#krishna you're literally my dad

[hum-suffer]

Main abhi abhi aarti karke aai and istg what is this trials and tribulations

Tried to light the diya and the maachis didn't work like seven times until I said Jai Shree Krishna.

Lit Kuldevi Mata's Diya first, as is custom in my house, and the when I lit Krishna's Diya next, a part of the maachis fell on my foot.

Context, this is my bua's house and their main god, kuldev, is Krishna while mine is Swaminarayan. I love Krishna a lot and he's my personal aradhya but Krishna still has to trouble me with trials like

Hein beta Aaj kaise aana hua and then

Accha maa ko yaad kiya to papa ko second rakh diya????

[stardustkrishnaverse]

TEXTING HINDU GODS PT.2

cos i couldnt get enough 😂

RAMA 🫶:

- replies with a wholesome and sweet paragraph LITERALLY EVERY TIME

- asks you about your day

- tells you what him and his fam did that day

- helps you make friends ('Don't worry - you're so sweet and kind! You have got this! 🤗')

- emotional breakdown support 101

- does random facetimes to show you nice things he finds in the forest

- does group vid calls to show everyone

-- > does 'campfire sessions' on group vid call where you all play antakshari or tell stories together

- gives the best life advice, on parallel with Krishna's (surprise surprise amirite)

y/n : hi Ram ji :)

Rama : Hi my priye y/n, so good to hear from you! You know, today we saw this beautiful flower in the forest that I'm pretty sure is a Golden Arch Dendrobium - Lakshmana says we have come to the areas of Bharat where it is a native plant! Its colour was so mesmerising and bright - it looked so lovely in Sitey's hair! I wish you were here to see it 🥰 [Sends pic of flower]

y/n : *sends 10min voice note of emotional breakdown*

rama : *sends multiple vns back right away with lots of affirmations and emotional support. if your love language is physical touch he also posts you a hand-knit jumper or a crochet teddy for you to snuggle*

HANUMAN 🫶:

- another one for speed dial

- happy to help in every circumstance

-- > but may not help with picking outfits as he'll find smth nice to say for every option 😂💓

- BEST motivation and motivational speeches

- will pretend to study with you on vid call so you can have a study buddy 🥺

- if you can't sleep at night, will be on phone call telling a wholesome story to send u to sleep (most likely smth about his or shri ram's adventures)

- will highly appreciate you sharing your fave Shri Ram bhajans with him

- begins and ends every convo with 'JSR 🙏' (Jai Shri Ram)

- in summary: your fave uncle and grandad in one

- in bg of all of Shri Ram's vid calls and says hi haha (he loves to sing in the antakshari and is also such a big hype man 😁)

RADHA 🫶:

- you know that trope about going to dads with all your 'dad needs' like fixing the sink,, well that is radhe with LITERALLY EVERYTHING

- solves all your problems

- is also on speed dial

- is the caring older sister (without the brown eldest sibling trauma 💀)

- reposts all the dumb pics of herself that kanha tags her in and adds individual captions with the patience of only kanhas eternal consort 🥰

kanha : *posts of a pic of himself looking swag and radhe scratching her nose mid blink* RADHE ❤️

radhe : *resharing* I've never looked so good, new pfp material 😂

kanha : *comments* wow i get to be in ur pfp 🥹🥹🥹🥹 #blessed

radha : like u are not literally in all of them 🙄

y/n : *posts a vid of radha single-handedly doing dhakka to y/n's broken down car, kanha doing 😍 face in bg*

[siriusblack-the-third]

hellooo with your permission, i am coming back to bother you with the Indian James headcanons 🙏

assuming they're from Maharashtra and they speak Marathi (and Hindi? i'm assuming most families know more than just one language) at home, what would he call his parents? and what would they call him and each other? I've heard "jaan" a lot but I'm not sure how accurate that is and whether that works for Marathi too. are there any other endearment terms they could use? like love, sunshine, darling etc in English.

also i've been wondering if there's any exclamations/expressions etc that can be used within English speech without making it sound unnatural. like in Arabic we say "basmala/mashallah" for good luck or "inshallah" when we hope that something happens etc and it's integrated in English speech very naturally. wondering if there's anything of that sort?

Okay imma go step by step here. In India, especially where I live (Maharashtra yay hehe) it's pretty normal to know like three or more languages. I myself— plus my family— speak Marathi, Hindi, Urdu, Gujarati and Marwadi, and even though we can't speak them we understand Punjabi and Bengali. So you assume correctly that they speak more than one language at home. Especially my family, where we know a bunch of non Indian languages as well, for business purposes.

Assuming James is Maratha, he would call his mother Aai (pronounced Aa-ee) and his father Baba (Mum and Dad). I have this headcanon that when he wants to annoy them he calls them Matoshree and Pitashree lmao (formal terms for Mother and Father in Hindi/Sanskrit).

"Jaan" means "life", and it's pretty accurate even if it's Urdu tbh, a lot of parents call their kids stuff like jaan, hayat (which you already know the meaning of), laadli (darling in Hindi), maajha baal (my baby- Marathi). If you wanted nicknames in Marathi you'll be good to go with bubdi (bubba), laadkaa or laadki (darling in masc and fem), or sonpari (golden fairy, usually for girls) and Sonu (dear, used for children).

