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hopeless time loop. the way out isn’t to save everyone. the way out isn’t to save even one person. the way out isn’t to change anything. the way out is accepting how it happened the first time is how it always will be. that’s how you acted, that’s how they acted, that’s how you would have acted every time if you weren’t given the curse of hindsight. the way out is accepting you can’t fix the past; you can only forgive yourself for it.

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ping ponging back and forth between seeing immense beauty everywhere and feeling deeply like i am in hell

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not really any memorable context he just said that

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I couldn't resist and I did this...

the beautiful rinharu nightpool scene...and Makoto

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i think my autism gets in the way of understanding the discourse around "person with autism" and "autistic person" because i see them as meaning the same thing. it's been explained to me and i still don't get it

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This is lowkey why i decided to collect my FAVOURITE movies as dvds

icant even explain why i feel this way about it but this meme, this specific version, just makes me so emotional i love it so so much. its very heartwarming. peace n love on planet earth

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“i don’t need routines to function,” i used to say, while going to school full time and living with my parents, who kept regular mealtimes, took us outside every morning, had a consistent bedtime routine and in general were accidentally providing the perfect environment for undiagnosed autistic kids to grow up in.

cut to me in uni spending an entire day in shutdown because i didn’t do the first thing on my study plan at the time i’d planned to do it

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Peeta: *tells Katniss his favorite color*

Katniss, 5 seconds later:

Underrated everlark moments 3 / 2 / 1

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this is going to sound like such a little sibling ass take but i genuinely believe that being a little bit annoying is actually a greater sign of maturity and self awareness than being universally likeable and on good terms with everyone

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doesn't have enough sense to come in out of the rain

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What's a character you were super into when you were like 12?

At that point I was OBSESSED with Percy Jackson, and pretty much the entire Rick-Riordan-Universe. It was also about then that I started The Ranger's Apprentice (i think), and I absolutely adored Will Treaty (if you know him)

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mundane tasks like wiping down surfaces & folding the laundry can be spiritual practices and even blessings if we allow them to be

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What an autistic person says: "How long is it going to take?"

What they mean: "I want to know whether to activate my short term waiting mode where I just wait and do nothing else, or activate my long term waiting mode where I occupy my mind with something else. I fully understand that both are possibilities, and I have no problem whatsoever with either one, but I want more information so I can best adapt to the situation."

What neurotypical people hear: "I am impatient and demand that everything I want happen right now. Please scold me and publicly humiliate me for it."

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Both

are you a "FUCK THE RULES I DO WHATEVER I WANT BITCHASS!!" autistic or a "..but breaking rules gives me a stomach ache :(" autistic??

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when i say "romanticise the ordinary" i don't mean "hide all aspects of your life that do not fit under some kind of aesthetic" but rather "strive to find beauty in all the little things because i promise you, happiness can be found everywhere"

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My mom went from:

"As long as you don't end up alone, I don't care about their gender,"

to:

"I would still love you if you were aromamtic, I would just feel sad that you never got to experience that part of life"

to:

"If you get married..."

to:

"If you want kids there’s more than one way to have them. You would be a great single mom."

to:

(@ my grandparents) "She"ll date if she wants to, she's happy on her own."

to:

"Life partners don't have to be romantic."

to:

"There's more than one way to live a meaningful life."

It hurt like hell, still does sometimes. Like, she accepts me but would be happier for me if I was different. And that’s a specific type of hurt, so I think I get it.

But I remind myself that she didn’t know any better.

I don’t know your mom/parents, but I just want to say (if you relate to this) that it can get better. It doesn’t remove the pain, it doesn’t make it okay. But there is hope if you want it. Being aroace defies a lot of conventions and expectations, and many people simply don't know better. But that doesn’t remove the possibility that they can learn better.

I send you the best, and want you to know you're not alone, and you're allowed to feel hurt/angry/frustrateted/whatever else you feel.

my mom: you know, i won't mind who you'll end up with, boy or girl or anything else. <3

me: yeah, i know you won't mind. <3

my mom: except for when you'll end with no one at all. <3

my recently as aspec-identifying ass: ... ._.

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okay but "the symbolism is Real and Trying to Kill You" is my favorite kind of symbolism