#just demi aroace moment in conversation with mom

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The other day I heard my mom and my brother talking about pansexuality and I went to join the conversation because I had no idea how it started. My sister had had that class where they explain that there are people that are no straight and what not and she was curious about what pan meant (I remember that when I had that class they said that pan was like bi, but liking trans people, so I'm glad that she asked instead of assuming that you can't like trans people if you are bisexual). I explained what it is and they were sure that that is also the definition of demisexual, which is a word that I didn't even imagine that they would have heard. I explained what demi is, but somehow that was not different for them. Then they starting to rant about how there are too many labels nowadays (while I insisted that maybe those labels are very important to other people. They somehow said that they didn't care while ranting about it, and that you have to respect people's identities but that those are ridiculous).

Anyway, my sister asked the same question later but it was not the best moment. A couple of days later she asked me and I explained again after telling her to not ask those things to them because they know nothing and she was like: "So, then you are pan? Because you don't care about gender" and, like, no, I'm aroace, but good reasoning I guess.

Look, I don't know if she asks because that identity feels right to her or if she was just curious and wanted to learn, but she is probably the most respectful towards queerness in the house and I don't want the rest of my family to ruin that.