#intracommunity issues tag

[trans-androgyne]

No trans women aren’t gender oppressors. No they don’t have male privilege. Yes transmisogyny is real. Yes no one is immune from perpetuating it. Can we get to the stuff I was actually saying now

[antifathomable-shapeshifter]

gender is truly the least helpful axis of oppression to center tbh. the only reason we have to focus on it, instead of using to highlight specifics that occur within other intersections, is because 2nd wave/radfem white women want(ed) to be the specialist Most Oppressed Group Ever. and now, decades past that, we still have to deal with dipshits who claim to be progressive and yet refuse to accept that Being A Man doesn't save you from Dealing With Systems of Oppression (including the patriarchy!)

[koushirouizumi]

Someones description after they "Like" one of my NO R.B.s posts: "Stop vetting all your 'Likes' ffs!1!" ME: "No, sorry, you're violating boundaries I set hard since a LONG time ago where I said I'd block people who try to complain about people like me doing this, and I'm still blocking you until you interact with something that doesn't make me have to see that kind of description or vagueing!"

[transmascpetewentz]

Intro + Basic Stuff

It has been 5 days since a transandrophobe has been horrifyingly disrespectful of a gay trans man who died of AIDS on one of my posts or in my inbox.

It has been 3 days since a cis gay man has whined about his genital preference in my notes and/or inbox when I didn't ask.

If you're here because someone accused me of being a TERF, please know that I am not. Read this for more details.

I can't think of a name to use on this blog so just refer to me either by my URL or a silly nickname. My BYF as well as a few blinkies are under the cut.

my pronouns are he/him, but any are fine if you're clearly using them to show that you respect me. they/them is generally okay as long as you aren't using them to dehumanize me.

i prefer gendered terms (boy, girl, enby) over neutral terms, but i will block you if you use "girl" in a misgendering sense. malewife and similar terms are fine. also, this is highly unlikely to come up, but please don't call me "queen."

i'm USAmerican, and when i'm talking about issues, i'm likely talking about USAmerica unless i indicate otherwise.

i'm currently having brainrot about: fall out boy, american idiot, red white and royal blue, fallout new vegas, and velvet goldmine (the 1998 film).

i also post untagged discourse on this blog, specifically talking about transmasc issues, trans liberation, queer liberation, and how to be normal about transmascs if you aren't one.

i'm also looking into converting to judaism, and as such i might post about conversion and judaism in general. filter #judaism if you don't want to see it.

i'm part of a system, so it might not always be the same person answering asks. i probably won't post about it mostly because i want to stay out of syscourse.

all original posts are #wentz.txt, asks are #asks. if i ever have photos of myself on here, they'll be #wentz.jpg.

this blog runs on a queue, so just because i post doesn't mean i've been online recently.

this is my alternate account. i have a main blog that i'm ignoring due to harassment. if you have me blocked on my main and try to follow me here, i'm blocking you for your own sake.

cis women are welcome to follow but don't touch any of my posts making fun of cis gay men or i will bite you.

blog rules:

no, i'm never sharing my age on here.

tag filtering: flashing, eyestrain, loud, violence cw, sexual assault cw, pedophilia cw, self harm cw, suicide cw, not worksafe, long post, anon hate, arguing with bigots, fascism cw.

please do not ask me about whether i am pro or anti ship, whether i support endogenic systems, or my views on intracommunity issues i'm not part of.

i'm autistic and as such might not understand if i'm making you uncomfortable. please either block me or DM me and tell me to stop doing something.

i won't reblog your callout post, reblog bait, guilt tripping, or donation post. an exception might be made for your donation post if we're mutuals.

if i don't block you, then i don't mind you following me. i don't softblock. please don't softblock me either, just block or else i'll refollow.

if i have reblogs enabled on a post, i'm fine with anyone reblogging it. if i have replies enabled, i'm fine with anyone replying.

if you're going to send anon hate, it has to be interesting, original, funny, and/or creative.

also, if you're going to send anon hate, please refrain from calling me slurs, sending me death threats, sexually harassing me, or misgendering me. also, please censor the name sh***a, or don't use the name at all in your ask.

i don't really have a dni, but i will block you if: you fetishize gay men or trans men, you support capitalism and/or cops, you glorify the actions of the ussr, you deny that transandrophobia exists, you think that feminine cis men are more oppressed than feminine trans men.

actually, i have to add a dni now: please dni if you falsely accuse gay men who died of aids of sexual assault. yes, someone like this tried to interact with me.

