#start a fitness program

[inkskinned]

no, but really, we need to talk about the casual objectification that has become the fallback discourse of the internet: if you're pretty and dressed nicely, you're a slut. and if you're even vaguely outside of their body standard, you're fucking disgusting.

too-frequently, people position sex workers as being "the problem". they sneer you're addicted to pornography, you don't know what a real woman looks like. but real women are in pornography. the real bodies on display are not the issue here: the issue is that other people feel extremely confident when commenting on someone's physique.

2000's super-thin is slowly worming its way back into the public ideal. recently i saw someone get told to "go for a run", despite the fact she was on the thinner side of average. not that it would ever be appropriate to say that: but it's kind of like sticker shock when you see it. people think that is fat? holy shit. do they just have no idea about things?

but what are you going to do about it? that's the problem, right. because chances are - you're a normal person. we can say normalize carrying fat on your body, but we are not the billion-dollar diet industry. we are not the billion-dollar fashion industry. we are just, like. people. who are trying to make content on the internet, without being treated shittily.

as someone who has been on both sides of things: you are treated better when you are thin and pretty. this is statistically correct. i am not saying that you cannot be bullied for being thin; i'm saying there are objective institutional biases against certain bodytypes. there are videos of men and women who lost weight all saying: i now know for a fact exactly how much worse you're treated. in the comments, some asshole inevitably says something akin to you deserved to be dehumanized when you were fat.

which means that ... the easiest thing to do is be pretty and thin. it is the path of least resistance, because of course it is, because any time you post a picture of yourself without a thigh gap, someone immediately comments something like you need to try a diet.

the other half is also dehumanizing though, huh, just in a different way. when i put on makeup and nice clothes, i am told i slept my way to the top as a professional. do you know how many women in STEM have told me they purposefully dress to "unimpress" because they already struggle to be taken seriously and if they're ever considered pretty - it for some reason takes away from their authority.

so they make it seem like it's your fault. you, existing in a body - it's your fault! if you didn't want shitty comments, don't have a body. they position us against each other like chess pieces; vying for male attention we don't even need.

and i can be an authority on this unless you think i'm fat and unattractive. when i am pretty and thin, i'm an activist. when i am just a normal person who makes a good point: i am immediately dismissed. nobody fucking believes you if you're not seen as attractive. you literally lose value. you cease to exist.

but the whole time, it feels like - is anyone actually grounded the fuck in reality? the line of "pretty and thin" keeps shifting. nobody seems to understand what "a normal weight" even looks like, because it's not something that exists - you cannot tell a person's health by looking at their body. even if you think you could tell that, even if you're sure a person is dangerously overweight - people are not your dolls. they do not need to be dressed up or displayed properly to soothe your aesthetics. you aren't concerned for them, you're stealing their agency. you don't get to say if they're "allowed" to take pictures and post them on the internet - you don't get to tell them how to exist.

people hide behind "the obesity epidemic" without any actual qualifications. they crow things about "normalizing unhealthiness".

but it's bullshit. i have visible abs. there is a pair of parallel lines on my body, even when i'm relaxed; where my obliques meet my abdominal wall. i am proud of this because it means i'm strong, because i overcame an eating disorder only to be ripped as fuck. it is genetic and physical luck that i even get any definition, i'm pleased as punch.

but it does mean that my abdominal wall sticks out a little bit. the other day i posted a video of myself dancing, and, for a moment, my shirt slipped. you could see a little bit of my stomach. i was cartwheeling to the floor. moments before this, i'd had my foot over my head.

a guy slid into my DMs. a row of vomiting emojis prefaced: you should really lose some weight before you think about dancing.

i stared at it for a long time. there was a time when i would have been triggered by this, where it would have encouraged me to starve myself. i would have ignored the fact i'm flexible, agile, good at jumping: i would have lost the weight for a stranger's passing comment. i would have found myself and my body fucking disgusting.

and for what? to please what? because why? so that he can exist in this world without an unchallenged eyeball? what would my self-hatred even accomplish? usually i write paragraphs. obviously. on this particular occasion, in this body i've been at war with for ages: i just felt exhausted.

it shouldn't be even worth saying. it shouldn't be hard to explain. all of this emotional turmoil when he cannot even comprehend the most basic truth: i am not an object on display for him.

