read, occasionally spending time in his room to read the latest releases together !

one day, sero invited you to his room to read a romance manga he found out about a few days prior

you come over and end up sharing the book since you didnt have ur own copy

when you and sero reach a panel where the main characters aka the lovebirds finally kissed for the first time, the tall boy looked over to you

“wish i could do this with you” he said gently

NOTHING could explain how surprised u were !!

“are you serious?”

“of course i am”

at this you explain to sero that although you reciprocate the feelings, relationships are a little rocky for you considering your past relationships

sero wraps an arm around you and pulls you to his side, burying his nose in the side of your head

“thats fine, you dont have to say yes, just you knowing that i like you is good enough for me, just know that i wouldnt ever think about doing those stupid things to you, but if i can make you happy now, then im already doing a great job”

Kaminari Denki

kaminari was a very sociable boy !! so it was impossible that you two werent friends after a few months you start to notice the way your cheeks tend to heat up when ur around the blond

other people were also very aware at how when you and kaminari were together, both of you became blushing messes

they didnt talk about it though

they wanted the two oblivious dumbasses to figure it out themselves - ehem bakugou

one day though, kaminari comes knocking at your door, looking ridiculously shy

“uhm hi! i uh, i was, uhm, wondering if you maybe wanted to date me?”

before you could even process what he said, he immediately took it back

“wait no! uhm well i mean i like you a lot, thats why im asking! like a lot alot! i love your smile and your laugh and everything and i just, like making you happy, it makes me super duper ultra happy!”

although u want to accept denkis offer, your horrible dating life was looming over you

with this, you quietly tell denki that you dont think relationships are your thing

he doesnt hesitate to ask you why !

you unwillingly tell him about your stupid relationships and hes quick to retaliate your self degrading words

“hey! you arent stupid alright? you were young, things have changed! you’ve changed! i dont wanna force you into anything but just know, even if im a dumbass i wont treat you like that, ever! in fact, ill even be the best relationship youve ever had!”

he pulls you into a hug not long after, squeezing you tight against his chest

“i trust you, sure, ill date you” (*˘︶˘*).｡.:*♡

Ashido Mina

mina is a very determined person !

so when she wants something, she’ll get it one way or another

so when she realized her big fat crush on you, she knew immediately that she wanted to date you

and it wasnt just something about you, it was everything about you!

the way you stand, laugh, smile, talk, even if ur just sitting at your desk nodding off into sleep, she still thinks your the most amazing person ever (￣ε￣＠)

she doesnt hesitate to approach you after she is absolutely SURE about her feelings towards you

youre shocked of course, but you couldnt deny that you harbored feelings towards mina either

you reluctantly tell her that although the feelings were mutual, you were still scared of getting into a relationship

she listens carefully as u tell her about your past, rubbing your arm as comfort as you reveal a few of your insecurities

“you didnt deserve any of that, i hope you know that! you dont have to say yes or anything, i dont want you to feel forced or pity, but i can treat you so much better that all of those jackasses! but we dont have to date for that, i can still do those things as a loving and good friend!”

