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“If you don’t want your toddler to touch something, it should not be in reach.” J. Milburn Toddlers have little impulse control. They usually know what not to do long before they are able to actually stop themselves, when excited. Verbal correction is sporadically effective, at best, due to a lack of auditory processing skills. That is why “yes” spaces are the easiest and most effective way to support your toddlers developmental need to explore while keeping them safe. This does not mean a supervised child can’t help out in the kitchen or with other more risky tasks, however, it should always be assumed that a toddlers behaviour can be unpredictable and we need to be prepared for that. Want to know more about how to prepare for the changes that toddlerhood brings? Get the Toddler Workshop Series through the link in my bio or 👉 https://responsive-parenting.myshopify.com/collections/workshops You can buy the sessions separately if you like, or you can buy them all together at a discounted price (just click on one session, then scroll to the bottom of that product page and you will have the option to add all of them to your cart 😊) @responsive_parenting Edited to add: It has been asked several times what to do when an unsafe item is stationary, such as the stove in the picture. In this case, toddlers should not have access to areas with unsafe furniture, unless they are supervised. So gates, door knob covers and strategic placement of furniture are all strategies that can help. Toddlers will find a way eventually so you will need to be adjusting all the time. You can do this in combination with teaching them safety boundaries. It’s not one or the other. When you are close by and able to supervise, you can be gently teaching safety boundaries. “Yes” spaces are helpful for times when supervision is less. #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #toddlerworkshop #understandingtoddlers #childled #parentsupport #parentingtoddlers #toddlerparenting #childsafe #childsafety https://www.instagram.com/p/CVWVYQRMzKE/?utm_medium=tumblr

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“So you just let kids do whatever they want? Isn’t that permissive parenting?” One of the most asked questions…. We respond to behaviours that need to be corrected for safety or respect of others, while being mindful not to try and correct behaviours that don’t need correcting. At the same time, “correcting” a behaviour is never done through punishment, shame or manipulation. The “correction” is done through love and empathy. A lot of people feel like if you don’t punish children to correct behaviours, they’ll just keep doing them but this assumption is not true for a child with secure attachment. They feel like their parent is helping them to stay safe and healthy. When we “correct” behaviour with love, and not unnecessarily, children see us as someone who supports their needs. They often don’t realize this until middle childhood, since toddlers think everyone sees the world as they do. I will tell you as the parent of an 8 yo who has never really been punished for their behaviour, that it really does build a foundation of trust. My first, our 8 yo, is extremely trustworthy and honest. We have not been the perfect parents with our first. Parenting was a challenge, for me especially. My child has been yelled at and made to feel shame about things. I regret that I let my triggers hurt them. But overall, I have been a safe place for them. I tell you this part to let you know, it’s not about perfection, it’s about connection. Coercive Parenting vs. Responsive Parenting CP uses fear as a motivator. RP uses connection and empathy as a motivator. Get the Toddler Workshop Series to start this process early… usually the first time we are tempted to use coercion. Link in bio @responsive_parenting #ResponsiveParenting #JMilburn #Toddlers #PeacefulParenting #HoldingSpace #EmpathyMatters #BreakingGenerationalCurses #BreakingToxicCycles #ToddlerLife #ToddlerWorkshop #ChildLedLearning #ChildLed #Parenthood #Compassion #Motherhood #Parents #ParentLife #DadLife #Children #MumLife #Kid #Fatherhood #BeTheChange #Kindness #KidLife #Childhood #Kids #RealTalk #Childrens https://www.instagram.com/p/Cg1gmjQALKt/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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“A