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no sorry i dont really use instagram, i can contact you via ouija board, spirit box, fluctuations in temperature, flickering lights, and certain rituals. i am also on tumblr.

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Sometimes I think about how arguably one of the major themes in the New Testament is to listen and believe women.

The first act of the New Testament is believing Mary when she explains the virgin birth.

Women were trusted to preach the good news that Jesus rose from the dead.

The woman caught in ‘adultery’ (which some scholars believe was non-consensual) was spared.

The woman at the well is arguably the first person to go out of preach in the name of Jesus.

All this to say: Women are meant to be listened to. They are meant to preach. They are meant to be equal, not subordinate.

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Fun ADHD hack is that you're allowed to just go to the library and reserve a study room for a couple of hours and make all your phone calls or whatever adult shit you need to do but can't because your house is for House Stuff and for some reason your brain has designated "phone calls for doctors and other such things" as School Adjacent and therefore refuses to do it in an insufficently academic environment. Like it's free. You can just do that.

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Okay so when I got sucked into the phantom zone last week while watching youtube shorts a lot of the content it fed me was ADHD tips and a lot of it was either useless for me or redundant but there was one REALLY good tip about taking breaks that wasn't about taking breaks it was about RETURNING from breaks and the tip is: when you are about to go on a break, before you step away from your task (work, craft project, school stuff) decide what you'll do as the first thing when you sit back down at your task and set up your workspace to do that thing.

That means you've got an easy re-entry point to go back to doing the thing instead of sitting back down and having to make a decision or having to reorient from break mode to task mode. You have pre-reoriented and can just go back into working mode.

I've been doing this by circling what my next task on my tasklist is and bringing up the windows that I'll need for the task before I step away from my desk.

Brilliant hack, works great for me, hope it works great for you as well.

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Favorite bird genre has got to be 'that's literally just a dinosaur'

Groove-Billed Ani

Hoatzin

Pheasant Coucal

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I assumed that the 'egg' thing for trans people came from croque monsieurs and croque madames.

See, a croque monsieur is a ham sandwich with cheese and béchamel sauce. A croque madame is the same thing but with a fried egg on top.

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it's crazy how I spent almost three decades thinking I just didn't like salad, period, when it turns out the actual problem was that I was only being exposed to Bad Salads, ie, salads that are as lacking in flavor and joy as possible because they're made for people who think they need to do penance for having to eat at all

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People addressing their posts to "chat" is great because half the time I think it's one, and half the time I think it's the other

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"it's all in your head" correct! unfortunately I am also in there

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nothing funnier to me than when AI does math wrong. like I get why it happens, it's a language model that's treating the numbers you feed it as words rather than integers and then giving you an answer based on how those words typically appear in a block of text instead of actually performing a calculation. but the one thing computers are genuinely incredible at. you fucked up a perfectly good calculator is what you did, look at it it's got hallucinations

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it's called the Switch 2 because you Switch 2 a cheaper hobby

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Moral Fiber is what will get those compassion filled bowels on the move again.

I know "bowels" doesn't mean the same thing now as it did Way Back When, but I still hold back a giggle whenever the scriptures say "bowels filled with compassion" or "bowels moved with compassion" like. he's so full of love that he's shitting it out

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Like, my default response when someone does something I don't like is to tamp down the discomfort and let it go without comment, all while maintaining a neutral affect.

I can't just react 'authentically'-- making face, saying "I don't like that," physically withdrawing etc. -- I have to consciously make myself to do those things. However, doing those things on purpose feels like I'm being manipulative even though they are normal healthy reactions.

So even if I'm genuinely sad, scared, or upset about something, the fact that I could force myself to stop crying to avoid making other people uncomfortable, but am choosing to let myself feel things because I need to prioritize myself sometimes means that I am exactly like those people who fake cry just to get their way.

Unlearning people pleasing feels like you're being manipulative.