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[trans-androgyne]

Yeah, no. Do not use my post for this shit. I’m sorry I wasn’t clear enough the first time, this blog doesn’t think it’s acceptable to hate and mistreat people for any immutable characteristic, period. Yeah, I’m uncomfortable around cis men sometimes and have been hurt by them—that’s something to work through, not become a radfem about.

Calling for the death of all men includes men who you or other people who say it may have privilege over, like abled White women calling for the death of disabled Black men. Yes, this holds for hating all cis people. Yes, this holds for hating all white people. I’m guilty of saying all of this too. But it’s something I’m working through, and other people should as well. We will never have a world where men and White people don’t exist; we should instead craft a world where they no longer have power over us.

To any trans man who needs to hear this: When they say they “hate all men” or want to “kill all men,” you don’t have to just accept that. It’s okay to feel hurt, it’s okay to feel unsafe. It’s okay to recognize that they are either othering your manhood or demonizing you for it, and to call them out for it if you’re in a position to. If they have trauma around men, they can work on that in private instead of expressing harmful sentiments around their marginalized male friends. You deserve love and safety. I love you and I hope I can help you feel safe.

[trans-androgyne]

thank you for the work you do. it makes me feel less alone.

I don’t think you realize how much this means to me :( Being transmasc has made it easy to feel so invisible and deeply, deeply alone, especially before finding transandrophobia conversations. Even when I started using the term, I could see that certain trans people hated my guts for it. It was isolating and I felt like a Bad Transmasc. All I needed was to be seen and understood, I just wanted someone to hear me for once. As a result, it’s become my greatest passion to provide that environment for trans men and mascs. I want to give them a space they can feel comfortable, be taken seriously, and feel a sense of community. Thanks to people like you and those in my irl spaces, I feel like I’m finally doing it!

[trans-androgyne]

its not set up yet so no username to share for now but honestly, all the fantastic work u and other transandrophobia fighters have been doing has encouraged me to make a blog like urs and others!!

thanks for being so empowering and cool :3

-cupid anon

Thank you :D Congrats on your blog, please lmk when it’s up & running!

[trans-androgyne]

Every time I see the TME discourses I think about the time someone (SARCASTICALLY) suggested that we start using TAA and TAE to point out it does in fact go both ways. Obviously not, it's more individual than that but I think it's important for everyone to acknowledge where they don't experience a specific oppression. Not as a privilege thing!!! but as a knowing where we stand. (Examples: public & intense violence; pregnancy as a means of detransition) I hope this makes sense?

I get that, my problem with the TME/TMA binary has never been identifying which groups are the most affected by specific forms of oppression. My problem is the idea that anyone is “exempt” from any oppressive system. I don’t mind the term TMA itself, though I wish it was more like “transmisogyny targeted” considering many people are in fact affected by transmisogyny just like any other system. For example I would in fact be willing to use something like TAA/TAT to describe the groups most affected by transandrophobia (including transmascs, intersex folks perceived as transmasc, & masc lesbians) but I wouldn’t even use TAE as a joke personally.

[trans-androgyne]

As a trans man who was 'raised' in his early transition by a bunch of tirf-y trans women (to the point where their attitudes towards trans men contributed to me going off T), I'm really glad that people are having discussions about this shit. Because they weren't in 2012 and I don't want other trans mascs to go through that.

I’m so sorry to hear that, it’s really easy to internalize anti-transmasc sentiments considering how pervasive and unchallenged they are. I’ve been getting many kind messages from transmascs in my inbox thanking me for my advocacy work, so I think these conversations are very much having an impact!

[trans-androgyne]

The thing that sucks the most about this whole wave of anti-transmasculinity is that, well, obviously how it hurts and isolates trans men (which hurts me a lot despite not being a trans man because I still resonate with them... to the point where I used to identify as one before finding out I'm nonbinary in a way beyond the man woman binary), but the second thing that hurts the most to me personally has to do with how cyclical this all is. Anti-transmasculinity in queer spaces has never been a new thing but this wave of it is so similar to the previous exclusionary waves targeted towards asexuals and bisexuals which...

I'm both, and it's a special kind of hurt to know for certain that people only stopped hurting you because they got BORED and found a new target. People never stopped hating asexuals and bisexuals, not really, it just became unfasionable to do so openly, and they only make that more and more clear the more times they regurgitate exclusionist talking points, but towards different members of the community this time.

So yeah, I completly stand by staying angry after all of this blows over unless real fucking change in this community happens. I certainly still am. I'll always support you guys.

