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#also he was a big bag of dicks #like he was s u c h a dick to his wife #she was his cousin too so fjfjhfuhd #and he got sent to prison in Australia #and she got herself sent too just to be with him #and she got lead poisoning from the water #and died #and her last words were something like i love you and ill always be yours #because she loved him s o much and still after he cheated on her #he was just a huge dick to her #and probably slept with washington just sayin

Hello, @tacticalbrilliance! I noticed your tags and I thought I’d clarify a few things. 

While it’s true that Lafayette did not initially make his marriage or his wife a priority, several factors should be taken into account to understand why. This is not to condone his behavior. I present these facts with the hope that they will shed some light on his motivations, which–in my opinion–were not intentionally harmful.

Lafayette and Adrienne’s marriage was not a union of love, but an arrangement. Adrienne fell in love with Lafayette from a distance before their marriage and had no idea that she was secretly engaged to him. Lafayette’s family and the members of the Noailles household found the marriage agreeable for the financial and noble achievement the union would bring. While Adrienne’s mother worked to foster her daughter’s feelings for Lafayette before the wedding, the Marquis’ guardians treated it as a business transaction. 

Lafayette was 16 and Adrienne was 14 when they married. Both families saw to the arrangement with very little direct input from Lafayette and without Adrienne’s knowledge entirely. Adding to that fact, Adrienne and Lafayette were not allowed to consummate their marriage for over a year per Adrienne’s mother’s wishes. Eventually, Lafayette broke that rule by sneaking into her room late one night when the two knew her mother would be sleeping. By all accounts, both kiddos were pretty happy when that restriction came to an end.

Lafayette saw the world in rose-colored glasses. By that, I mean that he constantly idealized everything in his life and whatever stirred his immediate zeal, he flung himself at headlong. He wasn’t known for his wisdom. Instead, we remember him for his enthusiasm, passion, and optimism. Because of this, when he involved himself with other women, it was by no means at the expense of his wife in his own mind. During his stay in America, he constantly sent Adrienne letters hoping to reaffirm his love for her in the hopes that she might not hate him when he came back to France. He sowed a few wild oats; it’s true. But he did not do it with the intention of hurting Adrienne in any way.

Affairs were not only commonplace in France during Lafayette’s day, they were expected. This does not change our modern perception of promiscuity and does not excuse his behavior. It was, however, extremely common for those raised in the circles of nobility and for couples that came out of arranged marriages to have lovers outside of the home. During his stay in America, there is no evidence to suggest that Lafayette ever engaged with anyone sexually or romantically. In France, there are two known women that he pursued rather openly. Adrienne presumably knew about at least one of them without comment. Again, this does not give the Marquis a free pass. It’s simply a fact. As an aside, the concept of marrying for love really came to a head in the Victorian era long after our favorite Frenchman had passed away. Marriage was practical–and love was learned.

One of Lafayette’s affairs ended in a possible suicide. Diane de Simiane–considered by many to be the most beautiful woman in France–carried on a love affair with the Marquis de Lafayette after he returned from the American War for Independence. Her husband, Charles-Francois de Simiane, is believed to have been a known homosexual. Despite his personal preferences, he often became jealous of the attention his wife received outside of their marital bed and this included Lafayette’s doting. Charles-Francois died in 1787 due to what was deemed an accidental hunting incident, but wagging tongues pointed to Lafayette’s affair with his wife as a possible cause for suicide instead. Speculation continues to this day. Regardless, Lafayette did not believe his actions caused the man to want to take his own life and would not discuss the matter after. His thoughts aside, his relationship with M’me de Simiane did not continue. 

Lafayette grew to love his wife dearly. During the tumultuous time of the French Revolution, Lafayette’s imprisonment in Austria, his exile, and his eventual return to France, the Lafayette family became a tightly knit unit. Adrienne’s sacrificial decision to stay with her husband in what was literally a dungeon strengthened their bond immeasurably. Once they were released, the family and extended family lived together. Lafayette lost his wandering eye. Adrienne wholly claimed his heart. He was away when she fell terminally ill and rushed back home to her immediately. He did not leave her side and was with Adrienne when she passed of lead poisoning on Christmas Eve (her son’s birthday) 1807. His letter to a close friend after her passing is devastating. He speaks of his ‘angelic and incomparable woman’ and goes on for paragraphs about what she meant to him.  “Until this moment you have always found me stronger than the circum- stances of my life: today the circumstances are stronger than I am. I shall never rise above them.”  Her last words to him had been, Je sous toute à vous“ (I am all yours). During his final moments, he kept an image of her in his hands and kissed it before losing consciousness. He was a man who, despite his failings in the past, loved the beloved wife of his youth and she was a devoted woman who loved him since the age of 14 and did anything in her power to protect him, his children, his reputation…everything she could. 

