#smsh

[feralwetcat]

sgometimes i forget we dorn need to manyally breathe like woah we iust do that?? and then we accidentally stop breathing because i forgro

[cubbihue]

POV: You just got apprehended by your own lawyer.

Chimmy Changa spent his early years as a Public Defense Lawyer. He had to get really into shape because. For some reason. He kept getting clients who'd bolt from the court room.

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+ bonus sketches i tossed out becuase i couldnt draw them to my satisfaction >:I !!

[thefriendoforatioisdead]

Kee entering the race for most loser lesbian to ever loser lesbian...And I'm afraid she might win

[ceramicbeetle]

the thing is, you’re absolutely right! because what neurotypical people sometimes don’t understand is the massive difference between the average level of social interaction that they themselves vs other people get outside of organized or scheduled events like work or school, and also don’t understand the massive difference between what failure looks like, and how those two things overlap. i’m told that among the average neurotypical person, they’ll make a point to talk to people in their lives or hang out with friends or go on dates or chat with other people in public spaces, al to have casual interactions, multiple times a day, multiple days a week. meaning, if they have a failed social interaction, it’s buffered by the many successful interactions they’ll go on to have. failure most likely won’t mean complete isolation, because they have multiple avenues of interaction to fall back on. and, moreover, a failure in a social interaction when you have (on average) fewer than most means that now rather than that person going “oh that was a weird interaction, i talk to them a lot and it’s not usually like that, maybe it was an off day” they go “huh i don’t know that person very well maybe they’re just like that?”, which means that the odds are way different on whether relationships stay good after mistakes.

social skills are not actually as inherent as neurotypical people like to think. it’s just that when you’re always in practice, always getting back on the proverbial horse, the advice “just get back out there!” does actually work very well. but if you’re not able to do that for any variety of reasons, you can’t play the game the same way. my advice is not “try harder”, it’s “lower your expectations for yourself on what a good interaction and a moment of connection might be”. just as it’s possible you’re somehow unintentionally upsetting people, it’s possible you’re unintentionally making them feel happy, or valued, or heard, even in small, passing interactions. remind yourself that you’re working with fewer resources and a much more limited data pool. a lot of the advice being given is coming from someone who assumes they understand what the math looks like for you, because it’s very difficult to imagine that other side. so instead of trying to overlay a system made for someone who has resources that you just don’t have, you need to figure out what a functional system of interaction looks like for you, and adapt the advice given to fit your situation. my advice, bearing that in mind, is that finding communities and groups can look like a lot of different things, and getting your social needs met can come from a lot of sources, and ideally should! you would understand best what your situation is, and there’s no shame in changing tact to accommodate for your own needs and boundaries.

forgot to answer this for a bit lol BUT yeah, the post was a little bit more about the Conceptual argument than it was about me specifically, so I'm definitely already with you re: 'finding out what your Individual social goals are and working based off of those instead having high expectations based off of other people's metric' stuff. You definitely have a huge point with the "social buffer disparity" between NT people and ND people, where failures are both less demoralizing internally and less impactful externally when you're able to have a greater average of interactions generally also

but I really appreciated the "just as it’s possible you’re somehow unintentionally upsetting people, it’s possible you’re unintentionally making them feel happy, or valued, or heard, even in small, passing interactions" aspect of this message. I do definitely have a recurring problem of like, labeling Myself as an Uncanny Valley Person and automatically assuming that every interaction I'm involved in must be some level of uncomfortable for the other person -- it actually was kind of a revolution moment reading this and realizing that OH it does make sense that if I can unintentionally make people uncomfortable, it's statistically just as likely that I can unintentionally lift people's spirits in one way or another! So thank you very much for that!!

[fakesorbet]

i think rogue should have a severe gambling addiction

[vkrbjaiper]

[bubbybot]

Surprised, there isn't more shadow merch after the movie, i went to a few stores, and there was less merch then last year

[alastorssimpforever]

An actually nice human Bill design. EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!

Meet your Muse~

[pixplazasports]

Volleyball LBHS vs HHS #2

Check out these photos from the Long Beach High School vs Hancock High School girls volleyball game last night! Be sure to come out and support your team next time they play! The action was fast-paced and exciting, and the players gave it their all. The match was a thriller! The players were flying all over the court, digging balls and spiking them with power. Special mention: Player number 1…

[cubbihue]

Why were Chimmy’s eyes weird at the end of last ask?

Chimmy's eyes were always like that. Those are his normal people eyes.

[yuk1taa]

I want someone to make an edit of me like if I was an anime character or smsh

[pickles4nickles]

Smsh

[madschiavelique]

HEEEYY OMGG

Glad you're better nooow:>

<33

Oml, so remember I said i'll start trying to pull a tarot card every day this yeaar?

IM STARTING TO LOVE IT SM RAHH

LITERALLY IDK I always find some way to link it with my day bcuz THE THINGS LOWKEY HAPPEN ALR IDK

Yesterday morning I pulled a card, I dont remember it, only the description in the little book, which said something very vague, like energies will be flowing and smsh like my inner gate will be flooded??? I was like wth what does this even mean what??

So I laughed to myself all morning, like lmfaoo my daily tarot card just told me my inner period is gonna flow today or smsh like I WAS LITERALLY JOKING AROUND LIKE LMAOO MY GATES GONNA BE FLOODED IT DEF MEANS MY PERIOD(My calendar says it should come 5 days from now)

And legit plot twist I went to the bathroom and realized that my period arrived early

THATS THE BIGGEST FUCKING COINCIDENCE BUT I'M DYING LAUGHING AT IT

Anyways daily yap, HOPE EVERYTHING IS OKAAY, SENDING LOVEE<33

OMG NO WAY CJENXJEDJ

bro the cards are always right. it’s INSANE but the so many interpretations that are different and that can lead to situations where you’re like “… wait this reminds me of the cards WAIT HOW DOES IT FOT SO WELL”

i love it sm

[mosura780]

Hope not be too late

My take for @roselock22 dtiys

(For context K Just did a smsh between normal imperium clothing and royal family jacket