sense of entitlement is caused by using material goods to manipulate behaviour or gain a child’s favour. Not by making sure children feel seen and heard.” J. Milburn Coercive Parenting vs. Responsive Parenting CP is based on correcting behaviour. RP is about understanding behaviour. CP is about training a child to meet the adults needs. RP is about adapting to the child's needs. CP uses fear as a motivator. RP uses connection and empathy as a motivator. CP sees a child as someone with a set of behaviours that need to be corrected in order to create a person who fits easily into society. RP sees the child as a whole being, perfect and complete, just as they are; and in need of support, in order to flourish and grow into the person they want to be. CP values conformity and obedience above all. RP sees authenticity and empathy as the true catalysts for intrinsic motivation. Get the Toddler Workshop Series to start this process early… usually the first time we are tempted to use coercion. Link in bio @responsive_parenting #ResponsiveParenting #JMilburn #Toddlers #PeacefulParenting #HoldingSpace #EmpathyMatters #BreakingGenerationalCurses #BreakingToxicCycles #ToddlerLife #ToddlerWorkshop #ChildLedLearning #ChildLed #Parenthood #Compassion #Motherhood #Parents #ParentLife #DadLife #Children #MumLife #Kid #Fatherhood #BeTheChange #Kindness #KidLife #Childhood #Kids #RealTalk #Childrens https://www.instagram.com/p/CgVwl9ssaxs/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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“Why are kids these days so wild? I never would have acted like that. I knew better.”⁣ ⁣ Well, quite frankly, kids were scared. Kids were scared of either being physically hurt, shamed or punished with isolation or having necessities taken away.⁣ ⁣ The fact that we see more kids acting like kids is a sign that we are healing and I am here for it!!!⁣ ⁣ @responsive_parenting⁣ Inspired by a post from @empowered.parenting⁣ ⁣ Coercive Parenting vs. Responsive Parenting⁣ ⁣ CP is based on correcting behaviour. ⁣ RP is about understanding⁣ behaviour.⁣ ⁣ CP is about training a child to meet the adults needs. ⁣ RP is about adapting to the child's needs.⁣ ⁣ CP uses fear as a motivator. ⁣ RP uses connection and empathy as a motivator.⁣ ⁣ CP sees a child as someone with a set⁣ of behaviours that need to be corrected⁣ in order to create a person who fits easily into society. ⁣ RP sees the child as a whole being, perfect and complete, just as they are; and in need⁣ of support, in order to flourish and grow into the person they want to be.⁣ ⁣ CP values conformity and obedience above all. ⁣ RP sees authenticity and empathy as the true catalysts for intrinsic motivation.⁣ ⁣ Get the Toddler Workshop Series to start this process early… usually the first time we are tempted to use coercion. Link in bio @responsive_parenting⁣ ⁣ #ResponsiveParenting #JMilburn #Toddlers #PeacefulParenting #HoldingSpace #EmpathyMatters #BreakingGenerationalCurses #BreakingToxicCycles #ToddlerLife #ToddlerWorkshop #ChildLedLearning #ChildLed #Parenthood #Compassion #Motherhood #Parents #ParentLife #DadLife #Children #MumLife #Kid #Fatherhood #BeTheChange #Kindness #KidLife #Childhood #Kids #RealTalk #Childrens https://www.instagram.com/p/CgSF4pFrXsQ/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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It is far more effective to tell them what you would like them to do, then to tell them what not to do. Examples: “Don’t climb on that!” To “Keep your feet on the floor please.” “No hitting!” To “Let’s try to be gentle. Do you need help being gentle?” “Don’t take your shoes off, we’re outside!” To “Please keep your shoes on at the park. Is there a rock in your shoe you need help with?” Also, you’re not going to “damage” them or “hurt” them by saying “don’t” and “no.” It’s just a suggestion that can help with resistance. Learn more about the Toddler Brain with the Toddler Workshop Series. All sessions are MP4’s. Download to your device and watch anytime. Available through the link in my bio @responsive_parenting or responsiveparentinginspirations.com #ResponsiveParenting #JMilburn #Toddlers #PeacefulParenting #HoldingSpace #EmpathyMatters #BreakingGenerationalCurses #BreakingToxicCycles #ToddlerLife #ToddlerWorkshop #ChildLedLearning #ChildLed #Parenthood #Compassion #Motherhood #Parents #ParentLife #DadLife #Children #MumLife #Kid #Fatherhood #BeTheChange #Kindness #KidLife #Childhood #Kids #RealTalk #Childrens https://www.instagram.com/p/CgCYFORLVp5/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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Did you know?? Did someone try to make you feel guilty or concerned about these things? Yes they can be super challenging, but they are not indicators of a “problem.” Just…. Life with kids 🤷‍♀️ @responsive_parenting Common response to this: Wait… so all this chaos is actually normal? But what do I DO about it? Toddlerhood tends to be a high level initiation into this reality. We can fight it or work with with it. The Toddler Workshop Series teaches you had to work with your child’s natural developmental needs and behaviours. It includes info on tantrums, aggression, yes spaces, developmental norms, toileting, sleep, weaning, sibling conflict and much more. There is a link in my bio to upload the sessions and watch them from your phone, tablet or computer. (If your really tech savvy I think you can stream them to your tv but I wouldn’t contact me to ask how lol). Common Questions about the Toddler Workshop 1. Is it at a certain time? No, you can watch the sessions anytime. 2. Can I access them offline? Yeah, they are MP4’s so you can download them to your device. 3. Is there a limit to how many times I can watch them? No 4. What is the format? They are animated power point presentations. Sessions 1-3 are not narrated and sessions 4-6 are narrated. 5. A workshop like this usually costs over 100$’s, why is yours so cheap? I just want it to be accessible. Link to workshop sessions in bio @responsive_parenting or on the website: responsiveparentinginspirations.com #ResponsiveParenting #JMilburn #Toddlers #PeacefulParenting #HoldingSpace #EmpathyMatters #BreakingGenerationalCurses #BreakingToxicCycles #ToddlerLife #ToddlerWorkshop #ChildLedLearning #ChildLed #Parenthood #Compassion #Motherhood #Parents #ParentLife #DadLife #Children #MumLife #Kid #Fatherhood #BeTheChange #Kindness #KidLife #Childhood #Kids #RealTalk #Childrens https://www.instagram.com/p/Ce52U5LgEVx/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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Bladder control is developmental, not behavioural. Want to know all about the process of toilet learning, instead of toilet training? This method is recommended by paediatric urologists, as well as child development experts. Session 5 of the Toddler Workshop Series is all about toilet learning! Link in bio @responsive_parenting #ResponsiveParenting #JMilburn #Toddlers #PeacefulParenting #HoldingSpace #EmpathyMatters #BreakingGenerationalCurses #BreakingToxicCycles #ToddlerLife #ToddlerWorkshop #ChildLedLearning #ChildLed #Parenthood #Compassion #Motherhood #Parents #ParentLife #DadLife #Children #MumLife #Kid #Fatherhood #BeTheChange #Kindness #KidLife #Childhood #Kids #RealTalk #Childrens https://www.instagram.com/p/Ce3xIL0rxUi/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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“Responsive Parenting doesn’t prepare children for the real world.” Actually having full control over children, including what they eat, when and how often they sleep, what activities they engage in and how and when they care for themselves and their home, doesn’t prepare them for being out on their own at 18. Coercive Parenting vs. Responsive Parenting CP is based on correcting behaviour. RP is about understanding behaviour. CP is about training a child to meet the adults needs. RP is about adapting to the child's needs. CP uses fear as a motivator. RP uses connection and empathy as a motivator. CP sees a child as someone with a set of behaviours that need to be corrected in order to create a person who fits easily into society. RP sees the child as a whole being, perfect and complete, just as they are; and in need of support, in order to flourish and grow into the person they want to be. CP values conformity and obedience above all. RP sees authenticity and empathy as the true catalysts for intrinsic motivation. Get the Toddler Workshop Series to start this process early… usually the first time we are tempted to use coercion. Link in