And finally, Lafayette did sleep with Washington: they were once found beneath a tree bundled up together under Washington’s cloak, snoozing after the horrendous mess that was the Battle of Monmouth. There was nothing sexual between the Marquis de Lafayette and George Washington, but they did love each other deeply and shared a unique, lasting bond. It was, and remains, one of the most unexpected and heartwarming father/son relationships in American history. Read their letters if you want a real case of the warm and fuzzies. It’s incredibly moving and genuine papa-to-son, son-to-papa stuff.

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How To Write An Autistic Character

I don’t use this blog for much anymore and I can’t delete mains so here’s to doing something with it

Autistic characters are very easy! It seems hard only because you think they’re Other and Weird because neurotypicals who only assess surface-value traits tell you they are. 

(I heeeaaavily advise you to write characters with less severe traits if you’re neurotypical, though.)

(And while this is for writing, if you’re confused about autistic behaviour, this should clarify a lot of it!)

So, first up:

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What would an extremely unhealthy Fi-dom look like?

Typically, the Fi-dom sense of independence when either unhealthy or pushed too far tends to manifest in a “your rules don’t apply to me, screw you” sort of approach to life, where they are super-sensitive / you have to walk on eggshells around them, but they literally do not care how you feel about what they are saying / whether what they have to say is socially appropriate. It’s a “this doesn’t go both ways” approach to life – I can say whatever I want and you just have to live with it / get over it, but how dare you criticize me or tease me like that.

Their inferior Te tends to come out with extremely blunt ‘judgments’ about people, depending on what perception function lies ahead of it – an unhealthy ISFP may make highly critical / inappropriate / nasty remarks about people’s physical appearances or deformities; an unhealthy INFP may use their ability to see an alternative perspective to cruelly cut down someone’s opinions or target someone’s weaknesses (gathered through intuition).

In its purest form, a healthy Fi is all about allowing others pure individuality (without judgment), ensuring no one feels pressured to do anything they do not want to do / championing freedom of choice / uniqueness, avoiding causing others pain, distress, or embarrassment out of respect for their feelings (choosing your battles carefully, in the realization that not every situation requires a judgment or a fight), and a clear sense of and confidence in Self to make moral decisions (for oneself, not for other people).

- ENFP Mod

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Bojnice Castle

Inspired by the real castle at Bojnice, Slovakia, this castle was built live on my twitch channel. Fully furnished and ready to live in. More pics available on the WIP post here and here. DOWNLOAD *Tray File **CC not included, get it all below: FelixandreSims CC Heritage set by HeyHarrie Kich’me Rustic by myself Rustic Romance by Plumbob Tea Society Cottage Garden by Plumbob Tea Society Hamptons Getaway set by Peacemaker Shaker Kitchen by Peacemaker Cats and Dogs AddOn by Peacemaker  Graciously Georgian by Peacemaker Wall Bumper Pack by Amoebae Jaipur Fringed and Mythos Rugs by Brazen Lotus

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I can see Holden Caulfield as INFP, but why not INTP or INFJ? He seems to have difficulty with relationships too (inf Fe) and he creates abstract meanings all the time (dom Ni). Idk if aux Ne can create as much abstract meanings as Ni, but anyway.

INTPs with inferior Fe issues have difficulty with relationships but not every person who has difficulty with relationships is INTP. Where is the evidence of dominant Ti? INTPs with inferior Fe issues are often very withdrawn and also emotionally numb and existentially detached, not caring about much of anything except their own self-centered interests. If he was INTP it would actually negate the main theme of the story because such a person would never care about being “a catcher in the rye”.

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There’s a lot of excellent examples of the difference between a million and a billion, but here’s my new personal favorite from a conversation I had today:

A million minutes ago was April 2021, the height of the COVID pandemic.

A billion minutes ago was November 121 CE, the height of the Roman Empire.

