#transmasc butch incoming

[7sharkie7]

Lil shitpost of this gorgeous beast

[vaspider]

Intro Post, updated March 1, 2023

I post all asks under the name they were submitted under, and I post them when I feel like answering them. I will never honor a request to answer an ask privately or anonymously. Anon is never turned on. These are hard self-care boundaries. Please block the tag "harassment tag" if you don't want to be subjected to some of the horrible shit I get sent sometimes.

If you like what I do, please consider hiring me, consider buying something from NerdyKeppie (the shop I own with my spouse - we do custom work!), consider buying me a coffee or becoming a Patron or tossing some money in my PayPal tip jar. I am a disabled, queer, fat, Jewish non-binary butch whose entire income is derived from selling Quality Queerwear via our company NerdyKeppie (we also offer patches of all sorts, nerd gear, etc -- if you don’t see it, ask!), Patreon (queer fiction for a dollar) and freelance work.

If asking me to boost a post for you, ask at most once per week, and please don't make that the only way you interact with me, or follow me just to send an ask that I boost your posts. I notice, and I'll end up just blocking you if you make me feel "used." It's gross, y'all. I'm glad to help, but don't use me. It's getting to a point where I'm starting to feel pretty gross about it, and I'm one of the more relaxed ppl about boosting posts, so please don't put me in a position where I feel like I have to stop doing it.

I will not debate my identity or its history with anyone. I am a transmasculine non-binary butch lesbian, a cripple, a dyke, and lots of other things, too. You don't get a vote in that, and if any of those words are words you can't stand to have someone use around you in reference to himself, go ahead and block me. I won't censor my identity for your comfort; I took a long time becoming proud of who I am.

No, I am not an anti or an anti-anti. Literally no one cares about these distinctions outside of Tumblr. Please leave me alone. I am not going to have that conversation. No is a complete sentence.

I’m not interested in interacting with TWERFs, SWERFs, or any sort of exclusionary LGBTQ/queer people. Y'all are exhausting.

Do the work to root out TERF/2nd-wave "man bad woman good" philosophies from your head. Do the work to root out the gendered behavior you were taught. I am not here to raise other people's children.

I am not here to raise other people's children. My daughter is an adult and I am done being responsible for the experiences of a minor. If you read or interact with me, you acknowledge that you chose to do that and I can't control what happens to what I post once I post it on my Tumblr. People will reblog it and I can't control where it ends up. I can only control what I say in my space, which I do.

Curate your own online experiences. If you don't like seeing what I write, then add 'vaspider' to your "filtered content" list and don't bother me about it. Tumblr is a 17+ environment and I am not responsible for you seeing things you don't like. Adults having adult conversations do not need to be filtered for children. This is your notification.

I’ve been Out for over 30 years. I don't tolerate lectures from strangers, especially people half my age, about history I lived through.

I'm transmasc and if you believe transmisandry/transandrophobia aren't "real things," or that transmascs aren't "really oppressed," please just leave me alone. Oppression Olympics are bad, actually.

My immediate family consists of my partners, my adult daughter, and our dogs.

No one in my immediate family is cis or het. I have been called Spider for 20+ years, & now a lot of people call me Mama Spider. Mom is a role, it need not be gendered.

This is a lot shorter than it used to be. I don't really feel like posting paragraphs explaining stuff anymore.

My icon has lore, apparently.

I post all asks and anon is never turned on.