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midnight-moods · 7 years

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the last few days were a bit rough and when my mom noticed, she came to me and gave myself a little face massage. i thought she was the cutest, kindest and modest person on earth, and yes i still think she is. but while massaging my face she started to complain, asked me tons of questions i didnt want to hear and just made me more stressed that i already was. and then i politely asked her to say nothing for a while, because i really couldnt and didnt want to speak or even listen. she was mad at me because she had the feeling that i never genuinely want to speak with her, that i never call her, that i never enjoy spending time with her. and then i realized, that she wasnt even wrong about it. and then i suddenly started to cry. with my face in her hands. she apologized, and i was crying even more. not only because it was breaking my heart to realize that, but because i couldnt hold my tears back and let my mom to see her beloved daughter cry in front of her. what a heartbreaking moment for every mother of this universe, making your very child cry. i couldnt even stop because i had to imagine how it must feel like to see your daughter cry with her face in your hands. she apologized, and told me to stay strong. she told me with a proud voice that she raised a very strong young woman. i felt so weak, and then i started to question everything in my life within from minutes. it started from: why cant i show people my worry, how much i care, to: why am i so sensitive and weak (german: charakterschwach). why does everybody has to be strong? maybe that something about me that just makes me me. i know this world in where we live is not unicorns dancing on rainbows or love, freedom and peace. you're supposed to be strong in this world if you want to survive.. thats what people say all the time while pushing kindness and charity in the background. for some reason i saw my life before me, in the minute i was crying, thinking about what i did and how i treated other people, what im doing with my future now and how much i changed. i mean we are changing all the time. nothing defines you, no one can, not even you. there's no definition of you. i always believed in stars but thats actually the biggest crap. you are defined by nothing, which we come to chapter II: comparison and social media. i am so god damn guilty of this. i used to be a person who didnt even want to have a smartphone for a while and yet, i was an instagram user few months ago. you probably already know what i am going to talk about, all these posts where you show people that you got an incredible life without even enjoying it or having more followers than the other one and so on and on, that good old stuff that you already know anyways. actually im not only blaming social media, its just a very big influence of comparison. because we do it all the time, what makes she/he so much better than me? why is she prettier or smarter than me? why cant i be this person etc. in fact i am a very confident person but even then, i subconsciously compare myself with others especially with other people from the same nation, like dont get me wrong but i always used to be the "cool asian" and then i met so many other cool asians, and i felt less special. but i have learned that no matter how gorgeous they are, it wont make you less valuable. we sometimes forget that every human being is unique and nobody can ever be you. even if you was replaced by someone else, this someone will never be you. also about the comparison thing i noticed is all the materialism that people crave so much. and again, im guilty of this too. which we come now to chapter III: partying/clubbing and not missing anything. all the people i see on the street with their rolex watches and nike track suits. who is more aesthetic today? who looks richer? who has more to brag? because clothes make the man (german: Kleider machen Leute). and of course it does reveal something about you because most of the time you wear something you like, but we should stop reducing people by their clothes (guilty again!). especially when you want to get in a club and the bouncer wont let you in because of your appearance. so i've been to lots of clubs and homepartys by now and let me say: it made me and my best friend more than empty than anything else (we didnt even do drugs). ironically we used all these events to fill ourselves with joy since we didnt want to miss something, and want to have some fun and stories to tell - but also, because we love to dance and spend time with friends. but weekend after weekend, it just made us sadder and sadder. it was a combination of all three chapters, the: making people who cares about you worry and feeling guilty because you're not the daughter your parents deserve, the: social media and comparison because everybody try to flex on their social media accounts and making people more worth because of their followers (just like making celebrities more valuable than other people) and last but not least the: materialism and not missing any event because life is short and you have to make more experiences as fast as you can, and this is one of the reason why young people get grown up so fast, why 12 y/o people are not how they are 10 years ago. how every adolescent wants to be old because no one takes them serious, because people tell you to have a good career, a nice car and your own family to be happy. that is the final goal they say. that is one of the reasons why people want to find their significant other as soon as possible through dating apps or else where. of course, there is almost nothing thats like before because of the new generation of technology but that is a different topic i could write hours about - odds are, im very thankful my mom made me cry, it made us closer somehow, and it was giving me this flash of thoughts that i always suppressed. i mean i all knew these things before but it made me realize that i want to change something. it made me realize that it was another helpful lesson for me, that i need to move on but with this piece of wisdom in the background. sometimes i forget that parents are just like you and me too. that they just want the best for you. that they get hurt and cry too. take time for your family. seriously. thanks to my mom who is always there for me. the strongest human being in this entire universe. raised while living by one of the most known wars. saw many people dying including her young brother, going through depression, trust issues and living with insomnia for years and yet, she smiles everyday. for me. for dad. for everyone.

i love you mom

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rlc19 · 8 years

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Get to Know Me

Originally an ask thing, I’m turning this into a tag. So yeah. Here we go. Also, it’s a pretty decent size, so be prepared for that.