Exclamation sounds can be "arey!" (uh-ray) which is "hey!" and "aai ga!" (aa-ee guh) which is like "oh mother!". They're just one word each, but they can be used in like 50 different situations lmao. Arey can be used for calling someone's attention ("arey come here a second will you?"), to express frustration with someone ("areyyy, why are you like this?"), exasperation ("arey yaar!" yaar is slang for friend) and a bajillion other stuff. Aai ga is used as an exclamation mark for when you're surprised, or got hurt, and in place of "oh God!". We don't have specific phrases that mean good luck or inshallah, but Urdu still uses both mashallah and inshallah so you'll be okay i think. But James probably wouldn't use them bc he's not a Muslim yk, and Hindu people usually use the name of the god they're praying on on swearing on, so there's that. We say stuff like "hay bhagwan" ("oh, Vishnu". Bhagwan is one of the innumerable names of the Lord Vishnu). Or "har har Mahadev" ("glory be to Lord Shiva". Maha-dev literally translates to Great God, but it is one of the well known names of the God of Destruction). We do use "arey deva" (oh god) as well. "Jai shree Ram"(hail to the Lord Ram) or "jai shree krishna" or "jai shree ganpati" (ganpati is what most marathi people call Lord Ganesha) is used when we're beginning something and we want to make the start auspicious. The phrases are kind of used as "may this go well and end well" ykwim? This is hard to explain I hope you get what i wanna say lol.

Anyways, this is it, I hope this helps, and you can ask me anything and i will answer. Not always so quickly but I will. Have a good day!

[anapologethicc]

Your tags on this post. 🤯🤯🤯 All of my feelings put into words. Including the education and marriage bit.

We went to a close family wedding last month and evveryone was asking the girls when they were going to marry. My older sister just blushed cuz yk it's a pretty forward question for students ffs. I feel a bit proud of myself for saying that I'll marry when I marry. I feel like no one is in a position to tell me what I should do with my life and when. My father and mother have been very supportive in the matter of me getting my education. They have said it to me time and time again that they'll support me in anything I do, so long it's not drugs but that goes unspoken cuz obviously I won't do drugs. I've made it pretty clear to them that I have some goals to achieve before starting a family or marrying anyone. Of course I'd love to have a family, but I wanna do some things on my own first.

And ear piercings are not really a very big deal. Literally everyone has them/ has had them. My nieghbour's son wears a bali even though he's 8. No one even thinks that peircings are cuz of the so called 'male consumption'. It's tradition. It's been going on since ages. There was this show called 'Upanayan Ganga' which re-aired on Doordarshan last year during COVID lockdown's and all, and they literally showed Shri Krishna's karnavedh samskara. It's so very natural for us to peirce the ears of babies and no one gives it much thought besides "it's tradition so we're doing it".

I literally am so so so speechless by your tags cuz. YES! TO ALL OF THAT!

Love love, xx

hi bubbie <33

ahahah omgg thank you!! i was like kuch zyada toh nahi bol diya lmaoo. but ahhh omg so proud of you for saying that!! also i know that feeling. literally every time we call up my grandparents, i get asked when i'm gonna get married. cause my dad's the oldest sibling and i'm the oldest child. dadi, nani, literally everyone keeps telling me that i should get married right after my uni graduation. and my response to that is always. "if you even think about getting me married before i'm 30, i WILL run away." and everyone always takes me seriously and shuts up because they know not to test me. they know i'm capable of it (i'm the rebel child)

this ended up being a very long and personal rant. it's open for all to read. if you're interested :) shreya i hope you don't mind reading this ahah. mwah

then the otherside of it is that they compare me with my mother who they married off at the age of 23. TWENTY THREE. and she was a PCM student. she did triple science and math in college. SHE WENT TO COLLEGE!!! and for some unknown fucked up reason they still married her off. and she had me at 24. TWENTY FUCKING FOUR. unfathomable to me. she was barely even married for a year before she had me. i'm literally only a year and few months older than my parents wedding anniversary.

my mom hates cooking and cleaning and everything to do with running a household. she still loves learning and she teaches tuition to some kids for free because she doesn't want to ever forget all that she learnt. she's fucking smart. and she never fails to remind me of it every single day lmao. so it's really easy for someone to say that parents shouldn't be putting their unfinished dreams and expectations unto their children. but jesus fuck. she was 24. she didn't have a choice. she had to move away from everything she knew. it's something white people especially white women will NEVER understand. my mother will never say it out loud but she regrets not doing anything with her degree and she regrets not studying further. she did TRIPLE SCIENCE AND MATH and SHE LIKED IT!! she can be very passive aggressive when i don't work hard in school and not because she's forcing me to do things she never could but because she knows that if SHE got that opportunity she would make the best of it.

