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[realmermaidliv]

Happy #sirensunday everyone! Hope eveyone gets the chance to relax today and take some time for #selfcare 🌺 Be kind to yourself as well as others! ✌ Tail: @mermaidkatshop Save 5% with code MermaidLiv05 #relaxingsunday #chillvibes #unwinding #treatyoself #metime #relaxation #weekendvibes #mermaid #mermaidtail #mermaiding #mermaidwisdom #mermaidwords #mermaidlife #mermaids #mermaidsofinstagram #realmermaid #selflove #selfesteem #loveyourself #liveyourbestlife #gowiththeflow #lifeisgood https://www.instagram.com/p/CH5kobVBI00/?igshid=1ucin27k9itml

[lesbian-m3rmaid-blog]

So if sexual attraction was based on gender, would you like... have to ask what a person id’s as before feeling attraction? For all you know, they could be agender and therefore outside most orientations, except maybe pan and some bisexualities (if we are to follow the genderist definition; attracted to two or more genders), plus probably a few special snowflake sexualities. So if you’re straight or homosexual, you’d be invalidating that agender person’s identity by being attracted to them. And what about genderfluid people - would a lesbian only be attracted to them when they’re a girl? Like if they’re dating, would the lesbian partner be like “ugh ew” whenever the genderfluid person feels more like a guy? I don’t get it, it makes no sense at all

[realmermaidlife]

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[realmermaidliv]

Sometimes it's tempting to snap at people who are being rude. Starting fights is an easy thing to do. But it takes strength and restraint to wave away someone's negativity. Doing so is much better for your own well being though. In the words of Elsa, let it go, let it go! *not trying to tell people to put up with abusive people, just trying to encourage others not to let random people's words and actions put them in a bad mood. There are definitely times when arguments are necessary. Tail: made by me Location: Grenada #mermaidwisdom #mermaidwords #mermaidinspiration #motivational #positivity #self-help #wellbeing #happiness #letitgo #mermaid #mermaidtail #mermaidquotes #quotestoliveby #quotesforlife #peacefulness #mermaidtails #mermaiding #mermaidswimming #beach #beachvibes #mermaidvibes #mermaidlife #Grenada #transparency #grenada🇬🇩 #island #islandparadise #islandlife #vacation https://www.instagram.com/p/CHiQ_YeHeBm/?igshid=ukfjmb5br4ah

[lesbian-m3rmaid-blog]

I feel like my depression broke me. I can’t make friends anymore, especially not online. I miss having several different groups of friends, or even just one. I miss group chats and hanging out irl. I miss all the different conversations and how you could do different things with different people/groups. It used to be so easy for me to make friends, especially online. Now I just kind of freeze up when trying to talk to a new person online and then eventually disappear from the conversation, and it’s definitely not the other person’s fault. irl I don’t seem to have the same problem? it’s weird and frustrating...

[lesbian-m3rmaid-blog]

I'm kinda anxious rn... I went on twitter and saw people I follow - including my best friend - being upset over the trans bathroom thing in the US. I hate the guilty feeling I get from disagreeing with them. I hate my uncertainty. I want to be sure in my opinion, but I crave for people's approval and can't stand it if they have a negative opinion of me. I feel both like a disgrace as a feminist bc I don't stand up for my beliefs and guilty bc I don't agree with my current social circle. I guess a radfem social circle would help but I'm way too socially anxious to go beyond sending a few friendly messages every now and then. I feel like every radfem I follow is way better than me and even more that I'm just not good enough to be friends with anyone. (Also with native English speakers I worry endlessly about my English...... sigh) hddsjdls feel free to ignore this

[lesbian-m3rmaid-blog]

it’s my birthday today and I dyed my hair last night and it looks amazing and I wanna post a selfie to get some attention but I also want to keep myself as anonymous as possible on this blog do you see my problem

[lesbian-m3rmaid-blog]