1) What images do you have set for your desktop/cell phone wallpapers?

A black backdrop on my laptop, and a witchy-looking bookshelf for my cellphone.

2) Have you ever had a crush on a teacher?

Yes.

3) What was your last text message?

“Hokay, see you soon!” to my roommate.

4) What do you see yourself doing in 10 years?

I honestly don’t know. I would like to be a published author who sells reasonably well, but chances are I’ll either have found my way into teaching comparative religions or creative writing, or I’ll still be working for the same coffee shop chain.

5) If you could be anywhere else right now, where would you be?

Real place? With Buddy.

Fictional place? Beacon Academy

6) What was your coolest Halloween costume?

A dark priest. Pretty generic tbh.

7) What was your favorite 90′s show?

Sabrina the Teenage Witch

8) Who was your last kiss?

I don’t honestly remember.

9) Have you ever been stood up?

No.

10) Favorite ice cream flavor?

Chocolate chip cookie dough.

11) Have you been to Las Vegas?

Yes, and I really want to go back.

12) Your favorite pair of shoes?

My combat boots.

13) Honestly, have you ever cheated on your significant other?

This question requires me to have been in a serious committed relationship at some point in my lifetime, so no, I have not.

14) What is your favorite fruit? Lemons.

15) Have you talked to anyone on tumblr that you could see yourself dating/having sex with? If possible?

I mean, I aggressively have feelings for Dylan.

16) Are you into hookups? Short or long term relationships?

Not into hookups, and definitely long term relationships.

17) Do you smoke? If so, what?

I do not, no.

18) What do you do to get over your anger?

Watch YouTube videos or a show that I love.

19) Do you believe in God?

I do believe he exists, but I do not personally believe in him. My faith lies with the Gaulish deities.

20) Does the person you’re in love with know it?

I’m not in love with anyone, so no.

21) Favorite position?

Being horizontal, curled up against my body pillow. I don’t care if that’s not the answer you’re looking for, it’s the answer you’re getting. Moving right along.

22) What’s your horoscope sign?

Tropical Zodiac: I am a Sagittarius sun, Scorpio moon, Sagittarius rising.

Sidereal Zodiac: Ophiuchus. (I don’t know much about the Sidereal Zodiac, tbh).

23) Your fears?

Failure, the future, being stuck in the same job for an extended period without moving forward in my life, dying.

24) How many pets do you have? What kind?

1 asshole cat who I love dearly.

25) What never fails to turn you on?

Heterochromia and pillow-y man bosoms.

26) Your idea of a perfect first date?

I really want to have a picnic in the woods or by a lake on a slightly overcast day that’s like, 65 degrees, with maybe a slight breeze.

27) What is something most people don’t know about you?

The most calming sound to me is that of running water, such as fountains, waterfalls, and waves.

28) What makes you feel the happiest?

Spending time out and about in nature.

29) What store do you shop at most often?

Fry’s Food and Drug.

30) How do you feel about oral? Giving and/or receiving?

Idk bruh? Yeah, I don’t know, this would require experimentation I haven’t as of yet had the opportunity to participate in.

31) Do you believe in karma?

In something like it, yes.

32) Are you single?

Hella single.

33) Do you think flowers or candy are a better way to apologize?

Candy for apologies, although I’ll never say no to flowers either.

34) Are you a good swimmer?

Decent.

35) Coffee or tea?

Por que no los dos?

36) Online shopping or shopping in person?

For clothes and books, in person. For electronics, online.

37) Would you rather be older or younger than your current age?

If I had to pick one, younger.

38) Cats or Dogs?

Again, por que no los dos?

39) Are you a competitive person? Not generally, but I can be.

40) Do you believe in aliens?

Not particularly.

41) Do you like dancing?

Yes.

42) What kind of music do you listen to?

