#it doesnt matter if jaiden is or not. it doesnt matter. its just tiring its exhausting its stupid and its online as hell

[dyketubbo]

just bitching in the tags a bit to get feelings out

[dyketubbo]

you are so felt and heard 🤝

handshake with the most tired expression on my face ever. its so exhausting for any nonstandard aro out there its crazy. it feels like the whole "'theres too much of x!' what where can i see it" thing when people act as if somehow romance repulsed nonpartnering aros are at the forefront of fucking anything. as if theres a drought in content of aro characters who still get partners in some way. as if not caring for shipping in the "characters snogging each other for the sake of it" way (or hell even at all) is this taboo way to think and youre a fucking freak of nature if you want aro characters who dont end up in romantic situations just because theres some people who are actively unpleasant about it

and its especially exhausting in the mcyt fandom. 90% of this fandom (and most fandoms are like this really) is completely hostile to any aromantic person who doesnt fit the idea of a Good Aro, one who lets people call qprs "platonic soulmate headcanons" and is just as into shipping as your average allo and feverently fights off all the nasty loveless heartless freaks who still dont care for the "love is what makes the world go round" narrative even when it isnt romantic, looking their fellow aros in the eyes and telling them to sit down and be quiet because how dare we "assume love is automatically romantic, dont you ever think about aromantic people?"

at some point it stops being about what characters this is even expressed through (qjaiden already has a platonic/maybe qp partner anyways, jaiden the person not as a character is very into the aroace people still love their friends and family narrative and i could not and would not want to tell you whether or not she would give a shit about people shipping her character) and just starts being an exhausting pattern of how people act about aro issues in general. about aro characters, about aro people who dont fit an acceptable mold, whatever.

like. idk. why does it matter so much to still be able to fit aro characters into this ship focused mold, or to have this strict box of "you should only stray away from shipping if the person/character is romance repulsed". it doesnt actually matter to people if jaiden is romance repulsed or not. not to the people who are saying that she is, not to the people that are saying that she isnt. not even in general really. im starting to run out of words to explain what i mean but you see how tiring it is, yeah? youd think if the whole "you can still love your friends/family!" narrative actually mattered to people theyd be satisfied just leaving qjaiden out of shipping. not because shes romance repulsed but just like.. for the sake of leaving aro/aroace characters the hell alone sometimes. leaving aro/aroace people the hell alone sometimes

at some point im just gonna start hcing random characters as being nonpartnering aros and all these freaky "ouuhhh how could you live without love" microlabels that even other aro people hate like aplatonic as a way to bat people away from me if they cant be normal about it. nonpartnering loveless aroallo qtubbo is real to me now. aplatonic luzu. lovequeer philza. heartless bobby etc etc what the fuck ever. who is anyone to tell me no