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Breaking Free: Facing Up To Digital Manipulation

Have you ever found yourself pondering why our attention spans are dwindling in this digital age? After reading Johann Hari’s ‘Stolen Focus: Why You Can’t Pay Attention,’ I wanted to bring in some heavy voices that illuminate Hari’s point about B.F. Skinner’s legacy in today’s digital mass manipulation, shaping our lives both online and offline. I aim to show how philosophers, anthropologists,…

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Art, Orgasm and Quieting the Mind: Conscious Habit Destruction

Salvador Dali1, Abelard and Heloise2 Consider the impact of art, I believe if an artwork interrupts your habitual thinking, it’s a valuable gift. Regardless of your personal taste – whether the art appeals to you or not, or even if it repulses you – its disruption offers liberation from automatic thinking. It opens doors to perspectives beyond our routine thoughts and perceptions. This can lead…

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Challenging Relationship Myths: A Sex Reality Check Of Peterson

Jordan Peterson pushes ‘relationship mythology’ when we should be challenging relationship myths, the outdated views on love that clash with many of our real-life experiences. If these old-school ideas were so perfect, why is there so much disillusionment in the relationships that embrace those beliefs? Peterson’s countless videos on social networks often skip over the actual, tough stuff we deal…

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Renouncing the limits of love | Todd Vickers on Vivriti.org

Renouncing the limits of love | Todd Vickers on Vivriti.org

“Who do you know who does not place a boundary around his love? We are afraid others will use us and that our desire for love makes us foolish. In deference to this fear, we try to be smart and use others in the name of love for our own ends. We become what we fear and keep things hidden from our mates, especially the secrets that…”  Read more at Vivriti.org

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Leaving dead relationships

Some people hold love hostage. Hiding behind a mask, they threaten to kill love if another doesn’t submit to spoken or unspoken demands. Sometimes a piece of love is cut off, a warning, just to prove that they are serious. Only the mind perpetrates such terrorism, mind with its boundless expectations. Such people will never set love free. Any love that once was alive will probably be killed.…

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Slut shaming on social networks

Slut shaming on social networks

By Todd Vickers |

Since the January 21st Woman’s March, I’ve seen a lot of slut shaming on social networks.

Memes with scantily clad celebrities who might hold views on non sexual issues like the scientific consensus on climate change or the US accepting of political refugees. They may also state opinions on the right to comprehensive sex education, birth control, and legal abortion. Such women…

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Alexander Skarsgård and Tessa Thompson in War on Everyone (2016)

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Lovers in friendship vs. being a player

#Lovers in friendship vs. being a #player. Get off the game board.

By Todd Vickers |

I use the phrase ‘friendly sex’ because the term ‘casual sex‘ is cliché, and leads to confusion. I suggest consenting pleasure is better when we include higher qualities in the affection. These qualities are not a function of time, they can happen quickly, slowly, or not at all. More on this later. Such love exists outside of what many of us know from past experiences and lack…

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My ever changing sexuality

My ever changing sexuality

As a teen I grew my sexual legs in a free love community of spiritual seekers, my views are quite non-traditional. I know the world is far bigger than many people imagine it and that we need not be drugged to break out and experience it. That big world requires intelligence and extreme truthfulness to be harmless. Some risk we can’t avoid, like handling food, if we’re not careless, we can enjoy…

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Beautiful

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An allegory applied to relationships Imagination is risky when we fill in the unknown. Below is an ancient allegory that exposes the mistake of thinking we know when we don't.

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There are huge blind spots in abundance spirituality. In this short video I go into the reasons for doubt.  

#abundance #secret #law of reciprocity #spiritual shill game #giving to get

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Christians cut off a young girls clit in USA

Christians cut off a young girls clit in USA #fgm #masturbation

The reason to scrutinize religion is because religion can be terribly harmful. The example and it is not unique. The irrational fear that some religion instills around sex harms countless people.

“A Christian doctor removed my clitoris when I was three years old as a ‘cure’ for masturbation, writes Renee Bergstrom”… Read more at The Guardian

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Bias in love

By Todd Vickers |

If we’ve felt great pain in past relationships, we probably have some strong beliefs based on those impressions. How can we go beyond our past conclusions in new circumstances? If we believe ‘this’ about women and ‘that’ about men, the real events around us we see through those beliefs like a colored lens.

If we don’t understand ‘my side bias,’we won’t know when we create our…