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Parents out here regulating their children's emotions by "giving them something to cry about"...

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Abusive parents will build up an illusionary world where people have children only to starve them and have them die on the street, in order to present themselves as "benevolent" for giving you food and clothes. They have to compare themselves to nonexistent people who illegally cause the death of their own kids in order to look good.

We're not living in the world where leaving kids to die is normal. It is, in fact, illegal. If they failed to feed you they would go to prison. 'Be grateful I didn't kill you' is something a murderer would say.

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Someone who openly celebrated sexual abuse of children has been arrested for sexual abuse of children.

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Hey, if your parents made you believe something when you were a kid, and now as an adult you feel incredibly stupid for believing it, it's not your fault. You are not stupid, you're not dumb, you could not have known what was going on.

Your parents knew they could convince you of lies, precisely because you were a kid. You had no resources or experience to know what was true and what wasn't. You had no reason to believe your primary caretakers would want to lie to you. You counted on them to tell you what's true. You could not have known that it was a setup to make you believe in something that wasn't true, that was made up for you to be more easily controlled, or scared, or permissive, or forgiving, or passive, or silenced. They might have told you that you're incapable of survial, or that you're stupid, or that you don't deserve basic necessities, or that you need to be eternally grateful, that everyone else would abuse you worse, that you have no place in this world, nobody will ever want or love you, or some more bizarre elaborate lie to keep you from reaching out for help, from speaking out, from putting up a fight.

They knew what they were doing when they lied to you. They knew that lying to a kid is easy. They knew once you figured it out, they could just mock and humiliate you for being naive to shut you back up. It was cruelty what they did.

Kids are naive. You were just a normal kid. They singled you out and used your own inexperience and the fact that you trusted them, to make you live in a world that is worse than it should ever have been for you. You're not stupid for falling for it. Anyone would. There's no other way to be a kid than to trust what your parents say to you. You have nothing to be ashamed of.

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This Mother's Day, remember to mind your own business if someone you know has cut their mother out of their life.

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This is true.

And it's also a major reason why seeing abusers as "pure evil" is counterproductive.

When one parent is actively abusive and the other enables them, the enabler is often being abused also. It could easily be a trauma response. Maybe the enabler feels helpless. Maybe the enabler is afraid that they'll suffer more abuse if they try to stop the child from being abused.

But the child doesn't care and shouldn't have to. Children are raised to see their parents as a team. Children are raised to believe that a child "disrespecting" their parents is worse than a parent abusing their child. Even though the enabler is likely a victim also, the child has every reason to see the enabler as complicit.

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u-turn kitty?

[shop] - May 3 (2025) shop update

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Diver convince octopus to trade his plastic cup for a seashell

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So smooth

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La sculpture "L'écoute" de Henri de Miller à Paris ©pierre-yves chassaigne

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what do you mean you’re tagging my post with “shitpost.” that was craftsmanship. van gogh wasn’t doodling. michelangelo didn’t work with playdoh. it’s like calling the lord jesus’s carpentry whittling

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Yaquina Head Lighthouse, Newport

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Living his best life

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You were raised by an outspoken feminist who abused you. Maybe she spanked you. Maybe she treated your neurodivergent traits as misbehavior and punished you for it. Maybe she expected you to live up to her fantasies instead of being who you want to be.

This isn't uncommon at all. And you may conclude that feminism upholds your abuse and become an anti-feminist.

But you'd be wrong. The problem isn't feminism. The problem is single issue feminism. The solution is inclusive feminism, not anti-feminism.

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He had something important to say