That should be it for now!

[celluloidbroomcloset]

(tw for rape/rape mentions!)

just witnessed the most actually deranged post i've ever seen in my life:

"I feel like if Izzy had made Stede stab him for his own (sexual?) gratification, at gunpoint, we'd be seeing posts calling him a rapist, is all I'm saying"

?????? this shit is getting ridiculous 😭 i've never seen fandom infighting going so far and get so dramatic i feel like everyone really, really needs to take a couple steps back here. as an actual rape and abuse survivor myself seeing people using it as a pawn in their stupid game about fictional characters is so fucking maddening. the roundabout way they're not directly saying people could consider this act ed performed sexual assault is actually sickening (like this concept is a weapon they're CHOOSING not to wield, not a serious thing that they shouldn't just be flinging around like it means nothing) and using it as a way to further how izzy is the real Good Guy with no thought to how the things they're saying affect real world victims is insane, beyond tone deaf and compassion void. goes double for all the abuse apologism people happily fling about obviously as well as if abuse survivors just aren't in fandom and can see the shit they go around saying.

this is the most abnormal fandom environment i've ever witnessed in my life and i've been in some BAD ones. the victimising complexes of certain izzy fans are bizarre...

this isn't like a plea for everyone to just Get Along because i do think people should be aware of certain sociopolitical and intracommunity issues like this and willing to call out and expel abhorrent behaviour including abuse apologism, racism, homophobia/transphobia and transmisogyny, and of course harassment, but it's really on another level... i really wish everyone would just really utilise the block button or even just old fashioned DNI's and address things as they come up and communicate if necessary without waiting around like a spider in a web to jump down people's throats/start conversations that will just end in argument 😭 i understand that it's warranted and people on "both sides" are acting in similar ways but it's starting to feel less like occasional normal amounts of discourse and more like a really uncomfortable environment and it can't be healthy for anyone involved. sorry i kind of went on a tangent there lol all of that is generalising and directed at this fandom as a whole fwiw.

....that's....WHAT?! I mean, yeah, if Izzy did that, it would be not great, because of who the characters are, but that is one fucking weird hypothetical.

I am still new here, but coming in from the outside and wading into the tags was and continues to be fucking weird. Because 9/10s of the posts are fine, and then there's this strange, distressing faction that is very small but so vocal as to make it hard on everyone else. I've seen a lot of posts that are just explicitly dismissive of emotional and psychological abuse, or are attempting to justify those things as Not Really Abuse. Yes, this is a fictional show; no, it is not perfect in its representation, and there's stuff that I wish they had done differently or better. But there are also real-world things in there, and one of the things that I've liked about it is how it upends a lot of the problematic tropes and expectations of the genre.

I've said before that I'm troubled by anyone who looked at Izzy in Season 1 and went "that's my guy, he's never done anything wrong" and MEANT IT and continue to mean it.

Most of the folks I've interacted with have been lovely. There's this small group who just...are not, but who very badly want everyone else to conform to their particular brand of not-okayness. It's fucking dangerous.

I strongly recommend blocking immediately. The more you block, the better tailored your experience will be to you and the less you have to deal with the assholes.

[trans-axolotl]

i am so sorry if this is the most ignorant shit you’ve ever heard—that long post about how the trans community isn’t inherently safe for intersex ppl—can you outline the harmful, like, ideas? phrases? intersexist talking points that you’re referencing? again i’m rly sorry, for some reason your intersex questions tag won’t show up for me but if you’re willing i’d love to maybe know what phrases or words i should look for to call ppl out on. obviously feel free to tell me to eat shit. i appreciate ur time thank you v much

you're totally fine anon, I'm usually open to most questions when I can tell that people have good intentions :)

So I'm gonna list out a lot of shit but I do want to clarify that it's not only trans people who do this stuff; cis people are horribly intersexist as well. I'm just going to be talking about some specific intersexist things I see more often in trans spaces and also because my audience online is a lot of trans people.

