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Tumblr: Only neurotypical people do X. Neurodivergent people never do X. It's literally never necessary to do X, and if you do, you are by definition acting out of malice.
Neurodivergent person whose neurodivergence primarily expresses itself as X:
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#love when people combine this with 'LET'S PUNCH UP AT THE NEUROTYPICALS AND GIVE THEM A TASTE OF THEIR OWN MEDICINE'#i still remember the time a few years ago where a popular post was going around '''venting''' about neurotypicals#by saying we should start abusing children for '''neurotypical''' traits instead#me who was abused as an ADHD/autistic kid for exactly the traits they were describing; and relishing the idea of punishing: 🧍‍♂️#very hinged and not horrific and childist thing to say regardless! but what the fuck!#this is only an isolated incident in that people don't usually get that mask off about it on tumblr lol#i also really deeply hate the GUYS OMG I FIGURED IT OUT DID YOU KNOW THAT ACTUALLY THIS IS HOW NEUROTYPICALS THINK/TALK#culture for just. so many reasons even though at least people are generally less malicious about it#it's stupid and reductive; it's completely unhelpful; it talks over and erases autistic/ADHD people who don't fit that person's model of it#it is incredibly fucking alienating#especially when it's a trait; in communication or otherwise; that has a severe disabling impact on your life#to a degree that is easily life-ruining; and in some cases for me certainly has been. just a real fucking slap in the dick!#and it is just. incredibly fucking gross and condescending to on top of that talk about us like we're fucking zoo animals lol#consider! finding! other! ways! to! compare! experiences!#maybe ones that won't make your ADHD/autistic friends think they must not be; and go years longer thinking they're NT!#this shit crosses my dash all the time and i always want to say something about it; but it's long painful exhausting stuff to get into#only to then almost certainly be told i'm overreacting and overemotional and putting words in people's mouths and also ableist lmao#so i get five paragraphs in and then just get tired and give up and it stays in my drafts forever#sighs.#ableism cw#disabilitag
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HOLY SHIT THERE SHE IS
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nothing on this green earth could stop me from naming this pink striped oakworm moth cheeto | talalovesyou on ig
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when rest and "lazy days" stop being optional, you eventually stop enjoying it. i don't even know how to relax anymore. there's barely any relaxation in rest for me, it's all forced by a sick body.
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The way you change your immediate reactions to things is that you catch yourself having an uncharitable/bigoted/overly judgmental thought and you catch it and replace it and then you do that a hundred times a day for your whole life and eventually one day like five years later you realize that you think differently now and you’ll always be working on something but that’s how life goes and that’s fine.
#this this this#this puts so many thoughts i've been having lately into words#and a critically important part of that is learning to be kind and non-judgmental to yourself; but firm; when you do it#the goal is not to be hypervigilant for the moment you need to hurt yourself back into line with fear and stress and guilt#and think back through Every Single Terrible Thing in the World and Everything You Might Possibly Do Wrong Related to This#the goal is to learn to identify the signs that you are about to step into traffic on autopilot to get to work#instead of walking a little ways further to get to the crossing#if you don't have it firmly ingrained in your head that the middle of the highway is *not* a place to cross the road#you will probably have to put more effort into paying attention while you walk to work for a while#and catching yourself whenever you start to cross the highway; or feel tempted to do so; are having to actively decide not to#you don't have to beat yourself up and think about how stupid and selfish and awful you are for wanting to jaywalk#and make yourself picture all the horrific things that could happen to you and others if you got hit by a car#you just have to make the choice; again and again; to go 'nope that is not a route to take to work'#'we're going to the crosswalk; and maybe leaving the house a little earlier from now on to be less pressed for time to get there'#eventually you won't need to fight against your autopilot because not walking into traffic is the most natural thing in the world now#it doesn't even cross your mind; or if it does it's a blip (and if you *can't* stop thinking of The Consequence that is intrusive thoughts)#and that process of catching yourself in the moment cannot be the only way in which you put in effort to address it!#if anything 'i have to do this specific individual short-term thing to Be a Good Person regardless of context'#is a great way to end up still doing harm bc you didn't actually learn why it's important; and open yourself up to mental illness and abuse#you have to set aside time to think about *why* you're catching those little things; what's at stake; and what those things even are#taking the time to educate yourself about how traffic works; and the danger to yourself and others if you don't take it seriously#is important! and might also lead you down the rabbithole to things like 'car-centric society in general is fucked up actually'#but you only have so much time and mental and emotional energy to dedicate to that every day#and when you're already at 'should i cross the street' is a bad time to be doing that work if you can possibly avoid it#have the course of action to retrain your kneejerk when it pops up; so you can nudge yourself firmly and then move on; ready to go#and it will be a whole lot easier than you might be afraid of at first. you would be surprised#and it eventually becomes a relief to be able to let those nasty thoughts go; and feel your feelings without them#anyway yeah lots of thoughts thank you op#generaltag#important
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Happy International Asexuality Day!!!!