Quite a range of genres, ranging from country, to metal, to Celtic folk, to dubstep, to classical.

43) What is your favorite cartoon character?

Raven from the Teen Titans.

44) Where are you from?

Arizona.

45) Eat at home or eat out?

Eat at home.

46) How much more social are you when you’re drunk?

I’m not, I sleep or get really quiet in the corner.

47) What was the last thing you bought for yourself?

Dinner.

48) Why do you think your followers follow you?

Because they are my friends irl.

49) How many hours do you sleep at night?

On average, 8-9. It’s death, without the commitment.

50) What worries you most about the future?

The fact that I don’t know where I’ll be. I kind of failed at setting goals for myself up until this point, so currently it’s just a gray fog staring bleakly back at me until I figure out what I want to do with my life.

51) If you had a friend that spoke to you the same way you speak to yourself, how long would you be friends?

Not very long. I’m working on being nicer to myself, but I’m pretty hard on myself and pretty negative, so yeah.

52) Are you happy with yourself?

No, but I’m getting there, it’s something I’m actively working on.

53) What do you wish you didn’t know?

The Ouroboros story by Unsettling Stories. I really can’t do auto-cannibalism.

54) What big lesson could people learn from your life?

Your will to live is like Hope (the Hope trapped at the bottom of Pandora’s Box/Pithos), it cannot be taken from you, you must give it up freely yourself. And no matter what happens, if you trust in your will to live, you can survive.

55) If you could live in any home on a television series, what would it be?

The house from Charmed, I really want that kitchen.

56) What’s your favorite website?

YouTube.

57) What’s the habit you’re proudest of breaking?

Using fiction as an extended escapist retreat from reality. I still do use fiction as an escape, but not in an unhealthy manner like I had been.

58) What was your most recent trip of more than 50 miles?

To Phoenix to visit the Misty.

59) What’s the best bargain you’ve ever found at a garage sale or thrift store?

A copy of La Peau de chagrin by Honoré de Balzac.

60) What do you order when you eat Chinese food?

Sweet and Sour Chicken, or Orange Chicken.

61) If you had to be named after one of the 50 states, which would it be?

Uhm...Maine?

62) If you had to teach a subject to a class, what would it be?

Mythology.

63) Favorite kind of chips?

Ruffles chips with ranch dip.

64) Favorite kind of sandwich?

Reuben.

65) Which do you use more often, the dictionary or the thesaurus?

Dictionary.

66) Have you ever been stung by a bee?

Nope.

67) What’s your favorite form of exercise?

Kickboxing.

68) Are you afraid of heights?

Heights? No. Falling? Yes.

69) What’s the most memorable class you’ve ever taken?

Advanced Fiction.

70) What’s your favorite breakfast?

Bacon, egg, and cheese biscuit.

71) Do you like guacamole?

Not particularly.

72) Have you ever been in a physical fight?

Yes.

73) What/who are you thinking about right now?

The fact that Kara Eberle and Jason David Frank are going to be at Phoenix Comicon, which I will be going to.

74) Do you like cuddling?

For the most part, yes.

75) Are you holding onto something you need to let go of?

OH YEAH, LIKE DON’T EVEN JOKE WITH ME ON THIS ONE. I mean, yeah, sure, maybe like one thing...

76) Have you ever experienced one of your biggest fears?

No, but I’ve come close.

77) Favorite city you’ve been to?

Either Munich, a little medieval town in France that I cannot for the life of me remember the name of, or Anaheim.

78) Would you break the law to save a family member?

If it was my brother, sister-in-law, or niece, yes. Otherwise, no.

79) Talk about an embarrassing moment?

I haven’t really done anything SUPER embarrassing, just small stuff, so I don’t really have anything for you here.

80) Are there any causes you strongly believe in?

Equal rights for everyone, and saving plant and animal life.

81) What’s the worst injury you’ve ever had?

I melted the skin, tendons, and ligaments in my right hand when I was 4. I’m honestly lucky I still have the use of my right hand.

