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Fuuuck we left the back door open last night andthe whole kitchen got out

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Antis are so silly. I'm not reading your angry replies, yall, don't waste your time. I really could care less, stay mad ✌️

Just warning you all, I'm not gonna bother with responding to antis, or carefully explaining what radqueer is. I do not care. If you like to go on old as fuck posts and say bullshit to think you're smart when I literally covered everything you're saying before and I already made better points, good for you, have fun being really ignorant.

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Just warning you all, I'm not gonna bother with responding to antis, or carefully explaining what radqueer is. I do not care. If you like to go on old as fuck posts and say bullshit to think you're smart when I literally covered everything you're saying before and I already made better points, good for you, have fun being really ignorant.

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Defining norm, deviance, and liberation

A norm in the social sense is a system that assigns value to traits and to those who possess these traits, writes and distributes roles, and punishes for deviating from these roles.

A deviant is someone who does not have traits that are considered valuable from the point of view of the norm, who feels or presents in a way that is rejected by their environment.

The principles by which something is considered normal or deviant are connected to historical and cultural backgrounds of each particular society and humanity as a whole and do not correspond with humane ethics. A large amount of deviant features or behaviors are quite benign. There exist important exceptions, such as taking someone's life, destroying or stealing personal property, or sexual assault. However, even in case of these behaviors, the amount of punishment the deviant receives depends more on other sorts of deviance exhibited than on severity of harm. And the society can and will use these behaviors as a means of punishment of other types of deviance.

The first and the most important thing that is expected from a deviant is to reject their deviance and strive to be normal. If that is impossible, the next expectation is to accept their inferior position in the society and be as quiet about their deviance as possible. And the last resort, for those who refuse to be quiet, is to be spectacularly punished and serve as a cautionary tale.

The norm has some degree of flexibility and may conditionally accept certain forms of deviance - such as some kinds of gay relationships, gender non-conformity. The condition on which they are accepted is typically more severe self-policing and active participation in oppression of other deviants. Deviants who reached this conditional acceptance often value it a lot and are willing to create obstacles against liberation. 

Actual deviant liberation would require destruction of the norm. That includes deconstructing the entire system of what is considered desirable versus undesirable, both when it comes to taboo traits such as the most stigmatized paraphilias, and traits very few people consider serious, like incoherent speech and poor reading comprehension. As an outcome of this change, it still will be possible to condemn nonconsensual acts against others' autonomy, but their existence will be approached as a flaw of the system, not a character trait of particular individuals.

However, even starting to work towards such a goal means that first we need to learn to recognize each other as fellow deviants, suffering from the same injustice, and we need to undo normative biases within ourselves. The ideology of radeviance is an attempt to critically analyze what the society punishes, why, and how, and to give deviants an opportunity to unite.

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Perhaps an unpopular opinion (idk, maybe not)

But I really don't think that transID antis would exist if oppression of minorities didn't exist

Which is super ironic because transID antis literally only create more of a divide.

It's like they really want to keep minorities inside of the boxes that make them minorities, not letting anyone in or out, thus enforcing the oppression and making sure that the minorities stay minorities

Like if ableism didn't exist, nobody would care about someone wanting to have a disability. So why are people so eager to enforce that divide?? I don't get it at all

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Bro antis see that people were banned for being white supremacists and they go "look the radqueers are all supporting those white supremacists!!!"

White supremacists and antis are crybabies, racists will never be a part of our community, cry about it.

Hi uh, um so in rq discord servers theres a whole ass white supremacists, and half of rq community supports them, i think ill just,, leave this community. Cuz like wtf.

Not surprising considering they whole-heartedly support nazis and racists so long as they put the “trans-“ suffix before it. Absolutely please do leave the community.

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I could be a better yandere than they could. I don't hold back - (yan gf who could text you every hour)

I feel so good rn, this is wonderful

If you think you can do better, you can dm me, I'll be the best darling you'll ever have.

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i can be that clingy yan girlboyfriend !! i will text u all the time n give you all the attention u need :33

DM MEE I'm literally on the floor begging you please dm me /silly but true

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I could be ur hella clingy yandere bf *gladly* <3 tho I wrk best over discord~

I'm BEGGING you to dm me, I can send my discord right away (I'm so desperate it's tragic)

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I could be the kind of yandere gf who texts you every hour

That is exactly what I need (I'm begging)

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I need a girlfriend so fucking badly. This is a call for action, actually dm me, because I'm so in need of a clingy partner who loves me and would never hurt me, I just really need a yandere gf/bf/partner

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I know this isn't what i usually post but I'm so excited to see bees turn against their queens and do democracy instead.

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If you ever think the radqueer community is wrong by despising "survivors of the radqueer community", just think of Oli London.

He labeled himself as queer and was transrace. Now he hates queer people and trace people, says they're all the same mob of horribleness, and thrashes trans people because he's now christian and doesn't identify with those "beliefs".

Do you really think he was right? If yes, you're just a bigot, congratulations, but if not, where do you draw the line? At hating "actual queer people"? At hating "an actual minority"? Because I've never seen a non-queer radqueer. I've never seen a radqueer who's never been oppressed in any way. And with the amount of hate we've gotten, you can bet (and I know it's true) that a lot of antis are bigoted. I've seen antis be so straight up ableist while "fighting against ableism", I've seen them call radqueers the r slur and say horrible shit. And you can't say that's not a majority, I've never seen an anti who isn't conservative-coded and doesn't spew bigoted bullshit.

