#it in the group. then argued that if ur a lesbian who likes being fingered then ur bi but it’s ok bc u have a vagina it’s natural to want a

[menalez]

This is random but i have to ask someone:

Bi women are the ones being targeted for 3somes more often. Unicorn hunting is specifically about bi women

BUT at the same time lesbians are hurt much more than bi women by the constant influx of couples on dating apps, because bi women do have the capability to be attracted to and enthusiastically consent to a male unlike lesbians

Now that is my opinion but when I’ve said this ive been called both homophobic and biphobic, so am i missing something?

im sure bi women are fetishised as unicorn material more often and the term unicorn in general is used to mean bisexuals open to threesomes or sth of the sort. but im not sure if id say they’re targeted more often in that sense. i can only speak on my personal experience here but on dating apps there were several times id match with a woman and talk to her and she’d reveal that she’s looking for a third for her and her boyfriend/husband. several times i matched w a woman then go to her profile and realise there’s sth in there about how they’re actually a couple (but for some reason only put the woman’s pics and the one pic hidden in there of her w her bf/hubby, or only mention it at the very end of their profile). so many times id be like “im a lesbian obviously im not interested in a threesome with ur man” and they’d act like it was my fault and im dumb or sth. it literally says im a lesbian in my profile and it also has a line about “not interested in your boyfriend” in there!!! so i would say lesbians are pretty heavily affected by this phenomena too. there’s even a case of a lesbian lured into this date w a bi woman only for it to turn out that it was one of those unicorn hunting situations and she ended up getting murdered and raped by those ppl.

i can somewhat agree to the 2nd part of what u said. it is more insidious and harmful for lesbians that dating apps are filled with unicorn hunters like that mostly bc there are actually bi women into that (albeit rare, hence them being called unicorns). but there’s not gonna be any lesbians into having a threesome w someone’s man.

idk why people got mad at u tho. i disagreed w part of ur statement but im not mad over it? i can’t measure how much more unicorn hunters go after bi women comparatively, i just know i dealt with way too many of them and many of them are sly and trying to get lesbians for whatever reason which is gross

[carharttlesbian]

Mk, would u give ur take on this essay?? uhu((.))es/hum676/revista/warkentin.pdf i wonder how you approach it given the perspective shifts you have gone through despite that book being something quite important to you.

for anyone that wants to follow along with the class: link

Jess’s body refuses categorization as either butch woman or transsexual man

wow maybe this is because those have always been very similar groups of women 🤔 i wonder what the author would think of the butch landscape now

The content of Stone Butch Blues, though, does frustrate expectations by refusing to fulfill itself as the transsexual “coming home” story it appears to be (as critic Jay Prosser argues).

good to know the concept of detransitioners has always been offensive, nice. it is almost as if the novel was written by a woman who stopped transition. that's so crazy!

the idea of transition unlocking your true self or "home" as this essay posits is so bogus to me honestly - none of this does anything to address the forces in society that drive women and men to feel that they must alter their bodies

the part on page 13 about ftm butches and butch4butches fighting is funny. like not ha-ha funny but wow we sure have constructed this with some kinda arbitrary rules haven't we. like:

Jess initially cannot accept the idea of two butches being attracted to each other, and her rejection of Frankie leaves the former friends estranged for years. In Jess’s estimation, she and Frankie are completely different, and she feels threatened by any sense of their similarity.

this reminds me of all of the fights between transmen and butches about our similarities. sigh.

funny to call the unnamed (lesbian, i assume) feminist a pseudo progressive. ha ha funny

mostly i feel like this essay is academic and a fan of post modernism and queer theory in a way that it kinda just slips through my fingers. thank you for sending it my way!

[official-alan-dabiri]

Jesus Christ Blizzard What The Fuck

Alright, I just want to get my thoughts down on this because acknowledging it is mandatory and the more I think about it the more I have to think about it and holy shit. Jesus Christ Blizzard what the fuck.

Before the cut, the most important thing to say is that down here as physical people on the ground, our individual mental health matters more than making a gesture that might not mean anything. If thinking about the shit that happened hurts you, do yourself a favor and don’t think about it. Don’t worry: plenty of other people are being emotionally consumed by it at every hour of the day!