82) Favorite day of the week?

Friday, and not because it’s the last day of the work week. It’s the day when people are excited for the weekend, and it generally just has an overall more positive feel to it than other days of the week.

83) Do you consider yourself sexually open minded?

I would say so.

84) How do you feel about porn?

For the most part, I have positive feelings about it.

85) Which living celebrity would you like to know?

So, this is a hard question, and I don’t honestly know 100%, but I’ll say Ricky Martin.

86) Who was your hottest ex?

So, tbh, I don’t think any of my exes were “hot”, they were attractive but not “hot”. But to answer the question, I’ll say Austin.

87) Do you want/have kids?

No thank you.

88) Has anyone ever told you that they wanted to marry you?

Romantically, no.

89) Do you get easily distracted?

Yes, very easily.

90) Ass or titties?

Pillow-y man bosoms, 100%. But I wont’ say no to a nice ass, either.

91) What is your favorite word?

Kerfuffle.

92) How do you feel about tattoos?

I quite enjoy them.

93) Do you have any pets?

Please refer back to question 24.

94) How tall are you?

5′10″

95) How old are you?

22 years old.

96) 3 physical features you get complimented on a lot?

My eyes, my fingernails, the length of my fingers.

97) Is there anything you’re really passionate about? Literature, mythology, and religion.

98) Do you have trust issues?

Somewhat?

99) Do you believe in love at first sight?

No, I believe in lust at first sight.

100) What are some words that you live by? Why?

One life is all we have and we live it as we believe in living it. But to sacrifice who you are, and to live without belief, that is a fate more terrible than dying.

Because it’s a good reminder to live for yourself, not someone else.

So yeah, there you go, 100 things to get to know me. I’m going to tag @rogue-one-drinks-coffee, @fannibalgirl92, @sassmastercrane, and @dustychica, and anyone else who wants to do the thing (but don’t feel like you have to).

#questions #tagging games

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personifiedchaos · 4 years

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So I've got a story to share.

Context: I am genetically female, emotionally nonbinary. My husband is genetically and emotionally a cis male(accordingto him. He is incredibly adamant about it and though I've tried to bring it up I dont feel I have the right to question who he says he is.) However, the way he acts and feels, if I drop the pronouns when I talk about him, you would be astonished to find out I'm talking about a 6ft4 350lb white cis male and not a 5ft2 120lb 1950s Latina housewife.

And vice versa for me. I'm a 5ft10 white female but if you talk about me without pronouns you'd think I was an old horney salty sailor. I swear, I drink, I'm Pan so my sexual tastes are over the place, and I work in a primarily male profession.

So male infact that I was only the 2nd female technician in my laboratory. Ever. Like 8th female program wide. None of that matters to me. I am who I am and I'm happy. I love my husband and who he is. This is just context.

Story time....

So I'm sitting in my lab doin paperwork and the guys are all kinda chatting around the main floor. The way the lab setup all our cubicals kinda sit in a circle opening into a big open space in the middle, so people tend to congregate in the center. This day we're all chilling and doin paperwork etc and somebody's wife calls and yadda yadda pick up bread and milk on the way home etc. So the guy gets off the phone and the conversation switched from sports to "our wives". (Unknown to them my husband has called himself my diva, my wife, my trophy wife, etc. I honestly believe he is nonbinary or transgender but he REFUSES to broach the subject. I digress.) So they're talkin about "my wife" does this and "my wife" does that etc. And I chime in with "Yeah, my diva loses his mind over how I load the dishwasher. It isnt good enough that I load it, it has to be done a special way! Or he loses his shit." (Mind you, this was YEARS ago and I didnt know my honey was OCD at the time.) Now, I'm the new guy at work, and the only female in the lab at the time, and only the 2nd female ever, and my predecessor was an ANGEL. She would not have said 'shit' if her mouth was full of it. She was a real oldschool "Lady". We all loved her, but I'm not her.