A huge thing is I see a lot of trans people saying that they "want to be intersex" or "wish they had an intersex body." This is an issue for a lot of reasons, because it feels fetishistic, is ignorant of what intersex actually is, ignores the fact that being intersex means you're going to face a lot of oppression, and generally contributes to stereotypes that intersex is like some mythical third sex where you perfectly have a mix of all your characteristics in a gender-affirming way.

Faking being intersex. I haven't seen this shit as much online in a while but this honestly was a kind of big issue in some of my online circles like 5 years back and I still see it popping up every now and then. I don't think I need to explain why this is bad.

Literally just using slurs. I see wayyy more dyadic trans people than I should saying "hermaphrodite" when that is not a slur that dyadic trans people can ever reclaim.

Saying stuff about "AFAB bodies" or "AMAB bodies" or generally talking about sex assigned at birth and assuming that means people have certain body parts or experiences. Not all people who were AFAB have a uterus, not all people who were AMAB have a penis. Generally, I see a lot of trans people making generalizations about the "transmasc or transfem experience" in a way that doesn't leave room for intersex trans people who have different experiences with transition or different ways of understanding their trans identity. Acting like AGAB tells you anything more than what is assigned at birth is a problem, because it excludes intersex people who have different bodies, sex characteristics, lived experiences, all that.

Saying really harmful shit about our bodies, whether that's about body hair or genitalia or our voices, or anything. I've had a lot of dyadic trans people say weird shit to me that I think they think is complimenting me but is just really fucked up. People make weird offensive comments about my body hair and will just say a lot of invasive stuff about my body that is not their business. Asking invasive questions about my genitalia, demanding to know what's in my pants, that sort of stuff.

Specifically harassing a lot of intersex people of color and saying racist shit to them when they speak about intersex topics. This is something I've seen a lot irl and also on tumblr, and people specifically have targeted intersex poc on here and said really racist shit to them if they call people out for saying intersexist stuff.

Getting involved in intracommunity discussions about whether or not intersex is LGBTQ and ignoring intersex people when we speak on it. Our relationship to the LGBTQ community is intersex people's business and we all have a lot of different thoughts on it, and too many trans people speak over us on that.

On the flip side, always leaving us out of conversations where we are relevant (like reproductive rights, lgbtq bills, some types of discrimination, medical abuse, stuff like that)

Only bringing up intersex people when they're arguing with transphobes. Way too often i only see people bringing up intersex issues when its like "Take that transphobes! People with XXY chromosomes exist so you're wrong!" And it's like yeah, that's true, but it's shitty when y'all only bring us up when we're a convenient talking point and then don't know shit about what our activism is, what issues are important to us. It feels exploitative to only use our issues when convenient for you and then not pay attention to us the rest of the time.

Currently a lot of people are ignoring the way transphobic bills are also intersexist. People don't realize that all the things they're saying about "It's so easy for cis kids to get hormones, why is it so easy for cis kids but it's hard for trans kids!!!" is ignoring the fact that most of the cis kids who are "easily" getting hormones are intersex kids who are put on hormones in a way that is often coercive and is trying to "cure" being intersex. All these transphobic bills have specific exceptions to enable intersex medical abuse and it isn't cis people being lucky, it's intersex people being abused.

In general, trans community will ignore intersex exploitation when it's convenient. This one I'm less mad about because I don't think that even a lot of intersex people know this, but the history of how gender-affirming surgery and transgender clinics have been created in the US is really not great. Like obviously gender-affirming surgery is great and I want gender clinics to exist and trans healthcare to be easily accessible, but a lot of transgender healthcare was borne out of intersex medical exploitation. Look up John Money and the John Hopkins Gender Identity Clinic for a particularly bad example. This isn't trans people's fault at all, of course, but what is an issue is when I see trans people unquestionably celebrating doctors who invented trans surgeries, or celebrating the birth of gender clinics without critically understanding the horrible history some of these places have.

