#there’s a blog that had resources on how to *write* people with DID/OSDD1 but im not sure if ill be able to find it

[augujerdeer]

hi! ive been checking out some of your blogs and i really feel it like a safe space, so i finally make up my mind to ask a -prob silly question- concerning did x MD. i am a maladaptive daydreamer and have created some ““oc s”” in my head that are for the majority very close to our reality, just that i am in another person’s body (that i made up only) living a slight different life. briefly, in one of those, the person “i am” has DID. however i do not have DID myself, but it’s a mental disorder that genuinely interests me (no k!nk!!!! ) and ive made lots of researches to learn more about it and educate myself. anyways, i was asking if that was irrespectful or naive and that i should stop daydreaming of that “imagined reality”, insisting on the fact i do not fake having DID irl!! -i think this is ridiculously wrong and terribly stupid and hurting-; it’s all just stories i am making in my head day to days. i also don’t romanticize traumas of any kind (having ones myself).

i’d just thought having the opinion of a person w DID could be helpful and educational and guiding.

thank you if you read up to this much! this is a genuine question and i have no bad intentions but to learn and change :)

Huh, i dont know how to answer this myself! I understand why you’re on anon, this can be a scary question to ask

So.. letting this sink in for a minute or two, personally, i think it’s fine..? Just remember these pointers:

Not claiming you do have DID, which you already know that dkbdkdh

Knowing that, just because you do all the research, it doesn’t make you a source for what DID is, what it’s like, how it works! Don’t use your research as a way to “gatekeep” or tell others (both singlets or systems) how systems “should work or are” basically! You will not see us engage in system gatekeeping anywhere, but we also agree a discussion like that has no place for singlets to be in

Please be aware of the “stereotypes” systems have! Systems who are “evil” “criminals” are a stigma, and having “evil alters” is also a stereotype. It’s complex

The reason why I don’t think this is something at least we (our system) should be concerned about, is because you seem to know what would be disrespectful to do! And it reminds me of how.. we believe people who don’t experience [thing] should still be able to (and/or can) write about [insert thing here], and they can with the right research and going to the right people for advice. It’s not the same thing as maladaptive daydreaming(?) (which we don’t have! But know there are systems out there who are both systems and have MD, so it might be helpful to look for those people? I understand it might be difficult), but it does remind me of the writing process authors [should] have. We’ve for sure seen singlets try to write people with DID/OSDD1/etc and it would be strange for us to say “only people with [insert things here] can write these!” That’s kind of a toxic mindset we think, and means less chances for representation. Also, plus, this is something you’re doing privately in your own space

ANYWAY im rambling, i suggest finding other systems to ask about this with!

TL;DR = for us, it’s fine, you seem to try to be as respectful as possible. As long as you’re not pushing your ideas onto others or harming systems or singlets with what you’re learning or doing then I don’t see what the problem is!

I think the worry some people might have, is the possible antagonization of, or making a system a villain! Which, i think is the most disrespectful thing someone can do. It’s not like a system can’t hurt others (we’ve seen and experienced it, systems are never perfect and should not be put on a pedestal) BUT in mainstream media systems are tend to always be “evil” and criminals, so please try not to go that route! Out of everything, that’s the only thing I can ask of you! “evil systems” are a terrible stereotype, and the most disrespectful thing you could do i think, because of the lack of good representation people with systems have