So I expect that (like 90% of my comments) this one will either be ignored, or the conversation is gonna die because I joined in uninvited. At this time the guys didnt know how to react to me. They were all terrified to say the wrong thing and upset or offend me which used to really bug me. Hardly anyone talked to me. I had only made 2 friends in the month I'd been there. I felt socially isolated. Anyway, I chime in expecting zilch and to my surprise It took a whole turn! Our lead tech pipes up! Now you need to understand, this dude NEVER talked to me. I now know that this is just his way around newbies. You have to earn his respect and friendship. He takes the job very seriously and wont talk to you or become friendly until he know you do too.

So I say my thing and he yells from the back corner of his cubicle "MAN MY WIFE USED TO DO THAT TOO! BUT YOU KNOW WHAT I DID!" Dude comes out of his cubicle. Now everyone is listening cuz lead tech don't talk much and we can all tell he is PROUD of this story. So he saunters out and plops down in a chair and rolls up into the circle. "LET ME TELL YA! SHE USED TO FIGHT ME ALL THE TIME ABOUT HOW I LOADED THAT GOD DAMN DISHWASHER! YOU'RE DOIN IT WRONG! IT HAS TO BE THIS WAY OR THAT WAY! PUT THOSE DOWN THERE AND THESE UP HERE!" Now homie is getting animated right. Talkin with his hands and getting loud and making a girly voice. I'm smiling ear to ear cuz it's my first team conversation that isnt a meeting. "So you know what I did!? I GOOGLED THE MANUFACTURER'S OPERATING MANUAL. THERE ARE LOADING INSTRUCTIONS IN IT!" He is laughing now. Laughing and red in the face with a big ass toothy grin. (ALL VERY NEW TO ME) he goes on "I PRINTED THAT BITCH OFF AND LAMINATED IT AND PUT IT IN A BINDER AND TOOK IT HOME! I SAID, 'HONEY! If we cant agree then were gonna do it the way it was designed to be done!!'" He slaps his knee. Smiles real big and laughs. Looks me dead in the eye and winks. "She never argued with me on how I use anything from that moment on." He is BEAMING with pride. "Any time we disagree on how to do something I pull out the instructions and we compromise and do it the way the instructions say. It has stopped so many fights and saved us so many headaches. That's how you do it! Get you an owner's manual and bury the hatchet. Life is hard enough without stressing over the little shit."

The conversation carried on and lasted the rest of the afternoon. I cant remember the rest. That lead tech is now our lab supervisor. He is a dear friend and co worker to me. He has taught me a ton in the 6 years I've been here. This guy has had my back and encouraged me and kicked my ass when I needed it. He has treated me like he does every other guy in our lab and everyone else followed his lead. I feel respected and I trust him. Thig guy has my loyalty but the thing that will always be my favorite memory of him is that dishwasher story.

6 years later my honey and I have found our way. We have 2 beautiful babies and are very happy together. That user manual trick actually worked really well for us. Once my honey say how it was designed to go it helped him not have an anxiety attack as long as it was done that way. Every time I load the dishwasher I smile because a veteran husband taught me some of the most valuable lessons I've learned about relationships. And they work for all kinds of relationships. Not just with significant others, but with friends, siblings, parents, children, neighbors, literally anyone you're gonna come in prolonged contact with...

If it matters to them, it should matter to you. If you cant do it their way and they cant do it your way, then you gotta them in the middle. The answer is out there, you just both have to want to find it together. This isnt a competition, it's a partnership, if you're more worried about winning the fight than fixing the problem then you're missing the point. And lastly dont just complain about shit. Offer solutions and brainstorm until you can find one that you both like because (though it is sometimes nice to have the sympathy and relief that comes with complaining to a friend or loved one) it eventually becomes frustrating to constantly hear complaints about a fixable issues. Nobody likes an askhole for very long. And lastly, life is hard enough without creating your own problems! Its 3am and I'm taking a break after deep cleaning my kitchen to share this with you. I hope it impacts you the way it did for me. Gnight my loves!

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