and my dad. my dadi hated the fact that i was a girl. my dad's the oldest. i was the first child in the family and she would constantly make snide comments about the fact that i was "a girl". she calmed down a lot and was a lot nicer after my younger brother was born. but my dad never even went to college. he barely passed high school. he can be a lot of things, rude, impatient. but one thing he never did was stop me from doing what i wanted. he always tells me that i'm the only hope of the family (out of all the kids in our family) because he's always believed i'll make something of myself. when i was younger and my dad used to tell me that money is the most important thing, i would always argue with him that it's not, that the most important thing is happiness. and he learnt it. just like that. it's the reason why i'm doing my bachelor's in education and not a stupid business degree like the rest of my irl desi friends. i remember arguing with him about the fact that nobody would shut up about getting married, and he said to me that if i could support myself, have a stable job and income, he would never force me to get married. but then on the other hand, he's also said you have 2 options, either work hard and study or get married. so it's eh.

it's not to say that my parents are perfect. hell no. i'm hella traumatized. but i think after a certain point in my life i realized that they're also human. they did what they thought was best at that point and that's okay. and that they were so fucking young. i'm gonna turn 20 this year. and i graduate at 23. i can't even fathom having to deal with the responsibilities of a household as well as a child at that age. and on top of that moving away from india to settle in hong kong. i'm a first generation immigrant child. of course i'm fucking traumatized. but i also know that a lot of decisions that my parents made, they were forced to make them under the circumstances.

also i know that ear piercing is a traditional and cultural ritual in many parts of the country and yeah. even in mandirs today (sidenote: my family is very religious) the gods are all made to wear earrings. they all wear heavy golden jewellery. it's always been a part of our tradition and culture and it's never been about gender. people of all genders used to get their ears pierced. like i said. it was BECAUSE of western influences that earrings or necklaces on men were considered to be "feminine". even now boys and men in india love to get their ears pierced. and so many people do it for boys at a young age. and i get that it might not be perfect. no culture or tradition ever is. but leave it to US to be critical of our own cultural and traditional practices. someone who does not have the same experience will NEVER understand.

one more point to add real quick. it's a backward western belief that our parents or poc aren't capable or change and are woc are considered to be the pillars of misogny and patriarchy. but that's not true. yes it's harder for our parents to adapt and change their ways of thinking just as hard as it is for some white people to believe that white supremacy is a thing and it's harmful. but that's not to say they're completely hopeless.

in our home for example. ever since my brother became a teenager he has this habit of walking out of the bathroom or around the house shirtless. and every time he did, i would tell him to put on a shirt but he would just make fun of me. and one day i completely lost my shit. i got so mad at my mother, and i screamed and i said. the next time i see him half naked in the house, i will walk out of my room in a bra and then we'll see what you do about that. and i said the same to my brother. i said if you wanna walk around with your shirt off in the house, i will do the same. ever since then he's shit scared of me. he always has a shirt on in the house.

i get that it's a very small and simple thing and maybe might not mean much. but now my brother understands. he gets it. he gets that it's unfair that he can come out of the bathroom in a towel while i have to come out of the bathroom fully dressed. everytime i come out of my room to ask my mother's opinion on my outfit and i hear him comment on what i'm wearing. he gets a lecture. i ask him why he thinks he has the right to comment on what i'm wearing. who he thinks he is to be able to pass commentary on what i want to wear. slowly he's learning. the other day i came out of my room to asked my mother about her opinion and my brother opened his mouth to say something. i gave him one look and he shut up and said "i have no right" and i was like "correct" and he silently went back to his room.

these are not big things and my family prolly still isn't as forward minded as i'd like them to be. but it's sometimes the little things. like the fact that my dad and brother have stopped commenting on what i wear. how my dad makes my brother do his bit of housework. even after being told by so many people that aren't my parents upset that their oldest child is a "girl", my dad has never treated me like i couldn't do something. and he's always treated me like i'm the ghar ka beta. which is a huge thing for me. my mom's never forced hyper feminine clothing onto me and somedays she'll go out and buy a shirt from the boys section for me. my dad's always made sure i knew how to fix things around the house. hell i'm better with a screwdriver and carpentry tools than any other 'girls' my age. (but that's also prolly cause i'm a lesbian lmaooo) But it's sometimes the little things that matter in a brown household. our parents aren't perfect, our families are fucking dysfunctional. but at the end of the day, they've all faced the generational trauma that comes with being brown and from a patriarchal and misogynistic society. and they're all human and they're all trying their very best to learn things that to them seem unfathomable. and yeah it's up to us to break that cycle but also to remember to be compassionate and kind towards them while they learn and try to do the same in their own small little ways.

but even after all of this. no white radfem is allowed to be critical of our lives. they don't fucking understand and they never will. they don't know our cultural, our traditions or our history. even today, i never speak over people living in india talking about their experiences in the country as a minority. because i know that i have NO firsthand experience of it. yes i've heard about it, yes i know the experience of being brown in a predominantly chinese society. but i will never know the experience of being a minority be it a woman or queer person living in india. i can only try to help them amplify their voices. it's that simple. and the radfems will never ever understand this because they have a skewed perception of poc and esp of woc.

i'm sorry if this is not what you expected. but i hope i made sense and thank you for letting me go on this rant. i love you <3