Acting like being intersex makes it easier to be trans, or would make it easier to get hormones or be respected by cis people. Most of the trans and intersex people I know have gone through so much shit. I went through hormonal conversion therapy because i was trans and intersex, which was literally so fucked. Because I was both trans and intersex, they did a lot of fucked up medical abuse to try to turn me cis and dyadic, and it did not make medical transition at all easier, it made it harder. That's why it can hurt so much when trans people say that being intersex makes being trans easier, because it fucking doesn't.

Also, I've seen a lot of dyadic trans people lately acting really hostile towards intersex organizations that are advocating for an end to intersex surgery because they think it's going to limit access to trans surgery. Dyadic trans people do not get to fucking say that we should stop advocating for ending intersex genital mutilation because it's "not the right time politically." It's always fucking necessary to be advocating to end IGM, and if there was a specific issue with a specific policy that intersex orgs were advocating for that would make it difficult for trans people to get surgery, that would be important to bring up, but most people I've seen saying that stuff are just saying that we shouldn't talk about it at all.

Not educating themselves on intersex issues. Most trans people I know have no clue what intersex is, what our major activist issues are, what the major intersex org for their country is, what the legal landscape of intersex rights is in their country, stuff like that. I'm not saying that trans people all have to be experts on specific intersex intracommunity debates, intersex history, intersex politics, but I do think that dyadic trans people do need to do the bare minimum of education.

Honestly? This is a little more personal but I know so many intersex people who have had bad experiences in their relationships. A lot of dyadic trans people can get weirdly jealous of their intersex partners, which is fucked up when you consider the fact that the things they are jealous of are things that cause us systematic exploitation and abuse. I know a lot of dyadic trans people who also just...trying to think of how to put this. Who are really not considerate partners during sex for some unique needs that intersex people have during sex. Again not a issue unique to trans people but something that I know happens in like most intersex people's relationships so it's good for trans people to be aware.

In general, the way a lot of trans people talk about and think about biological sex is counterproductive to intersex justice. Biological sex is a social construct. Sex isn't real, in terms of there's no reason sex is tied to gender, and also no reason that we've decided some body parts are now all linked together in a specific way that for some reason is going to be sorted into two categories. Chromosomes and genitalia are not some special body part that is entirely different than like, your kidney or your stomach. Biological sex is not real and the sex binary is not real and I see a lot of people talking about stuff like "male" or "female" is a real category that means anything. There is so much diversity and variation of sex even within dyadic people, and I see a lot of trans people clinging to biological sex in a way that is really apparent and also pretty harmful.

This got kind of long but these are some things that really bother me. I also left out most of the overt stuff like actual hate crimes and assault because I think that most people can recognize that as intersexist when that's happening. Again, I don't want to make it seem like it's only trans people doing this shit, but this is the stuff that I am seeing a lot specifically in trans community and some stuff that has some unique dynamics from trans people. And I think that trans people a lot of times will say things about "how close our two communities are" and "how much our issues overlap" when in reality they don't, and most dyadic trans people aren't putting in the work to build solidarity with trans intersex people. Cis intersex people also aren't putting in the work to build solidarity with trans people either, to be fair, and I'm really mad at them too, but I'm talking about this from the perspective of a trans intersex person who's already existing here in these spaces. other trans and intersex people feel free to add on.

okay to reblog.

[autoandro-meda]

there is discussing and reflecting on the issues a you face as a transgender man, especially reflecting on how people treat transgender men and may even belittle or treat them differently depending on how feminine or masculine; and then there is shifting all of the blame for what transgender men face onto trans women in a cowardly, trans misogynistic way.

In light of recent tumblr events, I feel like this blog does need a disclaimer: if you are coming into this tag or this blog do NOT come in here ranting and raving about how much you distrust trans women and how you think "trans/andr/ophobia" is real. Yes I include parts in my fics which may allude to common microaggressions trans men face, i do that only because i have experienced these things but you must understand this does not just happen to us and is ABSOLUTELY NOT a intracommunity blood battle of the evil trans women against innocent trans men.

at the end of the day, this is my kink blog and it wil probably from this point on just be my kink blog, but i want this kink blog and these kinky pieces to resonate with trans men who do feel stuck in the closet, or like they have to compromise their gender to be accepted, but NEVER will i allow it to be at the expense, discredit, and mockery of trans women. If you have other opinions you can see your way out, now. While life and the social media sphere is wrought with misunderstanding, cruelty, and more, there is not some grand uprising of trans masc oppression going on via trans women. Ok?