[carabinercunt]

about me:

i am a 22yr old transmasc bigender butch lesbian. he/xe/vamp pronouns.

i am a sw. you are welcome to purchase pics on a completely pay what you can basis. this is my income along with my art as i have had terrible luck finding a job as a severely physically disabled person with tourettes and autism. if you enjoy my posts, please consider buying/donating. DM for PayPal. it isn't necessary though as i know times are tough for everyone. i will also do discord voice calls for like 15 bucks, and videos for 35.

don't use my gender situation as a gotcha about my lesbianism. i am pretty much t4t but make exceptions sometimes. i basically don't date anyone who is exclusively/entirely a guy and that's all you need to know. however, binary trans men/queer men in general are allowed to interact! i don't really care who does as long as they're 18+

MINORS DNI/DNF

other fun facts

I have 14 disabling medical conditions that are diagnosed, plus 3 we are almost sure about and working on diagnosis for. Some of these disorders cause cognitive impairments for me. I'm a mid support needs autistic with high support needs in terms of my other disabilities, and cannot live fully independently because of that. I live with my ex and his family, while I focus on my health and paying for various medical tests/assessments and appointments that aren't covered. I run an art business, and am hoping to pursue tattooing. I'm white (Irish/Scottish/Dutch/British) and working on reconnecting with those cultures mentioned. I am a huge advocate for harm reduction, an anarchist, an aspiring tattoo apprentice and a musician. I'm also obsessed with weather, plushies, and local artists/artwork and the diy scene.

[saturnianspaceghost]

vent post incoming feel free to skip lol

Guys gals and nonbinary pals... We realize that oppression is not a competition, yes???? That everyone from trans women to trans men to every queer person in between gets punished for not performing gender/sexuality according to patriarchal standards, right??????? Like it doesn't MATTER how you identify or what your AGAB is, if a bigot clocks you as queer and wants to make an issue of it THEY WILL DO SO!!! If you're a butch cis woman who gets targeted because some bigot thought you were a trans woman... That's still bad??? That's still harmful bigotry??? It doesn't matter that you aren't actually a trans woman, you can still get hurt (or worse!!!) because some asshole decided you weren't performing gender correctly.

Screaming crying throwing up over the queer discourse on this hellsite

And don't even get me fucking STARTED on how the majority of this transfemme vs transmasc false dichotomy ALSO conveniently ignores how race and racism play into queer oppression as well. As if all queer experiences are universal regardless of race (they're not!!!!!) and if you disagree well then YOU must be the one who's wrong! I'm starting to see more people acknowledge the racial element but I've still mostly seen it from POC themselves. Yet another reminder that the queer community has a whiteness problem and that just having a marginalized identity does not stop you from perpetuating harm!

I genuinely believe we can move past this as a community and work together to make life better for all of us, but jesus CHRIST I just wanna go to sleep and wake up when everyone finally gets that we should be going after PEOPLE IN POWER and not each other. Boy fuckin howdy

[frogmutual]

Urgent Donations/Commissions for medical care (reposted)

(commission info under the cut along with a bigger explanation of my situation) Hi my other post lost traction and im desperate and havent gotten a single donation or commission from my old post My name is Desmone im a 20 year old transmasc butch lesbian who’s trying to get through the pandemic while navigating my yet to be officially diagnosed various disabilities one at the time. Thing is I really need help monetarily to keep up with the appointments  so I can actually have my disabilities on fancy official papers so I can actually go on disability welfare, until then I have 0 income and literally am fucked. I can’t work due to how my various disabilities and disorders combine together into a pile of fuck me over (DID, Chronic Pain and Fibromyalgia believed to be due to trauma, Constant migraine, back pain bcuz of my chest that literally weights too much, leg problems that idk whats up with those yet, and Narcolepsy Type-1) Please just think abt looking at my commission info under the cut and/or donating (Fifthbeta on p*ypal. link in the replies and my first reblog) Anything helps. Please. It’s my girlfriend’s bcuz if I wanna sign up for welfare I can’t have donations directly myself or ill be denied)

