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Why are there never enough hours for sleep, but always enough for overthinking?

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2024 is about letting people care about and for you. it’s about answering ‘how are you’ with honesty, asking for space when needed, accepting help and being open to advice, listening to concerns and having difficult conversations. it’s about trying your very best to let go of the feeling that you’re completely alone, and finding ways to prove to yourself that you aren’t.

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When I was younger, I was in love with the idea of moving out to a lone island and never speaking to anyone again. I wasn’t good at talking, physically, nor did conversations come easy to me, so I kept quiet and I was totally fine with that. But while the people closest to me rolled their eyes at my wishes (again, lone island), nobody told me how talking to people was fun. Nobody told me how nice of a feeling it was to feel a new friendship blossom, to have inside jokes with people, to hand out compliments and get them back, to ask questions to people who are excited about having the answers, to remember something that someone mentioned last time and make them feel heard, to flatter people, to share slightly embarrassing facts and be able to laugh about them, to have people to say hi and bye to. It took me years and years and years to gather the courage to speak, but it was so worth it. It’s so much fun.

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dream home. 🩵✨

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dream home. 🩵✨

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It's a different kind of bliss when no one knows you in your surroundings, and you can just be yourself. :))

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Depression comes in different forms. It isn't always supposed to be dark and gloomy like in the movies. It can be very well hidden under those beautiful, happy laughters.

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Even the most exhausting day could also be one of the most beautiful days in your life. 😊

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Grieving is ok. You don't have to be happy all the time, not even when it's a special occasion. You're allowed to be upset and feel bad and you can't just stop being sad. Tomorrow will be better, take good care of yourself and try to do something comforting. It will be ok.

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It's my 3 year anniversary on Tumblr 🥳

Gotta be more active here as twitter, sorry X can get pretty overwhelming at times lol..

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Don't allow anyone to make you feel stupid because you are trying to improve. There is nothing wrong with trying to read a book about self help. Trying a new bedtime routine. Learning how to build new habits is great. Learning how to do your makeup better. It's easy to feel stupid the first time you try to speak positively to yourself or doing some self care for the first time in forever, but actually, those things are a huge win. That's how change happens. You are on the right track. This is awesome, KEEP GOING.

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I know it's such a clichee to say but you deserve to receive the love you keep trying to give everyone else. You deserve effort and unconditional love and intentionality. You don't have to say yes to the bare minimum. There are amazing people out there, you just don't believe in that anymore bc of how much you've been hurt.

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You deserve a warm life, a cozy life, a life free of pain and full of people who genuinely care. A world where, when you experience pain, people are still there for you. You will find a soft future. It will be a slow process, full of missteps and fumbling, but someday you will look around and realize that you were right to keep on going.

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I hope you find the type of love in life that makes you feel at ease. I hope birdsong will sound like music to you again. I hope your home is warm during the winter and cool in the summer. I hope people smile at you enough. I hope you wake up curious for what's to come. I hope you listen to your body's aches as signals instead of mere hindrances. I hope that when you reach out, there's a hand to grasp onto. I hope that when you laugh, bursts of happiness accompany the sound. I hope you live a life where today is just as exciting as tomorrow. I hope you don't feel guilt over moving on from the things that were your fault. I hope you rest well. I hope you eat enough. I hope you hold your hopes tightly. I hope you allow them to transform into dreams. I hope your dreams come true.

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taking care of yourself sometimes means steering your thoughts away from worries. when you start feeling anxious about something you can't avoid, it's important to catch yourself and switch your thinking to something else. people always talk about confronting fears head-on, but sometimes it's as simple as saying, "Just go for it and stop overthinking - even if not overthinking means not letting yourself think about it until you have to."

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if you don’t know how to gain trust in yourself: extract it from how far you’ve already come, the things you thought would hold you back but didn’t, the times you survived, the forgiveness you’ve granted others, the effort you have put in.