[magnetothemagnificent]

Okay, so I've gotten a ton of new followers lately, and I think I should reintroduce myself.

Hi, I'm Eitan Meshullam Chai, but you can call me Eitan.

I'm a Jewish trans man and my pronouns are he/him/his.

I post a lot about what interests me at the moment on this blog, be it Judaism, fandom, activism, history, dentistry, or really anything.

Recently a lot of my blog has shifted more towards talking about Judaism and antisemitism, and I welcome respectful questions because I believe education is key in fighting the less-obvious aspects of antisemitism. Please don't be afraid to ask questions, I'd rather you ask questions than come to wrong conclusions. But please be respectful, and if it's a question about a specific post of mine, please first check the notes to see if I already answered it, because it's very likely I already did.

Here is a post I made with a bunch of resources for learning more about Judaism, as well.

Some other big informative posts:

The Six Sexes in Judaism

About hostility towards tweens

Fake News Checklist

About supercessionist ideology among antitheists

Debunking misinformation about circumcision

Common Jewish stereotypes

I tag things both for myself and others, so here are a few of my tag categories:

#fandom negative : For when I criticize certain aspects of fandom culture. It could be a specific fandom, or fandom in general.

#judaism : pretty self explanatory. For when I post about Judaism.

#my art : also pretty self explanatory. For when I post my art.

#goodomens : I find that the Good Omens fandom is pretty toxic, so I don't tag my posts or fanworks about Good Omens with the popular 'Good Omens' tag for that reason. I still need a way to sort my post though, so that's why the tag has no space in between the words.

#marvel : posts about anything having to do with Marvel.

#if jew know jew know : a tag for posts that are targetted specifically at my Jewish followers, or contain references or jokes only Jews will probably understand, or discuss intracommunity issues for Jews only to discuss. Basically, if you see a post with this tag, I'm not excluding gentiles, but it's a post that gentiles might not understand and that's okay.

#dentistry : If you don't know, dentistry is my passion, and I'm on my long journey to eventually becoming a dentist.

#trans : self explanatory. I'm trans, I post a lot about being trans.

#disability : I'm disabled, sometimes I post about it or about issues related to disability rights.

#history : For posts about history. Posts about Jewish history are also tagged as 'Jewish history' in addition.

I have a lot of tags, but these are just a few of my most popular ones.

Anyway, thanks for visiting my blog, I hope you enjoy your stay.

If you'd like to leave a tip, I have a Kofi. If you'd like to get access to unposted art, I have a patreon.

Help me pay for top surgery!

[goldyke]

Under construction

DNI:

-transmisogynists, transphobes, transmeds, transandrophobia truthers, homophobes, biphobes, lesbophobes

-people who aren’t actively anti-racist, anti-cop, and committed to equity.

-antisemites, messianic ‘jews,’ zionists, antitheists, islamophobes, people whose blogs are specifically about christianity

-proshippers, fans of HP and AOT, adults who are weird about kids media

Please do not follow me as a minor unless you blacklist the tag ‘minors DNI’. Please do not dm me if you are a minor. Asks are fine

I tag for the q slur. Not judging anyone for using it as I use it myself. I don’t tag for dyke because anyone uncomfortable with that will not be following me (seeing as its literally in my url)

Generally speaking if I speak about an intracommunity issue related to a specific minority community, you can assume I am or have been a member of that community and am qualified to discuss it. You can feel free to double check if you’re wary.

I’ll put common tags up here once they exist.