Additionally, if you want or need to be playing Heroes of the Storm - or whatever other games Blizzard made, if any - for your own mental, social, or emotional well-being, you aren’t morally obligated to stop. Do what you gotta do to make it day to day, okay? Obviously if you can stop giving them money, that would be great - some proportion of that money will indirectly go towards paying the lawyers who will be trying to dodge facing consequences for these actions. But please secure your own orcs-ygen mask before assisting others.

The second most important thing to say is that I wholeheartedly condemn the actions described in the DFEH investigation. The vast majority of those behaviors are monstrous and unforgivable, and the only thing worse is the implication - true or not - that Blizzard’s management and HR department either participated or was complicit in them.

With those matters said, I’ll put the rest under the cut to spare you all the dash space.

In case it needs to be said again: I am not Alan Dabiri. This blog is not affiliated in any capacity with Blizzard. I’m just some guy copying something cool I saw a lesbian do.

For the sake of everyone’s mental health, I’m not going to go into details about the report. If you want details, they’re all over the internet, but be warned that they range from frustrating to enraging to nauseating. Just searching for “Blizzard Scandal” isn’t specific enough, so I will say - for future generations who might be scrolling back and reading this in 2022, after “Blizzard Scandal” brings up a whole new thing - that this is in reference to the California DFEH discrimination lawsuit, wherein a 2-year investigation led to a laundry list of crimes committed by Blizzard and Blizzard employees against the women who worked there. Some of these are labor crimes, some of these are just dick moves, and some of them are seriously dark shit that’s going to haunt me every time a Blizzard game’s story decides that the only thing they can do with a woman is have her go crazy and get killed. What immediately followed was an outpouring of more horrifying stories across social media from others who worked for Blizzard, whose experiences were not included in the report.

Blizzard’s statements in response to the suit are a mixed bag. For one thing, they outright deny all the charges, insisting that many of the claims are distorted, out of context, factually incorrect, or - the most irrelevant kind of accusation - old. They hide behind an updated Code of Conduct and new training standards rather than do anything to acknowledge any of the wrongdoing. (Because no one would ever know that [redacted] was a morally disgusting crime unless an HR video told them!) Their statement instead points fingers at the state and their “unaccountable bureaucrats” driving businesses out of California. It’s the most childish response imaginable, and makes the whole thing look even worse than it already did. When you are accused of ignoring mistreatment of a specific group of employees, perhaps the correct response isn’t to ignore the accusations altogether and whine that you’re being bullied by law enforcement.

That said, the Blizzard response does have a grain of truth to it. The DFEH’s filing is outside of normal protocol. After the investigation, the DFEH’s normal procedure is to work with the company, resolving claims and concerns with them directly before moving to litigation, if necessary. Further speculation online has been that the state of California may be trying to make an example out of Blizzard. The games industry has long been full of this exact kind of discrimination and harassment. Coming down on Blizzard for this shows the industry that even their titans can and will be held accountable, even if it means going to court when it may not have been by the book to do so.

Maybe it’s not fair to Blizzard that they have been denied the opportunity to address these complaints in private with their own evidence and information. Maybe some of these complaints are indeed factually incorrect. Maybe some of these perpetrators faced serious consequences that the victims were not aware of. Maybe they did everything right to cut the problems in their internal culture out over the last few years, but the DFEH had already decided that Blizzard needed to be their scapegoat for the whole industry.

But Blizzard’s response being a tantrum cry of “nah-uh ur a bunch of fudging meaners” makes it look to me like they want to be that scapegoat. And if this is the only way the industry starts holding their supervisors and HR departments accountable for how they treat women and minorities in their employ, it would be a hard sell to convince me that the DFEH is making a bad call to take Blizzard to task for these offenses. Even if Blizzard puts to rest each and every claim with clear evidence of proper behavior on the part of the company in a court of law, I also find it hard to argue against having Blizzard submit to the public record a roadmap on how a large corporation in an especially abusive industry can eliminate a culture of harassment and sexism.

I, uh, don’t expect that to be the result. But boy, wouldn’t that be great? All the victims got their justice, Blizzard is exonerated, and every HR department in the nation is handed a toolkit to fix even the worst work environment? You want to talk about a fantasy setting, there you go.