[eternalxyn]

Your divine being will become the foundation of our paradise

[lunarharp]

pretty & cute witch men

[westiec]

westie i gotta know bc i trust you to know this shit. i read so much fic where condom sizes are mentioned and....... do condom sizes literally exist in the americas or is this a myth that continues to be perpetuated bc so many fic writers are aro/ace and/or virgins?????????

This is a GREAT question and I love that you brought it to me thank you.

So the answer is yes, they absolutely sell condoms in multiple sizes in the US. Trojan most notably has Magnum and Magnum XL lines, and some other brands also offer "XL" or "King Size" styles.

THE TRICK THOUGH. Is that they're not. That much different. The Trojans are all the same width at the base, they just flare out the shaft a little more and add a smidge of length. We're talking about a quarter inch (6mm) difference, which, frankly, you can already find brand to brand. Some brands' XLs are the same dimensions as regular Trojans because there is absolutely no standardized sizing; you can just slap XL on the box if you want.

Given variability in dimensions/shape/thickness/stretchiness, different guys do find different styles feel better on since all bodies are different etc etc, but a lot of the sizing here is honestly just marketing — manufacturers absolutely mark the larger sizes up several dollars a box. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[miodiodavinci]

well. in any event, the utau guide is nearly done save for the oto section and the little bits at the end, so hopefully i can have that up soon sdjfkhgl

[the-chattering-tower]

Well i sure had a good time trying to throw together a new bio code until everything started fucking breaking on me

[galaxywhale]

there is SO much on this term and they keep just telling us more and more things that are happening and it’s like can you just stop planning things please I’m begging you 😭

It’s halfway through the third week and we’ve already had an excursion, two performances, a jump rope for heart skipping afternoon, an athletics carnival, a house meeting for the athletics carnival and our bush play day out of school

next week, we have a performance, a science week assembly, a mini athletics at some point, and they just emailed us with two extra activities for bully no way day we need to somehow fit in and also we need to start doing this singing thing at 2:30 on Friday too and it’s like do you want us to still teach anything or??

[crescentmp3]

love planning out an entire video game that will take me years of learning to get started on making.

[rosicheeks]

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[lesbiansanemi]

We’ve officially hit the point where I can’t fucking sleep because of this shit and on top of everything the AC went out I literally want to cry I’m so stressed I physically feel like shit like I need to throw up I’m so tired but between my stomach hurting, the stress, and the heat I can’t

[etoiles-et-pierres]

i think its interesting how girlrotting/coquette/tumblrinacore is like a mirror of "that girl" type stuff like its got the same superficial qualities (pastel pink, matcha tea, pinterest vision boards) but it kind of seems to highlight the unattainability of being "that girl"

That Girl is alone; she wakes up at 5am and reads a Colleen Hoover novel before starting her morning pilates and clocking in for her remote job. She meditates and journals to self-reflect. She eats salads. She goes to bed at 11pm.

A Girl is alone; she wakes up at 2pm and gets halfway through the Bell Jar. She skipped work today. She journals to purge her thoughts from herself. She drinks cherry coke and smokes. She goes to bed at 6am.

like i dont know where im going with this but u know that scene from black swan where the reflection turns around and looks at her and it's all sinister?

[bitchapalooza]

Why are dog harnesses so expensive, I just wanna splurge on my dogs’s comfort

[solardee]

Guess who finally got some quotes for a roof replacement and bathroom plumbing!!

Gonna be about 10 grand all together which, yes sucks a bit but is far better than I was expecting! I will have two whole functioning bathrooms in this house for the first time since I bought it finally c:

[wonderwomantobe]

I have started Natacha Oceane's 'Cut' program by the way :)

[devotioncrater]

:)

[risingsunresistance]

btw the estimated time was wrong but only by half. it took 2.5 hours for that stuff to get onto the flashdrive lol