#singlenotreadytomingle

[erika-rachelle]

It is what it is, whatever it is.

Picture credit to m-gucci.

[aahusgai]

Today was a good day!! Made an amazing supper for the kiddos and I, rigatoni, broccoli, alfredo, sun dried tomatoes and beef kielbasa. It was delicious! I ended the evening with a deep and long conversation with an old friend. I needed today more than anything. I'm grateful for old friends and new beginnings.

[tukuhnikivats]

#rulesofengagement #boundaries #healthyboundaries #setboundaries #rules #introverted #shy #introvertproblems #introvert #loner #lonerlife #singlelifeproblems #singlegirl #singlewoman #single4life #singleforever #singleforlife #singlenotreadytomingle #singlelife #single (at Wells, Nevada) https://www.instagram.com/p/B0ZwPt9Hd_W/?igshid=xlkmpjk65fd5

[hardt0forget]

Does this make sense? I cannot show you who you are and I also cannot show you how to love yourself! That's your responsibility that's your choice, now...If I work on learning about myself and loving myself you would never have to worry about the love that will blossom from this path. It is my choice to learn and love in such a way that it would never be questioned for it was I who chose a path that will ultimately be shared with another along the way to this discovery. I am still learning everyday and if by chance you fall in love with me on my journey to self discovery just know I AM NOT READY AT THIS TIME because my path is never ending. Maybe one day we will cross paths again but till that day work on yourself and love yourself daily. #iamenjoyingmysinglelife #singlenotreadytomingle #workonyourself #knowthyself #lovethyself #healthyself #iam #facts #truth #grateful #blessed https://www.instagram.com/p/B2fH06knHbOs9_iMFUzho9W3LHE8j0zhwSieM80/?igshid=r47tngs0by3p

[evalou6785]

That tan though!! 😂😂 #churchwasamazing #foundmynewchurch #cleaningnow #musicandcleaning #singlenotreadytomingle #meandmybabies for ever

[datesfordummies]

Hi!!! Love your posts I have a question about how to approach a guy you're low key stalking(looking at him from a distance) he seems like a nice guy to talk to but I don't know how to talk to him?! Should I just go up and say hi but after that what should I do? What can I do? -singlebutnotreadytomingle

Hey singlenotreadytomingle, (I like these code names, they're easier to keep track of than emojis) Just say hi! If he responds and seems inclined for further conversation, just introduce yourself and say you've seen him around and just wanted to say hey! And leave it at that and then step one of making contact will be complete.

[aahusgai]

This past year has been rough, the ultimate test of my strength, physical, mental and spiritual. I never thought I would be here, single, by myself and rediscovering myself as single and also as a single mom.

Recently, I listened to Co-dependant No More. I grew up with an alcoholic father, hence my co-dependency. Whom also physically abused my brothers and sister and I. He has since changed and I'm grateful for that. But the long term damage, that I need to take responsibility of as an adult and grow and let go of is, very much alive. I read the book, as I'm getting out of a relationship, where I, yet again, felt the need to give myself to my partner in a way that was unhealthy for both of us! I don't blame him for leaving, just the way he did it was super fucked up! It was the day I got back from burying my grams. He packed all of his stuff and told me, the second I walked through the door. Very cowardly in my opinion. Anyways, it is what it is. I listened to the book and it opened my eyes, I am co-dependant.

The ongoing fear of something always going wrong, the constant search of what is my partner doing wrong, and what can I do to take better care of him and then I grew resentful. I wanted to push him away, I didn't want to be intimate with him, although I would force myself to make him happy. He never forced me, let's get that straight, but I forced myself to please him. That was my life, pleasing my partner.

I woke up yesterday and cancelled plans that him and I had. We have been still seeing each other weekly since he left and having sex! I was and still am pretty messed up over it. I thought I could mentally handle it, but I can't and I shouldn't. It's not healthy, I was good enough for sex, but not good enough for a relationship. He wanted to still keep me, while he worked on himself, but that entailed not saying I love you, treating me like I was disposable and making me feel so gross and used! And I, for a bit was okay with it! The hope of him coming back home kept me motivated to keep on going with it. If he truly cared, he would have not behaved as he did. Deep down, I feel like he knew what he was doing with my emotions and feelings, and that is unhealthy. It felt good saying no to him, sticking up for myself and trying my hardest to move on.

I have to stop worrying about him and what I can do to help him and start worrying about how I can help myself and my family! For too long I out too much emphasis on my partner and their needs!

Today is the second day of worrying about what I want, and damnit I want to get my house clean, the way I like it, cook what I want for supper, go to town whenever I please, hang out, call and make plans with whomever I want! And not feel guilty about any of it!

Sorry about the rant and whoever reads this I hope you are having a beautiful day!

[tukuhnikivats]

Learning lessons in my late 30s I should have learned as a teenager. What I get for never dating before. Just need to focus on me, my animals, fly fishing, and my work. I must accept that I'm not the type of person who should be dating in the first place. I'm too fragile, too over-sensitive, and too insecure. Too damaged. Not to mention way too old, fat, and ugly. #singleforlife #memyselfandi #singlenotreadytomingle #aloneforever #foreveralone #dontcatchfeelings #catchfishnotfeelings #flyfishinggirls #datingsucks #neveragain #insecure #fragile #oversensitive #dating #singlelife #singlelifeproblems #toougly #toouglyforlove #fatgirl #fatgirlproblems #ugly #uglygirl #oldaf https://www.instagram.com/p/B3LD_OLlnhg/?igshid=z930v3i7ppcd

[dr3amgap]

😂😂😂 #onpoint #myrelationshipstatus @bymzkie @_mab3ll3_ @ellejeanskie What’s yours? #singlenotreadytomingle #love #kaloka #Repost from @linyalinya (at Montreal, Quebec)

[hushhdarlin]

I just bought myself $84 worth of lime crime velvetines cause I'm my own Valentine

[aahusgai]

My handsome son and I!!

[tukuhnikivats]

I don't have the time nor the desire to socialize, date, flirt, or any of that bullshit. It's a waste of everyone's time to message me. #notinterested #notinthemood #leavemealone #celibacy #singlelifeproblems #singlelife #singlewoman #alonebutnotlonely #foreveralone #aloneforever #singleforever #singleforlife #single4life #singlenotreadytomingle #happilysingle https://www.instagram.com/p/B0FE2bGHwsw/?igshid=1fikd7qvosgt

[cursorythoughts]

Stupid, whiney rant

I wish my friends would stop trying to set me up with people. Really, the very thought of dating or a relationship disgusts me right now. I may not be asexual, but for ALL intents and purposes, I am right now and this is how it's gonna be for a while. Just let me be romantically alone right now, I just need friends and I need people who want more to just back away. Unwanted attention gets really annoying and tiring when it's constantly coming at you from multiple facets of your life. My classmate in physics is trying to push this with me, some random dude I met once who lives an hour away, my ex, even my freaking coworker is hitting on me during work (and my mom is his boss wtf)! Where did this all even come from?! I've told none of you I'm single hahaha and as far as anyone's concerned, I may be single but I'm not available. Honestly I just want to be left alone, it's not the fault of the people that are hitting on me and I'm sure they're great people, I'm just exasperated right now. I don't mean to sound like a snob.