bio @responsive_parenting #ResponsiveParenting #JMilburn #Toddlers #PeacefulParenting #HoldingSpace #EmpathyMatters #BreakingGenerationalCurses #BreakingToxicCycles #ToddlerLife #ToddlerWorkshop #ChildLedLearning #ChildLed #Parenthood #Compassion #Motherhood #Parents #ParentLife #DadLife #Children #MumLife #Kid #Fatherhood #BeTheChange #Kindness #KidLife #Childhood #Kids #RealTalk #Childrens https://www.instagram.com/p/Ce1sywAJeZQ/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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“Wait… I thought boundaries make children feel safe and loved?” This concept has been distorted and is often used as an excuse to not be child-led. Boundaries can keep children safe. Some are necessary and a child who feels like their parents don’t care what they do ever, may feel like their parents just don’t care about them. Usually the best way to explain something like this is with examples. 👉👉👉👉 @responsive_parenting Your child is 5 years old and wants to take the bus, alone, to the movie theater. (In my world this is highly inappropriate and unsafe for a 5 year old child to do. Idk if it’s the same in your area.) Permissive: Let’s them go without question. Anxious: Drops everything to go with them right away. Responsive: Makes a plan to go together, at a time that works. Coercive: Tells them they will take them to the movies if they go to bed without crying for a week. Another example Your child wants to go to the park but they are too young to go alone. You are in the middle of cleaning out the fridge so you can’t go ATM Permissive: Tell them to go ahead on their own. Anxious: Drops everything to go with them right away. Responsive: Makes a plan to go together, at a time that works. Coercive: Tells them they will not take them to the park because last time they did not listen when it was time to go Parents: Yeah but what do I say? “I know you really want to go to park now but I am in the middle of cleaning out the fridge. I have to finish this job before I do any thing else. I can take you to the park after supper. I know that’s a long wait. It’s hard to wait, isn’t it?” Get the Toddler Workshop Series to start this process early… usually the first time we are tempted to use coercion. Link in bio @responsive_parenting #ResponsiveParenting #JMilburn #Toddlers #PeacefulParenting #HoldingSpace #EmpathyMatters #BreakingGenerationalCurses #BreakingToxicCycles #ToddlerLife #ToddlerWorkshop #ChildLedLearning #ChildLed #Parenthood #Compassion #Motherhood #Parents #ParentLife #DadLife #Children #MumLife #Kid #Fatherhood #BeTheChange #Kindness #KidLife #Childhood #Kids #RealTalk #Childrens https://www.instagram.com/p/Cejyu8LAG95/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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Gently Encouraging your Child to Sleep in Their Own Room I want to be sure to say that this is not a necessary shift. Many people continue to bedshare with parents or siblings, at least off and on, throughout their childhood and adolescence. Whenever we do something gently, we want to make sure the child still has the option to be supported and not be forced to be alone. They need to know they can always come to you or call for you, any time of day. This is crucial for attachment. In some cases, families need to start transitioning an older child to their own room. Take it slow. 1. Start with a mattress or cot on the floor by your bed 2. Then transition the cot to another location in the room (this step can be skipped if there is no space) 3. Leave the mattress in the parents bedroom but start laying with your child until they go to sleep, in a bed, in their room. 4. Let your child know they are always welcome to return to the cot in your room. 5. Make both spaces cozy and inviting for your child. They are leaving the coziest place on earth, so making the space look appealing and feel comfy, can be helpful in enticing them to try the new bed. 6. If you plan on shutting the door, make sure you have a monitor so you can respond quickly if your child wakes up. Many parents find it easier to show the child that they can come into the room and lay in the cot. Then the child may not even wake their parents, once they get used to the new routine. Get Session 6 of the Toddler Workshop Series to help you with all the sleep changes