Thank you </3 Yeah, it’s the same pattern we’ve seen for years just with another easy target. Accusing queer groups of being too privileged to take seriously or treat well has never caused anything but problems. I hope we identify a way to disrupt this pattern more permanently. I think putting a specific name to the phenomenon would help, if anyone knows of or thinks of one please let me know.

[trans-androgyne]

I used to be in the transandrophobia Discord server, and I want to thank you for creating such a positive and accepting culture surrounding transmasculinity, both in the server and here on Tumblr. You're awesome :)

Aw thank you :D Thanks for checking us out & I appreciate you :)

[trans-androgyne]

the idea that restrooms, locker rooms, etc need to be single-sex spaces in order for women to be safe is patriarchy's way of signalling to men & boys that society doesn't expect them to behave themselves around women. it is directly antifeminist. it would be antifeminist even if trans people did not exist. a feminist society would demand that women should be safe in all spaces even when there are men there.

[trans-androgyne]

People have been mocking me for advocating for trans men with “boohoo won’t someone please think of the men” sentiments. Make fun all you want, I will never, ever stop caring about trans men. Go for an insecurity next time, not what I’m proudest of. Trans men, I love you forever and you deserve better. Go ahead and call me a TMRA, since in the literal sense I sure am one

[trans-androgyne]

Just watched a cis woman argue for banning trans men from birthing wards because, and I quote, "some women have been SAed"

[trans-androgyne]

Happy lesbian visibility week to all the lesser-visible lesbians, I'm talking about the mspec lesbians, the abro lesbians, the lesboys, the ftm lesbians, the gaybians, and any other lesbian who's validity is constantly questioned, you are all so strong and so powerful, keep on keepin' on, I love you!

[trans-androgyne]

Here's a reminder that even if someone uses transfem, transmasc, trans woman, or trans man labels that assuming gendered language for them based on that is still transphobic. Not all trans people are going to be okay with binary language referred to them for a variety of reasons (being nonbinary, intersex, genderfluid, multigendered, on the agender spectrum, trauma, personal discomfort, rejection of those terms, to name a few possible reasons), so ask first if it is safe to do so. People can be a transmasc nonbinary, an intersex trans man, a transfem with trauma, or a butch trans woman who does not want to be called feminine terms. Come on now.

[trans-androgyne]

If you jump to call a trans man a ‘bitch’ whenever they disagree with you then I’m just going to assume you’re a transphobe and a raging misogynist.

[trans-androgyne]

Isn't it interesting how queer people love to make fun of trans men and mascs for being 'sad tboy stereotypes', but no one wants to consider for 2 seconds why trans men and mascs feel alienated and unwelcome in our own communities?

Similarly, queer people will dismiss trans men's contributions to queer history and culture and deride us for not being involved enough in the community without ever considering why we leave in the first place

[trans-androgyne]

Not Benjanun Sriduangkaew

Important anyhow, this person follows Benjanun

[trans-androgyne]

If you don’t feel like taking my word for it, go find radfems’ thoughts on men yourself. Or, check out some of the awesome posts I found on here in just a couple minutes:

“Me hating men isn’t radfem behavior! TERFs don’t even actually hate men, they just hate trans women.” Radfems would beg to fucking differ!! They most certainly hate men, and they will tell you so with pride. Have you ever actually heard from a radfem? They think all men are inherently predatory and dangerous and should be kept as far away from women as humanly possible if not outright be killed. Yes, they hate trans women the most—because they conceptualize them as men mocking and harming “real” women. That doesn’t mean they aren’t also misogynistic towards trans women; they are. That also doesn’t mean they don’t team up with cis men against trans people sometimes; they do. But if you look into it literally at all you will immediately see that radical feminist ideology hinges on blaming not just the structure of patriarchy but individual men for the oppression of women. If coming to terms with that makes you uncomfortable, sit with that for a while and figure out just how comfortable you are with bio- and gender-essentialism.

[trans-androgyne]

“Me hating men isn’t radfem behavior! TERFs don’t even actually hate men, they just hate trans women.” Radfems would beg to fucking differ!! They most certainly hate men, and they will tell you so with pride. Have you ever actually heard from a radfem? They think all men are inherently predatory and dangerous and should be kept as far away from women as humanly possible if not outright be killed. Yes, they hate trans women the most—because they conceptualize them as men mocking and harming “real” women. That doesn’t mean they aren’t also misogynistic towards trans women; they are. That also doesn’t mean they don’t team up with cis men against trans people sometimes; they do. But if you look into it literally at all you will immediately see that radical feminist ideology hinges on blaming not just the structure of patriarchy but individual men for the oppression of women. If coming to terms with that makes you uncomfortable, sit with that for a while and figure out just how comfortable you are with bio- and gender-essentialism.