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All my followers are non-people. I have an AI army of sex bots

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On Narrators by Theo Read

I have the feeling people confuse narrators in 3rd person. so, here's my helpful guide:

OMNISCIENT: this type knows everything about everyone and it's only up to him how much he reveals

LIMITED: focuses on only one character at the time, but knows them very well, characterises others only externaly

OBJECTIVE: only follows events, doesn't know any thoughts of anyone

As a someone that writes in limited, I've got critiqued for "why does it say your character is useless when they're not?!" or "why aren't they objective?!"

Like fam, my good friend, are all your thoughts objective, on par with reality? You never had a thought that you're totally useless and stupid?

Because that's what's happening! The limited narrator is not objective! It's similar to the 1st person narrator in this sense. Nor does the narrator have to be reliable.

Think of them as someone telling the story. Are they gonna be objective? Are you objective when you tell your friend's story to your mom?

The narrator is simply describing what he sees, why the character acts certain way. It's motivation hidden in thoughts and the reader is supposed to pick up on that.

And maybe the actual point of the character was that they find their self-worth at the end, but that would require someone to read between the lines and not just call bullshit on thinking.

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The famous wooden spiral staircase of Peles Castle in Sinaia, Romania.

The castle was built between 1873 and 1914.

It is a real work of art! Absolutely beautiful!

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Pop Culture Victorians:

Actual Victorians:

“If your eyes aren’t bleeding, it’s not historically accurate.”

- Abby Cox

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“but what did POOR Victorian women wear?”

unless they were crushingly poor, the same basic arrangement of garments as rich women, and the closest approximation of fashionable fabrics, colors, trims, etc. they could manage

let’s put it this way: don’t you generally wear the same articles of clothing celebrities wear? just from less expensive brands and sometimes- but not always, anymore -made in less luxurious fabrics? just because Kim Kardashian wears jeans by some big-name designer and your aunt wears jeans from Target doesn’t mean they aren’t both wearing jeans. 

and I think this is really important to remember and tell people about, re: history, because it acts as a reminder that the human drive for beauty and self-expression through body adornment isn’t limited to the upper classes. and never has been

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But consider this: make up as a punishment.

You dislike make up and are an asshole? Well, too bad! Enjoy your new make up look!

You like make up and are an asshole? No make up for you!

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INFJ

INFJs are defined by the functional stack:

Dominant: Introverted Intuition (Ni)

Auxiliary: Extraverted Feeling (Fe)

Tertiary: Introverted Thinking (Ti)

Inferior: Extraverted Sensing (Se)

The INFJ is an introvert (I) who seeks closure (J).

INFJ’s Jungian pair partner = INTJ

INFJ’s dominant function opposite = ISFJ

INFJ’s shadow opposite or functional opposite = ESTP

INFJ’s mirror opposite = ISTJ

INFJ’s complementary opposite = ENFP

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INTJ

INTJs are defined by the functional stack:

Dominant: Introverted Intuition (Ni)

Auxiliary: Extraverted Thinking (Te)

Tertiary: Introverted Feeling (Fi)

Inferior: Extraverted Sensing (Se)

The INTJ is an introvert (I) who seeks closure (J).

INTJ’s Jungian pair partner = INFJ

INTJ’s dominant function opposite = ISTJ

INTJ’s shadow opposite or functional opposite = ESFP

INTJ’s mirror opposite = ISFJ

INTJ’s complementary opposite = ENTP

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INFP

INFPs are defined by the functional stack:

Dominant: Introverted Feeling (Fi)

Auxiliary: Extraverted Intuition (Ne)

Tertiary: Introverted Sensing (Si)

Inferior: Extraverted Thinking (Te)

The INFP is an introvert (I) who likes to remain open (P).

INFP’s Jungian pair partner = ISFP

INFP’s dominant function opposite = INTP

INFP’s shadow opposite or functional opposite = ESTJ

INFP’s mirror opposite = ISTP

INFP’s complementary opposite = ENFJ

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INTP

INTPs are defined by the functional stack:

Dominant: Introverted Thinking (Ti)

Auxiliary: Extraverted Intuition (Ne)

Tertiary: Introverted Sensing (Si)

Inferior: Extraverted Feeling (Fe)

The INTP is an introvert (I) who likes to remain open (P).

INTP’s Jungian pair partner = ISTP

INTP’s dominant function opposite = INFP

INTP’s shadow opposite or functional opposite = ESFJ

INTP’s mirror opposite = ISFP

INTP’s complementary opposite = ENTJ

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