(Credit to @trans-lesbishy​ for the amazing graphic design he did for my commissions sheet!) All prices CAD, varying price means the final price depends on the level of complexity. If you’re interested in a commission don't hesitate to message me here or for my discord tag so we can discuss further! Heya, it's your local neurodivergent, mentally & physically disabled/chronically ill transmasc nb butch here to ask for emergency commissions and/or donations! I have been denied financial assistance due to the actual extent of my physical disability and suspected narcolepsy not having formal diagnoses. I can’t work due to narcolepsy with cataplexy symptoms & chronic pain on top of diagnosed D.I.D and my other mental and physical health conditions which only seem to get worse. I have been pursuing diagnoses for years at this point but keep getting bounced around & put on months or years-long waitlists. I recently spent a night in the ER due to an extremely painful "thunderclap headache" which left me incoherent for multiple hours and the CT scan I recieved gave no answers. I need proper care and treatment sooner than later and relying on the public system for help has been an excruciating experience that continues to bar me from receiving any kind of financial support, compounded by the fact that the welfare system expects the abusive parents I rarely ever see to be supporting me (they are not). My goal is to save 1500$ for a sleep study so that I can receive an official narcolepsy diagnosis at a private clinic which would qualify me for social solidarity, without having to keep playing a waiting game in the public system. I also need to have new custom insoles made for my false flat foot as I am currently using ones fitted for me 6 years ago. It would greatly improve my mobility/help lower my level of pain to have this taken care of. This should cost somewhere between 400-600$. If you can’t commission or donate, boosting visibility with reblogs is extremely appreciated!!

[marsti]

In need of commissions!!

Hello, I’m Sender, also known as TheBreeoche! I’m a jewish butch transmasc artist from France and I am unable to find a job due to my disability, so right now commissions are my only source of income. You can find examples of my art on my website and in my art tag.

Contact me via DM or email at sendertarka@gmail.com if interested!

- PayPal only, EUR only - Pay upfront OR upon sketch validation - +50% for each additional character - You must be 18+ to commission me

✅WHAT I WILL DO: armor, NSFW, furry, OC, horror ✅ ❌ WHAT I WON’T DO: gore, real people ❌

Commissions can be on a PAY-WHAT-YOU-CAN basis for trans and non-binary people!

if you cant afford my prices and still wish to support me, you can donate directly to my PayPal! Even if it’s just 1€, it would mean a lot to me.

[digandphil]

this is the new home of dig and phil, a comic about two queer stoner bros who work in a mortuary home. also, they’re an armadillo and an elephant seal. 

this project was originally on twitter @ digandphil, but i haven’t updated in over a year. my mission has always been to make a candid, death-positive space, but spring 2020 was marked by thousands dead to COVID-19, with mortuaries overflowing in my home state of NY, along with the deaths of Breonna Taylor, George Floyd, and countless others at the hands of racist police violence. death was not only everywhere, but it disproportionately affected vulnerable populations: Black, indigenous, low-income, houseless, disabled, and elderly people. death positivity didn’t only feel out-of-touch, but and a reflection of my own privileged positionality. and, honestly, I don’t think anything’s changed.

death positivity, to me, is a cultural attitude in which open and honest conversations are had surrounding the rights of the deceased, their treatment, and their living kin. I think it’s still an important conversation to have, and i’ve always hoped dig and phil’s adventures can start some of that dialogue, especially surrounding commercial death practice. but as time goes on, i realized transparency without agency means very little. whether it’s biopolitical-- who had the right to live, who has the right to die-- or necropolitical -- concerning the rights of the dead themselves-- death positivity needs to identify systems of power in order to truly accomplish what it sets out to do. 

quite frankly, i don’t think dig and phil can do that, nor is it the place to. as the time passed, i realized there was no ‘easy out’-- i couldn’t respectfully approach topics of death and dying and still wrap the comics up with a punchline, nor did I want to make work just about two stoners without the mortuary-workplace-comedy elements. 

for those reasons, and more (notably, dig being a they/them transmasc butch lesbian, an experience i no longer identify with and no longer felt comfortable writing about) the adventures of dig and phil are coming to an end. if my silly little comic taught you something about the funeral industry, neat! but realistically there’s only so much I can do. i’m grateful for the memories and connections this comic has afforded me, and I hope to continue writing and illustrating.

[tealfruit]

transmascs and butches should make passive income just from existing