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The argument “LGBTQ+ representation will make children gay/trans” is so stupid and here’s 1 of the many reasons why:

The people who say this obviously know that LGBTQ+ people exist. They have seen enough LGBTQ+ representation and media that they feel that they need to actively be against it.

And yet, they’re not gay. They’re not trans. Unless they’re only pretending to be cishet.

By their logic, anyone who sees LGBTQ+ media or representation becomes gay or trans. “Anyone” includes them. But they’re not queer. So how can they say that their kids will become queer?

I’m going to immediately assume that anyone who uses the “my kids will turn queer” argument is also queer. (Okay, not actually, but using queerphobes’ argument, this is a perfectly logical assumption to make.)

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It's okay to change your labels even after years of identifying a certain way.

You could be new to the idea of being nonbinary. You might have understood yourself as nonbinary for decades, but realized that the specifics are different now.

Change is normal and difficult, too. It'll be alright.

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Nonbinary people can use they/them pronouns, or it/its, or neopronouns,

But they can also use he/him and she/her pronouns, and that doesn’t make them any less nonbinary.

Nonbinary people can present androgynously,

But they can also present masculinely or femininely, and that doesn’t make them any less nonbinary.

Nonbinary people can go on HRT and get surgeries to physically transition,

But they don’t have to, and that doesn’t make them any less nonbinary.

Nonbinary people can choose a new name/a different name from their birth name,

But they can also go by their birth name or some variation of it, and that doesn’t make them any less nonbinary.

There are no “rules” to being nonbinary. That’s kind of the whole point. Nonbinary people are nonbinary no matter how they present.

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We need better queer representation in shows movies and books

We need queer POC

We need people who don't want to label their gender or sexuality

We need trans people who's transition goals aren't to look cis

We need queer people with diverse religions

We need queer people who use pronouns that don't "match" their gender

We need aromantic and asexual characters

We need disabled queer people

We need queer people who use multiple labels for themselves

We need queer people who's entire personality isn't being queer

We need queer people who aren't just there because of romance

We need real and diverse queer people in the media

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To anybody who needed to hear this today 🩷

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Ok this is your fuckin reminder to not do the oppressors work for them

Do not exclude queer religious people just because you have trauma with them

Do not exclude mspec/bi/pan lesbians/gays just because you deem them lesbophobic

Do not exclude hetero alloaros because you dont see them as 'queer enough'

Do not exclude polyamory because it isnt 'queer enough'

Do not exclude poc who are queer

Do not exclude mentally ill queer people

Do not exclude intersex people

Do not exclude older queer people

Do not exclude younger queer people

Do not exclude trans or nonbinary people who dont have much, if any, dysphoria

Do not exclude any LGBTQ+ people who dislike being referred to as queer for whatever reason

Do not exclude ANY queer people. We are all in this together and if you exclude any of us or you are doing what the bigots want

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saw this poster at my local trans resource center and cried

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you will make it. you are amazing and im so grateful you're here, you are important

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I don't know who needs to hear this, but:

It is absolutely fine to use a label, only to realise it doesn't suit you anymore. Labels aren't there to bind you to them. They serve as a way to better describe how one feels and what ones lived experience can be like.

I had two pipelines of relabeling myself simultaneously.

From bi to lesbian, and back to bi.

From asexual to demisexual (because I thought, that one day, maybe I feel this kind of attraction, as sex-ambivalent and oscillating were terms I related with, and still do), and back to being asexual.

Does that make me less sapphic or a-spec? Absolutely not.

And to be honest: I still haven't figured out if I'm demiromantic or aromantic. And that is perfectly fine. We don't own anyone an explanation, but ourselves.

If the label felt good at that time, but doesn't anymore, let it go and take the one that feels more fitting. ♡ We are human beings. We are allowed to grow. You are valid, no matter which label you choose.

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Labels are made to describe your current identity It's OK to use a label that may not have fit you in the past or may not fit you in the future, just so long as it fits who you are now.

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Oops, wrong blog

Well, enjoy these pigeons anyways!

Today's birds are these pigeons!

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Today's birds are these pigeons!

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“If a society puts half its children into short skirts and warns them not to move in ways that reveal their panties, while putting the other half into jeans and overalls and encouraging them to climb trees, play ball, and participate in other vigorous outdoor games; if later, during adolescence, the children who have been wearing trousers are urged to “eat like growing boys,” while the children in skirts are warned to watch their weight and not get fat; if the half in jeans runs around in sneakers or boots, while the half in skirts totters about on spike heels, then these two groups of people will be biologically as well as socially different. Their muscles will be different, as will their reflexes, posture, arms, legs and feet, hand-eye coordination, and so on. Similarly, people who spend eight hours a day in an office working at a typewriter or a visual display terminal will be biologically different from those who work on construction jobs. There is no way to sort the biological and social components that produce these differences. We cannot sort nature from nurture when we confront group differences in societies in which people from different races, classes, and sexes do not have equal access to resources and power, and therefore live in different environments. Sex-typed generalizations, such as that men are heavier, taller, or stronger than women, obscure the diversity among women and among men and the extensive overlaps between them… Most women and men fall within the same range of heights, weights, and strengths, three variables that depend a great deal on how we have grown up and live. We all know that first-generation Americans, on average, are taller than their immigrant parents and that men who do physical labor, on average, are stronger than male college professors. But we forget to look for the obvious reasons for differences when confronted with assertions like ‘Men are stronger than women.’ We should be asking: ‘Which men?’ and ‘What do they do?’ There may be biologically based average differences between women and men, but these are interwoven with a host of social differences from which we cannot disentangle them.”

— Ruth Hubbard, “The Political Nature of ‘Human Nature’“ (via gothhabiba)

Yes.

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Please please please think of trans people of color when you’re going to make a generalized statement. When you’re making posts about passing tips, medical treatments for transitioning, even light hearted stereotypes include people of color in your sentiments.

As a black trans person it is so fucking isolating to see stuff I’m supposed to relate to only to find that they weren’t talking about me or people like me.

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how do you manage to live if your parents don't accept you and you're underage?

it's shitty living with unaccepting parents, and there's not much you can do but wait to move out on their front. i recommend seeking friends who will support and love you unconditionally- and remember to be easy on yourself; it's not a small feat to get through having to shackle your identity. dress in what affirming ways you can- slowly collect things that affirm you. you can do this, you can make it. you are valued, loved, and you deserve to be here and make it. <3

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I feel the sudden urge to write about people assuming my gender and my reactions to it, so...

I'm agender, right? (Hecking autocorrect just corrected that to "a gender" which I most definitely am not. Grrr. Anyways.) I was also assigned female at birth, because I have body parts that are considered "female" in the eyes of doctors.

Because of the fact that I'm perceived as a girl, I hate hate hate being called a girl. I don't like people using feminine labels on me, such as "woman" "ma'am" "lady" "queen" "gal" etc.

I feel good about myself when people think I'm a boy, or when they are confused about my gender, because it means that I don't look like a girl.

I do not feel good about myself when people think I'm a boy and proceed to group me with boys. (When I say "group" I mean address a bunch of boys and me as "gentleman" or "boys" or something along those lines, not physically putting me in a group of boys, which I don't like but don't care as much about, because I can correct them.)

I would really, really like it if people were always confused about my gender and would ask me instead of just taking a guess and hoping to be right (because chances are, they won't be right). But that's not the case, because society hasn't progressed that much, unfortunately.

But yeah. Thanks for reading.

- Cass, any/all except she/her