But in my own life, I know I generally feel very alive and emancipated when I choose to walk out of something. After all, you walk out when you realize that whatever it is that you’re watching, for whatever reason, simply isn’t worth it. Walking out reminds you that while submission can at times be a pleasure, a risk worth taking, you don’t have to manufacture consent whenever or wherever it is nominally in demand. (I know countless people—mostly women—who refuse to watch movies with gratuitous rape scenes. And many of these people—and I count myself among them—think that there is an excellent argument to be made that any rape scene, at this point in cinematic history, is gratuitous. Here, the refusal to manufacture consent to watch bears a strong, albeit metaphorical relationship to the refusal to manufacture consent to tolerate unwanted sexual incursions.) The fact that the exit door isn’t barred, the feel of the fresh air on your face when you open it—all of this serves to remind you of how good it feels to angle the full force of your body and attention toward that which seems to you a good use of your short time on the planet, and to practice aversion toward that which does not. These are freedoms that life does not always grant; God help us if we would prefer an art that further whittled down the choices.
Maggie Nelson, The Art of Cruelty: A Reckoning
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the whole netflix giving an option to cut out raunchy scenes to make shit "family friendly" is.... so annoying to me lmfao
and i say this as someone who is wildly uncomfortable watching sex scenes with my mother even as a grown adult like i dont even want to see a HINT of nipple if we are watching a film together. with that being said... if i want to see a movie bad enough idc whats in it and i'll suffer through lmao
but anyway back to the point!
idk its like this coddling of society thats been taking place in recent years and i.... do not like it. everyones being treated like 2 year olds and its fucking weird and its trickling into literally every facet of life
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BG3 nonsense below the cut (no spoilers)
I don't know whether to go for Astarion or Gale. I got sucked into Gale's romance in EA, but so many things have happened in these 3 years and everything is different.
I made Nan for a D&D adventure and she started out as an Erewynne copy at first, then got developed and she's actually a bladesinger.
Wynne can't be one, and besides, playing as her old self now kind of feels like playing Nan, and the relationship I feel with Gale isn't the same anymore, now I'm feeling more inclined towards Astarion, who was actually who I was first interested by even before the release of the EA. I had a bit planned for what connects them (she's my Bhaalspawn's daughter), so it worked.
Besides, I don't think Gale's face rework works for him, I like his EA face better.
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