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Forgot to post on here yesterday but happy coming out day everyone. Hope you all had a gay ass day❤💛💚💙💜🖤

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Last year, The HRC (Human Rights Campaign), reported that in 2019 alone, at least 26 trans and gender nonconforming people were killed in the United States alone. Disproportionately, Black trans people were the victims. Those I have illustrated here, do not even scratch the surface of what is, and should be recognised as, an epidemic. Now, more than ever, it is crucial that we do whatever we can to support the black trans community. 

Please consider donating/signing the charities and petitions listed here.

EDIT- updated hyperlinks to petitions JUSTICE FOR TONY MCDADE https://www.change.org/p/justice-for-tony-mcdade JUSTICE FOR NINA POP- https://www.change.org/p/black-lives-matter-actvists-justice-for-nina-pop JUSTICE FOR TETE- https://www.change.org/p/portland-police-bureau-justice-for-tete MORE PROTECTION FOR BLACK TRANS WOMEN UK- https://www.change.org/p/boris-johnson-more-protection-for-black-trans-women-uk DONATE- BLACK VISIONS COLLECTIVE- https://www.blackvisionsmn.org TRANSGENDER LAW CENTER- https://transgenderlawcenter.org THE OKRA PROJECT- https://www.theokraproject.com LGBTQ+ FREEDOM FUND- https://www.lgbtqfund.org NATIONAL CENTER FOR BLACK EQUITY- https://centerforblackequity.org

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This is going to be my last post before I log off for the December 17th protest.

In case you aren’t aware of what I’m talking about (even though I’ve reblogged about it a lot), basically a large amount of users are going to be participating in a protest against Tumblr’s new policies on the 17th by logging off the site, and not logging back on for a full 24 hours. As you can see in the image above, the protest will be taking place 12 am EST, but here’s the full list in regards to the exact times the protest is taking place in case you need it:

IMPORTANT ADDITION BY @bitterblueskies - THE CORRECT TIMES ARE 11pm (16th) CENTRAL time and 10pm (16th) MOUNTAIN time.

Here’s what you can do to participate in the protest:

DO:

- Close all open instances you have of tumblr (closing all open tabs of tumblr on your browser and closing any instances you have of the app on your phone)

- Pause your queue or set it for a different time so nothing goes up on your blog during the protest.

- While you can (there’s only roughly 5 hours left- maybe less by the time you read this) make your followers aware of the protest and encourage them to participate, too. The more people we have participating the bigger the impact it will have.

- Be vocal and present on other social medias if you have them, and express how you’re participating in the Log Off protest/how you’re angry with Tumblr’s policies and actions on said social medias. This way it won’t just look like a drop off from social media, it’ll make it very clear to staff that we’re protesting because we’re angry with their new policy and their actions.

DON’T:

- Open the tumblr app or open tumblr on your desktop during the protest.

- Continue to reblog/post during the protest, or have posts go up from your queue during the protest.

- Delete your account/blog. This won’t accomplish anything besides making it hard to come back after the protest is over.

And because a lot of people have been curious about it: NO, STAFF AND THE PEOPLE WHO RUN TUMBLR AREN’T JUST GOING TO DELETE TUMBLR BECAUSE WE CHOSE TO LOG OFF FOR A DAY. Their main interest is money, and making a profit off the website. If they deleted the website, all possible profit they could have continued to make from it would be gone, and they’d lose millions, possibly billions of dollars. They wouldn’t do that. Trust me, they wouldn’t.

{EDIT} THIS IS APPARENTLY ALSO A COMMON QUESTION A LOT OF PEOPLE HAVE:

Why logging back on the day after is important:

Logging back on the day after shows that we aren’t just completely ditching them and there’s still a chance for them to improve and make changes, but that day of lost revenue for them (less people on the site to click on and view ads for a day = lost money) still shows that we’re unhappy with what they’ve done. I hope this helped explain it!

I’d also just like to add that, in case you couldn’t already infer, I will not be responding to any messages, answering any asks, reblogging, or posting on the 17th while the protest is underway.

Before I go, I’d just like to say in case I don’t end up coming back on Tumblr (if they refuse to revoke their policies I WILL be moving somewhere else. I’ll let you all know where in case I do):

Gentlemen, it’s been an honor being trash with you.

See y’all on Tuesday.

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Homosexuality no longer a crime in India, Supreme Court ends controversial Section 377.

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A few years ago, when I was still in an all-girls catholic high school, one of my teachers told us in her weekly “it’s just a phase” lectures that lesbian relationships are toxic because unlike a man and a woman, two women understand each other completely, thus, making it harder for one to break up with the other, resulting in them being trapped in a lesbian relationship for the rest of their lives just because they got too cozy with having a partner that supports and cares for them.

Anyway can you imagine being straight and thinking that people understanding their partners needs are toxic im so glad i cant relate

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Nice cleaned up version of my lesbian flag redesign, here’s a refresher on what each stripe covers:

Purple is for Non binary and trans lesbians, and to represent the violets that were given between women to represent their love.