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i fucking hate 'do it scared' and every single variation of it that i've seen just gets worse. bets on how long it'll take before people go full mask off and add on 'do it in excruciating pain' lol
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Honestly, society has lost something big when they started putting ads on “Never Gonna Give You Up”. It used to be you clicked a link, and you heard that synth music and you just groaned. Nowadays, you see a link, go, “that might be Rick Astley”, then you click it, Youtube plays an ad for dog food and you see below that is indeed Rick Astley. You go, “ah, yes, that was indeed a link to that music video. Do I feel like watching the video today or not? Probably  not, but I have the entire ad time to decide”. It’s essentially a global “do you really want to get Rickrolled?” filter.
This is really one of the best and most important reasons for using an adblocker: So you can get the proper rickroll experience. Here are some good ones for your platform.
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Easter bunnies (aka chabbits, skvaders, or boultry) are GMO designer pets turned practical livestock from Runaway to the Stars. Each breed has a distinct egg color! They are popular choice for small spacer colonies, since they’re quiet and produce eggs and meat on a completely vegetarian diet.
PATREON | STORE | Runaway to the Stars
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Me Giving a Pressed Conference: our advocacy for the disabled must include the addict, the imperfect victim, those we despise; the right to autonomy and life cannot devolve into a popularity contest
Reporter I Hate (Not Sexual Tension): Does that include all the attendees of the Bored Ape NFT event who went blind
Me: *Blood streaming from my nostrils and eyes* david, it includes everyone
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everyone clap and cheer the oxford english dictionary has added the word FISHIFIED: ‘turned into a fish; made fish-like or reminiscent of fish.’ earliest known usage in 1672
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I wish kinky sex ed wasn't so stigmatized even among left-leaning "sex positive" circles. Everyone's all "uwu I'm a sub I'll do anything you ask" okay mommy wants you to read The New Bottoming Book so you learn how to sub without hurting yourself since your sex ed up to this point is porn and your ex boyfriend Jared who liked to choke you incorrectly
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reblogged this once already, but it occurred to me to add: if everyone in your partner's life dislikes/hates/is constantly criticizing you and telling them to leave you, and you have found yourself being isolated from everyone in your life other than the partner and those people, that is also a huge red flag.
if the framing being beaten into your head is 'everyone but me hates you and thinks you're toxic and rancid, but i'll protect you because i'm the only person around who thinks you're not Awful. if it weren't for me sheltering, supporting, and advocating for you, everyone would and will turn on you in a heartbeat,' that is BAD NEWS and you need to get out of there.
If EVERYBODY in your life hates your significant other then they are the problem. If it is one or two people like a family member you have a turbulent relationship with and one friend who’s always been kind of jealous, maybe they just hate your success. But most of the time that is not the case and the people who are closest to you and love you and have had your back for years probably know when your new relationship is toxic and/or doomed.
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If EVERYBODY in your life hates your significant other then they are the problem. If it is one or two people like a family member you have a turbulent relationship with and one friend who’s always been kind of jealous, maybe they just hate your success. But most of the time that is not the case and the people who are closest to you and love you and have had your back for years probably know when your new relationship is toxic and/or doomed.