[irawhiti]

it's only been a few hours but i'm already getting tags and perspectives on my ngāti rangiātea post that are wonderful to read honestly. like i said, if you were previously displaced but have now found your iwi after a lot of searching, you're still welcome to speak on your experience and to identify as ngāti rangiātea as a political label. knowing your iwi now doesn't undo all the harm, hostility, and ignorance that not knowing your iwi causes. it's a bandaid, not a cure, and insight from people who have experienced displacement as well as connection to their iwi is really important. i think that a label for experiencing displacement that can be used with pride instead of a lack of a label shrouded in whakamā is extremely important to heal as individuals and as a community. the sooner we can all openly and confidently speak on our whakamā, our personal experiences with feeling displaced, and the othering we collectively face from the small but unfortunately quite vocal group of people who believe being born into the knowledge of their iwi makes them more "valid", the faster we can all heal our mauri and represent our mana without whakamā.

and you know, i include the māori that take their insecurities out on displaced peoples in that healing, by the way. despite the aggression and hostility i've faced from these people and despite the EXTREME frustration i feel towards these people, i ultimately wish them healing from a mindset that is fundamentally created and upheld by colonisation. coining a term for displaced people to heal and congregate around is the first and primary goal in mind, of course, but i hope that giving a name to being displaced and speaking openly and without shame about our experiences will bring this topic to the forefront and will allow more people to recognise that they're putting their own misplaced aggression and insecurities onto the backs of other māori, instead of thinking inwardly about how they feel and act towards their own people.

of course, not everyone will listen and nor will they care, such is the reality of intracommunity politics, but hey. like i said, the primary goal is to give community and a name to displaced māori. if talking objectively about the unique issues we face from our own people makes some of them mad, so be it. i only hope that they can reckon with that anger and realise where it's coming from one day.

[pespillo]

i know i just reblogged a tumblr field guide and all but i need to tell you things that ive learned in my 11 years here:

popularity does exist in tumblr but its not guided by how many followers you have it is based on the amount of asks you probably get and the metric of it is that youll get some insane asks in here if you Just Wait, from invasive questions to people asking you what do you think of the death penalty in america when you have a blog about My Hero Academia , to bait questions or copypastas that been passed for half a decade about an user called Amegaotaku that youll have to research to even understand what the hell it means . "Popular" people of tumblr can remake their blogs constantly but what matters is that you have people who Wont Shut Up and engage conversation with you, especially through asks, when people want your attention, theyll probably send you an ask.

this doesnt happen as often as it did in the mid 2010s but embarassing yourselves in public is incredibly easy in this site if you Throw Yourself to the wolves, as in , you impulsively add onto a conversation with an addition thats often done emotionally, carelessly, or literally misinterpreting the intent of a post itself because you took it personally. this literally never goes well especially if you engaged with a post from an user who has Very reactive followers, because while i doubt youll get threats or such, youll still probably get hounded in the replies and this site´s social rules are extremely lax with the words you are allowed to say. While a whole "we need to be kind to eachother" approach IS the reasonable solution, it is much better to not engage with innocous posts that piss you off if you are aware that the average tumblr user doesnt have any tact whatsoever and is bloodthirsty for a punching bag, they are mostly teens after all, and adults that dont have positive social role models. Screenshot the post that pisses you off and talk about it in your own new post to discuss it with your actual fellow people.

if youre gonna be interested in interacting with posts relating to race, politics, gender or such, be expected to at least list your race and gender (or whether youre exempt from transmisogyny or not) , encroaching into intracommunity issues and trying to add or say anything when its none of your business or you literally dont know what it entails is not wise. also posts and listings about how to "listen to (insert marginalized group)! " from teenagers are really unneded here because theres already so many in depth resource posts in here made by qualified activists, historians, researchers and more, and they been shared for years, or twitter/instagram posts have been literally just regurgitating stuff from HERE. NOTE: i reccomend making sideblogs for this stuff, NOT DISCOURSE BLOGS but just sideblogs where youre not just mixing Supernatural posting and Protest Bills for 2023 , or better, keep all your political talk and engagement in your main blog and use a sideblog for fandom, if you get enough followers in any of these your reach for important posts can be bigger, thats why i reblog donation posts or commission posts in here at times.