Pink is for Lipstick and femme lesbians, and to represent the beauty of feminine love

Grey is for aspec lesbians, and to represent the difficulty navigating the ‘grey area’ of society, where our love was forbidden and is still rejected by society

Blue is for butch and he/him lesbians, and also represents the way Lesbianism subverts gender norms within society, and the rejection of those norms.

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Two-Spirit People

Native Americans have a centuries old tradition of accepting people identified as two-spirit (meaning that they self identify with both male and female characteristics.) In the Zuni culture all children were called “cha’le”, meaning child; the distinction between boy or girl wasn’t made until after the age of 5. Some communities had a two-spirit tradition where the pubescent child was allowed to choose between a basket and bow. A male-spirited child would choose a bow and a female-spirit child would choose a basket; this would determine how they would live out the rest of their adult lives.

The Native Americans were not as interested in a person’s physical presence as they were in their spiritual presence. Families with two-spirit members were considered blessed since that member could do the work of either sex. Male bodied two-spirits were considered deeply spiritual and often became respected healers.Female bodied two-spirits would become warriors or hunters.

Feminine men were partnered with masculine men; this maintained the spiritual and sexual balance as well as dividing the work load in the family. Butch women were partnered with feminine women for exactly the same reason. The partners of two-spirits were always tribe members who were not two-spirit, yet the partner was never considered homosexual. None of these married couples were considered homosexual, a concept that did not exist in the Native American’s view of infinite spiritual and gender roles. Two-spirit couples would adopt the tribe’s orphaned children and create their own families, families that were consider completely normal. 

When the Europeans arrived, they exerted all of their influence to turn the tribes against the two-spirits. They created the term “berdache” which meant prostitute, but with a homosexual connotation as a way to denigrate the two-spirits. The European’s point of view won out over time and the two-spirits were unfortunately forced to conform to the gender roles assigned them at birth. There were no more same sex marriages and a long tradition of acceptance was lost.

The Native Americans started to reclaim their cultural pride in the 1960s, coinciding with the rise of the Gay Pride movement, and respect for two-gendered people became a part of this movement. Since the 1990s Native Americans have rejected the offensive term “berdache” and replaced it with the more appropriately descriptive term: “two-spirit”.

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Media Portraying Women

Whether it is in a magazine or on TV media has taught girls from a young age that they have to be a certain type of girl and has to be impossibly skinny. Watching the video on this topic, even though I knew most of everything it was saying, it still made me mad. Having women dressing so erotically and flouncing around on TV for a commercial, shows and or movies gives little girls the impression that they must dress like that along with telling boys that girls should look like the women on TV. Which brings me to ask why does sex sell? Older women are making other older women feel less of a lady if she does not look like a model that has not eaten in years. Even the little beauty pageants that are on TV are making little girls wanting to wear make-up at a young age trying to look older. When girls are young and in middle school and high school they are just trying to fit in. Society is basically telling them if they want to fit in they have to change their whole appearance.

Why do men feel so scared of women that they have to degrade them on TV to try and to make the women feel inferior? Men always trying to bring a strong independent woman down when they feel like they might be out of a job or they might think the woman is not fit to lead. Women are just as strong as men and if I must work under a woman at some point I am okay with that because equality for all. If most men would stop being mules about letting a woman take charge when she is fit to lead and women having other women’s backs when they need help instead of turning a blind eye, then we just might have a chance at a brighter future.  

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Gender Without ‘The Other’: Lesbian & Gay Gender Identity

You know how you have those straight guy friends that like to say things like “Ooo she fine and she about to be mine,” well straight men are not the only ones to do this, lesbians tend to do it as well. Not to say that all of them do, but most of them yes. 

Degrading women falls on both male and female sides. Both like to show dominance by claiming someone to be theirs even though they have not met them yet. Lesbians seem to follow in the men’s footsteps of trying to be dominant, not just to show that they are different than others but to attract women that might find them more appealing if they also start cat-calling. You would be surprised a few women like that kind of attention, but not all. I would not want to be cat-called unless it was a friend being funny.

Lesbians that show dominance like this might feel that they are as equal to men when degrading women. It is almost if lesbians are making it a competition to see who is more dominant and or manly, them or the men.

Either way, it is not right, and it is very disrespectful to treat women this way just to show dominance. To show other women that besides straight men butch lesbians can take care of them as well. But is it even good if they get cat-called and or maybe even pushed around? In my opinion, not so much. Women deserve respect all around the bord.

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Why did girls start wearing pink?

     The baby boomers changed the way America looked at clothes and or what color of clothes your child wears. It used to be okay to put your little boy in little dresses that was okay back then before baby boomers. When baby boomers came along everything started to change. Parents started dressing the boys in blue and the girls in pink. This made a big impact in today’s styles and dress codes etc.

     If people started dressing their kids in clothes that do not fit the norm of our time then they will get looks from other people. Them people would be asking a lot of questions like “Oh he’s not a girl? Why is he in pink?” Everyone does not know about the past with the color of clothes. But some parents do not care what others think and worry about what their child feels best in. This is a great attitude to have especially in today’s society.