#god they weren't a partner but that last one especially hits home to a tee with an abusive close friend of mine#shoutout to my actual partner at the time constantly stewing and spewing in my ear about how much they hated them and how Annoying they wer#partly bc the partner did actually recognize red flags; but also bc they were a nasty jealous pos who was mad i spent time with the friend#which contributed even more to my constantly trying to hide how horribly the friend treated me so people wouldn't hate them#and when i finally put my foot down and said 'listen please stop constantly shit-talking my friend to me 24/7; it is deeply inappropriate'#'and really fucking with me; and i am getting the strong impression there is jealousy here and that you are trying to drive a wedge between#me and other loved ones. it is really alarming; if you won't work it through with me you need to at least work it through with someone else#and their idea of respecting my boundaries was to sulk and whine; and purposefully totally ignore every attempt i made for a full year#to talk to them privately about things the friend was doing where i felt like something was wrong#but was unsure if *i* was the one in the wrong and crossing the *friend's* boundaries. because yay gaslighting!#and when i finally was able to express my hurt later on; after i finally split with the friend; that my ex had done this#they flipped their fucking lid about how i was a horrible partner who was blaming them for my abuse and Didn't Trust Them#and was mad at them for following the exact opposite of the boundary i had set; and not reading my mind.....#.....because 'don't spew 24/7 venom in my ear about a loved one you're jealous of me being friends with'#is the same thing as 'don't give me a reality check when i explicitly ask you for input about whether that person might be gaslighting me'#cue me not telling a single fucking soul what the friend was doing to me until things finally came to a head at the end of that friendship#and cue the ex's immediate and ongoing response to my breaking down into weeks worth of pent up infodump about what they'd done to me#over the course of that year where i'd been dealing with it completely alone; being to go#'yeahhh i won't lie dear i thought it was really fucking weird that you wanted to be friends with them lol'#bonus round: ~a year after that the ex tried to do the same thing with a new circle of friends i had found#and when i calmly; kindly said i didn't want to participate in that kind of thing; after having introduced ex to them on ex's request#they lost their shit and had a massive public tantrum about how they hated me and i made them want to kill themself lol#anyway! yeah if you're doing what i did that's a huge huge red flag#and if the people in your life actively freeze you out when you *do* try to talk to them about it bc 'oh *now* you're listening to me 🙄'#they are also pieces of shit and i recommend that if you get the chance you ensure that they are not in your life either lol#abuse cw#traumatag
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where's that quote abt like. being embarrassed abt the thinness of ur life the way ur embarrassed by a threadbare piece of clothing. bc like yeah
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hot take but 'rotting' is a fucking horrible way to refer to people who spend a detrimental amount of time physically inactive due to mental illness, and it's even worse with the near-universal connotation of 'this is your fault and you need to scrape your shit together. :/'
i'd say would you imagine calling a person who's bedbound due to chronic pain, fatigue, or mobility issues 'rotting,' except that guess fucking what a lot of us ARE confined to bed beyond that baseline because IT'S A STATE OF AFFAIRS THAT WILL WORSEN YOUR DEPRESSION HORRIBLY.
not to mention there are a lot of people who spend all their time physically inactive because they live in an abusive environment and their room is the only (relatively) safe place they have.
(spoiler alert! this post written by someone who is all three. and who has a high chance of fucking dying because of it, because my body is physically deteriorating as a result of being in this situation. it definitely helps my mental state about this to have people call me 'rotting' and imply it's only happening because i'm not putting in the effort to get better, often while saying it in a mocking tone. 🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃)
and like. there are people who very fucking literally rot in bed, as a result of being in bed, usually as a result of lack of resources or neglect from caretakers or both. this is a thing that happens to people and it is a fucking HORRIFIC way to go, it is absolutely gutwrenching to read about and it's not fucking funny and it's not a fucking silly little selfcare meme.
if you come onto this post with 'omg sorry for not making every single post impossible to misinterpret with your personal experiences in mind 🙄' i will fucking bite you. i will BITE you. STOP IT.
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