A lot of posts abt Tumblr Etiquette or whatever will tell you that you need to engage constantly and all and make your own posts and tag everything or else youll be treated as a Bot, but you dont really, when i joined tumblr in 2012 i lurked for 3 years and just reblogged posts without much mind or even posting much, but there was no expectation of me to do anything than to just look around , and its fine, i think if i said anything thru my early teens it would have been a disaster considering how much my late teens were, it would have made it worse, you dont need to say anything if you dont wanna, you dont need to form any sort of persona here or talk to people if its not your thing and youre young or not , maybe you wanna learn the ropes first and learn "the culture" before diving in, maybe you just like to observe what happens without having to participate, whatever it is this site is just what you make of it.

[trans-androgyne]

cis people don't oppress you either. not if they're queer. they see all of us as THE SAME. you can be as trans as you want but your actual enemies will NEVER be the cis who share a community with you

I have no idea what world you’re living in where trans queers are equally as accepted as cis queers but it isn’t this one. Some gnc cis folks are mistaken for trans, but in general we sure as hell are not seen or treated the same. It is incredibly common for cishets to accept cis LGB folks but not trans ones. This is also evident within the community itself. LGB drop the T? Super Gays/TEHMs? Cis lesbian and bi TERFs? There are plenty of cis queer people that use their gender privilege over trans queer people. I’m not going to entertain this with a more thought out response. Go outside more lol

[bonelessenthusiast]

if i tag a post intracommunity ableism i do not want my abled followers commenting on it, and yes, that includes commenting to agree with it

saying, for example, "yeah you're so right ablebodied NDs are always talking over physically disabled people" as an ablebodied neurotypical, regardless of your intentions, that's not going to come off as supporting physically disabled people. it's going to come off as hate toward neurodivergent people. intracommunity issues in the disabled community are for disabled people to discuss.

[irrealisms]

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(not including tags that are straightforward, e.g. #parasocialing which is for parasocialing, #tma which is for the magnus archives, #cat tag which is for cats, etc)

#therapists dni: personal posts #any british ants in the chat?: og posts about dsmp/mcyt content #holy holy holy: religion + brain stuff intersection, approximately #girdled by the lightning: angels #and still to begin to sing it again: tragedy, meta conversations about narratives #i want to be strung up in a strong light: religion + kink intersection, approximately #where the winds sigh: kink/sex stuff; ship dynamics that hit My Buttons Specifically #rare and sweet as cherry wine: gore/etc tag, especially if i think it’s pretty #show up in shining colors and then stand there and get hit: tma + trauma #this cumbersome and heavy body: having a body is BULLSHIT #i tell you it has taken me all my life: also religion + brain stuff intersection, but in a different way #problems disorder: having a brain is ALSO bullshit sometimes #a symptom superficial to what they call knowing you: general ableism tag #crabs in a bucket: intracommunity ableism + intracommunity disability discourse. #your dreams will be reduced down to breathing: internalized ableism #watch me i’m flying: living while crazy. living, living, living. #hand in unlovable hand: ship dynamics where they both hate each other but there’s nobody else for them anymore. where the hatred is familiar. #fervid as a flame: ship dynamics where they both hate each other and they’re kismeses about it #we are known among the stars by our poems: humanity-positive #aure entuluva: hope #to love another person is to see the face of god: love #there are still stars: hope and love #show up in shining colors and then stand there and get hit: tma and trauma/brain stuff #down to hell and up to the sky: s4 daisy&jon friendship content #in this twilight our choices seal our fate: tma and themes of choice #i saw a sign there: americana #the harvest is passed the summer is ended: the specific sort of religious americana that results in those giant billboards that just say “HELL IS REAL” #a field with thirty ghost boys: MDZS/mo dao zu shi/CQL/the untamed #the cellar door is an open throat: yi city gang #i lost my heart in the dark with you: wei wuxian & jiang cheng #don’t you love me caroline: 3zun #hamsteak: homestuck #things will never stop from keep happening constantly: every day! every day i get emails!!!! #yet each man kills the thing he loves: romantic murder #come running come running through rivers with me: friendship #the piano is not firewood yet: beautiful things in dark places #not because of victories i sing: ordinary people, existing #do every stupid thing to try to drive the dark away: survival #where there is power: politics #these deeds that we do shall be the matter of song: legacy #everything in this forest wants to hurt us: everyone said you were a villain so you’ve decided to prove them right #could be love in his own eyes: characters who have been taught that love and violence are one and the same #i can’t stop that kind of touch: OCD feelings around desire and touch #one salt taste of the sea once more: water, the ocean, sea-longing #man hands on misery to man: trauma in MDZS/the untamed #a video about a game: polygon, especially the polygon video team #peering through the keyhole: tfw you are your own voyeur #the narrative is sentient and it is coming to get you: fate, inevitability, heroes who are dead from the beginning #what is called resignation: everyone has Issues and Problems, the world is fundamentally fallen #clingys your duo: tubbo & tommy #crimeboys: tommy & wilbur #i’ll see you all when we’re reincarnated into bushes: SBI #you even broke my good tape deck: ctommy & cdream, exile arc, etc #everything flash and guile: cquackity & cwilbur. sometimes contains ship content. #o7: l’manberg #tunglr dot edu: tumblr is a webbed site. can be either (affectionate) or (derogatory). #blorbo from my shows: generic posts about Characters #the most interesting thing in the world: tfw special interest #be cringe do cringe: ocd recovery stuff, doing things that are scary and embarrassing #personal pre script ions: things i should do, advice(tm) #the alternative to tragedy is damnation: attachments on the dream smp #we are no longer plankton: c!ranboo & c!tubbo. contains canon-typical ship content. #it’s obvious if you understand decision theory: for a certain stripe of discourse. i will not be elaborating. #the grackles calling to each other: rejecting dramatic tragedies, focusing on happiness in everyday life #light and air and color: nbc hannibal #from the house that we made our home: eclipse federation and all three relationships within it (vitalasy&subz, vitalasy&zam, subz&zam). sometimes contains ship content.