Because the nature of antis is segregation between binaries that don't exist as a binary. Disabled vs abled is not a binary, yet I've seen antis say that people can never become disabled, which is just stupid. As a white latino, POC vs white is not a binary I fall into, yet they really want to separate those and say people can never ever identify as something other than what they're born and perceived as.

They want to separate them because it's less confusing and less problematic. They want to maintain the status quo of never letting minorities become privileged as an identity (e.g. transwhiteness and nullabledness), and of never letting privileged people identify with minorities. Privilege or minority status will likely never leave us and we're not saying it will, but muddying the waters will never be something less than good. Because that only empowers.

In my humble opinion, saying disability and other minority status is desirable and inherently neutral or good, is not harmful. Because the other option is saying disability and other minority status is inherently undesirable regardless of how the disabled person or minority feels about it.

Anyway. I have said this multiple times, but having a distinct line between privilege status and minority status that no one can cross is not a good thing and will never be.

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Do you ship Sally and Larry too? ✨

ABSOLUTELYYYYY.

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If you ever think the radqueer community is wrong by despising "survivors of the radqueer community", just think of Oli London.

He labeled himself as queer and was transrace. Now he hates queer people and trace people, says they're all the same mob of horribleness, and thrashes trans people because he's now christian and doesn't identify with those "beliefs".

Do you really think he was right? If yes, you're just a bigot, congratulations, but if not, where do you draw the line? At hating "actual queer people"? At hating "an actual minority"? Because I've never seen a non-queer radqueer. I've never seen a radqueer who's never been oppressed in any way. And with the amount of hate we've gotten, you can bet (and I know it's true) that a lot of antis are bigoted. I've seen antis be so straight up ableist while "fighting against ableism", I've seen them call radqueers the r slur and say horrible shit. And you can't say that's not a majority, I've never seen an anti who isn't conservative-coded and doesn't spew bigoted bullshit.

Because the nature of antis is segregation between binaries that don't exist as a binary. Disabled vs abled is not a binary, yet I've seen antis say that people can never become disabled, which is just stupid. As a white latino, POC vs white is not a binary I fall into, yet they really want to separate those and say people can never ever identify as something other than what they're born and perceived as.

They want to separate them because it's less confusing and less problematic. They want to maintain the status quo of never letting minorities become privileged as an identity (e.g. transwhiteness and nullabledness), and of never letting privileged people identify with minorities. Privilege or minority status will likely never leave us and we're not saying it will, but muddying the waters will never be something less than good. Because that only empowers.

In my humble opinion, saying disability and other minority status is desirable and inherently neutral or good, is not harmful. Because the other option is saying disability and other minority status is inherently undesirable regardless of how the disabled person or minority feels about it.

Anyway. I have said this multiple times, but having a distinct line between privilege status and minority status that no one can cross is not a good thing and will never be.

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Hey I don't know if this helps, but coming from a person who is VERY strongly pro-rehabilitative/restorative justice... there will always be people who are willing to forgive you. What's important is to just keep trying to be better. You know that suibaiting was wrong, same with "watching stuff" (I'm not sure I understand what that means but trust your judgment).

While it's not an excuse, you were in the middle of an intense mental health episode while this all went down. That's really important to know, because it will help with making less hurtful choices in the future! I'm of the firm opinion that responsibility isn't a binary, but exists on a sliding scale.

When going through a mental health episode without proper support/treatment (as is usually the case in our world), I do think that sometimes in those exact circumstances it isn't possible for someone to have acted differently THAT time, so the responsibility is to apologize and to work on making sure it doesn't happen again, not to beat yourself up over the idea you could have done differently and just chose to be shitty for the fun of it.

Like I said, it's not an excuse, but it does help to differentiate "I pressed the big red button because a mental health episode made it difficult or even impossible not to" and "I pressed the big red button for the lulz of it".

Anyway, I truly believe that not only CAN people be better, but that we NEED to support people so they can do so. I'm on anon because I'm a closeted radqueer, but I'm here for you as ⭐ anon. You deserve that support because you're a person (or the equivalent of such if you identify as a nonperson).

Also, you definitely didn't betray radqueers. If someone chooses to use a member of a marginalized group being shitty to justify their oppression, they were always a bigot and were never going to be kind even if we were all perfect angels who never did one thing wrong.

I don't know how to respond to that, you don't know how much this means to me and is helpful in my situation. Thank you!!!

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If you think people being accepted into a community regardless of who they are as long as they're not hurting anyone, and that community defending themselves against constant hate, is "culty", you're being weird and a bigot. You just don't want queer people to thrive.

A lot of people are leaving the radqueer community lately, or doing """"research"""" just to be an anti again.

I would like to say, if you're leaving the community and becoming 100% an anti, you're just like detransitioners who shit on trans people. You were one of us once, don't act like we're a cult just because it didn't work out for you.

(if antis find this and say I'm transphobic because I'm comparing radqueers to the trans community, oh for fucks sake give me a break. Are you proud of yourself for not doing anything for trans people and shitting on a trans person for their choices?)

"Former radqueers", "recovered radqueers", etc you are not special for "surviving" respect and acceptance, you are not iconic because you "recovered" from being decent about other people's identities. Leave us alone, you're not different.