#some cis white gay guys can be... very oblivious to their privilege and act like their one marginalisation absolves them of it

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I personally find it really strange when people insist (often cis gay white men) that there is this big black line dividing queer men and queer women.

which is 1) binary and 2) ignores the existence of people who are queer women and men and 3) it is so weird?

queer women and men are all queer people and have much more in common. of course there are differences, but gender essentialism is bleh.

like you see this... tone that some (predominantly cis gay guys, generally white) people have that writing/creating gay men (generally gay, not bi because also frequently biphobes, in my experience) is the exclusive purview of gay men. and it's like, one that's not how the world works (although I understand the instinct) and two, they often go out of their way to malign the 'epidemic' of women daring to write stories (fanfiction) centring gay men (which is statistically likely AND comes with the added bonus of Don't Have To Think About Misogyny).

it reeks with misogyny. there is, of course, a real issue with some women fetishising gay men, but many women writing queer women tend to be queer themselves and it's like...

queerness transcends gender, my dude (gender neutral).

rant brought to you by my hatred of 1) gatekeeping/policing and 2) learning about james somerton

some people treat queer women as 'queer lite' because of the historical lack of criminalisation of queer women (in the sapphic way - trans women have been treated horrendously historically) - in a lot of the western world (because queen victoria didn't believe lesbians existed) and it infuriates me.