and challenges that happen in toddlerhood. Link in bio @responsive_parenting #ResponsiveParenting #JMilburn #Toddlers #PeacefulParenting #HoldingSpace #EmpathyMatters #BreakingGenerationalCurses #BreakingToxicCycles #ToddlerLife #ToddlerWorkshop #ChildLedLearning #ChildLed #Parenthood #Compassion #Motherhood #Parents #ParentLife #DadLife #Children #MumLife #Kid #Fatherhood #BeTheChange #Kindness #KidLife #Childhood #Kids #RealTalk #Childrens https://www.instagram.com/p/CebKibFLNPw/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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When I feel frustrated/sad/angry/happy, my tone of voice reflects what I am feeling. I don’t expect any less from my children.⁣ ⁣ Coercive Parenting vs. Responsive Parenting⁣ ⁣ CP is based on correcting behaviour. ⁣ RP is about understanding⁣ behaviour.⁣ ⁣ CP is about training a child to meet the adults needs. ⁣ RP is about adapting to the child's needs.⁣ ⁣ CP uses fear as a motivator. ⁣ RP uses connection and empathy as a motivator.⁣ ⁣ CP sees a child as someone with a set⁣ of behaviours that need to be corrected⁣ in order to create a person who fits easily into society. ⁣ RP sees the child as a whole being, perfect and complete, just as they are; and in need⁣ of support, in order to flourish and grow into the person they want to be.⁣ ⁣ CP values conformity and obedience above all. ⁣ RP sees authenticity and empathy as the true catalysts for intrinsic motivation.⁣ ⁣ Get the Toddler Workshop Series to start this process early… usually the first time we are tempted to use coercion. Link in bio @responsive_parenting⁣ ⁣ #ResponsiveParenting #JMilburn #Toddlers #PeacefulParenting #HoldingSpace #EmpathyMatters #BreakingGenerationalCurses #BreakingToxicCycles #ToddlerLife #ToddlerWorkshop #ChildLedLearning #ChildLed #Parenthood #Compassion #Motherhood #Parents #ParentLife #DadLife #Children #MumLife #Kid #Fatherhood #BeTheChange #Kindness #KidLife #Childhood #Kids #RealTalk #Childrens https://www.instagram.com/p/CeYmcaRL5IX/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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Coercive Parenting vs. Responsive Parenting CP is based on correcting behaviour. RP is about understanding behaviour. CP is about training a child to meet the adults needs. RP is about adapting to the child's needs. CP uses fear as a motivator. RP uses connection and empathy as a motivator. CP sees a child as someone with a set of behaviours that need to be corrected in order to create a person who fits easily into society. RP sees the child as a whole being, perfect and complete, just as they are; and in need of support, in order to flourish and grow into the person they want to be. CP values conformity and obedience above all. RP sees authenticity and empathy as the true catalysts for intrinsic motivation. Get the Toddler Workshop Series to start this process early… usually the first time we are tempted to use coercion. Link in bio @responsive_parenting #ResponsiveParenting #JMilburn #Toddlers #PeacefulParenting #HoldingSpace #EmpathyMatters #BreakingGenerationalCurses #BreakingToxicCycles #ToddlerLife #ToddlerWorkshop #ChildLedLearning #ChildLed #Parenthood #Compassion #Motherhood #Parents #ParentLife #DadLife #Children #MumLife #Kid #Fatherhood #BeTheChange #Kindness #KidLife #Childhood #Kids #RealTalk #Childrens https://www.instagram.com/p/CeMbP_hpJi7/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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It is far more effective to tell them what you would like them to do, then to tell them what not to do. Examples: “Don’t climb on that!” To “Keep your feet on the floor please.” “No hitting!” To “Let’s try to be gentle. Do you need help being gentle?” “Don’t take your shoes off, we’re outside!” To “Please keep your shoes on at the park. Is there a rock in your shoe you need help with?” Also, you’re not going to “damage” them or “hurt” them by saying “don’t” and “no.” It’s just a suggestion that can help with resistance. Learn more about the Toddler Brain with the Toddler Workshop Series. All sessions are MP4’s. Download to your device and watch anytime. Available through the link in my bio @responsive_parenting #ResponsiveParenting #JMilburn #Toddlers #PeacefulParenting #HoldingSpace #EmpathyMatters #BreakingGenerationalCurses #BreakingToxicCycles #ToddlerLife #ToddlerWorkshop #ChildLedLearning #ChildLed #Parenthood #Compassion #Motherhood #Parents #ParentLife #DadLife #Children #MumLife #Kid #Fatherhood #BeTheChange #Kindness #KidLife #Childhood #Kids #RealTalk #Childrens https://www.instagram.com/p/CeBkVjVruWU/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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“So you just let kids do whatever they want? Isn’t that permissive parenting?” One of the most asked questions…. We respond to behaviours that need to be corrected for safety or respect of others, while being mindful not to try and correct behaviours that don’t need correcting. At the same time, “correcting” a behaviour is never done through punishment, shame or manipulation. The “correction” is done through love and empathy. A lot of people feel like if you don’t punish children to correct behaviours, they’ll just keep doing them but this assumption is not true for a child with secure attachment. They feel like their parent is helping them to stay safe and healthy. When we “correct” behaviour with love, and not unnecessarily, children see us as someone who supports their needs. They often don’t realize this until middle childhood, since toddlers think everyone sees the world as they do. I will tell you as the parent of an 8 yo who has never really been punished for their behaviour, that it really does build a foundation of trust. My first, our 8 yo, is extremely trustworthy and honest. We have not been the perfect parents with our first. Parenting was a challenge, for me especially. My child has been yelled at and made to feel shame about things. I regret that I let my triggers hurt them. But overall, I have been a safe place for them. I tell you this part to let you know, it’s not about perfection, it’s about connection. Coercive Parenting vs. Responsive Parenting CP uses fear as a motivator. RP uses connection and empathy as a motivator. Get the Toddler Workshop Series to start this process early… usually the first time we are tempted to use coercion. Link in bio @responsive_parenting #ResponsiveParenting #JMilburn #Toddlers #PeacefulParenting #HoldingSpace #EmpathyMatters #BreakingGenerationalCurses #BreakingToxicCycles #ToddlerLife #ToddlerWorkshop #ChildLedLearning #ChildLed #Parenthood #Compassion #Motherhood #Parents #ParentLife #DadLife #Children #MumLife #Kid #Fatherhood #BeTheChange #Kindness #KidLife #Childhood #Kids #RealTalk #Childrens https://www.instagram.com/p/CdndaWircHL/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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If an adult came over to you and said “I need you to listen to me.” Would you assume they wanted you to listen to what they had to say or would you assume they are going to tell you to do something? Now if you were saying this to your child…. Are you asking them to simply hear your words and then make a choice whether they want to act or not or are you actually telling them to do something? Coercive Parenting vs. Responsive Parenting CP is based on correcting behaviour. RP is about understanding behaviour. CP is about training a child to meet the adults needs. RP is about adapting to the child's needs. CP uses fear as a motivator. RP uses connection and empathy as a motivator. CP sees a child as someone with a set of behaviours that need to be corrected in order to create a person who fits easily into society. RP sees the child as a whole being, perfect and complete, just as they are; and in need of support, in order to flourish and grow into the person they want to be. CP values conformity and obedience above all. RP sees authenticity and empathy as the true catalysts for intrinsic motivation. Get the Toddler Workshop Series to start this process early… usually the first time we are tempted to use coercion. Link in bio @responsive_parenting #ResponsiveParenting #JMilburn #Toddlers #PeacefulParenting #HoldingSpace #EmpathyMatters #BreakingGenerationalCurses #BreakingToxicCycles #ToddlerLife #ToddlerWorkshop #ChildLedLearning #ChildLed #Parenthood #Compassion #Motherhood #Parents #ParentLife #DadLife #Children #MumLife #Kid #Fatherhood #BeTheChange #Kindness #KidLife #Childhood #Kids #RealTalk #Childrens https://www.instagram.com/p/CcwC6fxrSYk/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=