I really wish there was more information available on childhood emotional neglect. I’ve only managed to find one book and a few other publications so far and since CEN is most likely the source of most of my mental problems I’d love to read more about it. I also feel a lot of people would probably benefit from CEN being more widely recognized? You don’t have to be actually abused in your childhood for it to fuck you up - having your physical needs met but your emotional needs neglected can do tons of damage as well. It’s difficult to recognize CEN too, since it’s so invisible. As an adult, it’s much easier to realize you were abused in some way or physically neglected, even if as a child you thought it was normal, but if you had a warm house, food on the table, clothes on your back, toys to play with and often even parents who actually wanted the best for you... how can you even begin to see what was missing? Personally, I used to feel like a horribly ungrateful daughter every time I was beginning to grasp that the way my mom treated me - and still does - isn’t normal. I still feel ungrateful writing this even though I’ve talked about my mom’s behavior now and then with my friends and the all agree it is and has been awful. I can imagine others would feel this way as well. So it would be great if therapists especially knew about CEN and could give a name to some of their clients’ suffering. And of course, I’d love it if parents knew more about the negative effects that not being in tune with your child’s feelings and giving the right responses can have on the child’s development. I’m in no way even close to an expert on this, but I’m eager to share experiences with other people who have or think they might have suffered through CEN. So if anyone wants to talk about this, do message me! I think a good read on this subject is Dr. Jonice Webb’s Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect. I’m afraid I can’t provide a free pdf of it, but it is available on Scribd.com, which offers a free trial of 30 days (just remember to cancel it in time!)

[lesbian-m3rmaid-blog]

my roommate works at a toy store and she brings home many stories about gendered thinking, awful parenting, and racism. It’s always so frustrating to listen to, especially since I don’t know what to do about it. One of today’s stories was (again) about a small group of Romani people walking into the store and Roommate’s manager and a coworker ushering Roommate (despite her protests) to follow the group and keep an eye on them. I’m not sure what kind of stereotypes other countries have of the Romani people, but in Finland they’re “known” for stealing - among other things - even though they’re usually pretty well off. (At least the Romani I’ve known have been; I could be wrong though.) Roommate’s manager has also asked her to keep an close eye on immigrants before. White people, obviously, receive no scrutiny. Roommate is super frustrated because she doesn’t know if she has the right to refuse to obey her manager’s orders in situations like these without fear of being fired or facing other negative consequences. I don’t know either, and I’m not sure how to find the answer, to be honest... Tried googling but so far I’ve had no luck, so now I’ve sent a message about this to a legal advice site, hoping they can answer my question(s). I’m just so angry like?? Why are people of color always guilty until proven innocent while white people are innocent until proven guilty?

[lesbian-m3rmaid-blog]

as if it wasn’t enough that my uterus is cramping during my periods, even my vagina seems to be aching :I at least it’s not THAT bad when I’m on the mini pill... but enough to keep me awake

[lesbian-m3rmaid-blog]

I had a real life ‘gal pal’ moment earlier this year. A social worker was making notes of me into their database and referred to my girlfriend as my “best lady friend“ with this weird archaic choice of words that nobody would use for a straight guy’s gf (”paras ystävätär” :’D). She did start using “girlfriend” later on in the notes as I kept referring to her as such but reading it afterwards still gave me a few laughs of amused disbelief.

[lesbian-m3rmaid-blog]

This is my third migraine this week jfc This time I didn't even get painkillers in time bc the auras were almost gone by the time I woke up The entire left side of my head hurts including my face and teeth and eye and jaw and

[lesbian-m3rmaid-blog]

tfw you honestly don’t know if you’re asking for too much or if what you’re requesting is totally fair and the answer should actually be “yeah of course I can do that!”

[lesbian-m3rmaid-blog]

just a quick post to thank everyone who’s messaged me recently! You’re all super lovely and I’m going to reply as soon as I can! but it’s gonna take a little time. Right now I’m really scared and worried bc my girlfriend might have chickenpox and the anxiety makes me completely unable to concentrate on anything. sorry about this. I still really appreciate your messages. ♥

[lesbian-m3rmaid-blog]

I have an actual craving for wine?? I don’t even like wine that much (with a few exceptions) but I just. Want a glass. Or ten.

[lesbian-m3rmaid-blog]

!! I JUST REALIZED I’ll be getting a little bit of extra money for a few months, like nothing big, maybe 150€ (ok to me that’s actually a lot).... which means I might have money every now and then to give to people who need it more than I do?? Like people (ok who am I kidding, I‘ll definitely prioritize women) who go on tumblr to ask for donations for this and that reason because they just have no money. I always see those posts and feel sad because I usually have like 2€ in my account but maybe I can now afford to give a few tens a month... I’m so excited omg