[theygender]

I'm so glad that Tumblr has changed the option to get rid of a post on your dash from a tag you follow from the old phrasing of "this post sucks" to "this particular post isn't for me." Bc sometimes I see intracommunity issues and etc in like the BLM tag for example and it's like. That post literally isn't for me. It's not my business as a white person, but the post itself doesn't suck and it has an important message for the people it was actually written for. So I will respectfully whoosh it away, thank you

[chaotic-queer-disaster]

Hi, I'm allistic but I think your blog is really cool. And maybe this is just the anxiety but I don't know if that's... okay? like, I have ADHD so I relate to a lot of things on here but I don't reply or interact with a lot of things you post because I worry that I'd be encroaching on a space that is specifically for autistic folks and I really don't want to do that. And I don't know. I might be overthinking this. Is it okay to reblog things on your blog that I relate to and tag those as ADHD? Is there a certain method/good practices for tagging/interacting or is it better if I don't interact?

It's totally ok to like the blog's content, and you can absolutely reblog posts you relate to with the ADHD tag! As long as you aren't one of those very very niche people who like... genuinely believe ADHD and autism are the same thing, it's fine.

The very few things I would specifically not want tagged with ADHD are anything specifically and only directed at autistic people (not like "hey autistics" but like "this post is about autistic people only" or discussions abt intracommunity issues), and anything about specific, anti-autistic ableism.

Even then, with the second one, if I made the post, I'm ok with people talking about similarities in how they're treated with different disorders. (Not all autistics feel that way tho.)

And like... I won't get MAD about any of that. At most, I'd DM anyone who tagged a specifically autistic post with #adhd and be like "hey just so you know, that post is about autism only".

Anyway: you can interact with anything!! (Unless I'm in angry ranty mode and tag it "allistics dni" ;-; that's only happened like once tho) You can reblog anything unless the OP said autistics only! You can tag posts as ADHD unless it's specifically and strictly autism-only!

Like... I reblog posts that were originally tagged "adhd", sometimes. I watch ADHD tiktokers and relate to certain things that also show up in autism.

Neurodiversity is a melting pot of weirdness and overlaps are everywhere. If you feel like a post describes your experience with ADHD, tag it with ADHD.